‹stersek b‹ter

‹STERSEK B‹TER
WE CAN STOP THIS
KAMER
‹STERSEK B‹TER
KAMER
"NAMUS" ADINA ‹fiLENEN C‹NAYETLER
2006 RAPORU
©KAMER 2006
Haz›rlayan: KAMER
Çeviri: Amy Spangler, Adnan Tonguç, Leyla Tonguç Basmac›
Kapak resmi: Ayça Tüylüo¤lu
Sayfa düzeni ve kapak tasar›m›: KolektifAtölye
WE CAN STOP THIS
KAMER
KILLINGS COMMITTED IN THE NAME OF “HONOR”
Written and prepared for publication by: KA-MER
Translation: Amy Spangler, Adnan Tonguç, Leyla Tonguç Basmac›
Cover illustration: Ayça Tüylüo¤lu
Page layout & Cover design: KolektifAtölye
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2006 REPORT
Bu kitap, Avrupa Birli¤i’nin katk›lar›yla haz›rlanm›flt›r.
This book was made possible thanks to the contribution of the
European Union.
bofl
CONTENTS
‹Ç‹NDEK‹LER
Introduction: 12
Önsöz: 9
Nebahat Akkoç
Nebahat Akkoç
I. Good News From 2006: 160
I. 2006’dan iyi haberler: 15
by Mehtap K›z›lkan
Mehtap K›z›lkan
II. KAMER Since 2003: 170
II. 2003’ten Bu Yana: 24
Emergency Intervention Team by Julide Aral: 170
“Women Look to the Future” Project 2006 by Nilgün Y›ld›r›m: 184
“Acil Müdahale Ekibi”, Julide Aral: 24
“Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor” Projesi, Nilgün Y›ld›r›m: 35
III. Applicant Stories from 2006: 199
III. 2006 Y›l› Baflvuru Hikayeleri: 48
by Nilgün Y›ld›r›m - Sacide Akkaya
Nilgün Y›ld›r›m - Sacide Akkaya
IV. What are Honor Killings?
Defining Killings Committed in the Name of Honor: 282
IV. Namus Cinayetleri Nedir? Ne De¤ildir?: 123
by Ufuk Sezgin
V. KAMER’den Notlar: 142
V. Notes from KAMER: 301
KAMER’in Feminizmi, Nebahat Akkoç: 142
Kad›n Olmak, Sacide Akaya: 147
Ben Bir Kad›n›m, Nilgün Y›ld›r›m: 150
Böyle Geldi Diye Böyle Mi Gitmeli? 152
The Feminism of KAMER by Nebahat Akkoç: 301
Being a Woman by Sacide Akaya: 306
I Am a Woman by Nilgün Y›ld›r›m: 309
That’s the Way Things Are—
But Do They Have to Be? by Vildan Ayçiçe¤i: 312
VI. Contact Information for Women’s Centers: 314
Ufuk Sezgin
VI. Kad›n Merkezleri için ‹rtibat Bilgileri: 154
Önsöz
2003 y›l›ndan bu yana namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerle ilgili projeler
gelifltirdik, çal›flmalar yürüttük. Bir yandan öldürülme ihtimali olan kad›nlara
ulafl›p onlar›n hayatlar›n› güvence alt›na al›rken, di¤er taraftan konuyla ilgili
daha derin bilgi sahibi olmaya, kal›c› çözüm yöntemleri gelifltirmeye çal›flt›k.
Öldürülenler kimdi?
Öldürenler kimlerdi?
Öldürmeye teflvik edenler, ölüm emri verenler kimlerdi?
Peki biz, her birimiz, bu iflin neresindeydik?
Suçlu kimdi?
Töre mi? E¤er suçlu sadece töreyse, yasalar neden y›llar boyunca öldürenlere
ceza indirimi uygulam›fllard›?
Yoksa hep birlikte mi sorumluyduk?
Ne yapmak laz›md›?
Bofl
Art›k bütün bu sorulara verilecek cevab›m›z var. Üç y›l boyunca 158 kad›nla
çal›flt›k. Onlar bütün bu sorular›m›za cevaplar bulmam›z› sa¤lad›lar.
Bu kitap namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler konusunda yay›nlad›¤›m›z
dördüncü ve son kitap olacak:
“Al›flmayaca¤›z”
Önsöz - 9
“Keflke Dememek ‹çin”
“Suçlu Kim?”
Ve son olarak da “‹stersek Biter.”
Art›k biliyoruz ki;
¬ Namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler sadece Kürtlere, Müslümanlara, baflka etnik
gruplara ya da inanç gruplar›na ait de¤il,
¬ 13-54 yafl aras›ndaki tüm kad›nlar namus ad›na ifllenecek bir cinayetin kurban› olabilirler,
¬ Ekonomik düzey ile namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler aras›nda bir ba¤lant›
kurulam›yor, cinayetlerin yoksul olmakla ilgisi yok,
¬ En önemlisi de bu kadar yayg›n bir sorunun çözümü için genifl çapl› bir
örgütlenmeyle il, ilçe, köy demeden kad›nlara ulaflabilmenin yöntemlerini ve
koflullar›n› yaratmak gerekiyor.
Daha onlarca fley sayabiliriz.
KAMER’in Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu illerinin tümünü kapsayan
çal›flmas›, “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler Projesi” ve bu kitap kolektif bir
çal›flman›n ürünü olarak ortaya ç›kt›.
‹ki bölgedeki çal›flmalar› Naime, Nilüfer ve Serpil yürüttüler. Bölge
çal›flmas›n›n arka plan›ndaki tüm ifller Ayten ve Bahar taraf›ndan yürütülüyor.
Aç›lan kad›n merkezlerinin tümünde muhtemel cinayetlerin ma¤durlar›na
destek olunmaya çal›fl›l›yor. Bu merkezlerin her birinde çeflitli riskleri, dirençleri aflarak çal›flan kad›nlar var.
Diyarbak›r KAMER’den Sacide, Hayriye ve Vildan kad›nlarla ilk görüflmeleri
yapt›lar. Hem Diyarbak›r’dan hem di¤er illerden kad›nlara destek olmaya
çal›flt›lar.
Her cinayet ihtimalinde, en tehlikeli durumlarda hep birlikte olduk.
“2006’dan ‹yi Haberler” k›sm› Mehtap taraf›ndan haz›rland›. Bu bölüme
Ayfle Gül, Aysun, Aksu, Cennet, Füsun, Tülay, Mehtap ve Berçem birer yaz›
yazarak, 2006 y›l›ndan iyi haberler verdiler.
2003 y›l›ndan bu yana nas›l bir süreç geliflti¤ini Klinik Psikolog Jülide Aral
yazd›. Jülide’yi en çok heyecanland›ran fley “Acil Müdahale Ekipleri”nin kurulmas› oldu. O konuda yazd›.
158 baflvuruyla ilgili veriyi Mehtap ve Fatofl bilgisayara yüklediler. Elde
etti¤imiz verilerin analizini Kocaeli Üniversitesi Psikoloji Bölümü’nden Doç.
Dr. Ufuk Sezgin yapt›.
Sacide ve Vildan kitaba birer yaz› yazd›lar. Ayr›ca baflvuru hikâyelerini de
onlar kaydetti.
Sevgili Amy Keflke Dememek ‹çin ve Suçlu Kim? kitaplar›nda oldu¤u gibi bu
kitapta iflin çeviri k›sm›n› üstlendi.
“Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayeler Projesi” bir KAMER projesi olarak bafllad›,
ama herkesin bir ucundan tuttu¤u, büyük destek gören bir proje olarak
tamamland›.
Baflta Diyarbak›r Valili¤i olmak üzere iflbirli¤i yapt›¤›m›z tüm kurum ve
kurulufllara teflekkür ederek bitirmek istiyoruz.
Ve Anna Lindh’i unutmad›k. Bu projenin bafllamas›ndaki en büyük katk›y›
2003 y›l›nda bizi destekleyen ‹stanbul ‹sveç Baflkonsoloslu¤u’na, bir sald›r›
sonucu hayat›n› kaybeden ‹sveç D›fliflleri Bakan› Anna Lindh’e borçluyuz.
Projemizi destekleyen ‹sviçre Büyükelçili¤i’ne, Aç›k Toplum Enstitüsü’ne,
Avrupa Komisyonu’na teflekkür ederiz.
Dayan›flarak ve paylaflarak ço¤alaca¤›m›za, ço¤ald›kça güçlenece¤imize ve
de¤ifltirece¤imize olan inanc›m›zla çal›flmaya devam edece¤iz.
Nebahat Akkoç
Bu kitab›n bafltan sona haz›rlan›fl› ile ilgili sorumlulu¤u KAMER’den Nilgün
Y›ld›r›m üstlendi.
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Önsöz - 11
Who’s to Blame?
And now, finally We Can Stop This...
Foreword
We now know that:
¬ Honor killings do not only happen among Kurds, Muslims, or any other particular ethnic or religious group.
¬ All women between 13-54 may become victims of honor killings.
¬ No connection can be established between the economic level of a region and
honor killings; there are no links between the killings and poverty.
¬ Most importantly, in order to solve such a widespread issue, it is necessary to
organize on a large scale and to create ways to reach all women, whether they
are in provinces, districts, or villages.
There are so many more things to be said.
We have been working and developing projects concerning honor killings since
2003. On the one hand we have reached out to women who were in danger of
being killed and have provided them with protection, while on the other hand
we have endeavored to gain deeper knowledge on the subject and to develop
lasting solutions.
Who is being killed?
Who is doing the killing?
Who is encouraging, even ordering, the killing?
What role does each of us play in this matter?
Who is the culprit? Who is to blame?
Is it the traditions? If it is the traditions, why have murderers’ sentences been
reduced for so many years?
Or are we all responsible?
What needs to be done?
We now have the answers to all these questions. In these three years, we have
worked with 158 women. They were the ones who helped us find the answers to
these questions.
This book will be the last and fourth book in a series on the subject of honor
killings:
We Will Not Get Used to It
No More “If Only’s”
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KAMER’s “The Honor Killings Project,” an initiative encompassing all the
provinces in Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia, and this book are the products
of a collective study.
Naime, Nilüfer, and Serpil conducted the initiatives in the two regions. All of the
background work for the regional initiative has been carried out by Ayten and
Bahar.
In all of the women centers that have been opened, support is provided for
potential victims of “honor” killings. The women who work in each of these
centers do so in spite of the risks involved, and the opposition they often face.
Sacide, Hayriye, and Vildan from KAMER Diyarbak›r held the first interviews
with the women. They endeavored to offer support to women both from
Diyarbak›r and from other provinces.
We were always together, in the most dangerous of circumstances, against the
eventuality of murder.
Nilgün Y›ld›r›m from KAMER was responsible for the preparation of the entire
book.
The section “Good News from 2006” was prepared by Mehtap. Ayfle Gül,
Aysun, Aksu, Cennet, Füsun, Tülay, Mehtap, and Berçem wrote an article each
for this section and reported the good news from 2006.
Clinical Psychologist Jülide Aral wrote about the process which developed
from 2003 to the present. What excited Jülide the most was the establishment of
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“Emergency Intervention Teams” and so her piece focuses upon that aspect of
KAMER’s work.
Mehtap and Fatofl transferred data regarding 158 applications onto the computer. The analysis of the data was conducted by Assoc. Prof. Ufuk Sezgin, of
Kocaeli University’s Psychology Department.
Sacide and Vildan wrote an article each for the book. They also recorded the
stories of the applications.
As with the books No More “If Only”s and Who’s to Blame?, our dear Amy
took on the translation of this book.
“The Honor Killings Project” started out as a KAMER project, but ended up
becoming much more than that. It became a project to which countless people
contributed, and which received an enormous amount of support all around.
I
2006
y›l›ndan iyi haberler
Baflbakanl›k bir genelge ç›kard›.
Finally, we would like to offer our thanks to all the organizations with which
we collaborated, starting with the Provincial Governorship of Diyarbak›r.
And we have not forgotten Anna Lindh. We are indebted to the Consulate
General of Sweden in Istanbul, which supported us back in 2003, and to Anna
Lindh, Minister for Foreign Affairs, who sadly lost her life as a result of an
attack, for it was they who made the greatest contribution towards the start of
this project.
We would also like to thank the Swiss Embassy, the Open Society Institute,
and the European Commission.
We will continue to work, supported by our belief that solidarity and sharing
will help us grow in number, and that the more we grow, the more we will gain
strength and have the power to bring about change.
Nebahat Akkoç
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Baflbakanl›ktan:
KONU: Çocuk ve Kad›nlara Yönelik fiiddet Hareketleriyle Töre ve Namus
Cinayetlerinin Önlenmesi ‹çin Al›nacak Tedbirler.
GENELGE
2006/17
Kad›n ve çocuklara yönelik fliddet insanl›¤›n gündemindeki yerini korumaktad›r. Bu tür fliddetin en ac›mas›z biçimi kamuoyunda “töre cinayeti” olarak
tan›mlanan kad›na yönelik öldürme olaylar›d›r. Kad›n ve çocuklara yönelik
fliddetin ülkemizde de devam ediyor olmas› yeni ve acil önlemlerin al›nmas›n›
gerekli k›lmaktad›r. Ekonomik kalk›nma ve geliflme ile birlikte e¤itim ve kültür
düzeyinin yükselmesiyle giderek ortadan kalkacak olan bu sorunlar›n çözümü
için kamu kurum ve kurulufllar› ile birlikte sivil toplum örgütleri ve
vatandafllar›m›za büyük görev ve sorumluluklar düflmektedir.
Nitekim Türkiye Büyük Millet Meclisi de sosyal bir yara olan bu olguyla
ilgilenme ihtiyac› hissetmifl, 28/6/2005 tarihli ve 853 say›l› karar›yla bir
araflt›rma komisyonu teflkil etmifltir. Bu komisyon çal›flmalar›n› tamamlayarak
kad›n ve çocuklara yönelik fliddetin sebepleri ile al›nabilecek önlemleri
belirleyen kapsaml› bir rapor haz›rlam›flt›r.
Mezkûr komisyon çal›flmalar› sonucunda haz›rlanan ve Hükümetimizce de
benimsenen bu konuda al›nacak önlemlere iliflkin öneriler ve bundan sorum-
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lu kurulufllar ekli listelerde belirtilmifltir. Bu önerilerle ilgili olarak bafllat›lacak
çal›flmalarda koordinasyon görevi çocu¤a yönelik fliddet konusunda Sosyal
Hizmetler ve Çocuk Esirgeme Kurumu Genel Müdürlü¤ü, kad›na yönelik fliddet
ve töre/namus cinayetleri konusunda ise Kad›n›n Statüsü Genel Müdürlü¤ü
taraf›ndan yerine getirilecektir.
Sorumlu kurulufllar›n ve bu kurulufllarla iflbirli¤i içerisinde hareket etmesi
gereken kurumlar›n ayr› ayr› belirtildi¤i önlemlere iliflkin çal›flmalar, koordinatör olarak belirlenen Genel Müdürlüklerle iflbirli¤i içerisinde derhal
bafllat›lacakt›r. Sorumlu kurumlar taraf›ndan görev alan›na giren konularda
haz›rlanacak ayr›nt›l› faaliyet raporlar üçer ayl›k dönemlerle ilgili koordinatör
kuruma gönderilecektir.
Bilgilerini ve gere¤ini önemle rica ederim.
Recep Tayyip ERDO⁄AN
Baflbakan
Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’nun tümünde birer kad›n
merkezi var.
Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’nun 23 ilindeki kad›n merkezleri, 89 ilçede
çal›flmaya bafllad›.
‹ki bölgedeki kad›n merkezlerinin tümünde namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler
konusunda çal›flmalar yap›lmakta.
Ba¤›ms›z kad›n çal›flmas›na ilgi artt›.
Erkeklerin kad›n çal›flmas›na verdikleri destekler ve çal›flmada yer alma talepleri artt›.
Bu y›l KAMER’e baflvuran 73 kad›n hayatta.
Lise ve ilkö¤retim okullar›nda kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda paneller
düzenlenmeye bafllad›.
E¤itim kurumlar›n›n kad›na yönelik fliddet konusuna ilgisi artt›. Pek çok
ö¤renciye tez ve ödevlerinde destek verildi.
Türk Halk Müzi¤i Sanatç›s› Ayflegül, kad›na yönelik fliddet hikâyeleri anlatan
türkülerden derlenmifl bir CD ç›kard›. KAMER Vakf› ile beraber Diyarbak›r,
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Mardin ve Batman’da konserler düzenledi.
Mehtap K›z›lkan
KAMER
Öncelikle, neleri fark edip neleri fark edemedi¤imizi sorgulamaya bafllad›k.
Aile içinde yaflad›¤›m›z sorunlarla kendimize güvenerek mücadele edip “biz de
var›z” demeyi becerdik. Daha da önemlisi, var olan kad›n-erkek rollerini sorgulamam›z, bu rollerin getirdi¤i sorunlar› çözmeye çal›flmam›z, istersek bir
fleylerin üstesinden gelebilece¤imizi fark etmemiz oldu.
Kad›n çal›flmas›na gönül veren kad›nlar›n azmi bizdeki kararl›¤› artt›rd›.
Gaziantep KAMER
‹letiflim
‹fle ve eve yetiflmek aras›nda koflturdu¤um günleri sayamaz halde yafl›yordum hayat›. Bu bazen beni ürkek, sinirli ve flaflk›n yap›yordu. Dükkân›m rutin
kad›nlar›n u¤rak yeriydi. Bir gün iki müflterim kendi aralar›nda konuflurken
kulak kabartt›m söylediklerine.
Biri di¤erine diyordu ki: “KAMER’in grup çal›flmas›na kat›ld›m ve k›z›mla
aramdaki buzlar çözülmeye bafllad›.” Di¤eri ise: “Benim güzel arkadafll›klar›m
oldu.” dedi.
Merak ettim. Neydi bu konufltuklar›? Gittim yanlar›na, tesadüfen kendilerini
dinledi¤imi söyledim ve konufltuklar› konunun detay›n› istedim. Ertesi gün
verdikleri telefonu arad›m. Telefondaki sese grup çal›flmalar›na kat›lmak istedi¤imi söyledim. Beni yeni bafllayan gruplar›na alacaklar›n› söylediler.
‹ki gün sonrayd›, gittim. Konu iletiflim. Ne yapacakt›m burada, onlarla neyi
paylaflacakt›m, ne iflim vard› burada? Anl›k düflünülmüfl bir karard› verdi¤im.
Tekrar dönsem mi acaba diye düflündü¤üm anda herkes birbirini görecek
flekilde oturduk. Herkesin beni merak etti¤ini gördüm. “Kendini tan›t›r m›s›n?”
diyen yumuflak bir sesle heyecanland›m ve k›saca kendimi anlatt›m.
Herkes samimi, sayg›l›yd› ve çekinmeden kendi hayatlar›ndan örnekler veriyordu. Ben bazen dinliyor, bazen de söyleyiveriyordum yapt›¤›m hatalar›. O gün
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öylece bitti. Eve gittim. Kocam ifle neden gitmedi¤imi sordu, söyledim. Çok
k›zd›, gitmeyeceksin dedi. “Kim bilir kafana neler sokacaklar.” Zoraki “Tamam
gitmem” dedim. Baflka ne yapabilirdim. Bir hafta sonra grup çal›flmas› zaman›
geldi¤inde dayanamad›m ve yine gittim. Konu yine iletiflimdi. Bu defa o içimizden ç›kmayan, sanki söylersek bo¤ulaca¤›m›z, ya da zay›f görünece¤imiz sevgi
sözcü¤ünden sevdiklerimizi nas›l mahrum b›rakt›¤›m›z› paylaflt›k. Ben arkadafllar›ma itiraf ettim. 12 y›ll›k evlili¤imde kocama hiç “Seni seviyorum.’’
demedim. Bunu bugün söyleyece¤im dedim. Grup bittikten sonra koflar ad›m
eve gittim. Eflim evde ve çok sinirliydi. Neredesin dedi. Elinden tuttum ve ona
“Seni seviyorum.” dedim. Gözlerine bakt›m, ›fl›l ›fl›l gözlerini gördüm.
“Sevgimi hep yaflad›m, ama söylemekten mahrum b›rakt›m seni. Bunun için
çok üzgünüm.” dedim. Eflim bana sar›ld› ve kula¤›ma rüzgâr›n getirdi¤i
müzi¤in narinli¤iyle “Ben de seni seviyorum.’’ dedi. S›ms›k› sard›m onu.
Ellerimi tuttu ve gözlerimde kaybolurcas›na “‹yi ki vars›n.” dedi. Sonra ciddi
bir ifadeyle “Özür dilerim seni toplant›n›za yollamamaya çal›flt›m. Gitmemen
için yasak koydum, ama o toplant› bana senin sevgi sözcüklerini getirdi.
Bundan sonra toplant›ya rahatl›kla git. Ben iflte seni idare ederim.” dedi. Çok
mutluydum. Bir hafta nas›l geçecekti? Bunu en k›sa zamanda arkadafllar›mla
paylaflmal›yd›m. Heyecan›mla ve kendime güvenimle tatl› bir uykuya dald›m.
Ad›yaman KAMER
Tülay Aktemir
“‹Y‹L‹KLER...”
Geçti¤imiz y›ldan “iyi” ne kald› diye düflünüyorum -hayata iyi taraf›ndan
bakt›¤›n› sanan biriyim, ama bazen benim için bile zor oluyor bunu yapmak!
Yine de birkaç fley var: “Yar›n ‹çin Bugünden Kampanyas›” çerçevesinde memleketin dört bir yan›nda kad›nlarla bir araya gelmek, bunlardan biriydi
örne¤in. Kad›nlar›n her yerde nas›l heyecanla, nas›l fedakârl›kla ve ne kadar
ak›ll›ca ifller yapt›klar›n› görmek f›rsat› bulduk, flahaneydi do¤rusu...
(Karamsar biri flunu ekler hemen arkas›na: “Bütün bu çaban›n bofla gitmemesi için gereken bir fley daha var: Bunlar›n bir araya getirilmesi, ortak bir sese,
ortak bir söze, eyleme dönüfltürülmesi laz›m. Bunun için de daha güçlü
örgütlenme...” Ama karamsara flunu söylemek laz›m: “On sene önce hayal edebilir miydin flu gördüklerini? En ummad›¤›n yerde küçük de olsa feminist bir
grup buluvermek müthifl de¤il mi?”)
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Geçen y›l›n bence önemli “iyilikleri”nden biri, Amargi dergisinin ç›kmas›yd›.
Böylece durmadan çabalayan, bazen b›kan, yorulan, bazen yolunu kaybeden,
bazen kendini yaln›z hisseden bizim gibi kad›nlar›n kendilerine kerteriz alabilecekleri bir yer oldu. Benim için bir tür deniz feneri ifllevi görüyor -gitmek
istedi¤im yer farkl› bile olsa, ona bak›p yolumu bulabilirim. Feminist kuram›n
ne kadar vazgeçilmez, nas›l hayati oldu¤unu geçti¤imiz y›llarda pek ço¤umuz
fark etmifltik, onsuz ilerlemek çok zor. Amargi, kuramla iliflki kuran, ama
bunu yaparken akademik de¤il, politik bir tav›r gelifltiren bir dergi. Umar›m
devam etmeyi, devam ederken büyümeyi, zenginleflmeyi baflarabiliriz...
Aksu Bora
Sevgi Soysal yafl›yor olsayd›, 2006’da ona kocaman bir 70. do¤um günü partisi düzenlerdik herhalde. Ne yaz›k ki o 30 y›l önce, 40 yafl›nda aram›zdan
ayr›ld›. Ama ayr›lmadan önce bize müthifl hediyeler b›rakarak: Tante Rosa,
Yürümek, fiafak, Bar›fl Adl› Çocuk, Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu...1971’de 8
ay geçirdi¤i Y›ld›r›m Bölge Cezaevi’ni anlatt›¤› Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar
Ko¤uflu’nu Oya Baydar’›n önsözüyle tekrar okudu¤umda bir kez daha flaflk›nl›k
ve hayranl›k duygular› aras›nda sal›nd›m durdum. Sevgi Soysal bir yandan
askeri yönetimin kendilerine verdi¤i “er-tutuklu” vasf›n› sorgularken, bir yandan da sol taraf›ndan dayat›lan “er-militan” ve “er-kad›n” konumlar›yla
mücadele ediyor. K›sacas› Sevgi Soysal her türlü “hizaya getirilmeye” karfl›
duran bir kad›n olarak bugün “feminist anti-militarist” olarak tan›mlad›¤›m›z
duruflun öncülü¤ünü yap›yor. Sözü ona b›rak›rken Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar
Ko¤uflu’nu ve di¤er kitaplar›n› herkese hararetle tavsiye ediyorum:
“Havaland›rmalarda toplu jimnastik yapmak düflüncesi, ‘fiafak’ grubunda
benimseniyor. Avluda büyük bir daire yap›p birlikte jimnastik
yap›yorlar...’fiafakç›lar’ jimnastik yaparken Gülay bozuluyor. ‘Yahu kardeflim,
böyle serserilik olur mu, erlerin karfl›s›nda, bizim halk böyle fleylere bozulur...’
Nina, Gülay’›n bu görüflünde feodal moral kal›nt›lar buluyor. fiafakç›lar da
jimnasti¤i sürdüremiyorlar. Y›ld›r›m Bölge’deki erkek tutuklular da bozulmufl
jimnastik ifline. ‘K›zlar jimnastik mimnastik yapmas›n’, diye haber iletmifller.
Ben de en çok buna bozuluyorum. ‘Yahu, erkek tayfas›n›n buyurdu¤una uyup
durmasan›za, sizin kendi kafan›z yok mu?’ Tabii bu görüfllerim ‘feminist’
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bulunuyor.” (s.192)
“Düflüncemize, yüre¤imize uzanamayan zulüm, görüntüyle u¤rafl›yor boyuna. Bizi ikide bir ‘hazrol’ durdurmak bunun bir parças›. Say›mlarda, ‘hazrol,
hiza’, havaland›rmalarda ‘hazrol hiza’, para almaya giderken ‘hazrol, hiza’,
doktora giderken ‘hazrol, hiza’, mahkemeye giderken ‘hazrol, hiza’, hamama
giderken ‘hazrol, hiza’ ama ölçüsü kaçan her fley gibi, bu ‘hazrol’lar
üstümüzdeki etkisini yitirdi. Yüre¤imizi ve düflüncemizi kim hizaya sokabilir?
Kim hazrolda durdurabilir? Önemli olan da bu.” (s.206)
Sevgi Soysal, Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu, ‹letiflim Yay›nlar›, Istanbul,
2003.
Ayflegül Alt›nay
Türkiye Kad›n Giriflimciler Derne¤i - Kad›n Fonu 2006 y›l›nda “Kad›na Karfl›
fiiddete Hay›r” kampanyas›n› bafllatm›fl ve bu kampanya kapsam›nda açt›¤›
proje ça¤r›s› ile bu alanda yap›lan faaliyetleri destekleme karar› alm›flt›r.
Kampanya kapsam›nda kad›na karfl› fliddetin insan haklar› ihlali oldu¤unu
vurgulayan Kad›n Fonu, bu konuda hem toplumsal duyarl›l›k yaratmay› hedeflemifl, hem de bu alanda çal›flan sivil toplum kurulufllar›na maddî destek
sa¤lamay› planlam›flt›r.
Kad›na karfl› fliddeti önlemeye yönelik yeterli hukuksal mevzuat›n oluflturulmas›, uygulamalar›n izlenmesi ve bu konuda toplumsal bir zihniyet
dönüflümünün sa¤lanmas› kad›n hareketinin temel çal›flma alanlar› içinde yer
almaya devam etmektedir. Türkiye’de fliddetin boyutunu gösteren, bu alanda
yap›lacak çal›flmalar›n planlanmas›n› sa¤layacak bir istatistikî veri mevcut
de¤ildir.
Önemli bir geliflme olarak 5 Temmuz tarihli Baflbakanl›k Genelgesi bulunmaktad›r ve bu genelgeyle bu alanda yap›lmas› gerekenler, sorumlu ve paydafl
kurumlar tan›mlanm›flt›r. Genelgenin önemli bir ad›m oldu¤u kuflkusuz
tart›fl›lmaz, ancak, sorumlu kurumlar›n hangi araçlarla bu çal›flmalar›
yürütece¤i ve çal›flmalar›n izleme mekanizmalar›n›n neler olaca¤›, koordinasyon kurumu olarak tan›mlanan KSGM’nin hem insan kayna¤› hem de
bütçe olarak bu çal›flmalar› nas›l koordine edece¤i ve kad›n sivil toplum kurulufllar›n›n sosyal taraflar olarak bu çal›flmalarda nas›l yer alaca¤› aç›k de¤ildir.
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Genelgenin k⤛t üzerinde kalmamas› için bu tan›mlamalar›n yap›lmas› ve her
fleyden önce bu çal›flmalara bütçe ayr›lmas› önemlidir.
Türkiye’de kapsaml› bir kad›n politikas› bulunmad›¤› gibi bu politikay›
oluflturacak ve yürütecek bir toplumsal cinsiyet bütçelendirilmesi de bulunmamaktad›r. Yine de 2006 y›l›nda hükümetin ajandas›nda yer alan bu konuyla
ilgili at›lan ad›mlar, kad›n hareketinin müdahalesi ile hükümetin ajandas›na
giren bu çal›flmalara görünürlük sa¤lanm›fl olmas› önemli bir geliflme olarak
nitelendirilebilinir. Ancak, hem yasal anlamda (s›¤›nma evleri ve yerel yönetimler kanununda yürütme maddesinin ç›kar›lmamas›, izleme ve koruma
mekanizmas› ve aileyi koruma kanununda uygulama eksikli¤i, namus
cinayetleri ve TCK’da cinsiyetçi bak›fl›n varl›¤›, mal ortakl›¤› rejimi ve medeni
kanunda s›n›rl›l›k gibi) hem de uygulamalarda ciddi sorunlar bulunmaktad›r.
Bütün bu sorunlar›n yasalar ve uygulamalar alan›nda çözülmesi için hem
siyasî iradenin bunda samimiyet tafl›mas› hem de sivil toplum kurulufllar› ile
çal›flma iradesi göstermesi önemlidir.
Aysun Say›n
Benim için en iyi haber bu y›l 4320 Say›l› Yasaya göre al›nan
tedbir karar ve gerekçeleri.
Çarp›c› örneklerden iki tanesi:
“Taraflar aras›nda resmi nikâh ba¤›n›n bulunmamas› nedeniyle sorunun
TC Anayasas›n›n ‹nsan Haklar› ile ilgili hükümleri ve Kad›na Karfl› Her Türlü
Ayr›mc›l›¤›n Önlenmesine Dair Birleflmifl Milletler Sözleflmesi ve ‹nsan Haklar›
Sözleflmesi çerçevesinde ele al›n›p çözüm yoluna gidilmesinde zorunluluk
vard›r.
4320 say›l› yasa belirtilen kurallar çerçevesinde de¤erlendirildi¤inde bu yasada korunan de¤er TC Anayasas›n›n 41. maddesinde yer alan ailenin korunmas›
ile ilgili olmay›p insan haklar›n›n, kad›n haklar›n›n ve çocuk haklar›n›n
korunmas› ile ilgili bulunmaktad›r. Korunan de¤er aile olmay›p bireyin yaflam
hakk› ile her türlü fliddete karfl› korunmas› hakk›d›r.
TC Anayasas›n›n 12. ve 17. maddesi çerçevesinde ve ayr›ca Avrupa ‹nsan
Haklar› Sözleflmesinin 8. maddesi ile Birleflmifl Milletler Kad›nlara Karfl› Her
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Türlü Ayr›mc›l›¤›n Önlenmesi Sözleflmesinin 1. maddesi kapsam›nda durum
ele al›narak çözüm yoluna gidilmifltir.
Anayasam›z kiflinin yaflama, maddi ve manevi varl›¤›n› koruma ve gelifltirme
hakk›na sahip oldu¤unu hüküm alt›na alm›fl olup, yaflam hakk› birinci derece
devletçe korunmas› gereken bir hakt›r. Avrupa Sözleflmesinin 8. maddesinin
Avrupa Mahkemesi taraf›ndan yorumlanmas›nda ise d›flar›dan bak›ld›¤›nda bir
iliflkinin aile iliflkisi olarak de¤erlendirilmesi durumunda resmi statüye
bak›lmaks›z›n aile olarak de¤erlendirilece¤i öngörülmektedir. Birleflmifl
Milletler Sözleflmesinin 1. maddesinde ise (iflbu sözleflmeye göre “kad›nlara
karfl› ay›r›m” deyimi kad›nlar›n medeni durumlar›na bak›lmaks›z›n ve kad›n
erkek eflitli¤ine dayal› olarak politik, ekonomik, sosyal, kültürel, medeni ve
di¤er alanlardaki insan haklar›n›n ve temel özgürlüklerinin tan›nmas›, kullan›lmas› ve bunlardan yararlan›lmas›n› engelleyen veya ortadan kald›ran
veya bunu amaçlayan ve cinsiyete ba¤l› olarak yap›lan herhangi bir ayr›m,
d›fllama veya s›n›rlama anlam›na gelecektir) fleklinde kad›nlara karfl› her türlü
ayr›mc›l›¤› ortadan kald›ran bir düzenleme getirilmifltir.
Davac›n›n daval› ile resmi nikâh akdi olmadan birlikte oldu¤u, bu birliktelikten halen davac› ile birlikte kalan çocuklar› ...., ..., ...., .... isimli çocuklar›n›n
dünyaya geldi¤i, daval›n›n ise davac›ya ve müflterek çocuklara fliddet uygulad›¤›, davac›n›n yaflam hakk›n› ortadan kald›raca¤›na dair tehditte bulundu¤u fleklinde deliller oldu¤undan davac› yönünden yak›n bir tehdit ve tehlike
bulundu¤undan daval›n›n ve çocuklar›n›n korunmas›na karar vermek gerekmifltir.”
malardan yararlanmas› öngörülmüfl, ayr›ca amca, day›, hala, teyze vb. gibi
yak›nlar› ile birlikteli¤in aile kavram›n› oluflturaca¤› görüfllerine yer
verilmifltir. Her ne kadar taraflar aras›nda resmi evlilik yok ise kad›nlara yönelik fliddetin uluslararas› hukuka göre yasaklanm›fl bulunmas› ve Türkiye’nin
taraf oldu¤u sözleflmelerle ülkemizde kad›nlar ve çocuklara yönelik fliddetin
önlenmesi konusunda yükümlülük alt›na girilmesi ve esasen bu fliddetin iç
hukukumuzda da yasaklanm›fl bulunmas› karfl›s›nda davac› .... ile daval› ....
n›n kar›-koca hayat› yaflad›klar›ndan ve bu durum bir aile düzeni olarak kabul
edilmek suretiyle uygulanacak fliddetin önlenmesi kural›nda geçerli olmak ve
resmi bir evlilik kabul edilmemek suretiyle davac›ya yönelik her türlü fliddetin
önlenmesi konusunda tedbir karar› vermek gerekmifltir.
Tedbir isteminin kabulü ile, insan haklar› ve temel özgürlüklerin korunmas›na dair Avrupa Sözleflmesinin 8. maddesi ve 4320 say›l› yasan›n 1/a maddesi ile kad›nlara yönelik fliddetin önlenmesine dair uluslararas› Sözleflme
Hükümlerine dayanarak ..................... davac›n›n daval›lar›n fliddete, hakarete,
tehdide ve ölümle tehdide yönelik her türlü eylemlerinden koruma alt›na
al›nmas›na .... karar verildi”
Berçem Akkoç
“4320 say›l› yasan›n incelenmesinden efller aras› fliddetin önlenmesi
konusunda hükümler içerdi¤i görülmekte olup, taraflar›n resmen evli
olmad›klar› anlafl›lmaktad›r.
‹nsan haklar› ve temel özgürlüklerin korunmas›na dair 04.12.1950 y›l›nda
kabul edilen Avrupa sözleflmesinin 8. maddesi ve bu maddeye dayal› olarak
Avrupa ‹nsan Haklar› Mahkemesi taraf›ndan aile kavram› yeniden belirlenmifl,
bu kavram içerisinde taraflar›n ayn› çat› alt›nda birlikte bulunmalar› ve çevreden bakan kiflilerin ve insanlar›n bunu bir evlilik kurumu olarak kabul
etmeleri halinde bunun evlilik olarak kabul edilip, buna göre birtak›m koru22 - ‹stersek biter
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II
2003’ten bu yana
“Acil Müdahele Ekibi”
“Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler Projesi”nin 2006 raporuna bir yaz› yazmam
istendi¤inde, akl›ma ilk gelenler fliddet, fliddetin türleri, sonuçlar› ve tabii ki en
can yak›c› parças› olan namus cinayetleriyle bafl etme yöntemleri oldu.
Yazmaya bafllad›m.
Ancak, yaz› ilerledikçe as›l neyi anlatmak istedi¤im kayg›s› önem kazand›.
Çünkü ele ald›klar›mla “fliddet” bafll›kl› bir yaz› ortaya ç›k›yordu. Oysa bu
konuda konuflmac›, panelist ya da moderatör olarak kat›ld›¤›m çeflitli
toplant›larda, en çok neyi vurgulad›¤›m›, en çok neye dikkat çekti¤imi kendime
sordu¤umda, bu sorunun cevab› hep AC‹L MÜDAHALE EK‹B‹ oldu.
Acil müdahale ekibi... Bu ekibin önemi, bölgede, bütün Türkiye’de ve baflka
ülkelerde kullan›labilecek bir model oluflturmas›d›r. Dolay›s›yla, “fliddet”
bafll›kl› yaz›dan vazgeçip, “acil müdahale ekibi”nin “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen
Cinayetler ve Mücadelede Kal›c› Yöntemler Projesi” kapsam›nda nas›l ve ne
flekilde olufltu¤unu yazmaya karar verdim. Bu süreç KAMER’in bu alanda
kat›ld›¤› toplant›lar›, onlar›n sonuçlar›n› ve medyayla olan iliflkileri de kapsad›¤›ndan, k›saca bu çal›flmalardan da söz etmek gerekti.
KAMER, kuruldu¤u 1997 y›l›nda, öncelikle, fliddete u¤rayan kad›nlar›n
baflvurabilecekleri “acil yard›m hatt›”n› oluflturdu. Bu hatta, projenin bafllad›¤›
1 Ocak 2003 tarihine kadar yaklafl›k 2000 kad›n baflvuruda bulundu. Bunlar›n
70’i ölüm tehlikesiyle karfl› karfl›ya olan kad›nlard›. Baflvuran her kad›na kendi
iste¤i ve karar› do¤rultusunda destek olundu.
Telefonla KAMER’e ve Baro Kad›n Komisyonu’na baflvuran, ancak yerini
söylemeyen bir kad›n›n ölüm haberini, gazetelerde “namus cinayeti” olarak
okuduk. Bu çok ac›yd›. Verilen bu kay›p, her an ölüm tehlikesi alt›nda olan
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kad›nlar söz konusu oldu¤unda nas›l çal›fl›laca¤› ve ne tür çözümler aranaca¤›
sorular›n› gündeme getirdi. Çözüm aray›fl› sürecinde, “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen
Cinayetler ve Mücadelede Kal›c› Yöntemler” isimli proje oluflturuldu.
1 Ocak 2003’te bafllayan bu projenin hedefleri flunlard›:
¬ Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’nun çeflitli illerinden temsilcilerin yer ald›¤› bir
proje ekibi kurmak,
¬ Bir y›l içinde gerçekleflmesi muhtemel üç olaya müdahale ederek olas› kurbanlar›n yaflamlar›n› güvence alt›na almak, çeflitli kurumlarla ve kiflilerle kurulacak iliflkilerden hareketle konuyla ilgili toplumsal duyarl›l›k yaratmak,
¬ Cinayetlerin sebep ve yöntemleriyle ilgili bilgi edinmek,
¬ Bir y›l süresince yap›lacak çal›flmalardan elde edilen bilgilerle “namus ad›na
ifllenen cinayetlere” karfl› mücadelede bir model oluflturmaya çal›flmak,
¬ Kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda resmî politikalar› etkilemek.
Konulan bu hedeflerle çal›flmaya baflland›. Çal›flma kapsam›nda yer alan 12
ilin alt›s›n›n temsilcilerinden oluflturulan bir proje ekibiyle periyodik
toplant›lar yap›ld›. Bu toplant›lardan üçü projenin tan›t›m›na ve yöntemlerinin
belirlenmesine yönelikti. Ayr›ca, belli aral›klarla gerçeklefltirilen üç ayr›
toplant›da, yap›lan çal›flmalar de¤erlendirildi.
Bu ba¤lamda, proje ekibine psikolojik destek sa¤lamak amac›yla ayl›k
görüflmeler yap›ld›.
Bir y›l içerisinde üç kifliye ulafl›lmas› düflünülerek bafllan›lan projeye yirmi
üç kifli baflvurdu. Her baflvuru için ihtiyaca göre çeflitli kurumlarla, kiflilerle
iliflki kuruldu.
¬ Diyarbak›r Valili¤i’nin deste¤i al›nd›.
¬ Dicle Üniversitesi’nin, psikiyatri ve beyin cerrahisi baflta olmak üzere çeflitli
birimleriyle iflbirli¤i yap›ld›.
¬ Diyarbak›r Ticaret Odas›’ndan ilaç deste¤i sa¤land›.
¬ Baflvuran kad›nlar›n baz›lar›n›n do¤um kayd› yoktu. Baz›lar›n›n kayd› olsa
da nüfus cüzdan› yoktu. Kimisi de evden kaçarken nüfus cüzdan›n› yan›na
alamam›flt›. Baflvuranlar›n neredeyse yar›s› bu tür sorunlar yafl›yordu. Nüfus
Müdürlü¤ü’yle kurulan iliflkiler sonucunda nüfus cüzdanlar› k›sa sürede
ç›kar›ld›.
¬ Diyarbak›r Emniyet Müdürlü¤ü’nün deste¤i al›nd›.
¬ Diyarbak›r Emniyet Müdürlü¤ü Asayifl fiubesi’nin sürekli deste¤i sa¤land›.
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¬ Sa¤l›k Müdürlü¤ü ve Devlet Hastanesi’yle görüflülüp destekleri al›nd›.
¬ Diyarbak›r Barosu ve baronun kad›n komisyonuyla iflbirli¤i yap›ld›, baflvurulara yasal destek sa¤land›.
¬ Diyarbak›r’da çal›flmalar yürüten çeflitli kad›n kurulufllar› ziyaret edildi. Baz›
baflvurular için ortak çal›flmalar yap›ld›. Çeflitli STK’larla görüflüldü.
¬ Mardin ve Urfa valilikleriyle baz› baflvurular için iliflki kuruldu.
¬ Her baflvuruda ihtiyaca göre belirlenen kiflilerle ve gruplarla görüflülüp,
toplant›lar düzenlendi. Zira bu çal›flmalarda bir kere daha görüldü ki,
namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler anl›k tepkilerin sonucu de¤ildi. Kad›n›n
öldürülmesine kadar 4-5 ayl›k bir süre geçebiliyordu. E¤er bu süre içinde aile
üzerinde etkili olabilecek, toplumsal bask›y› hafifletebilecek bir mekanizma
oluflturulabilirse, cinayetler önlenebilirdi. Dolay›s›yla bu süre içerisinde
aileyi etkileyebilecek kiflilerle ve grup temsilcileriyle görüflüldü, destekleri
sa¤land›. Pek çok kez “aile meclisi” toplant›lar›na kat›l›nd›.
Bu çal›flmalar›n yan› s›ra “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler ve Mücadelede
Kal›c› Yöntemler Projesi”nin tan›t›m›n› sa¤lamak ve bu konuda toplumsal
duyarl›l›k yaratmak için yerel, ulusal ve uluslararas› düzeyde bas›n-yay›n
kurulufllar›yla görüflüldü, KAMER temsilcileri çeflitli programlara kat›ld›. Bu
problemin sadece kad›n kurulufllar›n›n meselesi olmad›¤›, her cinayetin
yarg›s›z birer infaz oldu¤u, toplumun tüm katmanlar›n›n bu alanda sorumluluk tafl›d›¤› tekrar tekrar anlat›ld›.
Projenin bafllang›ç tarihi olan 1 Ocak 2003’ten itibaren yap›lan alt› ayl›k
çal›flmalar de¤erlendirildi¤inde, baflvurular›n takibinde kiflilerle ve kurumlarla
oluflturulan iliflkilerin kal›c› bir mekanizmaya dönüfltürülmesinin temel bir
ihtiyaç oldu¤u ortaya ç›kt›.
23 Haziran 2003’te Diyarbak›r’da “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetleri Önleme
ve Toplumsal Duyarl›l›k Yaratma” konulu bir toplant› düzenlendi.
Diyarbak›r Valili¤i’ni temsilen vali yard›mc›s›, nüfus müdürü, Sa¤l›k
Müdürlü¤ü Ruh Sa¤l›¤› daire baflkan›n›n yan› s›ra Diyarbak›r Barosu Kad›n
Komisyonu, Tabip Odas›, çeflitli kad›n kurulufllar›, sivil toplum örgütlerinin
temsilcileri, kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda çal›flan yerli ya da yabanc› yazar
ve gazeteciler de bu toplant›ya kat›ld›lar. Dicle Üniversitesi, Sabanc› Üniversitesi ve Bilgi Üniversitesi’nden birer ö¤retim üyesi, Uluslararas› Af Örgütü,
Heinrich Böll Vakf› ve Aç›k Toplum Enstitüsü’nden birer temsilci de toplant›da
yer ald›.
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Namus cinayetleri konusunda toplumun neredeyse her kesimini içeren
böylesine kapsaml› bir toplant›, Diyarbak›r’da ilk defa yap›l›yordu.
KAMER, aile meclisi taraf›ndan hakk›nda ölüm karar› al›nm›fl, KAMER’in de
dahil oldu¤u bir ekibin müdahalesiyle infaz› engellenmifl, ancak durumuna
iliflkin köklü bir çözüm üretilememifl bir baflvuruyu örnek olarak toplant›da
sundu.
Bu “örnek” üzerinde kat›l›mc›lar hep birlikte çal›flt›, tart›flt› ve çözümler
üretti. Toplant› bu aç›dan da bir ilkti.
Bu toplant›dan iki gün sonra dönemin Diyarbak›r valisi iki yard›mc›s›yla birlikte KAMER’i ziyarete geldi. Bu da bir ilkti. Vali, toplant›da konuflulanlar›
incelettirdi¤ini, baflvuru konusunda her fleyin “do¤ru” oldu¤unu, hatta
anlat›lanlardan “fazlas›n›n” da oldu¤unu belirterek, bundan böyle bu alanda
iflbirli¤i yapabileceklerini söyledi. Hemen ertesi gün, sözü geçen baflvurunun
sahibine nüfus cüzdan› ç›kart›ld›. Dedikodulara inanmayan, kar›s›n› öldürmek
istemedi¤i halde bask› alt›nda olan koca, köyden Diyarbak›r flehir merkezine
tayin edildi ve ailenin befl ayl›k kiras› vilayet taraf›ndan karfl›land›.
Bu ilk toplant›y› ve sonuçlar›n› böyle uzun ve detayl› anlatmam›n nedeni,
acil müdahale ekibi kurma fikrinin nüvelerinin bu toplant›da oluflturulmufl
olmas›d›r. ‹flbirli¤ine yönelik iliflkiler de bu toplant›dan sonra daha sa¤l›kl› bir
zemine oturdu, süreklilik kazand› ve geliflerek devam etti.
British Council ve KAMER’in iflbirli¤iyle 29 Eylül-1 Ekim 2003 tarihleri
aras›nda “Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor” ad›yla Ankara’da üç gün süren bir konferans düzenlendi. Konferans›n önemli bir bölümü ve iki gün süren atölye
çal›flmas› “namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlere” ayr›lm›flt›. Bu çal›flmaya
Türkiye’nin çeflitli yerlerinden pek çok kad›n kuruluflunun yan› s›ra Adalet
Bakan›, Baflbakanl›k ‹nsan Haklar› Kurulu, kad›n parlamenterler, Kad›nlar›n
Sosyal Statüsünü Gelifltirme Merkezi’nden (KSSGM) bir temsilci, Sosyal
Hizmetler ve Çocuk Esirgeme Kurumu (SHÇEK) temsilcileri, Diyarbak›r Valili¤i
ve Emniyet Müdürlü¤ü’nden temsilciler kat›ld›. Ayr›ca Diyarbak›r’dan çeflitli
STK mensuplar›, üniversitelerden ö¤retim üyeleri de toplant›ya kat›ld›lar.
Nebahat Akkoç ve Pakistan’dan Saima Jassem taraf›ndan yönetilen “Namus
Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler” bafll›kl› oturumda, afla¤›daki konularda görüfl birli¤i
sa¤land›:
¬ “Namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerin” kültürel ve geleneksel yap›ya dayal› ve
pek çok mekanizmayla beslenen bir fliddet türü oldu¤u; bu konuda yap›lmas›
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gereken en önemli iflin toplumsal duyarl›l›¤›n gelifltirilmesi oldu¤u tespit
edildi.
¬ “Namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerin” sadece Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu
bölgelerinde de¤il, Türkiye’nin di¤er bölgelerinde de yaflanan bir insan hakk›
ihlali oldu¤una dikkat çekildi.
¬ Kad›n intiharlar›n›n pek ço¤unun cinayet olabilece¤i ve bu konudaki adlî
ifllemlerin hassasiyetle yap›lmas› gerekti¤i vurguland›.
¬ Namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerin ço¤unun, çevrede otorite konumunda olan
ve kendini “imam” olarak nitelendiren kiflilerin fetvas› üzerine ifllendi¤ine
dikkat çekildi. Diyanet ‹flleri Baflkanl›¤›’ndan destek al›nmas› gerekti¤inin
alt› çizildi.
¬ Diyanet ‹flleri Baflkanl›¤›’na ba¤l› bir kad›n komisyonu oldu¤una, faaliyet
göstermeyen bu komisyonun ifller hale getirilmesinin önemine dikkat çekildi.
¬ Kad›nlar›n k›sa sürede s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirilmesinde s›k›nt›lar yafland›¤›
saptand›. Özellikle ölüm tehlikesiyle karfl› karfl›ya olanlar›n durumunun çok
acil müdahale gerektirdi¤ine dikkat çekildi. Dolay›s›yla her ilde, kad›nlar›n
birkaç gece kalabilecekleri geçici istasyon evlerinin oluflturulmas› gerekti¤i
vurguland›.
¬ Aile içi cinsel istismar yaflayan k›z çocuklar›n›n s›¤›nma evlerine al›nmamas›n›n önemli bir sorun oldu¤unun alt› çizildi.
¬ Kad›n›n can güvenli¤i konusunda güvenlik güçleriyle iflbirli¤i yap›lma-s›n›n
önemi ve kad›n polislerle çal›flman›n daha yararl› olaca¤› belirtildi.
¬ Polis, jandarma, sa¤l›k personeli, ö¤retmen gibi çeflitli meslek mensuplar›n›n konuyla ilgili e¤itim almas› gerekti¤ine dikkat çekildi.
¬ Duyarl›l›k yaratmak ve kad›nlara zarar veren kültürel uygulamalar hakk›nda yap›c› bir dönüflüm sa¤lamak amac›yla kampanyalar yapmak gerekti¤i
vurguland›.
¬ Kimliksiz, resmî nikâhs›z kad›n kalmamas› için kad›nlar›n nüfus cüzdan›,
resmî nikâh gibi baflvurular›nda ifllemlerin h›zland›r›lmas› amac›yla kampanyalar düzenlenmesi konular›nda mutab›k kal›nd›.
Bu ifllerin yap›lmas› için British Council ile 2004 y›l›nda iflbirli¤i
yap›lmas›na karar verildi.
13-14 Kas›m tarihleri aras›nda yap›lan 6. ‹nsan Haklar› Konferans›’na
kat›lan KAMER, konferansta “Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler”i anlatt›.
Toplant› sonucunda yay›nlanan bas›n bildirisinde kad›na yönelik fliddet ve
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namus cinayetleri konusuna da yer verildi.
Bu arada, proje ekibi ile ‹zmir’den gelen “antrenman” grubu, çat›flk› çözüm
teknikleri, fliddetsizlik, önyarg›lar›m›z, iletiflim teknikleri gibi konularda iki
ayr› grup oluflturarak toplam befl gün süren atölye çal›flmalar› yapt›.
Ayr›ca de¤erlendirme çal›flmalar› için, Hacettepe Üniversitesi Antropoloji
Bölümü’nden destek al›nd›. Bu de¤erlendirmelerden sonra 2004 y›l›n›n
bafl›nda tüm proje ekibiyle toplant› düzenlenerek projenin yeni fleklinin
tan›t›m› yap›ld›. 1 Ocak 2003’te bafllayan projenin sona erece¤i tarih OcakAral›k 2004 olarak belirlendi. Toplant› ve süpervizyon tarihleri tespit edilip,
gerekli haberleflme a¤› için ihtiyaçlar saptand›.
2004 y›l›nda 31 olas› kurban KAMER’e baflvurdu. Baflvuran kad›nlar›n hepsi
hâlen hayatta.
KAMER 2004 y›l›nda da çeflitli ulusal ve uluslararas› toplant›lara kat›larak
namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlere dikkat çekti, duyarl›l›k gelifltirmeye çal›flt›, bu
konuda yeni tart›flmalar açt›.
Konuyla ilgili etkinlikler k›saca flunlard›r:
¬ 5 Mart 2004’te Uluslararas› Af Örgütü Türkiye Grubu, ‹stanbul Bilgi Üniversitesi’nde “Kad›na Yönelik fiiddete Son Kampanyas›” düzenledi.
¬ Birleflmifl Milletler Mülteciler Komiserli¤i Ankara’da “Kad›na Yönelik fiiddet
Toplant›s›” düzenledi.
¬ Antalya’daki “Ulusal Psikiyatri Günleri”nde bu konuda bir panel düzenlendi.
¬ KA-DER 13 Eylül 2004’te bir toplant› yapt›.
¬ Uluslararas› Af Örgütü 2004 y›l›n› “Dünyada Kad›na Yönelik fiiddete Son”
y›l› ilan etti ve kampanya Hollanda’da Nebahat Akkoç’un konuflmas›yla
aç›ld›.
¬ 2004 y›l› Uluslararas› Af Örgütü’nün Ginetta Suga Ödülü Nebahat Akkoç’a
verildi. New York’taki törene kat›lan Nebahat Akkoç, kat›ld›¤› toplant›larda
namus cinayetlerini anlatt›.
¬ KAMER’in, Save The Children’›n ve pek çok kad›n örgütünün yer ald›¤› ortak
çal›flma 17-20 May›s 2004 tarihleri aras›nda ‹sveç Baflkonsoloslu¤u’nun
deste¤iyle ‹sveç’te yap›ld›. ‹sveç ve Türkiye’den kat›l›mc›lar namus cinayetlerini ve sorunla bafl etme yollar›n› tart›fl›p deneyimlerini paylaflt›lar.
¬ 12 Ekim 2004’te k›rk kiflilik kad›n grubuyla beraber Brüksel’e gidildi. Burada
Nebahat Akkoç KAMER’in kad›n politikas›n› anlatan bir konuflma yapt›.
¬ 25 Ekim-9 Kas›m 2004 tarihleri aras›nda KAMER, namus ad›na ifllenen
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cinayetler konusunda Almanya’daki kad›n kurulufllar›yla yürütecekleri kampanyalarla ilgili toplant›lara kat›ld›.
¬ 7-8 Aral›k 2004 tarihinde ‹sveç D›fliflleri Bakanl›¤›’n›n ça¤r›s› üzerine
KAMER, ‹sveç hükümetinin kad›n›n insan haklar› konusunda izleyece¤i
politikan›n tart›fl›ld›¤› toplant›ya kat›ld›.
¬ TBMM ‹nsan Haklar› Komisyonu, KAMER’i ziyaret edip özellikle namus
cinayetleri konusunda bilgi ald›.
Ayr›ca yerel, ulusal, uluslararas› bas›n kurulufllar›nda programlara kat›lan
KAMER çeflitli kurulufllar›n temsilcileriyle de görüfltü.
29 Eylül-1 Ekim 2003 tarihleri aras›nda Ankara’da British Council ile birlikte “Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor” ad›yla düzenlenen konferans›n sonucunda,
“duyarl›l›k yaratma ve kad›na zarar veren kültürel uygulamalar konusunda”
kampanyalar yapma fikri geliflti. ‹ngiltere Büyükelçili¤i’nden kaynak
sa¤lan›nca, kullan›lacak malzeme ve kampanyan›n en genifl kat›l›mla
tart›fl›labilmesi için Diyarbak›r, Mardin, Batman valilikleriyle kampanya
düzenleme fikri konusunda görüflüldü. Diyarbak›r ve Mardin illerinden yerel
destekler al›n›p çal›flmalara baflland›. Batman Valili¤i’nce bu çal›flmaya olumlu yan›t verilmedi.
Bu çerçevede 22-24 Kas›m 2004’te Diyarbak›r ve Mardin’de ilk toplant›lar
yap›ld›. Bu toplant›lar›n amac›, resmî kurum ve kurulufllar›n, yerel yönetimlerin, STK’lar›n duyarl›l›¤›n›n art›r›lmas› ve kampanyaya kat›l›mlar›n›n
sa¤lanmas›yd›. Toplant›lara vali, vali yard›mc›lar›, il emniyet müdürleri, il
jandarma komutanl›¤› temsilcileri, cumhuriyet baflsavc›lar›, nüfus müdürleri,
sosyal hizmetler il müdürleri, sosyal hizmetler genel müdürü (sadece
Diyarbak›r’daki toplant›ya kat›ld›), millî e¤itim müdürleri, il müftüleri kat›ld›.
Mardin Belediye Baflkan›, Muhtarlar Federasyonu Baflkan›, baro temsilcileri
ve kad›n komisyonlar›, Tabip Odas› temsilcileri, çeflitli kad›n kurulufllar›n›n
üyeleri, Dicle Üniversitesi’nin psikiyatri ve sosyoloji bölümlerinden iki ö¤retim
üyesi di¤er kat›l›mc›lard›.
Her iki toplant›ya, Diyanet ‹flleri Baflkanl›¤› Yüksek ‹stiflare Kurulu’ndan bir
temsilci de kat›larak konuflmalar yapt›.
Bu genifl kat›l›ml› iki toplant›da, “namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler”
çeflitli aç›lardan tart›fl›ld›. Sonuçta yerel kifli, kurum ve kurulufllarla yap›lan ve
yap›lmas› gereken iflbirli¤inin önemi bir kez daha ortaya ç›kt›.
Ölüm tehdidiyle karfl› karfl›ya kal›p bu kurumlardan herhangi birine
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baflvuran yahut hakk›nda bu yönde duyum al›nan bir kad›na an›nda destek
sa¤lanabilmesi için Acil Müdahele Ekipleri kuruldu. Acil Müdahele Ekipleri,
valiliklerin, il müftülüklerinin, emniyet ve jandarma gibi kolluk kuvvetlerinin,
cumhuriyet savc›l›klar›n›n, SHÇEK il müdürlüklerinin, di¤er resmî kurum ve
kurulufllar›n, yerel yönetimlerin, STK’lar›n temsilcilerinden olufluyordu.
Böylece ilk kez, her kurumdan yetki sahibi bir temsilcinin bulundu¤u bir ekip
oluflturulmufl oldu.
Bu ekipler, hem baflvuran kad›n›n can güvenli¤ini sa¤layan, hem de bir
duyum ald›¤›nda aile üzerinde etkili olabilecek kifli, kurum veya kurulufllar›
devreye sokarak “aile meclis”leri üzerinde etkili olmak amac› tafl›yordu. Zira
daha önce de vurgulad›¤›m›z gibi, bir kad›n›n infaz› anl›k öfke ve tepkilerle
de¤il, planl› bir flekilde, 4-5 ayl›k bir zamana yay›larak gerçekleflmektedir. Acil
Müdahale Ekipleri, aile üzerinde kurulmak istenen toplumsal bask›y› k›rmak,
baflka çözüm yollar› oluflturmak için bu süre zarf›nda etkili olabilmektedir.
Mardin ve Diyarbak›r’da bunun örneklerini görmekteyiz.
Acil Müdahale Ekibi’nin bir di¤er olumlu yan› da, ekibi oluflturan tüm
kurumlarla iflbirli¤inin sa¤lanmas› oldu. Bir duyum al›nd›¤›nda, bir baflvuru
oldu¤unda tüm ekip ihtiyaç oran›nda devreye girer. Gerekirse emniyet ve jandarma müdahale ederek öncelikle, baflvuran kad›n›n can güvenli¤ini sa¤lar.
fiayet kad›n›n do¤um kayd› veya nüfuz cüzdan› yoksa bu sorunlar çözülür.
Kad›na yeflil kart ç›kart›l›r. Baflvuran›n iste¤ine ve karar›na göre, güvenli bir yer
temin edilmesi gerekti¤inde Sosyal Hizmetler Müdürlü¤ü devreye girer. T›bbî
yard›ma ihtiyaç duyulan durumlarda ise devlet hastanesi, üniversite klini¤i
veya Tabip Odas›’yla iflbirli¤i sa¤lan›r.
Yasal haklar›n savunulmas› ve hukukî dan›flmanl›k için, baro ve baro kad›n
komisyonundan destek al›n›r. Gerekti¤inde iflbirli¤i yap›labilmesi amac›yla,
köylerde görev yapan ö¤retmenler, muhtarlar ve imamlar namus ad›na ifllenen
cinayetler hakk›nda bilgilendirilir. Her cinayet, dinî otorite atfedilen bir kifliden
gelen “ölümü uygundur” fetvas›na dayan›larak ifllenmektedir. Bu nedenle,
imam ve din görevlilerinin bu konuda duyarl› olmalar› ve ekiple dayan›flma
içinde olmalar› büyük önem tafl›maktad›r.
Yine bu iflbirli¤inin sonucunda, Mardin Belediyesi’nde telefonla da
ulafl›labilen bir acil yard›m hatt› kuruldu.
“Namus Cinayetlerini Önleme ve Mücadelede Kal›c› Yöntemler Oluflturma”
Projesi 2005’te de devam etti.
Kas›m 2004’te yap›lan toplant›lar›n ikincisi, 14 Mart 2005’te Diyarbak›r’da,
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15 Mart 2005’te Mardin’de gerçeklefltirildi. ‹ki toplant›n›n kat›l›mc›lar› da ayn›
kifli, kurum ve kurulufllard›.
‹lk toplant›da al›nan kararlar do¤rultusunda haz›rlanm›fl olan kampanya
araçlar› kat›l›mc›larca tart›fl›ld› ve eldeki malzemeye ortak kararlardan yola
ç›k›larak son flekil verildi.
Toplant›n›n bir di¤er konusu da, Dicle Üniversitesi Psikiyatri Anabilim
Dal›’ndan Aytekin S›r’›n namus olgusunun alg›lanmas› konusunda
Diyarbak›r’›n merkez ve çevresinde 500 kifliyle yapt›¤› anket çal›flmas›n›n
sonuçlar›yd›.
20 Nisan 2005 tarihinde, “Namus Kisvesi Alt›nda ‹fllenen Cinayetlere Göz
Yumma, Ortak Olma!” slogan›yla kampanya bafllad›. Haz›rlanan afifller
valiliklere, belediyelere, müftülüklere, camilere, muhtarl›klara, SHÇEK il
müdürlüklerine, floförler odas›na, tabip odalar›na, üniversitelere, esnaf
odalar›na, çeflitli kad›n kurulufllar›na da¤›t›ld›. Gönüllülerce dükkânlara,
duraklara, görünür olan her yere as›lmaya çal›fl›ld›. Haz›rlanan televizyon ve
radyo spotlar› Diyarbak›r ve Mardin’deki bütün yerel kanallar›n yan› s›ra,
RTÜK ve Show TV arac›l›¤›yla yirmi befl ulusal televizyon ve radyo kanal›na
gönderildi. Çeflitli kanallarda kampanyan›n tan›t›m›yla ilgili programlar
yap›ld›.
“Namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler”i konu alan oyun, film ve belgeseller haz›rland›, müzik eserleri yaz›ld›.
27 May›s 2005’te ‹sveç Baflkonsoloslu¤u’nun katk›s›yla, ‹sveç’ten gelen ve bu
alanda çal›flan 15 kiflilik bir ekip ve Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’dan kat›lan
15 kiflilik kad›n grubu, Mardin’de namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler konusunda
üç gün süren bir toplant› düzenledi. Bu konudaki bilgi ve deneyimler
paylafl›ld›.
Diyarbak›r’da bir s›¤›nma evi aç›ld›.
TBMM’de kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda çal›flmak üzere bir komisyon
kuruldu.
Yeni Türk Ceza Yasas› uygulamaya kondu.
“Namus Ad›na ‹fllenen Cinayetler ve Mücadelede Kal›c› Yöntemler Projesi”
2003 y›l›nda bafllarken belirlenen hedefler flunlard›:
¬ Namus ad›na ifllenmesi muhtemel cinayetlere müdahale ederek tehdit
alt›ndaki kad›lar›n yaflamlar›n› güvence alt›na almak (1 Ocak 2003-31
Aral›k 2006 tarihleri aras›nda toplam 158 baflvuru oldu. 2003 y›l›nda 23,
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2004 y›l›nda 31, 2005 y›l›nda 31, 2006 y›l›nda 77 baflvuru yap›ld›. Baflvuranlar›n tamam› hâlen hayattad›r. ‹llere göre da¤›l›m ise flöyle: Mardin: 6 kad›n
[2005], 20 kad›n [2006]; Diyarbak›r 18 kad›n [2005], 26 kad›n [2006]. 2006
y›l›ndaki bu baflvuru art›fl›n›, hem yap›lan çal›flmalarla bu konu hakk›ndaki
duyarl›l›¤›n artmas›na hem de Acil Müdahale Ekibi’nin çal›flmalar›n›n
duyulup etkili olmas›na ba¤layabiliriz.)
¬ Kurulacak iliflkilerde namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler konusunda toplumsal
duyarl›l›k sa¤lamak. Konuyla ilgili kal›c› yöntemler ve mekanizmalar
gelifltirmek. KAMER, “Her Kad›na Bir F›rsat Projesi”yle Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u
Anadolu’da 23 ilde ve bu illerin baz› ilçelerinde örgütlendi. Kad›n
çal›flmalar›na bafllay›p kad›n merkezleri kurdu; kifli, kurum ve kurulufllarla
iliflki kurup, iflbirli¤i yapt›. Kad›n Merkezi temsilcileri ‹nsan Haklar›
Komisyonlar›na ve Gündem 21 toplant›lar›na kat›lmaya bafllad›lar. Ayr›ca
genifl kat›l›ml› bölge toplant›lar›yla yap›lan çal›flmalar de¤erlendirilip yeni
çözüm önerileri sunuldu.
¬ Kad›na yönelik resmî politikalar› etkilemek. 7 Temmuz 2006’da Baflbakanl›k genelgesinin ard›ndan ‹çiflleri Bakanl›¤› da 81 ilin valiliklerine bir
genelge gönderdi. Bu genelgeye göre “devletin pek çok kademesinin görevleri
tek tek tan›mland›. Hâlen Türkiye çap›nda say›lar› 30 olan s›¤›nma evlerinin
say›lar› art›r›larak cinayetlerin önlenmesi için genifl kat›l›ml› komiteler
oluflturulmas› kararlaflt›r›ld›. ‹çiflleri bakan› töre ve namus cinayetlerine
karfl› al›nacak önlemleri flöyle s›ralad›:
1. fiiddet ma¤duru kad›n ve çocuklar›n ifllemleri mümkünse kad›n personel
arac›l›¤›yla acilen yap›lacak,
2. S›¤›nma evi yoksa belediyeler 24 saat görevli bulunduracak,
3. Yeni oluflturulacak kad›n ve çocuk s›¤›nma evlerinin korunmas›na yönelik özel güvenlik de dahil- her türlü önlem al›nacak,
4. Namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerin önlenmesi için illerde valilerin, ilçelerde
kaymakamlar›n baflkanl›¤›nda kolluk kuvvetleri, mahallî idareler, sosyal
hizmet birimleri, meslek kurulufllar›, sa¤l›k müdürlükleri, millî e¤itim
müdürlükleri ve sivil toplum kurulufllar› temsilcileriyle komiteler oluflturulacak, al›nan kararlar iflbirli¤iyle hayata geçirilecek.
Namus cinayetine maruz kalabilece¤ini beyan eden, hakk›nda böyle bir bilgi
edinilen veya aile içi fliddete maruz kalan kad›n ve çocuklarla ilgili her türlü
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koruma tedbirinin, il sosyal hizmetler müdürlükleri haberdar edilerek acilen
al›nmas› sa¤lanacak. fiiddet ma¤durlar› ilgili yere gidene kadar ma¤durlar›n
ihtiyaçlar› belediye, il, ilçe özel idareleri, sosyal yard›m ve dayan›flma teflvik
fonundan karfl›lanacak. Kad›n s›¤›nma evi bulunmayan yerlerde töre ve namus
cinayetine maruz kalabilece¤ini söyleyen veya somut bir olayda böyle bir
cinayete maruz kalabilece¤i öngörülen kiflilerin acilen sosyal hizmetler birimlerince teslim al›nmas› sa¤lanacak. Ma¤durun, ilgili yere gidene kadar
korunaca¤› yerde (otel, misafirhane vb) gerekirse kendisine kolluk kuvveti
refakat edecek. Töre ve namus cinayetleri ile çocuk ve kad›nlara yönelik fliddete
iliflkin soruflturmada görevli genel kolluk kuvveti e¤itimden geçecek.”
Kad›ndan Sorumlu Devlet Bakanl›¤› ile Genelkurmay Baflkanl›¤› aras›nda
yap›lan protokol sonucu, er ve erbafllara töre ve namus cinayetleri konusunda
e¤itim verilmeye baflland›.
KAMER 2006 y›l›nda da, projenin bafllad›¤› 2003 y›l›ndan beri yapt›¤› gibi,
çeflitli yerel, ulusal ve uluslararas› toplant›lara kat›ld›. Bu konuda iflbirli¤ine
yönelik iliflkileri geliflerek devam etti.
KAMER 2007 y›l›nda “Her Kad›na Bir F›rsat”, “Kad›n Giriflimcili¤i” ve
“Çocuklara Hayat” bafll›kl› projelerine devam ederken, namus ad›na ifllenen
cinayetler konusunda yeni bir proje yapmamaya karar verdi. Bu karar›n sebebi, projeye bafllarken konulan hedeflere büyük ölçüde ulafl›lm›fl olmas›d›r.
KAMER yeni bir proje oluflturmak yerine, yap›lan uygulamalar› takip etmeye,
genelgelerin k⤛t üzerinde kalmamas› için duyarl›l›k ve iflbirli¤inin devam›n›
sa¤lamaya yönelik bir çal›flma flekline karar verdi. Bu ayn› zamanda KAMER’in
sorunlar hakk›nda bilinç yaratmak, çözüme yönelik metotlar oluflturmak,
duyarl›l›klar gelifltirmek diye tan›mlanabilecek sivil toplum anlay›fl›n›n sonucudur.
“Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor” Projesi
I. Projenin K›sa Tan›m›
Projenin Ad›: “Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor”
“Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu Bölgelerinde Namus Kisvesi Alt›nda ‹fllenen
Cinayetlerle Mücadelede Kal›c› Yöntemler Gelifltirme Projesi”
1- Projenin amac›
Bir yandan, Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu Bölgelerinde namus kisvesi alt›nda
ifllenebilecek cinayetlerin muhtemel kurbanlar›na destek olmaya çal›flmak,
di¤er yandan, muhtemel kurbanlara destek olmak için kurulacak iliflkilerden
hareketle, söz konusu cinayetleri önlemek için kal›c› yöntemler gelifltirmektir.
2- Projenin Gerekçeleri
¬ Kad›na yönelik fliddet evrensel bir sorun olmas›na ra¤men, bu fliddetin
niceli¤i ve niteli¤inin ülkelere, bölgelere, kültür ve geleneklere göre
de¤iflti¤inin vurgulanmas›, çözüm aflamas›nda yerel özelliklerin göz önünde
bulundurulmas› ve yerel mekanizmalar›n etkin olarak çözüme kat›lmas›
gerekti¤i sonucuna vard›k.
¬ Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’da “namus” kisvesi alt›nda çok say›da cinayet
ifllendi¤ini oldu¤unu biliyorduk. Bu cinayetler do¤al say›lmakta, birço¤u
örtbas edilmekte, bu nedenle say›lar› tam olarak saptanamamaktad›r. Bu
cinayetlerin her birinin birer yarg›s›z infaz oldu¤u bilincini yaymak
gerekti¤ine karar verdik.
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¬ Planl› olarak gerçeklefltirilen “namus” kisvesi alt›ndaki cinayetlerin karar
verme aflamalar›na müdahale edilerek her birinin önlenebilece¤ini tespit
etmifltik. Bu proje ile 13 ili kapsayan bir alanda, ölüm tehlikesi alt›nda olan
kad›nlar›n yaflamlar›n› güvence alt›na alman›n mümkün oldu¤unu,
¬ Kad›n›n talebi durumunda kurulacak uygun iliflkilerle kad›n›n “mensubu
oldu¤u” toplumsal çevrede yaflam›n› sürdürmesinin mümkün olabilece¤ini
ve kad›na zarar veren yerleflik normlar›n de¤iflebilece¤ini,
¬ Her ilde “namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetlere dikkat çekip, bu konuda
giderek artan hassasiyeti temel alarak, her il için “Namus Kisvesi Alt›nda
‹fllenen Cinayetler ile Mücadele ‹çin ‹l Koordinasyon Kurullar›” oluflturarak
kal›c› yap›lanmalar sa¤layabilmenin mümkün olaca¤›n› düflündük.
Proje tüm bu gerekçelerle planland›.
Projenin Hedefleri
¬ “Namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenmesi muhtemel cinayetlere müdahale ederek
tehdit alt›ndaki kad›nlar›n yaflamlar›n› güvence alt›na almak.
¬ Bir yandan ölüm tehlikesi yaflayan kad›nlara destek olurken, di¤er yandan
kurulacak iliflkilerle “namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler konusunda
toplumsal duyarl›l›k oluflturmak.
¬ 13 ilde “namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler ile mücadele için “il koordinasyon kurullar›” gibi kal›c› yap›lar kurmak.
¬ Konu ile ilgili ulusal ve uluslararas› mekanizmalar› harekete geçirmek
¬ Türkiye’nin taraf oldu¤u uluslararas› sözleflmelerden do¤an haklar›n kullanabilmesi için uygun zemin oluflturmak.
¬ Kad›na yönelik fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetleri önleme
konusunda resmî politikalar› etkilemek.
Hedef Kitle
¬ Bir y›l içinde namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenecek cinayetlerin muhtemel kurbanlar› olabilecek 30 kad›n
¬ Baflvuruda bulunan kad›nlar›n aileleri
¬ Kültür ve geleneklerin kad›na zarar veren uygulamalar›na karfl› bir güç
oluflturmak için iflbirli¤i yap›lacak sivil ve resmî kurulufllar
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Projenin Uygulama Alan›
¬ Güneydo¤u Anadolu Bölgesi:
Diyarbak›r, Mardin, fianl›urfa, Batman, Siirt, Ad›yaman, fi›rnak
¬ Do¤u Anadolu Bölgesi:
Elaz›¤, Van, Kars, Hakkari, Bingöl, Malatya
Bu proje ile
1. Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’da bulunan 13 ilde “namus” kisvesi alt›nda
ifllenecek bir cinayette öldürülmesi muhtemel kad›nlara ulafl›l›p, yaflamlar›
güvence alt›na al›nmaya çal›fl›lacakt›. Bu uygulama öncelikle kad›nlar›n
talepleri dikkate al›narak ve onlar›n istekleri do¤rultusunda,
¬ ya yeni bir yaflam kurmalar› sa¤lanarak,
¬ ya da yak›n çevreleri ile kurulacak iliflkilerle kad›nlar›n kendi toplumsal
ortamlar›nda güven içinde yaflamalar›n› sa¤layacak koflullar yarat›larak
gerçeklefltirilecekti.
2. Hayatta kalabilmek için deste¤imizi isteyen kad›nlar›n her biriyle çal›fl›l›rken
“namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenecek cinayetleri önlemek için kal›c› yöntemler
oluflturulacakt›.
Kal›c› yöntemlerle kastedilenler:
¬ her ildeki kad›n merkezlerinde “namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenecek cinayetler
konusunda çal›flacak en az üç kiflilik birimler oluflturmak,
¬ çal›fl›lan her ilde sivil ve resmî kurulufllardan oluflan ve süreklili¤i olan bir
koordinasyon kurulu oluflmas›n› sa¤lamak,
¬ ulafl›labilecek yerel, ulusal ya da uluslararas› tüm platformlarda konuyu
gündeme getirerek duyarl›l›k oluflturmak ve deste¤in süreklili¤ini sa¤lamak,
¬ Türkiye’nin taraf oldu¤u uluslararas› sözleflmelerden do¤an haklar›n kullanabilmesine yönelik bir kavray›fl gelifltirmek,
¬ “namus” kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetlerle ilgili veri taban› oluflturmakt›.
Sonuç olarak;
Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor projesi, “namus” kisvesi alt›nda öldürülme tehlikesi yaflayan kad›nlarla kurulan iliflkilere dayanmakta ve bu çerçevede gelifltirilmifl yöntemleri kullanmaktad›r.
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II. 2006 Y›l› ‹çinde “Namus Kisvesi Ad› Alt›nda ‹fllenen Cinayetler”
Konusunda Yürütülen Çal›flmalar:
(Bu bölüm 01.01.2006-31.12.2006 tarihleri aras›nda yap›lan çal›flmalar› kapsamaktad›r.)
KAMER; kad›n›n ekonomik, sosyal, kültürel ve siyasal alanda f›rsat eflitli¤i
yakalamas› için çal›flma plan›n› “Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’daki 23 ilin her
birinde “Kad›n›n ‹nsan Haklar›” için çal›flan birer kad›n merkezi kurulmas›,
daha sonra bu merkezler arac›l›¤›yla ilçelerde temsilcilikler aç›lmas› ve bu
sayede bütün il ve ilçelere ba¤l› köylerde kad›n çal›flmalar›n›n güçlendirilmesi
ve yap›land›r›lmas›” fleklinde belirlemifltir.
KAMER’in tüm çal›flmalar› bu amaç dâhilinde planlanm›flt›r. Buna ba¤l›
olarak;
¬ Güneydo¤u ve Do¤u Anadolu’nun tüm illerinde örgütlenme çal›flmas›
gerçeklefltirilmifl ve 22 ilde kad›n merkezleri aç›lm›flt›r.
Halen sürmekte olan çal›flmalar flunlard›r:
¬ 23 ilde kad›n›n insan haklar›na yönelik bilinç yükseltme çal›flmalar›
yap›lmakta, acil yard›m hatt› vas›tas›yla fliddet yaflayan kad›nlar›n destek alabilmeleri sa¤lanmaktad›r.
¬ “Yerel, sivil ve resmi mekanizmalar›n çözüm noktas›nda harekete geçmelerini sa¤lamaya yönelik politikalar” izlenmektedir.
“Kad›nlar Gelece¤e Bak›yor” projesi, KAMER’in hedeflerinin somuta
dönüfltü¤ü örneklerden yaln›zca biridir.
1- Proje Ekibi Nas›l Oluflturuldu?
Proje ekibi, üç kiflilik yönetim birimi, 13 il sorumlusu ve 26 gönüllü olmak
üzere toplam 42 kad›ndan olufltu.
lefltirildi. Tüm faaliyetler, projenin sürdürülece¤i illerin yerel özelliklerine ve
ihtiyaçlar›na, illerde karfl›lafl›labilecek dirençlere uygun olarak ayr› ayr› planland›.
Faaliyet plan›na uygun olarak, proje ekibinin ifl tan›mlar› yeniden
de¤erlendirilerek iflbölümü gerçeklefltirildi.
Proje Ekibine Yönelik Kapasite Gelifltirme Faaliyetleri;
Proje ekibi iki ayr› yöntemle proje süresi boyunca desteklendi.
¬ Bu yöntemlerden biri, proje ekibinin kendi içinde deneyim ve bilgi paylafl›m›na yönelik olarak e¤itim çal›flmas› yap›lmas›yd›.
¬ Bir di¤eri ise d›flardan bir uzman›n deste¤iyle e¤itim faaliyetleri düzenlenmesiydi.
Bu e¤itim faaliyetleriyle amaçlananlar flunlard›r:
¬ Projeyi tan›tmak
¬ Baflvuru alma teknikleri konusunda deneyimleri paylaflmak
¬ Baflvuranlar›n her biri ile ilgili bilgilerin kaydedildi¤i formlar›n düzenlenmesi ve veri taban›na yüklenmesini sa¤lamak
¬ Her ilde resmî ve sivil kurulufllarla iliflki gelifltirilmesini sa¤lamak
¬ Bir fliddet ya da muhtemel bir cinayet vakas›yla u¤rafl›l›rken proje ekibinin
olumsuz yönde etkilenmesini önlemek için bir dizi çal›flma yap›lm›flt›r.
Kapasite art›rma Diyarbak›r’›n yan› s›ra di¤er illerde de gerçeklefltirilmifltir.
Tüm bu çal›flmalarla birlikte, ülkede yaflanan geliflmelere ba¤l› olarak belirlenen gündemler üzerinden toplant›lar gerçeklefltirilmifltir. Baflbakanl›k
taraf›ndan “Kad›na Yönelik fiiddet, Töre ve Namus Cinayetlerinin Önlenmesi
Genelgesi”nin yay›nlanmas›n›n ard›ndan yap›lan toplant› da bunlardan
biridir.
2- Projenin Tan›t›m› ‹çin Yap›lan Çal›flmalar:
Proje ekibi, kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda fark›ndal›k yaflam›fl, bu fliddetle
mücadele eden, fark›ndal›klar›n› di¤er kad›nlarla paylaflan gönüllü ve tam
zamanl› çal›flabilecek kad›nlardan oluflturuldu.
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a) Medya arac›l›¤›yla tan›t›mlar yap›ld›.
Projenin tan›t›m› amac›yla projenin üçüncü ay›nda bir bas›n toplant›s› planlanm›flt›. Ayn› tarihlerde Diyarbak›r’da bafllayan ve daha sonra çevre illere
yay›lan olaylar sebebiyle bas›n toplant›s› gerçeklefltirilemedi.
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Proje Süresince KAMER’le görüflmeler yapan:
Yabanc› bas›n ve TV’lerden
Die Zeit Ajans› (Almanya), Le Figaro Gazetesi, Elcezire Haber Ajans›, Reuiters
Ajans›, BBC, ‹sveç Hükümet Radyosu ve Gazetesi, New York Times
Ulusal / yerel bas›n ve TV’lerden
Sabah Gazetesi, Hürriyet Gazetesi, Zaman Gazetesi, Bianet, TRT, NTV, STAR TV,
Kanal 21, Kars Serhat TV, Dicle Haber Ajans›, Anadolu Ajans gibi medya kurulufllar›yla proje çal›flmalar› paylafl›lm›flt›r.
b) Ulusal ve uluslararas› toplant›lara kat›ld›k.
‹stanbul-TESEV
06.02.2006 tarihinde TESEV’in düzenlemifl oldu¤u “Geniflletilmifl Ortado¤u ve
Afrika’da Kad›n” konulu sempozyuma Nebahat Akkoç ve Naime Kardafl
kat›ld›lar. Nebahat Akkoç’un sunum yapt›¤› sempozyumda “Kad›na yönelik
fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler” konusunda sürdürülen politika ve edinilen deneyimler paylafl›ld›.
Ankara- Birleflmifl Milletler
23.02. 2006 tarihinde “yerinden olmufl gruplara yönelik sürdürülen
çal›flmalar” konulu toplant›ya Nilgün Y›ld›r›m kat›ld›. Daha sonraki tarihlerde
bir dizi toplant› ve e¤itim program›yla devam eden çal›flmalar, Do¤u Anadolu
ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’da yerlerinden edilmifl kad›nlar›n durumu, kad›nlar›n
göç ettikleri yerlere ve geri dönüfl durumunda eski yaflam alanlar›na uyumu,
bu süreç içinde karfl›laflt›klar› cinsiyetçi tutumlar hakk›nda fikir al›flverifllerinde bulunuldu. Göç eden gruplar›n yaflad›klar› sorunlar›n azalt›lmas› için resmî
ve sivil mekanizmalar›n harekete geçirilmesinde yap›labilecekler konusunda
e¤itim deste¤i al›nd›.
Diyarbak›r- Tabipler Odas›
2006 y›l› Mart ay›nda Diyarbak›r Tabipler Odas›’nca haz›rlanan “Bar›fl, Dostluk
ve Demokrasi” konulu toplant›ya Nebahat Akkoç kat›larak çal›flmalar
hakk›nda bilgi verdi.
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‹stanbul- Film Mor
12.03.2006 tarihinde Film Mor taraf›ndan yap›lan sivil toplum örgütlerinin
bileflenlerinin konu edildi¤i belgeselin sunumu ve ev eksenli deneyim
paylafl›m› toplant›s›na Sacide Akkaya kat›ld›.
Diyarbak›r
18.03.2006 tarihinde STGM taraf›ndan desteklenen “fiiddete karfl› kad›n
buluflmas› 2” atölyelerine Nebahat Akkoç, Berçem Akkoç, Sacide Akkaya,
Nilüfer Y›lmaz, Naime Kardafl, Ayten Tekay ve Hayriye Aflç›o¤lu kat›ld›. ‹ki gün
süren çal›flmada “fiiddetsizlik” bafll›¤› alt›nda deneyim ve bilgi paylafl›mlar›
gerçeklefltirildi.
Kars - KADER
8.9.04.2006 tarihinde KADER’in “Kad›n Bafl›m›za Yar›n ‹çin Bugünden”
bafll›kl› kampanyan›n bir aya¤› Kars’ta gerçeklefltirildi. Kad›nlar›n yaflad›klar›
sorunlar›n azalt›lmas› için “yerel mekanizmalar›n harekete geçirilmesi ve
kad›nlar›n yerel siyasette aktif hale gelmesi” konular›nda yerel resmî ve sivil
kurulufllar›n kat›l›m›yla yap›lan atölyelere Fatma Y›lmaz Tücer ve Arzu
Orhangazi kat›ld›.
‹stanbul- Helsinki Yurttafllar Derne¤i
Kad›nlar›n yasal haklar› konusunda bilgilenmeleri ve yasalarda öngörülenlerin hayata geçirilmesi amac›yla Helsinki Yurttafllar Derne¤i’nin sürdürdü¤ü
projeye destek verildi. Bu kapsamda, Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’da
kad›nlar›n yasal haklar›n› kullanmalar› konusunda yaflad›klar› engeller ve
yerel özelliklerle ilgili deneyim ve bilgi al›flveriflinde bulunuldu. Kad›na yönelik
fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler konusunda yap›lan
çal›flmalar paylafl›ld›. 21.04.2006 tarihinde yap›lan toplant›ya Nilgün Y›ld›r›m
ve Fatma Y›lmaz Tücer kat›ld›.
‹stanbul- Heinrich Böll
18.09.2006 tarihinde “Türkiye’de Kurumsallaflm›fl Cinsiyetler Aras› Demokrasi:
Olanaklar - Riskler” konulu bir uluslararas› konferansa Nebahat Akkoç ve Nilgün
Y›ld›r›m kat›ld›. Ayn› bafll›k alt›nda düzenlenen “Cinsiyetler Aras› Demokrasi ve
Aile, Din, Toplum” konulu atölyenin moderatörlü¤ü Nebahat Akkoç taraf›ndan
yap›ld›. Çal›flmada kad›n›n kad›n olmaktan kaynakl› yaflad›¤› s›n›rlamalar ve
toplumsal cinsiyet rolleri konusunda deneyim ve fikirler paylafl›ld›.
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Hollanda
19.12.2005-28.12.2005 tarihleri aras›nda HTIP’in Hollanda’da yapm›fl oldu¤u
bir dizi toplant› ve panele Nilgün Y›ld›r›m ve Ayten Yakut kat›ld›. Hollanda’da
kad›n çal›flmas› yapan sosyal kurumlar›n ve Hollanda’da yaflayan
Türkiyelilerin kurmufl olduklar› sivil toplum örgütü temsilcilerinin kat›l›m›yla
3 ayr› flehirde gerçekleflen toplant›larda deneyim ve bilgiler paylafl›ld›. Kad›na
yönelik fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetlere yönelik çal›flmalar
aktar›ld› ve proje konusunda tan›t›mlar yap›ld›.
Ermenistan
01.03.2006-07.03.2006 tarihleri aras›nda “Kafkaslar’da Ortak Çal›flma” konulu toplant›lara Naime Kardafl kat›ld›. Farkl› özelliklere sahip kad›nlar›n “kad›n
olmak” paydas›na dayanarak fliddete karfl› yürütülebilecek ortak çal›flmalar
konusunda atölyeler gerçeklefltirildi. Toplant›da KAMER’in fliddet ve namus
kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler konusundaki politikas› ve çal›flma yöntemleri
paylafl›ld›.
Almanya
24.03.2006 tarihinde Almanya’da kad›n konusunda çal›flmalar yapan sivil
toplum örgütlerinin düzenledi¤i toplant›lara Nebahat Akkoç kat›ld›.
Çal›flmalarda; kad›na yönelik fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler
konusunda yap›lan çal›flmalar ve izlenen politika hakk›nda paylafl›mlar
gerçeklefltirildi.
‹sveç’ten resmî kurumlar›n ve sivil toplum örgütlerinin temsilcileriyle
kad›na yönelik fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler konusunda
yürütülen çal›flmalar hakk›nda görüflmeler yap›ld›.
¬ Ürdün, ‹ngiltere, Almanya, ‹sveç, Fransa, Amerika, Güney Kore, Hollanda ve
Belçika’dan gelen 50’ye yak›n gazeteci ve ajans temsilcisiyle görüflme ve
röportajlar yap›ld›.
¬ Yurtiçinden 65 ulusal ve yerel medya temsilcisi KAMER’i ziyaret ederek
çal›flmalar hakk›nda bilgi ald›.
d) Kad›na yönelik fliddet ve namus cinayetleri konusunda yap›lan
çal›flmalara destek verildi.
¬ Marmara Üniversitesi, Yüzüncü Y›l Üniversitesi, Dicle Üniversitesi, F›rat
Üniversitesi, Anadolu Üniversitesi, Y›ld›z Teknik Üniversitesi, ‹stanbul
Üniversitesi, Columbia Üniversitesi, Washington Üniversitesi, Londra Üniversitesi, Bremen Üniversitesi’nden akademisyen ve ö¤rencilerin “kad›n” konulu çal›flmalar›na destek verildi. Deneyim ve bilgiler paylafl›ld›.
¬ NTV, CNN, TRT, TRT GAP, STAR, SERHAT TV, KANAL 21 gibi yerel ve ulusal
TV kanallar›nda programlara kat›l›nd›.
¬ ‹spanya, Türkiye ve Avusturya’da kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda belgesel
film yapmak isteyen gruplara destek verildi. Deneyim ve bilgiler paylafl›ld›.
¬ ‹ki sahne oyununa dan›flmanl›k yap›ld›.
3- ‹l Koordinasyon Kurullar› Nas›l Oluflturuldu?
‹sveç
10.10.2006 -17.10.2006 tarihleri aras›nda ‹sveç Enstitüsü ve ‹sveç’te kad›na
yönelik fliddet konusunda çal›flmalar yapan kurumlarla bir dizi toplant› ve
ziyaret gerçeklefltirildi. Nilgün Y›ld›r›m ve Naime Kardafl, Julide Aral ve Melek
Taylan’›n kat›ld›¤› çal›flmalarda kad›na yönelik fliddet ve namus kisvesi alt›nda
ifllenen cinayetler konusunda ‹sveç’te ve Türkiye’de yap›lan çal›flmalar
de¤erlendirildi ve deneyimler paylafl›ld›. Ayn› zamanda Melek Taylan’›n
yap›mc›s› oldu¤u “Karanl›kta Diyaloglar” adl› belgeselin gösterimi
gerçeklefltirildi.
c) Türkiye’den ve çeflitli ülkelerden ziyaretçilerimiz oldu.
¬ KAMER’i ziyaret eden Belçika, ‹sviçre, Almanya, Hollanda, Finlandiya ve
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¬ Projenin yürütüldü¤ü illerde, baflvuruda bulunanlar›n her birinin ihtiyac›na
göre gerçeklefltirilen çal›flmalar için resmî ve sivil yetkililerle ba¤lant›lar
kuruldu. Proje dahilinde yaklafl›k 350 kifli ile görüflmeler yap›ld›. Baz› yetkililerle birçok defa bu görüflmeler tekrarland›.
¬ fiiddet yaflayan kad›nlar›n gerekli destekleri zaman›nda alabilmeleri için
illerde kad›n kurulufllar›, valilik, belediyeler, SHÇEK il müdürlükleri, baro,
sa¤l›k kurulufllar›, müftülükler, emniyet ve jandarmayla koordinasyon
kuruldu.
¬ 26.02.2006 tarihinde Elaz›¤, 27.02.2006 tarihinde Ad›yaman, 01.03.2006
tarihinde fianl›urfa, 08.03.2006 tarihinde Kars, 30.03.2006 tarihinde Bingöl,
8.03.2006 tarihinde Hakkâri, 6.05.2006 tarihinde Malatya, 25.11.2006 tari2003’ten bu yana - 43
hinde Diyarbak›r, 20.12.2006 tarihinde Mardin, 22.12.2006 tarihinde
Batman ve 02.12.2006 tarihinde fi›rnak’ta kad›na yönelik fliddet konusunda
resmi ve sivil mekanizmalar›n harekete geçmesi amac›yla toplant› ve etkinlikler düzenlendi.
4- Muhtemel Kurbanlara Yönelik Faaliyetler
¬ Yap›lan bilinç yükseltme çal›flmalar›nda, illerde ve ilçelerde yap›lan tüm
etkinlik ve toplant›larda, alan çal›flmalar›nda, yerel ve ulusal medya
araçlar›yla muhtemel kurbanlara ça¤r› yap›larak tehlike an›nda yap›labilecekler hat›rlat›ld›.
¬ Konu ile ilgili broflür ve el ilanlar› haz›rlanarak da¤›t›ld›. Ayr›ca, kad›nlar›n
yo¤un olarak bulunduklar› yerlere afifller as›ld›.
¬ Etkinliklere kat›lan kad›nlara, acil yard›m hatt› telefonlar›n›n bulundu¤u
küçük hediyeler da¤›t›ld›.
¬ Kad›n merkezleri taraf›ndan mahallelerin yan› s›ra kad›nlar›n yo¤un olarak
bulundu¤u iflletmelere (kuaför, atölyeler v.b) ziyaretler yap›ld›. Kad›nlar›n
konuya duyarl› olmalar› sa¤land›.
5- Baflbakanl›k Taraf›ndan Yay›nlanan “Kad›na Yönelik
fiiddet, Töre ve Namus Cinayetlerinin Önlenmesi
Genelgesi” ile Bafllayan Süreç
4 Temmuz 2006 tarihinde yürürlü¤e giren ve ilgili kurumlara gönderilen
2006/17 say›l› Baflbakanl›k Genelgesi ile al›nacak önlemler kurumlar›n yetki ve
sorumluluklar› bildirilmifltir. Baflbakanl›k Genelgesiyle oluflturulmufl resmî
politika, KAMER’in kad›na yönelik fliddetin azalt›lmas› konusundaki saptamalar›yla örtüflmektedir.
Baflbakanl›k Genelgesi, tüm resmî ve sivil kurumlara cinsiyetler aras› eflitlik
ilkesinin benimsenmesini önermektedir. Ayr›ca, kad›nlar›n haklar›n› kullanabilmeleri ve fliddet durumunda gerekli destekleri alabilmeleri için kamu
kurumlar›na yeni sorumluluklar yüklemifltir. Genelgeyle belirlenen hedeflerin,
sivil kurulufllar›n ve kamu kurumlar›n›n koordinasyonuyla gerçeklefltirilmesi
öngörülmektedir. Baflbakanl›k Genelgesi kad›na yönelik fliddetin azalt›lmas›
için oluflturulmufl bir düzenleme olmakla beraber, kurumlar›n çal›flma meto44 - ‹stersek biter
duna ve yönetmeliklerine henüz tam olarak yans›mam›flt›r. Yapt›r›m gücüne
sahip olmayan Baflbakanl›k Genelgesi, kurum ve kurulufllara yönelik bir
“çözüm önerisi” niteli¤indedir.
Genelge ile birlikte Diyarbak›r Valili¤i taraf›ndan bafllat›lan ve KAMER’in de
destek oldu¤u çal›flmalar sürdürüldü. Diyarbak›r’da Valilik, kaymakamlar,
halk e¤itim müdürlükleri, jandarma, muhtarlar, Sosyal Hizmetler ‹l
Müdürlü¤ü, Dicle Üniversitesi ve KAMER’in kat›l›m›yla 15.11.2006 tarihinde
bir toplant› düzenlendi. Toplant›da ilçe ve köylerde yürütülecek çal›flmalar,
¬ ‹lçelerde resmî kurumlar›n ve sivil kurulufllar›n kat›l›m›yla ilçe koordinasyon kurullar›n›n oluflturulmas›
¬ ‹lçe koordinasyon kurullar› taraf›ndan da köylerde çal›flmalar bafllat›lmas›
fleklinde planland›.
Bu plan dâhilinde, Diyarbak›r’›n Ç›nar ilçesinde koordinasyon kurulunun
oluflturulmas› amac›yla SHÇEK ‹l Müdürü, Dicle Üniversitesi Psikiyatri Bölümü
ve ‹lahiyat Fakültesi akademisyenleri, KAMER çal›flanlar›, Psikolog Jülide Aral,
Ç›nar Kaymakam›, Jandarma, Emniyet Müdürlü¤ü, Nüfus Müdürlü¤ü, Sosyal
Yar›mlaflma ve Dayan›flma Vakf›, Milli E¤itim Müdürü, Halk E¤itim Müdürü,
ö¤retmenler, sa¤l›k personeli, eczac›lar, toplum lideri konumundaki bireyler,
muhtarlar, müftüler ve imamlar›n kat›l›m›yla iki ayr› oturumda gerçeklefltirilen çal›flma atölyeleri düzenlendi. Toplant› sonucunda, fliddet yaflayan
kad›nlar›n ilk ve acil destekleri alabilecekleri bir ilçe “Acil Müdahale Ekibi”
oluflturuldu.
Diyarbak›r’da bafllat›lan pilot çal›flmadan elde edilen sonuçlara ba¤l› olarak,
di¤er illerde bulunan kad›n merkezlerinin benzer koordinasyonu
gerçeklefltirmeleri için haz›rl›klar bafllat›ld›.
6- Proje Süresi Boyunca Çal›flmalar Proje Ekibinin
Yo¤un Koordinasyonu ‹le Sürdürüldü.
¬ Her ilde gerçekleflen çal›flma o ilin koordinatörü taraf›ndan takip edildi.
¬ Kad›n merkezlerinde yap›lan grup çal›flmalar› ve baflvurularla ilgili bilgiler
her çal›flma için ayr› ayr› haz›rlanan formlara aktar›ld›. ‹llerde çal›flmalar
kaydedilerek “ayl›k ilerleme” raporlar› haz›rland›. ‹llerdeki grup çal›flmalar›
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ve baflvuru formlar› veri taban›na bilgi aktarmakla beraber, proje ekibinin de
de¤erlendirilmesine olanak verdi.
¬ Bölge sorumlular› taraf›ndan sürekli olarak tüm iller ziyaret edildi. Bu
ziyaretlerin on günde bir gerçeklefltirilmesine gayret edildi. Bölge sorumlular› ve il koordinatörleri birbirleriyle, elektronik posta ve telefon vas›tas›yla
aral›ks›z olarak iletiflim halinde oldu.
¬ Proje koordinatörü taraf›ndan belli aral›klarla proje uygulama alan›ndaki
iller ziyaret edilerek faaliyetler konusunda tespitler yap›ld›. Bölgeden yap›lan
gözlem ve tespitler, PYB, bölge çal›flmalar› sorumlular› taraf›ndan yap›lan
toplant›larla haftal›k olarak de¤erlendirildi.
¬ Bölgedeki riskler ve sorunlar için acil toplant›lar düzenlendi ve tedbirler
al›nd›.
7- 2006 Y›l›nda Elde Edilen Sonuçlar
¬ Çal›flmalar sonucunda elde edilen bilgi ve tecrübe, program›n uyguland›¤›
alan›n d›fl›nda olan Tunceli, Erzincan, A¤r›, Gaziantep, Kilis, Mufl, Ardahan
ve I¤d›r illerindeki kad›n merkezleriyle paylafl›ld›. Böylece bu illerdeki kad›n
merkezlerinde de ayn› yap›n›n oluflturulmas›na yönelik faaliyetler bafllat›ld›.
¬ Her ilde duyarl›l›k gelifltirme ve iflbirli¤i gelifltirme amac›yla yap›lan ziyaretlerde yaklafl›k 350 kifliyle en az bir görüflme yap›ld›. Etkinlik ve toplant›lara
2500’den fazla kifli kat›ld›. Çal›flmalara kat›lan kiflilerin deneyimlerini
çevreleriyle paylafl›mlar›n›n yan› s›ra radyo ve TV programlar›yla ulafl›lan
bireyler de göz önünde bulundurulursa genifl bir kitleye hitap edildi¤i ortaya
ç›kmaktad›r.
¬ ‹stanbul ve Ankara illerinde yap›lan toplant›larda, proje çal›flmalar›n›n sonuçlar› paylafl›ld›.
¬ Namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenen cinayetler ve yap›lan çal›flmalar konusunda
yerel, ulusal, uluslararas› görsel ve yaz›l› bas›nda ç›kan haberler sonucunda
da Türkiye’nin baflka illerinden ve d›fl ülkelerden destek mesajlar› al›nd› ve
iflbirlikleri gerçeklefltirildi.
¬ Grup çal›flmalar›na kat›lan kad›nlar, kendilerinin yan› s›ra iletiflimde olduklar› bireylerin de “fliddet” konusundaki bak›fl aç›lar›nda olumlu dönüflümler
yaratm›flt›r. fiiddetin hakl› sebebi olamayaca¤› ilkesini benimseyip kendilerine uygulanan fliddeti durdurmak için harekete geçen kad›nlar›n ilk kaydettikleri aflamalar, çocuklar›na fliddet uygulamaktan vazgeçmeleri, kendilerini
daha rahat ifade edebilmeleri, özgüven kazanmalar› fleklinde oldu.
¬ Bir y›l içinde, namus kisvesi alt›nda ifllenecek cinayetlerin muhtemel kurban› olabilecek 30 kad›na ulaflmak ve onlar› desteklemek hedeflenmiflti. AYH
birimlerine 2006 y›l› içinde 497 baflvuru yap›ld›. Bu baflvurular›n 73 tanesi
can güvenli¤i olmayan, namus ad›na ifllenebilecek bir cinayete kurban
gitme tehlikesiyle karfl› karfl›ya kalan kad›nlara aitti.
¬ Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’nun yan› s›ra Türkiye’nin di¤er bölgelerinde ve
yurtd›fl›nda yaflayan Türkiyeli kad›nlar›n da baflvurular› al›nd› ve her biri
desteklendi.
Destekleyici Kurulufllar Aç›s›ndan
Bire bir iletiflim kurulan resmî ve sivil kurulufllara mensup bireylerin bak›fl
aç›lar› de¤iflmifl, böylece bu bireyler fliddeti durdurmak ve fliddet yaflayan
kad›nlar›n desteklemek için iflbirli¤i yapm›fllard›r.
¬ Proje faaliyetleri içinde yap›lan etkinliklerde resmî ve sivil mekanizmalar›n
deste¤i al›nd›.
¬ Birçok valilik, fonlar›n›n kad›nlar taraf›ndan kullan›lmas›n› sa¤lad›, resmi
dairelerde görev alan memurlar› kad›nlarla ilgili ifllemleri kolaylaflt›rmaya
yönlendirerek çal›flmalara destek verdi.
¬ SHÇEK, nüfus müdürlükleri, muhtarl›klar vb. resmî kurumlarda yaflanan
bürokratik engeller ve gecikmeler, bu kurumlarda çal›flan memurlar›n bireysel çabalar›yla ortadan kald›r›ld›.
¬ Baz› illerde polis ve jandarma karakollar›, kendilerine baflvuran kad›nlar›n
baflvurular›n›n al›nmas› için kad›n merkezlerinden destek istedi. Ayr›ca,
sa¤l›k raporu almak, tutanak tutmak ve hukuksal süreci bafllatmak gibi
konularda daha dikkatli ve hassas bir tutum benimsediler.
Muhtemel Kurbanlar aç›s›ndan
“Kad›nlar›n yaflad›klar› fliddeti tan›mlamalar› ve bu fliddetten kurtulmak için
mücadele yöntemleri gelifltirmeleri” amac›yla yap›lan çal›flmalar proje
süresince yo¤un olarak sürdürüldü.
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2003’ten bu yana - 47
III
Sonuç:
Karakola gidildi¤inde polisler, k›z çocu¤unun halas›n›n ve yengesinin gelen
bir telefon üzerine apar topar karakoldan ayr›ld›¤›n› söylediler. Karakol yetkilileri, k›z çocu¤u ve ailesi ile iletiflim kuruldu¤unda KAMER’e haber vereceklerini bildirdiler.
***
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikâyeleri
1. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
6.01.2006
14
Bekâr
Hamile
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Polis Karakolu arac›l›¤› ile KAMER’e baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
K›z çocu¤u babas›n›n tecavüzüne u¤ram›fl. Durumundan flüphelenen halas›
ve yengesi taraf›ndan gizlice doktora götürülerek muayene ettirilmifl. Muayene
sonucunda, k›z›n 5 ayl›k hamile oldu¤unu ö¤renmifller. Bunun üzerine
telafllanarak doktordan “bebe¤i almas›n›” istemifller. K›z›n ailesini tan›yan
doktor, bunu yapamayaca¤›n› söyleyerek onlar› karakola yönlendirmifl.
Karakola gitmeleri üzerine, bir polis memuru ve doktor, k›z çocu¤unun
destek almas› için KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ KAMER bebe¤in ald›r›lmas› konusunda destek verilemeyece¤ini, çocu¤un
baflvurusu al›narak bu konuda yap›labilecekler konusunda, k›z çocu¤u ile
birlikte karar verilebilece¤ini aktard›.
¬ K›z çocu¤unun baflvurusunu almak üzere karakola gidildi.
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2. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
11.01.2006
29
Okuryazar de¤il
Resmî nikâhl›
Dört
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, erkek kardeflinin deste¤i ile KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, daha çocuk yafltayken kendisinden yaflça çok büyük olan bir akrabas›
ile zorla evlendirilmifl. Evlilik süresi boyunca fliddet yaflam›fl. Kocas› taraf›ndan
arkadafllar› ile para karfl›l›¤›nda birlikte olmaya zorlanm›fl. Bunun üzerine,
iflyerinde tan›flt›¤› bir erkekle baflka bir ile kaçm›fl ve birlikte yaflamaya
bafllam›fl. Kocas› ve ailesi taraf›ndan her yerde aranmaya bafllam›fl. Kaçt›¤›
erkekle bu süre içinde çok mutlu oldu¤unu söyleyen kad›n, daha sonra ailesi ve
kocas› taraf›ndan bulunmufl. Bulundu¤u ilden ailesinin yaflad›¤› eve getirilen
kad›n “Namusumuzu kirlettin” denilerek yarg›lanm›fl ve öldürülmesine karar
verilmifl. Öldürülmesini istemeyen kardeflinin deste¤iyle gizlice baroya giderek
baflvuru yapm›fl.
Kad›n Baro taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi. Baflvurusu al›nan kad›n
kaçt›¤› kifliye dönmek istiyordu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
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Sonuç:
¬ Daha önce birlikte kaçt›¤› kifliyle iletiflim kurdu. Evden kaçarak onun
yan›na yerleflti.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
¬ Baflka bir ilde bulunan SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek kad›n ve çocuklar› için
s›¤›nma evi deste¤i sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n, çocuklar›n› alarak gizlice evden gizlice kaçt› ve s›¤›nma evinin
bulundu¤u ile gitti. Yetkililer taraf›ndan karfl›lanan kad›n, çocuklar›yla birlikte s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
***
3. Baflvuru
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
12.01.2006
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Okuryazar
Resmî nikâh
Üç
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre çocuklar›yla birlikte bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Daha sonra, erkek kardeflinden ald›¤› desteklerle baflka bir ilde ev tuttu.
¬ Çal›flmaya bafllad›.
¬ Çocuklar›yla yaflamaya devam ediyor.
¬ Kocas› taraf›ndan aranmaya devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Erkek kardeflinin deste¤iyle KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yapt›.
4. Baflvuru:
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Severek evlenen kad›n, evlili¤i süresince kocas›ndan ve kocas›n›n ailesinden
fliddet yaflam›fl. Hamileli¤i s›ras›nda fliddet yaflamaya devam etmifl ve bu nedenle çocuklar›n› sorunlu do¤urmufl. Soka¤a ç›kmas› yasaklanan kad›n, evlenerek
geldi¤i flehri hiç görmemifl.
Kocas› ve ailesi taraf›ndan sürekli olarak “senin dostun var, bu çocuklar›n
babas› kim?” denerek yarg›lanm›fl ve ölümle tehdit edilmifl. Kocas›n›n evde
olmad›¤› bir saatte, baflka bir flehirde yaflayan kardeflini arayarak ve
yaflad›klar›n› anlatm›fl.
KAMER’e telefonla baflvuran kardefli, kad›n için destek istedi.
Kad›na evde yaln›z oldu¤u saatlerde kad›na telefonla ulafl›larak baflvurusu
al›nd›. Kad›n, “kocas› taraf›ndan bulunabilece¤i için ailesinin yan›na gidemeyece¤ini” söyleyerek kendisi ve çocuklar› için s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Telefon görüflmeleri sürdürülerek, kad›n›n talepleri do¤rultusunda
yap›labilecekler planland›.
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Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
13.01.2006
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Okuryazar
Boflanm›fl
Alt›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kocas› taraf›ndan fliddet yaflayan kad›n, kocas›n›n k›zlar›na cinsel tacizde
bulundu¤una tan›k olmufl. Tacizlerin s›k s›k tekrar etmesi üzerine kocas›ndan
boflanmaya karar vermifl.
Kad›n KAMER’e baflvurarak boflanmak için destek istedi.
Baroya yönlendirilen kad›n, boflanma davas› açt› ve kocas› hakk›nda suç
duyurusunda bulundu. Çocuklar›n› yan›na alarak ev tuttu.
Bir süre sonra, tan›flt›¤› bir erkekle görüflmeye bafllam›fl. Bunu duyan ailesi
“sen bizim ad›m›z› kirlettin, o erkekle tekrar görüflürsen seni öldürürüz” diyerek kad›na fliddet uygulam›fllar.
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Bunun üzerine KAMER’e ikinci defa baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Çocuklar›n›n e¤itimleri için maddî destek almalar› sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n›n boflanma davas› sonuçland› ve çocuklar›n›n velayetini ald›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
¬ Baflka bir ilde yaflayan ailesi ile iletiflim kurularak görüflüldü.
¬ Kad›n›n ailesinin yan›na gidebilmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n ailesi ile yaflamaya devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
6.Baflvuru:
***
5. Baflvuru
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
21.01.2006
20
Dinî Nikâhl›- Kuma
2
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n Karakol vas›tas›yla baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n evlili¤i süresince kocas›ndan her türlü fliddeti yo¤un olarak yaflam›fl.
Baflka bir iliflkisi olan kocas› onu ara ara ölümle tehdit ediyormufl. Kocas› bir
gece fliddet uygulayarak kad›na önce tecavüz etmifl. Daha sonra “ seni
öldürece¤im, bana nas›l ölmek istedi¤ini söyle” diyerek kad›n› b›çaklamaya
bafllam›fl. Yaralanan kad›n kaçmay› baflarm›fl ve komflular›n›n yard›m›yla hastaneye kald›r›lm›fl. Kad›n hastane polisini arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Kad›n baflka bir ilde yaflayan ailesinden destek alabilece¤ini ve onlar›n
yan›nda gitmek istedi¤ini söyledi..
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Hastaneye gidilerek kad›n›n baflvurusu al›nd›.
¬ Psikolojik dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
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Yafl›
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›
16.1.2006
14
Okur Yazar
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
K›z› namus ad›na ifllenen bir cinayete kurban gitmifl bir kad›n›n›n deste¤iyle
KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
On dört yafl›ndaki k›z çocu¤u üvey babas›n›n akrabas› taraf›ndan tecavüze
u¤ram›fl. Bu durumu kimseye söylememifl ve intihara kalk›flm›fl. Hastaneye
kald›r›lan çocuk, orada, yaflad›klar›n› ailesine anlatm›fl. Bunun üzerine ailesi
karakola giderek tecavüzcüyü flikâyet etmifl. fiikâyet edildi¤ini duyan adam, k›z
çocu¤unun erkek kardeflini kaç›rm›fl ve k›z›n ifadesini geri almamas› durumunda kardeflini öldürece¤ini söylemifl.
Kardeflinin hayat›ndan endifle eden k›z, “bana tecavüz eden o de¤il” diyerek
ifadesini de¤ifltirmifl. Eve gitti¤inde kardeflinin serbest b›rak›ld›¤›n› görmüfl. K›z
çocu¤unun annesi, tecavüz eden adam›n ailesini ça¤›rarak “gelin bu sorunu
halledelim” demifl. Karfl› taraf uzlaflmay›nca, hem k›zlar›na yap›lanlar hem de
o¤ullar›n›n kaç›r›lmas› konusunda tekrar suç duyurusunda bulunarak,
tecavüzcünün ceza almas› sa¤lam›fllar.
Bu olaylar yaflan›rken, k›z›n abisi askerdeymifl. Abisinin, “askerden
dönüflünde k›zlar›n› öldürebilece¤i” korkusuyla aile KAMER’e baflvurdu.
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KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Tecavüz eden adam hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ Avukat›yla görüflülerek durumun ciddiyeti konufluldu
¬ K›z çocu¤una ve annesine, tehlike durumunda yapabilecekleri anlat›ld›.
Sonuç:
¬ Annesi, o¤lunun bir süre daha askerde olaca¤› için k›z›n›n bu sürede
güvende olaca¤›n› ve k›z›n›n can güvenli¤i ile ilgili bir tehlike yaflamas›
durumunda KAMER’e ulaflaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ K›z çocu¤una ve ailesine suç duyurusunun geri al›nmas› için bask›lar sürdü.
Aile, bir süre sonra tecavüzcü hakk›ndaki suç duyurusunu geri ald›.
¬ Tecavüzcünün ailesi, k›z çocu¤unun ailesine, “flikâyetlerini geri çekmeleri
ve tecavüzcüyle k›z çocu¤unun evlendirilerek olay›n kapat›lmas›”
karfl›l›¤›nda ceza olarak para ödedi.
¬ K›z çocu¤u ailesi taraf›ndan ikna edilerek tecavüzcüsüyle evlendirildi.
***
erkekle zorla evlendirilmiflti.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›n›n abisiyle görüflmeler sürdürüldü.
¬ Kad›na destek verilerek bulundu¤u yerden abisinin oldu¤u ile gitmesi
sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n› kaç›ran adam “O benim kar›md›r. Evi terk ederek namusumuzu kirletti” diyerek kad›n› ve abisini ölümle tehdit etti.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n abisiyle birlikte bir ile gitti orada ailesiyle birlikte yafl›yor.
***
8. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi: 27.01.2006
Yafl›:
16
E¤itim durum: ‹lkokul Mezunu
Medeni durumu: Bekâr
Çocuk say›s›:
7. Baflvuru
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
22.01.2006
21
Okur Yazar
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n›n abisi KAMER’e mektup yazarak baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n›n abisi KAMER’e mektup yazarak hal› kursuna devam eden k›z
kardeflinin, kursu basan iki kifli taraf›ndan kaç›r›ld›¤›n› ve tüm aramalara
ra¤men bulanamad›¤›n› bildirdi. K›z kardeflinin bulunmas› için destek istedi.
KAMER kad›n›n abisini telefonla arayarak ayr›nt›l› bilgi ald›. Bir süre sonra
kad›n›n›n abisi onun bir köyde oldu¤unu ö¤rendi. Kad›n kendini kaç›ran
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
K›z› daha önce namus ad›na ifllenen bir cinayete kurban gitmifl bir kad›n
taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Babas›n› küçük yaflta kaybeden k›z, sürekli ailesinin bask›s›na maruz kalm›fl.
Sevgilisiyle konufltu¤unu gören annesi dövmeye bafllam›fl. Annesinin “nereye
gidersen git, senin gibi ad›m›z› kirleten k›z›m›z yok bizim” demesi üzerine çok
korkmufl ve evli olan ablas›n›n evine s›¤›nm›fl.
Annesinin olay› anlatmas› üzerine öfkelenen abisi, ablas›n›n evine gelerek
onu dövmüfl ve onu öldürece¤ini söyleyerek tehdit etmifl. Bir f›rsat›n› bularak
bulundu¤u yerden kaçm›fl. Sokakta onu gören ve evden kaçt›¤›n› fark eden bir
kifli kad›n› evinde bir gece misafir etmifl. Ertesi gün ona nas›l yard›m edebileceklerini araflt›rmaya bafllayan aile, daha önce k›z› namus ad›na ifllenen bir
cinayete kurban gitmifl bir kad›ndan KAMER’e baflvurabileceklerini
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ö¤renmifller.
Kad›na destek olan kar› koca, baflvurucu kad›nla birlikte KAMER’e geldiler.
Baflvurusu al›nan kad›n önce s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu. Daha sonra ailesiyle
görüflülmesini ve görüflmeden olumlu sonuç al›n›rsa ailesinin yan›na dönmek
istedi¤ini söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Kad›n›n talebi do¤rultusunda ailesiyle görüflüldü.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Kad›n›n ailesiyle yap›lan görüflmelerden olumlu sonuçlar al›nd›. Kad›n ailesine döndü.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
***
teslim ettikten sonra, tan›flt›¤› erkekle baflka bir ile kaçm›fl. Kaçt›klar› ilde bir
süre birlikte yaflam›fllar. Daha sonra yaflad›klar› ile dönerek bir gecekonduda
saklanm›fllar. Bu arada kaçt›klar› için ikisinin de ailesi, haklar›nda ölüm
karar› vererek onlar› ar›yormufl.
Kad›n ve birlikte kaçt›¤› erke¤in, KAMER’e baflvuru yapmas› üzerine kad›na
alabilece¤i destekler ve birlikte yaflad›¤› erke¤in polise baflvurarak suç duyurusunda bulunabilece¤i anlat›ld›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kocas›na boflanma davas› açmak için avukata vekâlet verdi.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflim kurularak s›¤›nma evine gitmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Harc›rah için nakdî destek verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Kocas›na açt›¤› boflanma davas› sonuçland›; bofland›lar.
¬ Daha sonra birlikte kaçt›¤› kifliyle evlenerek baflka bir ilde yeni bir hayat
kurdu.
9.Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
27.01.2006
32
Okur Yazar De¤il
Resmî Nikâhl›
Alt›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n ve beraber kaçt›¤› erkek KAMER’e birlikte geldiler. Kad›n Acil Yard›m
Hatt›na baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n yaflad›¤› yo¤un fliddetten dolay› çocuklar›n› da alarak ailesinin yan›na
yerleflmifl. Bir süre sonra evli ve çocuklar› olan bir erkekle tan›flm›fl ve
görüflmeye bafllam›fl. Hâlâ resmî nikâh› devam eden eski efline, iki çocu¤unu
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***
10.Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
14.02.2006
22
Okuryazar
Dinî Nikâhl›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, Karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’in Acil Yard›m Hatt›na baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, ailesinin istemedi¤i biriyle kaçarak evlenmifl. Bunun üzerine ailesi
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taraf›ndan evlatl›ktan reddedilmifl. Kocas›yla baflka bir ile yerleflen kad›n, bir
süre sonra kocas›ndan fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Kocas›n›n fliddetinden kurtulmak için kad›n ablas›n› arayarak ailesinin yan›na dönmek istedi¤ini söylemifl ve yard›m istemifl. Ablas›, babalar›n›n ona karfl› çok öfkeli oldu¤unu, ona
zarar verebilece¤ini söylemifl. Gidecek bir yeri ve paras› olmad›¤› için bir süre
sokaklarda yatm›fl. Bunu fark eden bir aile onu evine alm›fl. Kad›n kendisine
destek olan ailenin yan›nda bir y›l kadar yaflam›fl. Bu arada aile onu,
tan›d›klar› yafll› bir adamla evlendirmifl.
‹kinci kocas› da “iyi bir kad›n olsayd›n kocan› terk etmezdin. Sokaklarda
kalmazd›n. Sen kirlisin ve dokundu¤un her fleyi kirletiyorsun” diyerek kad›na
fliddet uygulamaya bafllam›fl. ‹kinci kocas› taraf›ndan ceza olarak aç b›rak›lan
ve dövülen kad›n, buna dayanamayarak memleketindeki ablas›n›n yan›na
kaçm›fl.
Ablas› ve enifltesi kad›n› evlerinde saklam›fl. Kad›n›n abisi ve babas›, onun
ablas›n›n evinde oldu¤unu ö¤renmifller. Ablas›n›n evine gelerek, enifltesini,
onu ve ablas›n›n öldüresiye dövmüfller. Bir odaya hapsederek ve onu öldürmek
için plan yapmaya bafllam›fllar. Evden birinin yard›m›yla kilitli oldu¤u odadan
kaç›p, Diyarbak›r’a gelmifl ve bir polis karakoluna s›¤›nm›fl. Karakoldaki polislerin arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›. S›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Karakolla iflbirli¤i yap›larak can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
11.Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
Nereden geldi:
17.02.2006
24
Okur Yazar De¤il
Dinî Nikâhl›
Diyarbak›r
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, Karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’in Acil Yard›m Hatt›na baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
‹lk evlili¤ini çok küçük yaflta yaflayan kad›n bu evlili¤e birkaç gün dayanabilmifl ve babas›n›n evine dönmüfl. Daha sonra ailesi taraf›ndan kendisinden yaflça
çok büyük biri ile evlendirilmifl. ‹kinci evlili¤inde de fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl.
Çocu¤unun olmamas› üzerine yaflad›¤› fliddet artm›fl ve sürekli afla¤›lanm›fl.
Birkaç y›l sonra hamile kalm›fl. Bunun üzerine kocas› “Benim çocu¤um olmuyor. Bu çocuk benim de¤il, nereden peydahlad›n” diyerek kad›n› dövmüfl. Kad›n
tüm yalvarmalar›na ra¤men, kocas›n›, çocu¤un ona ait oldu¤una
inand›ramam›fl. Yaflad›¤› fliddet s›ras›nda ald›¤› darp sebebiyle bebe¤ini
düflürmüfl. Öldürülece¤ini anlay›nca evden kaçarak bir karakola s›¤›nm›fl.
Kad›n karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›. Ailesine verilmesi durumunda öldürülece¤ini söyleyen kad›n s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Karakolla iflbirli¤i yap›larak can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Harc›rah için nakdî destek verildi.
***
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
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12.Baflvuru:
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13. Baflvuru
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
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Nereden geldi:
23.02.2006
Evli
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Bir avukat taraf›ndan KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Bir avukat KAMER’i telefonla arayarak yaral› kad›n hakk›nda bilgi verdi.
Kad›n, kocas› taraf›ndan bo¤az› kesilerek öldürülmek istenmifl. A¤›r yaral›
olarak hastaneye kald›r›lm›fl. A¤›r yaral› olan ve sürekli kan kaybeden kad›n›n
kald›r›ld›¤› hastane, tedavi için gerekli flartlara sahip de¤ilmifl. Doktorlar, k›sa
bir süre içinde gerekli müdahalenin yap›lamamas› durumunda kad›n hayat›n›
kaybedece¤ini bildirmifller.
Kad›n›n, acilen baflka bir ilde daha iyi flartlara sahip bir hastaneye nakli için
KAMER’den destek istendi.
Kad›n›n bulundu¤u ilin, a¤›r k›fl koflullar› sebebiyle çevre ilerle karayolu
ba¤lant›s› kopuktu. Kad›n ancak bir helikopterle baflka bir ile nakledilebilirdi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›n›n bulundu¤u ilin valisi ve Jandarma Komutanl›¤› ile görüflmeler
yap›ld›. Bu görüflmeler sonucunda Jandarma Komutanl›¤›’na ait bir
helikopterle kad›n baflka bir ile nakledildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Daha iyi flartlara sahip bir hastaneye götürülen kad›n›n tedavisi sürüyor.
¬ Sa¤l›k durumu daha iyiye gidiyor.
***
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Bir
Diyarbak›r
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, komflusu ile birlikte gelerek KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Anne ve babas›n› kaybeden kad›n teyzesinin yan›nda büyümüfl. Bir ifl bularak
yaln›z yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Tan›flt›¤› bir erkekle bir süre sonra evlenmifl.
Evlendi¤inde kocas›n›n evli ve çocuklar› oldu¤unu ö¤renmifl ve flok yaflam›fl.
Kocas›, onunla tan›flt›klar› dönemlerde eski efliyle sorunlar yaflad›¤›n›, eflini
cezaland›rmak için onunla evlendi¤ini, art›k efliyle bar›flt›¤›n› söylemifl. Bu
arada hamile kalan kad›n, kocas›ndan ve kocas›n›n ilk eflinden fliddet
yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Kad›n› birkaç defa döverek hastanelik etmifller.
Do¤um yapan kad›n, kocas›n›n ve kayn›n›n onu dövmeleri üzerine bir
komflusunun deste¤iyle gizlice KAMER’e baflvurdu. Kad›na talebi üzerine,
sa¤l›k raporu almas› ve suç duyurusunda bulunabilmesi için destek verildi.
Bebe¤ini elinden alarak onu öldürmek isteyen kocas›ndan kaçarak can
güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas› için ikinci defa KAMER’e baflvurdu. Bebe¤inin vekâletini almak ve baflka bir ilde bulunan bir akrabas›n›n yan›na gitmek için destek
istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu.
¬ Çocu¤unun vekâletini ve nafaka almak için dava açt›.
¬ Baflka bir ilde bulunan akrabas›n›n yan›na gidebilmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Bebe¤inin sa¤l›k gideri karfl›land›.
¬ Bebe¤i ve kendi ihtiyaçlar› için nakdî destek verildi.
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Sonuç:
¬ Hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu¤u kocas› gözalt›na al›nd›.
¬ Davas› sonuçland› ve çocu¤unun vekâletini ald›.
¬ Baflka bir ilde akrabas›n›n yan›nda yafl›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
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Dinî nikâhl›
Üç
***
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kay›nvalidesinin deste¤iyle KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
14. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
7.03.2006
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Bir güvenlik görevlisi arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Devlet Demir Yollar›’nda çal›flan bir güvenlik görevlisi, KAMER’i telefonla
arayarak yan›nda evden kaçan ve yard›m isteyen bir kad›n oldu¤unu bildirdi.
Babas›n›n her yerde kad›n› arad›¤›n›, onu KAMER’e getiremeyece¤ini söyledi.
Güvenlik görevlisine yapabilecekleri konusunda bilgi verilerek karakola yönlendirildi. Ayn› anda karakol ve SHÇEK ile iletiflim kuran KAMER, kad›n›n can
güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas› ve s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirilmesi için gerekli koordinasyonu sa¤lad›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Karakol iflbirli¤i yap›larak kad›n›n can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le görüflülerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n sekiz y›ll›k evlili¤i süresince sürekli olarak fliddet yaflam›fl. Madde
ba¤›ml›s› olan kocas› kendisine cinsel fliddet uyguluyormufl ve onu aç
b›rakarak, döverek cezaland›r›yormufl.
Kocas› daha önce annesini balkondan atarak öldürmeye teflebbüs etmifl.
Kad›n› “ben yokken eve erkek al›yorsun” diyerek suçlayan kocas› onu ölümle
tehdit ediyormufl. Yaflad›¤› fliddetten dolay› birkaç defa yaralanm›fl ve hastaneye
kald›r›lm›fl. Kad›n yan›na çocuklar›n› da alarak KAMER’e baflvurdu.
Vücudunda darp izleri vard›. Kocas› taraf›ndan öldürülece¤ini söyleyerek
s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek çocuklar›yla birlikte s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi
sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Yol masraflar› karfl›land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Çocuklar› için nafaka davas› açt› ve nafaka almaya bafllad›.
¬ ‹fl buldu ve çal›flmaya bafllad›.
¬ Bir ev tutarak kendisi ve çocuklar› için yeni bir yaflam kurdu.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
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¬ ‹fle gitti¤i saatlerde çocuklar›n›n SHÇEK’e ba¤l› yuvaya b›rak›yor akflamlar›
al›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
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Baflvuru tarihi:
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Çocuk say›s›:
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‹kinci efl - ‹mam nikâhl›
Yedi
¬ Takip edilebilece¤i ihtimaliyle, gidece¤i ilde kad›n›n havaalan›nda karfl›lan›p evine kadar refakat edilmesi ve can güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas› için, o ildeki emniyet teflkilat› ile görüflüldü.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n›n can güvenli¤i sa¤lanarak baflka bir ilde bulunan kocas›n›n yan›na
gitmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n gitti¤i ilde polisler taraf›ndan karfl›land› ve güvenli¤i sa¤lanarak evine
ulaflt›.
¬ Eski kocas› aç›lan dava sonucunda tutukland›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
***
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, Karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Daha önce öldürülme tehlikesiyle karfl› karfl›ya oldu¤u için KAMER’e
baflvuru yapan kad›na destek verilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤lanm›flt›.
Kad›n s›¤›nma evinden ç›kt›ktan sonra, yeniden evlenerek baflka bir flehirde
yaflamaya bafllam›fl ve bir çocu¤u olmufl.
Önceki evlili¤inden olan çocuklar›n›n özlemine dayanamayarak
çocuklar›n›n bulundu¤u flehre gelmifl. Çocuklar›n›n okudu¤u okula gitti¤inde
eski kocas› ve kardefliyle karfl›laflm›fl. Sald›r›ya u¤rayan kad›n elinden
yaralanm›fl. Olay yerine gelen polisler kad›n› karakola götürmüfl. Olay› duyan
eski kocas›n›n akrabalar› kad›n› öldürmek için karakolun etraf›nda beklemeye
bafllam›fllar. Can güvenli¤i olmayan kad›n karakoldaki polislerin deste¤iyle
KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›. Kad›n kocas›n›n ve bebe¤inin yan›na gitmek iste¤ini
söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Suç duyurusunda bulundu.
¬ Uçak bileti al›nd›.
¬ Havaalan›na kadar refakat edildi.
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17. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
22.03.2006
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Resmî Nikâhl›
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n bir yak›n›n›n deste¤iyle KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, babas›n›n karfl› ç›kmas›na ra¤men bir akrabas›yla evlenmifl.
Evlendikten sonra fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Yaflad›klar›ndan dolay› birkaç
defa evini terk ederek ailesinin yan›na gitmifl. Babas› “sen kendi elinle yapt›n,
beni dinlemedin. fiimdi de hatan›n cezas›n› çek” diyerek onu kocas›na geri
göndermifl. Ailesinin ona destek vermedi¤ini gören kocas› kad›na uygulad›¤›
fliddeti art›rm›fl.
Kocas› bir gün ilaç içirerek onu bay›ltm›fl. Sabah uyand›¤›nda yata¤›nda
kocas›n›n bir erkek arkadafl›n›n yan›nda uyudu¤unu görmüfl. Kocas› hiçbir
fleyden haberi yokmufl gibi “koynumda y›lan beslemiflim, istiyorsan sana daha
birçok erkek getireyim” diye ba¤›rarak kad›n› suçlam›fl. Kocas› bu durumu
kad›n›n ailesine anlatm›fl. Kad›n iftiraya u¤rad›¤›n› söylese de, ailesi ona inan2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 65
mam›fl ve namuslar›n› kirletti¤ini söyleyerek hakk›nda ölüm karar› vermifller.
K›z›n›n öldürülece¤ini anlayan annesi onun evden kaçmas›na yard›m etmifl.
Evden kaçan ve can güvenli¤i olmayan kad›n, KAMER’e baflvurup s›¤›nma evi
talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek verildi.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k verildi.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek kad›n›n s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
18. Baflvuru
24.04.2006
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Dinî Nikâhl›
Hamile
KAMER’ e nas›l geldi?
Karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Ailesinin istemedi¤i biriyle evlilik yapan kad›n ailesi taraf›ndan d›fllanm›fl.
Esrar ve alkol kullanan kocas›ndan fliddet görmeye bafllam›fl. Hamile oldu¤u
halde kocas› uygulad›¤› fliddete devam etmifl. Geceleri kocas› taraf›ndan
dövülüp soka¤a at›lan kad›n komflular›na s›¤›n›yormufl. Kocas› uyand›¤›nda
evine dönüyormufl. Bunun üzerine kocas› “gece kimin koynundayd›n, nereden
geldin” diyerek onu suçluyormufl. Kocas›n›n kendisini öldürmesinden korkan
kad›n karakola baflvurmufl. Karakol taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl.
Ayn› zamanda hamile olan kad›n, kocas›n›n kendisini öldürece¤ini söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
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Sonuç:
¬ S›¤›nma evinde kalan kad›n bir süre sonra do¤um yapt›.
¬ Çal›flmak için ifl aramaya bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
***
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu.
19. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
28.04.2006
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Dinî Nikâhl›
Befl
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, daha önce “namus ad›na ifllenecek bir cinayet tehlikesi” yaflayan ve
KAMER’den destek alan bir akrabas› vas›tas›yla baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Köyde yaflayan kad›n›n kocas› birkaç y›l önce intihar etmifl. Çocuklar›yla birlikte yaflam›n› devam ettirmeye çal›flan kad›n, kayn› ve kay›npederi taraf›ndan
fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Kayn› ve kay›npederi kad›na, erkeklerle gizli gizli
bulufltu¤unu söyleyerek iftira ediyorlarm›fl. “Akli dengen yerinde de¤il, sana
deli raporu alaca¤›z ve seni öldürece¤iz. Ölümünden kimse bizi sorumlu tutamayacak” diyerek onu tehdit ediyorlarm›fl. Kayn› ve kay›npederinin fliddetine
dayanamayarak çocuklar›n› da al›p evli olan ablas›n›n yan›na gitmifl.
Bunun üzerine ablas›n›n evine gelen kayn› ve kay›npederi kad›n› döverek
köye dönmesi için bask› yapm›fllar. Enifltesi ve ablas›na onu evlerine ald›klar›
için sald›rm›fllar. “fiimdi de enifltenle birlikte olmaya geldin” diyerek kad›n›
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suçlam›fllar.
KAMER’e baflvuran kad›n, kocas›n›n akrabalar›n›n onu öldürebilece¤ini
söyleyerek destek istedi.
Kad›n suç duyurusunda bulunmak üzere Baroya gitti¤inde, kocas›n›n bir
akrabas›n›n sald›r›s›na u¤rad›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n kocas›ndan kalan mallar› alabilmek için dava açt›.
¬ Kocas›n›n akrabalar› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n açt›¤› davayla kocas›ndan kalan miras› ald›.
¬ Bütün mal varl›¤›n› satt›. Yak›n bir akrabas›n›n yaflad›¤› bir ilde ev alarak
yerleflti.
¬ Yeni ald›¤› evde çocuklar›yla birlikte yafl›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
20.Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
2.05.2006
16
Okur Yazar
Dinî Nikâhl›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’i tan›yan iki kad›n taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Küçük yaflta annesini kaybeden k›z çocu¤u, babas› ve üvey annesinden yo¤un
bask› ve fliddet yaflam›fl. Yaflad›¤› fliddete dayanamayarak intihara kalk›flm›fl.
Babas›n›n bask›s›yla istemedi¤i biriyle niflanlanm›fl. Bir süre sonra niflan›
atm›fl. Buna çok k›zan babas› onu döverek bir eve kapatm›fl. Kaçarak karakola
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baflvuran k›z, Çocuk fiubesi’ndeki polislere yaflad›klar›n› anlatm›fl. Çocuk
fiubesi, babas›n›n k›z›na zarar vermeyece¤ine dair söz alarak k›z› evine geri
göndermifl.
Evine dönen k›z, babas› taraf›ndan niflanl›s›yla zorla evlendirilmifl. Sürekli
kocas›n›n tecavüzüne u¤ram›fl. Bununla birlikte kocas›n›n yatalak hasta olan
annesine bakmak zorunda b›rak›lm›fl. Yaflad›klar›na dayanamayarak kocas›n›n
yan›ndan kaçm›fl. Sokakta nereye gidece¤ini bilemez halde dolafl›rken, KAMER’i
tan›yan iki kad›n taraf›ndan Acil Yard›m Hatt›na yönlendirildi.
K›z çocu¤u yapt›¤› baflvuruda, kocas›n›n ve babas›n›n her yerde onu
arad›klar›n› ve bulduklar›nda onu öldüreceklerini söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Acil Yard›m Hatt› dan›flman›n›n refakatinde Çocuk fiubesi’ne götürüldü.
¬ fiubedeki polislere k›z›n an güvenli¤inin tehlikede oldu¤u bildirilerek önlem
al›nmas› sa¤land›.
¬ Babas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu.
Sonuç:
Çocuk fiubesi k›z›n babas›yla yapt›¤› görüflmelerden sonra, ailenin k›z
çocu¤una zarar vermeyece¤ine kanaat getirerek onu ailesine geri gönderdi.
***
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Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, Karakol arac›l›¤› ile KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 69
Kad›n evlili¤i süresince sürekli fliddet yaflam›fl. Telefonla tan›flt›¤› biriyle
görüflmeye bafllam›fl. Kocas› ve ailesi bunu ö¤renince kad›n› öldürmeye karar
vermifller. Kad›n görüfltü¤ü kifliye öldürülece¤ini söyleyerek yard›m istemifl.
Baflka bir ilde buluflarak kaçmak üzere sözleflmifller. Çocuklar›n› da alarak
buluflma yerine gelen kad›n orda kimseyi görememifl ve aldat›ld›¤›n› anlam›fl.
Çocuklar›yla ortada kalan kad›n, gidecek bir yeri olmad›¤› için ne yapaca¤›n›
flafl›rm›fl. Kad›n, KAMER’in gönüllüleri taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl.
Kad›n baflvurusunda, çocuklar›na bakamad›¤›n› ve can güvenli¤inin
olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Çocuklar› SHÇEK yuvas›na geçici olarak yerlefltirildi.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ ‹letiflim devam ediyor.
***
Kayn›, f›rsat buldukça kad›na cinsel tacizde bulunuyormufl. Kad›n isteklerini
reddedince de, onu ve çocuklar›n› dövüyormufl. “E¤er yapt›klar›m› kimseye
söylersen seni ve çocuklar›n› öldürürüm” diyerek kad›n› tehdit ediyormufl.
Geceleri kayn›n›n yapacaklar›ndan dolay› korkuyla uyuyamayacak hale
gelmifl.
Bunlara daha fazla dayanamayan kad›n, çocuklar›n› da yan›na alarak
KAMER’e baflvurdu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ Kayn› için suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ Kad›n›n ve çocuklar›n›n baflka bir ilde bulunan uzak bir akrabas›n›n yan›na
gidebilmesi için gerekli destekler verildi.
¬ KAMER kad›n›n gitmek istedi¤i ildeki ba¤lant›lar›n› kullanarak o ilde ifl bulmas› sa¤land›.
Sonuç
¬ Kad›n uzak bir akrabas›n›n da deste¤iyle yaflad›¤› o ile yerleflti.
¬ Çal›flmaya bafllad› ve çocuklar› ile birlikte yeni bir yaflam kurdu.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’in grup çal›flmas›na kat›lm›fl kad›nlar taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n›n›n kocas›, y›llar önce yurtd›fl›na giderek kad›n› terk etmifl.
Çocuklar›yla yaln›z kalan kad›n, kayn›n›n yo¤un fliddetine maruz kalm›fl.
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Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 71
Hasta ablas›na destek olmak amac›yla k›z çocu¤u, bir süre ablas› ve
enifltesinin evine göndermifl. Ablas›nda kald›¤› sürede birkaç kez enifltesinin
tecavüzüne u¤ram›fl. “E¤er bunu ablana veya ailene söylersen, ablan› da seni
de öldürürüm” diyen enifltesinden korkan k›z çocu¤u bu durumu bir süre kimseye söyleyememifl. Daha sonra durumu annesine anlatm›fl. Annesi önce inanmam›fl ve onu doktora götürmüfl. K›z›n›n hamile oldu¤unu ö¤renen annesi
enifltesini ça¤›rarak konuflmufl. Önce inkâr eden enifltesi daha sonra
yapt›klar›n› itiraf etmifl. Enifltesinin “istersen onunla da evleneyim, ablas›n›n
üzerine kuma alay›m” demesi üzerine sinir krizi geçiren annesi ba¤›r›p
ça¤›rmaya bafllam›fl. Bunun üzerine ailenin di¤er fertleri olay› ö¤renmifl. Ailesi,
“k›z çocu¤unu kirlenmifl oldu¤u için, enifltesini ise tecavüz etti¤i için” öldürmeye karar vermifl. K›z çocu¤u bir odaya kapat›lm›fl. Enifltesi ise k›z›n abisi
taraf›ndan öldürülmüfl.
K›z›n›n öldürülece¤ini anlayan annesi, gece vakti onu gizlice kapat›ld›¤›
odadan ç›kararak karakola gitmesini söylemifl. Evden kaçmay› baflaran k›z
karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Karakoldaki polisler taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK ile iletiflime geçilerek çocu¤un yetifltirme yurduna yerleflmesi
sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
K›z çocu¤u yetifltirme yurdunda kal›yor.
***
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
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Kad›n, KAMER’i tan›yan bir arkadafl› vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Üniversite okumak üzere baflka bir ile giden kad›n, bu ilde bir erkekle arkadafll›k kurmufl. Erkek arkadafl›n›n bask›s›na dayanamayarak onunla birlikte
olmufl. Bu durumu gizlice kameraya alan erkek arkadafl› bir süre sonra bu
görüntüleri koz olarak kullan›p ona istedi¤i her fleyi yapt›rmak için tehdit etmeye bafllam›fl. Kad›na mal› gibi davranarak istedi¤i her fleyi yapt›rm›fl. Cinsel,
duygusal ve fiziksel fliddet uygulam›fl.
Erkek arkadafl›ndan ayr›lmak istedi¤i halde onun tehditlerine boyun e¤mek
ve istediklerini yapmak zorunda kalm›fl.
Kad›n›n ailesiyle görüflmesini yasaklayarak tatillerde ailesinin yan›na
gitmesini engellemifl. Kad›n tatil zamanlar›nda ailesine yalanlar söyleyerek
onlar› oyalamak zorunda kalm›fl. Okulunun ikinci y›l›na geldi¤inde
yaflad›klar›ndan dolay› dersleri de çok kötü gitmeye bafllam›fl. Erkek arkadafl›,
ona ailesine “Trafik kazas› yapt›m, borçland›m ve karfl› tarafa 30 milyar vermem gerekiyor diyeceksin. Bu paray› bana getireceksin. E¤er istediklerimi yapmazsan seni öldürürüm “ demifl. Korkan kad›n ailesinden bu yolla 30 milyar
alm›fl ve ona vermifl.
Ailesi k›zlar›n›n durumunu merak ederek onun okudu¤u ile gelmek üzere
yola ç›km›fllar. Bunu duyan kad›n kaçarak bir arkadafl›n›n baflka bir ilde
yaflayan ailesinin yan›na saklanm›fl. Ailesi kad›n›n yaflad›klar›n› ö¤renerek onu
aramaya bafllam›fllar. Bu sürede hem ailesinden hem de erkek arkadafl›ndan
ölüm tehditleri alm›fl. Evlerinde kald›¤› ve ayn› zamanda KAMER’i tan›yan aile,
kad›n› KAMER Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na yönlendirdi.
Baflvuru yapan kad›n, can güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas› için destek istedi.
Kad›n›n, bulundu¤u ilde can güvenli¤i tehlikesi yaflayabilece¤i ihtimali göz
önünde bulundurularak baflka bir ilde bulunan KAMER’e gitmesi sa¤land›. Bu
ilde bulunan SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçildi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Baflka bir ilde bulunan KAMER’e gidebilmesi için refakat edildi.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflim bafllat›larak kad›n›n s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Uçak bileti al›nd›.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 73
¬ Polis eflli¤inde yol güvenli¤i al›narak uça¤a binmesi da¤land›.
¬ Yol harc›rah› için nakdî destek verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ S›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ ‹fl bularak çal›flmaya bafllad›.
¬ Bulundu¤u ildeki valili¤in deste¤iyle dershaneye bafllad›.
¬ E¤itimine devam edece¤ini söylüyor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ KAMER ve Karakol iflbirli¤iyle kad›n›n can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›na refakat edilerek SHÇEK’e baflvuru yapabilmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ S›¤›nma evinde kald›¤› s›rada ifl buldu.
¬ Çocuklar›n›n velayetini almak için dava açt›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Polis karakolu arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Üç çocu¤u olan kad›n›n kocas› intihar ederek ölmüfl. Çocuklar›na bakabilmek için bir akrabas›ndan yard›m al›yormufl. Bir süre sonra kad›n, çocuklar›na bakan akrabas›yla kaçarak birlikte yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Ailesi, kad›n› ve
birlikte yaflad›¤› erke¤i öldürmeye karar vermifl. Ailesinin bir ferdi, beraber
yaflad›¤› erke¤i öldürmüfl, kendisi bir yolunu bulup kaçm›fl. Bir tan›d›¤›n›n
evine s›¤›nmak istemifl. Tan›d›klar›, kad›n›n ailesinin kendilerine de zarar
verebilece¤i endiflesiyle onu evlerine almaktan korkup karakola gitmesini
söylemifller. Kad›n›n karakola gitmesi üzerine, karakoldaki polisler taraf›ndan
KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl.
Kad›n, can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
74 - ‹stersek biter
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Dinî nikâhl›
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, Karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, ailesinin iste¤i üzerine evlenmifl. Kocas›n›n, asl›nda evli ve çocuklar›
oldu¤unu bilen ailesi bu durumu kad›ndan saklam›fl. Bir süre sonra kad›n
kocas›yla ilgili gerçekleri ö¤renmifl. Bu durumu kendisinden saklayarak onu
evlendiren ailesini, kendisine ihanet ettiklerini düflünerek affetmemifl.
Evli¤i süresince kocas› ve kumas› ona küfrederek ve dayak atarak fliddet
uygulam›fl. Bir çocu¤u olmufl. Yaflad›¤› fliddetin daha da artmas› üzerine,
çocu¤unu da alarak bir karakola s›¤›nm›fl.
Karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e gelen kad›n, ailesinin ve kocas›n›n yan›na dönerse öldürülebilece¤ini söyleyerek s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu. Baflvuru
s›ras›nda yaflad›¤› fliddetten dolay› vücudunun birçok yerinde a¤›r darp izleri ve
yaralar vard›.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 75
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Sa¤l›k raporu al›nd›.
¬ Suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ SHÇEK arac›l›¤›yla s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ S›¤›nma evindeyken kocas›yla görüflüp evine geri dönmüfl.
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taraf›ndan götürüldü¤ü ö¤renildi.
¬ Olay›n gizli kalmamas› için giriflimlerde bulunuldu.
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Evli
Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, kardeflinin deste¤iyle KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›
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Dinî Nikâhl›
Dört
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n› tan›yan bir komflusu taraf›ndan KAMER’e baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Evli ve dört çocu¤u olan kad›n para karfl›l›¤›nda bir köy korucusuna sat›lm›fl.
Evli olan korucu kad›n› kar›s›n›n üzerine kuma olarak alm›fl. Kumas›yla
anlaflamayan kad›n korucu olan ikinci efli taraf›ndan, onu satan ilk kocas›na
geri verilmifl. ‹lk kocas› onu al›p evine götürmüfl. Birkaç gün çocuklar›yla hasret gideren kad›n öldürülece¤ini anlay›nca bir tan›d›¤›ndan “beni öldürecekler
yard›m edin” diyerek destek istemifl. Bir süre sonra kayn›n›n o¤lu taraf›ndan
“sen kirletilmiflsin, ölümü hak ettin” denerek b›çaklanm›fl. Kad›n›n yard›m
istedi¤i kifli, vicdanen rahats›z olarak baroya ve KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Destek olmak için hastaneye gidildi¤inde, kad›n›n öldü¤ü ve kocas›
76 - ‹stersek biter
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n evlili¤i süresince kocas›ndan yo¤un fliddet yaflam›fl. Kocas› ve kayn›
“sen eve erkek al›yorsun. Biz evde olmad›¤›m›z saatlerde eve birileri gelip gidiyor” diyerek kad›n› suçluyorlarm›fl. Kocas›, kad›n›n üzerine tapulu olan mallar› almaya çal›fl›yormufl. Kocas› boflanmak ve çocuklar›n›n velayetini almak
için kad›na bask› yap›yormufl.
Bu arada kad›n, kocas›n›n ve kayn›n›n kendisini öldürmek için planlar
yapt›klar›n› fark etmifl. Erkek kardefli ve k›z kardeflini evine ça¤›ran kad›n,
kocas› ve kayn›n› onlar›n önünde yüzlefltirerek, kendisiyle ilgili yalanlar› itiraf
etmelerini sa¤lam›fl. Çocuklar›n› da alarak kardeflinin evine gitmifl. Kad›n
KAMER’e gelerek baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ 4320 say›l› kanundan yararlanmak isteyen kad›n, kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulundu
¬ Mal varl›¤›yla ilgili avukattan dan›flmanl›k deste¤i ald›.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre kocas›ndan ayr› yaflayan kad›n, kocas›n›n yapt›klar›ndan piflman
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 77
oldu¤unu söylemesi üzerine kocas›na döndü.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
Ailenin, kad›na zarar vermeyece¤i anlafl›l›nca, s›¤›nma evi yetkilileri kad›n›n
evine dönmesini sa¤lad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
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Resmî Nikâhl›
Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Üç k›z› olan kad›n, kocas› ve kocas›n›n ailesi taraf›ndan yo¤un fliddet
yaflam›fl. “Erkek çocuk do¤uramad›n, bizim oca¤›m›z› söndürdün” denerek
kad›n sürekli afla¤›lanm›fl. Üzerine kuma getirmekle tehdit edilen, yaflad›¤›
fliddete daha fazla dayanamayan kad›n, çocuklar›n› da alarak baflka bir ilde
olan ablas›na gitmifl. Orada birkaç gün kald›ktan sonra evine dönmüfl. Kocas›
ve kocas›n›n ailesi “Sen bizden habersiz enifltenle yatmaya m› gittin? Bir daha
bu eve gelme” diyerek kad›n› soka¤a atm›fllar.
Ailesi, sokakta kalan kad›na berdel olarak evlendi¤i için destek vermemifl.
Çünkü bu durumda erkek kardeflinin evlili¤i tehlikeye girecekmifl. Çaresiz
kad›n karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Kad›n karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvurdu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflim kurularak s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Yol masraf› için nakdî destek verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kalan kad›n, daha sonra evine dönmek istedi.
¬ Bunun üzerine s›¤›nma evi yetkilileri kad›n›n kocas›yla görüflmeler yapt›.
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Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, KAMER gönüllüleri arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›..
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n sevdi¤i erkekle niflanl›yken, köyün çoban›n›n tecavüzüne u¤ram›fl.
Ailesi onu tecavüzcüsüyle zorla evlendirmifl. Bir çocu¤u olan kad›n kocas›ndan
sürekli fliddet yaflam›fl. Bir ifl bulup çal›flmaya bafllam›fl. Kocas› k›skançl›k
bahanesiyle s›k s›k iflyerine gelerek ona hakaret edip dövüyormufl. Yine bir gün
kocas›, kad›n›n iflyerine gelerek “eve gelirsen seni öldürürüm” diye tehdit etmifl
ve çocu¤unu elinden alm›fl.
‹flyerinin sahipleri bunun üzerine önce savc›l›¤a, daha sonra da KAMER
gönüllülerine ulaflm›fl. Gönüllülerin vas›tas›yla KAMER’e telefonla baflvurdu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›n›n bulundu¤u ilde can güvenli¤inin ve s›¤›nma talebinin karfl›lanmas›
için çal›flmalar bafllat›ld›.
¬ Bu sürede kad›n güvenli bir yerde misafir edildi.
¬ Tüm çabalara ra¤men sorumlu kurumlardan gerekli destek al›namad›.
¬ Bunun üzerine KAMER’in Acil Yard›m Hatt›’n›n bulundu¤u ile getirilerek
destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Boflanma davas› aç›ld›.
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¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflim kurularak kad›n›n s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ Suç duyurusunda bulundu.
¬ ‹htiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Ona destek olmak isteyen bir ailenin yan›nda kalmay› tercih etti.
¬ Bu s›rada kocas›ndan ayr›lmak için dava açt›.
¬ Bu arada kad›n›n tecavüzcüsü ve kocas›, kad›n›n 14 yafl›nda olan k›z kardefline tecavüz etti. Bunun üzerine ailesinden destek almaya bafllad›.
¬ Çocu¤unun velayetini almak üzere dava açt› ve ailesinin yan›na geri döndü.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
***
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Bir
Karakol taraf›ndan KAMER telefonla aranarak kad›n için destek istendi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›n›n bulundu¤u hastaneye gidilerek baflvurusu al›nd›.
¬ Polisle görüflülerek, kocas›n›n akrabalar›n›n kad›na ulaflabilecekleri ihtimaller tespit edildi ve önlemler al›nd›.
¬ Ziyaretçi saati iptal edilerek d›flardan kimsenin hastaneye girmemesi sa¤land›.
¬ Polis hastanenin tüm çevresini ve yollar› kontrol alt›na ald›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflim kurularak kad›n›n s›¤›nma evi ifllemleri bafllat›ld›.
¬ Kad›n ve bebe¤i polis koridoru içinde bir araca bindirilerek SHÇEK’e götürüldü.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bebe¤iyle birlikte s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kocas›, kar›s›n›n öldürmedi¤i için ailesi taraf›ndan afla¤›land› ve d›flland›.
Yaflad›¤› psikolojik bask› sebebiyle silahla intihar etti.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
32. Baflvuru:
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n evlenmeden önce kocas›yla uzun süreli bir arkadafll›k dönemi
yaflam›fl. Bu sürede kad›n ve kocas› ayr› ayr› illerde yafl›yormufl. Kad›n bir arkadafl›n›n do¤um günü partisine gitmifl. Partide ilaçla uyutulan kad›na tecavüz
edilmifl. Uyand›¤›nda hiçbir fley hat›rlam›yormufl ve bir süre sonra hamile
oldu¤unu fark etmifl.
Sevgilisiyle evlenmifl ve kocas› bu hamleli¤i kabullenerek ona destek olmufl.
Evliliklerinin 3. ay›nda kad›n hastaneye kald›r›lm›fl ve do¤um yapm›fl.
Kocas›n›n ailesi, bu durum üzerine bebe¤in baflka bir erkekten fark ederek
kad›n› öldürmek için harekete geçmifller. Kad›n› öldürmek üzere silahlanarak
hastaneyi sarmalar› üzerine hastane yetkilileri, kad›n›n can güvenli¤inin
sa¤lamas› için karakola baflvurmufl.
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
K›z çocu¤unu tan›yan biri taraf›ndan KAMER’e mail gönderilerek baflvuru
yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
KAMER Acil Yard›m hatt›na gönderilen elektronik posta baflvurusunda, 5055 yafllar›nda bir adam›n 10-13 yafllar›nda bir k›z çocu¤una tecavüz etti¤i ve
bunun üzerine çocu¤un bir eve kapat›ld›¤› ve can güvenli¤i olmad›¤› bildirildi. K›z çocu¤unun öldürülme tehlikesi oldu¤unu bildiren baflvurucu, duruma
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müdahale edilmesi için destek istedi.
merkezinin telefonlar› verildi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Çocukla iletiflime geçmeye çal›flt›.
¬ K›z çocu¤unun yaflad›¤› ildeki emniyet müdürlü¤üne ulafl›larak k›z çocu¤u
hakk›nda bilgi verildi. Olaydan haberdar olu¤unu söyleyen emniyet müdürü
ailenin yak›n takibe al›nd›¤›n› bildirdi.
Sonuç:
‹lçe Emniyet Müdürlü¤ü, k›z çocu¤unun can güvenli¤i için aileyi takip
etmeyi sürdürüyor.
***
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n tan›d›¤›n›n yan›na gitti.
¬ ‹letiflim kesildi.
***
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Bir üniversitenin ö¤retim eleman› taraf›ndan KAMER’e baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Bir akademisyen, KAMER’e telefonla ulaflarak, bir ö¤rencisinin evinde, can
güvenli¤i olmayan hamile bir kad›n›n s›¤›nd›¤›n› bildirdi. Kad›n›n baflka bir
ilde yaflayan yak›n›ndan destek alabilece¤ini söyledi¤ini, güvenlik içinde o ile
gitmesi konusunda destek istedi¤ini aç›klad›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›n›n bulundu¤u ildeki kad›n merkezine ulafl›larak, kad›n hakk›nda bilgi
verilerek destek istendi.
¬ Bulundu¤u ildeki kad›n merkezine baflvuru yapmas› sa¤land›.
¬ Can güvenli¤iyle ilgili gerekli tedbirler al›nd›.
¬ Gidece¤i ilde, yaflayabilece¤i bir tehlike durumunda ulaflabilece¤i bir kad›n
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n Karakol vas›tas›yla baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n iste¤i d›fl›nda kuma olarak evlendirilmifl. Evlendikten bir süre sonra
kayn› taraf›ndan taciz edilmeye bafllam›fl. Yaln›z oldu¤u bir gün kayn›n›n
tecavüzüne u¤ram›fl. Kayn› “istedi¤im zaman benimle olacaks›n. Yapt›klar›m›
kimseye söylersen seni öldürürüm” demifl. Uzun süre kayn› silah zoruyla
kad›na cinsel fliddet uygulamaya devam etmifl. Kad›n korktu¤u için
yaflad›klar›n› bir süre saklam›fl. Ama daha sonra yaflad›¤› fliddete dayanamayarak kocas›na anlatm›fl. Kocas› ona inanmam›fl. Kardefline iftira etti¤ini
söyleyerek kad›n› dövmeye bafllam›fl. Komflular› kad›n› kocas›n›n elinden kurtarm›fllar. Can güvenli¤i olmayan kad›n çocuklar›n› da alarak evden kaçm›fl ve
karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Karakol taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
KAMER’e baflvuru yapan kad›n kendisi ve çocuklar› için s›¤›nma talebinde
bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n ve çocuklar›n›n ihtiyaçlar› için nakdî destek verildi.
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¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›
mas›n› sa¤lad›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kocas› ve kocas›n›n ailesinden korktu¤u için yasal sürecin bafllat›lmas›n›
istemedi. Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Karakolla iflbirli¤i yap›larak can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›ndan refakat edildi.
***
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Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ KAMER’in deste¤iyle bulundu¤u ilde bir ifl buldu.
¬ Ev tutarak yeni bir hayata bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›n›n ailesi ve kocas›, “O d›flar›da kald›. Ölümü hak etti” diyerek onu her
yerde aramaya devam ediyorlar.
***
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
36. Baflvuru:
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, teyzesinin o¤luyla berdel usulü evlenmifl. Çocu¤u olmam›fl ve sürekli
fliddet yaflam›fl. Yaflad›¤› fliddetten kurtulmak için destek almak umuduyla
birkaç defa küsmüfl ve ailesinin yan›na gitmifl. Babas› “Hem çocu¤un olmuyor, hem de küsüp geliyorsun. Ölsen de bu evlili¤i sürdüreceksin” diyerek onu
dövüyor ve kocas›na geri yolluyormufl.
Kad›n›n kocas› bir ifl bularak baflka bir ilde çal›flmaya bafllam›fl. Birkaç ayda
bir evine gelen kocas› “Sen de kad›n m›s›n, bir çocuk bile do¤uram›yorsun”
diyerek fliddet uygulamaya devam etmifl. Kad›n “Beraber hastaneye gidip
muayene olal›m. Çocu¤umuzun olmamas›n›n sebebi senden de kaynaklan›yor olabilir” demifl. Bu sözler üzerine kocas› “Bugün bunu söyleyen, yar›n
baflka adamlardan çocuk peydahlamaya kalkar” diyerek onu döverek hastanelik etmifl. Kad›n gizlice baroya giderek boflanmak için dava açmak istemifl.
Kad›n›n baroya gitti¤ini duyan babas› durumu kocas›na söylemifl. Kocas›
boflanmak isteyen kad›n› öldüresiye dövmüfl, eve kapatm›fl.
Can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› hisseden kad›n, gece gizlice evden kaçarak
karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Karakol gece yar›s› KAMER’e ulaflarak kad›n›n baflvuru yap84 - ‹stersek biter
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‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, yaflad›¤› fliddet nedeniyle boflanarak çocuklar› ile birlikte ailesinin
yan›na yerleflmifl. Bir süre sonra yurtd›fl›nda yaflayan biriyle tan›flarak
görüflmeye bafllam›fl. Bunu duyan ailesi “Sen baflka erkeklerle gezerek,
namusumuzu lekelemek için mi kocandan bofland›n” diyerek hakk›nda ölüm
karar› vermifller. Öldürülece¤ini anlayan kad›n çocuklar›yla birlikte KAMER
Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na gelerek baflvuru yapt›. Baflvuru s›ras›nda, can güvenli¤inin
sa¤lanmas› ve çocuklar›yla birlikte, sevdi¤i erke¤in yaflad›¤› ülkeye gidebilmek
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için destek istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n can güvenli¤i sa¤land›.
¬ Yurtd›fl›na gitmesi için yap›lacak ifllemler konusunda bilgi verildi.
¬ Vize ifllemelerinin h›zlanmas› için ilgili kiflilerden destek al›nd›.
¬ Resmî prosedürler gerçekleflene kadar kad›n güvenli bir yerde misafir edildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n ve çocuklar› baflka bir ülkeye yerlefltiler. Orada sevdi¤i erkekle yeni bir
hayata bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor
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Bir
eye giderek savc›l›¤a baflvurmufl. Kad›n bir avukat taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl. Kad›n›n s›¤›nma talebinde bulunmas› üzerine, SHÇEK’le iletiflim
kuruldu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK yetkilileri, tüm çabalara ra¤men kad›n›n s›¤›nma evi baflvurusunu
reddettiler ve kad›n› evine dönmesi için d›flar› ç›kard›lar.
¬ Kad›n›n kocas›yla iletiflime geçen SHÇEK yetkilileri, kocadan sözler alarak,
tutanak karfl›l›¤›nda, can güvenli¤i olmad›¤› halde kad›n› tekrar evine gönderdi. Kad›n öldürülme korkusuyla kaçarak yeniden KAMER’e baflvurdu.
¬ Valilik, savc›l›k ve SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek “kad›n›n s›¤›nma evine al›nmamas› durumunda öldürülece¤ini ve bu durumdan resmî makamlar›n
sorumlu olaca¤›” bildirildi.
¬ Kad›n›n s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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38. Baflvuru:
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, avukat arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n küçük yaflta ailesinin bask›s›ndan kurtulmak için kuma olarak evlenmifl. Evlili¤i süresince kocas›n›n ailesiyle birlikte yaflamak zorunda kalm›fl.
Alkolik olan kocas›ndan ve kocas›n›n ailesinden sürekli fliddet yaflam›fl.
Yaflad›¤› fliddete dayanamayan kad›n, çocu¤unu da yan›na alarak bir
tan›d›¤›n›n evine gitmifl. Bu evde bir süre kalan kad›na çok öfkelenen kocas›
“d›flar›da kalan kad›n ölümü hak etmifltir” diyerek onu öldürmeye karar
vermifl.
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Bir
Batman
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, ailesinin bask›s›yla istemedi¤i biriyle evlenmek zorunda kalm›fl.
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Evlili¤i süresince sürekli fliddet yaflam›fl. Yaflad›¤› fliddete dayanamayarak
boflanmaya karar vermifl. Boflanmas›na karfl› ç›kan ailesi ve kocas› onu ölümle tehdit etmifl.
Evinden kaçarak KAMER’e baflvuru yapan kad›n, eve dönmesi durumunda
öldürülece¤ini söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ S›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildikten sonra kad›nla iletiflim kesildi.
Baro taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilen kad›n, s›¤›nma talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Suç duyurusu ve boflanma davas› takibi devam ediyor.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Baflvurunun takibi devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›n›n ailesi ve kocas› onu aramaya devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›n›n ailesi KAMER’e gelerek kad›n› sordular.
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Baro taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Tecavüzcüsüyle evlendirilen kad›n, evlili¤i boyunca kocas›ndan ve kocas›n›n
ailesinden fliddet görmüfl. Ayr›ca kayn› taraf›ndan tacize u¤rayan kad›n
ailesinin yan›na s›¤›n›yormufl. Babas›, onun evlendi¤i adama olan öfkesini ona
yans›t›yor, döverek kocas›n›n yan›na geri gönderiyormufl. Ailesi taraf›ndan
d›fllanan kad›n çaresiz kal›p tecavüzcüsü olan kocas›n›n yan›na dönüyormufl.
Yine kocas›na dönmek zorunda kald›¤› bir gün kad›n, kocas› ve kayn›
taraf›ndan çok a¤›r bir flekilde dövülmüfl. Yaflad›klar›na daha fazla dayanamayan kad›n, gizlice kaçarak baroya giderek suç duyurusunda bulunmufl ve
boflanma davas› açm›fl.
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Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n kocas›yla kaçarak evlenmifl. Kocas›ndan yo¤un fliddet yaflayan kad›na
“kaçarak evlendi¤i için” ailesi destek olmuyormufl. Kad›n, çocuklar› için yaflad›klar›na katlanmaya çal›flm›fl. Bu arada kocas›n›n baflka bir kad›nla da iliflkisi
varm›fl. Gün geçtikçe yaflad›¤› fliddetin artmas› üzerine kad›n, küçük çocu¤unu
alarak baflka bir ile kaçm›fl. Gidecek yeri olmad›¤› için birkaç gün parkta
yaflam›fl. Kocas› cep telefonuna mesajlar çekerek “Namusumuzu kirlettin, seni
buldu¤um yerde öldürece¤im” diyerek onu tehdit ediyormufl. Karakola s›¤›nan
kad›n polisler taraf›ndan KAMER’e getirildi. Can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› ve
evine dönemeyece¤ini söyleyen kad›n s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 89
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ Kad›n›n ihtiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
karar›ndan vazgeçti.
¬ Amcas›na dava aç›ld›. Dava sürerken DNA testi yap›ld› ve bebe¤in amcaya ait
oldu¤u kan›tland›. 10 y›l 8 ay hapis cezas›na çarpt›r›lan amcas›, hapisten
ç›k›nca kad›n› öldürece¤ini söyleyerek tehdit etti.
¬ Yaflad›klar›ndan dolay› psikolojik sorunlar yaflayan kad›n›n, psikiyatrik
tedavi görmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›na yaflabilece¤i herhangi bir tehlike an›nda KAMER’e ulaflmas› için telefon numaralar› verildi.
¬ Do¤um yapt› ve bebe¤i SHÇEK’e ba¤l› bir yuvaya verildi.
¬ Kad›n ailesiyle birlikte yafl›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
41. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
***
19.09.2006
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Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n savc›l›kta çal›flan bir akrabas› taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n bir gün evde yaln›zken amcas› taraf›ndan tecavüze u¤ram›fl. Tecavüz
sonucunda hamile kalm›fl. Hamilelili¤i ilerleyip karn› büyüyünce ailesi bu
durumdan flüphelenmifl. Kimden hamile kald›¤›n›n sorduklar›nda önce cevap
vermekten korkmufl, ama ailesinin fliddet uygulamas› üzerine amcas›n›n ona
tecavüz etti¤ini söylemifl. Amcas› yapt›klar›n› inkâr etmifl. Kad›n KAMER’e
baflvurdu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n talebi üzerine ailesiyle görüflmeler yap›ld›. Aile kad›nla ilgili ölüm
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42. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
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E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
19.09.2006
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‹lkokul
Bekâr
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n day›s› taraf›ndan tecavüze u¤ram›fl. Day›s› “e¤er yapt›klar›m› kimseye
söylersen seni öldürürüm” diye onu tehdit ediyormufl. Olaydan bir süre sonra
kad›n biriyle tan›flm›fl ve onunla birlikte olmufl. Bu kifliden hamile kalm›fl.
Karn› büyüyünce ailesi flüphelenmifl ve teyzesi taraf›ndan doktora götürülmüfl.
Hamile oldu¤unu ö¤renince teyzesi ve annesine day›s›n›n ona tecavüz etti¤ini
söylemifl. Bunun üzerine day›s›n› gizlice ça¤›r›p sorgulam›fllar. Day›s›
“baflkalar›ndan peydahlad›¤› çocu¤u beni suçlayarak temizlemesin” diyerek
tecavüzü inkâr etmifl. Kad›n›n ailesi onu öldürmeye karar vermifl.
Öldürülece¤ini anlayan kad›n KAMER’e gelerek s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 91
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ ‹htiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
¬ Yol masraf› için nakdî destek verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Do¤um yapt›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
44. Baflvuru:
43. Baflvuru:
20.09.2006
20
Okuryazar de¤il
Dinî nikâh - Berdel
‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’i tan›yan bir erkek taraf›ndan Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Berdel usulü evlenen kad›n›n›n kocas› s›k s›k evi terk ediyor ve çocuklar›yla
ilgilenmiyormufl. Kad›n ayn› zamanda kocas›ndan ve kaynanas›ndan dayak
yiyormufl. fiiddetten kurtulmak için çocuklar›n› da alarak baflka bir ilde olan
abisinin yan›na gitmeyi düflünüyormufl. Fakat yengesi, kocas›n›n k›z
kardefliymifl ve yengesinin kocas›na orada oldu¤unu söyleyebilece¤inden
endiflelenip vazgeçiyormufl. Yaflad›klar›na daha fazla dayanamayan kad›n
çocuklar›n› da alarak evden kaçm›fl. Gidecek bir yeri olmad›¤› için sokakta
kalm›fl. Onun çaresizce sokaklarda gezdi¤ini fark eden bir erkek kad›n›
KAMER’e yönlendirmifl.
Kad›n baflvurusunda can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi
talebinde bulundu.
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Sonuç:
¬ S›¤›nma evine yerlefltikten sonra kad›nla iletiflim kesildi.
***
***
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n ve çocuklar›n›n ihtiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
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21.09.2006
13 ve 20 yafllar›nda
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Bir gazeteci taraf›ndan KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Gazetecinin verdi¤i bilgi üzerine kad›nlar›n bir yak›n›na ulafl›larak olayla
ilgili bilgi al›nd›. Al›nan bilgi flöyleydi:
“Evlendirilen kad›n›n bakire ç›kmamas› üzerine ailesine geri gönderilir.
Kad›n kendisine tecavüz edildi¤ini ve tecavüz eden adam›n kim oldu¤unu
kay›npederine söylemifl. Kay›npederi öç almak için, gelinine tecavüz eden
adam›n küçük yafltaki k›z kardeflini da¤a kaç›rarak tecavüz etmifl ve bir hafta
sonra köye b›rakm›fl.
Bu olaylar karfl›s›nda kan dökülmemesi için kad›nlar› tecavüzcüleriyle
evlendirmeye karar vermifller. Öç almak üzere da¤a kaç›r›larak tecavüz edilen
k›z›n babas› bu anlaflmaya karfl› ç›km›fl ve dava açm›fl.”
Gazeteciler olayla ilgili haber yapmak istiyorlard›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Gazetecilerin vakay› haber yapmak istemeleri üzerine, KAMER bu durumun
kad›nlar›n can güvenli¤ini tehlikeye ataca¤›n› söyleyerek gazetecileri uyard›.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 93
¬ Kad›nlar›n can güvenli¤inin tehlikede olabilece¤i konusunda Jandarma ‹l
Komutanl›¤›’na dilekçe verilerek destek istendi.
Sonuç:
¬ Gazeteciler vakay› haber olarak yay›nlad›lar.
¬ Kad›nlar›n can güvenli¤iyle ilgili bir sorun yaflabilece¤i ihtimaliyle jandarma taraf›ndan aileler takip ediliyor.
¬ ‹ki ailede karfl›l›kl› olarak dava açt›lar. Dava devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›nlarla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Karakola gidilerek baflvurusu al›nd›.
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n çocuklar›yla birlikte s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
45. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
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Evli
‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, karakol vas›tas›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kocas›yla kaçarak evlenen kad›n, ailesi taraf›ndan evlatl›ktan reddedilmifl.
Zamanla baflka bir kad›nla iliflki kuran kocas›ndan yo¤un fliddet yaflamaya
bafllam›fl. Kocas› “Ben size bakam›yorum. ‹stersen gecede bir maafl kazanabilirsin” diyerek kad›n› para karfl›l›¤›nda baflkalar› ile birlikte olmaya zorlam›fl.
Onu bir gece zorla soka¤a atarak “Para kazan›p gelmezsen seni öldürürüm”
demifl. Bunun üzerine iki çocu¤unu alarak geceyi bir tan›¤›nda geçirmifl. Ertesi
gün ifl bulma umuduyla çocuklar›n› da alarak baflka bir ile gitmifl.
Çocuklar›ndan dolay› kimse onu ifle almak istememifl. Çaresiz kad›n karakola
s›¤›nmak zorunda kalm›fl. Gitti¤i karakolda KAMER’i tan›yan bir polis Acil
Yard›m Hatt›’n› telefonla arayarak, bulunduklar› ilde kad›na destek olabilecek
bir kad›n merkezinin bulunmad›¤›n›, kad›n›n ve çocuklar›n›n destek almas›
için KAMER’in bulundu¤u ile gönderilece¤ini bildirdi.
Polislerin deste¤iyle KAMER’e ulaflan kad›n baflvurusunda s›¤›nma evi
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46. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
4.10.2006
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Evli
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n bir otel çal›flan› taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Ailesi taraf›ndan istemedi¤i biriyle zorla evlendirilen kad›n bir süre sonra
boflanm›fl. Bunun üzerine ailesi onu kendisinden 30 yafl büyük biriyle yine zorlayarak evlendirmifl. Evlendi¤i ikinci eflini babas› gibi gören kad›n bu evlili¤e
daha fazla dayanamayarak baflka bir flehre kaçm›fl. Gitti¤i ilde destek ararken
bir kurumun kad›n çal›flmas› yapan birimine yönlendirilmifl. Gerekli destekleri
alamayan kad›n, bir otele b›rak›lm›fl.
Otel çal›flanlar› KAMER’den kad›n için destek istedi. Baflvurusu al›nan
kad›n, eve dönerse ailesi veya kocas› taraf›ndan öldürülece¤ini söyleyerek
s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 95
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evi baflvurusu s›ras›nda refakat edildi.
¬ Yol masraf› için nakdî destek verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim kurulamad›.
***
48. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durum:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
9.10.2006
29
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Boflanm›fl
Dört
***
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yapt›.
47. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
6.10.2006
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Yurtd›fl›ndan bir sosyal hizmet uzman› KAMER’e telefonla baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Sosyal Hizmetler Uzman›ndan al›nan bilgi flöyleydi:
Kad›n babas› taraf›ndan zorla evlendirilmek isteniyormufl. Bunun üzerine
kad›n kaçarak bir Avrupa ülkesine gitmifl. Bu ülkede oturma izni olmad›¤› için
s›n›r d›fl› edilmek istenmifl. Kad›n, yetkililere e¤er Türkiye’ye dönerse babas› ya
da babas›n›n onu evlendirmek istedi¤i kifli taraf›ndan öldürülece¤ini söylemifl.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Baflvurusunun al›nmas› için, kad›n›n kendisiyle görüflülmek istendi. Kad›n
görüflmek istemedi¤ini bildirdi.
¬ Avukat›yla yap›lan görüflmede; kad›n›n s›n›r d›fl› edilmesi durumunda KAMER’e ulaflabilece¤i bildirildi. Ayr›ca, Ankara ve ‹stanbul’da destek alabilece¤i di¤er kad›n merkezlerinin telefonlar› iletildi.
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Neden “yarg›land›”?
Baflka bir kad›nla birlikte yaflayan kocas›ndan sürekli fliddet yafl›yormufl. Ayn›
zamanda çevresinde tan›nm›fl bir aileye mensup olan kocas›, kad›n› ölümle
tehdit ederek boflanmaya zorlam›fl. Korktu¤u için gerekli belgelere imza atan
kad›na nafaka ba¤lanm›fl. Boflanma davas› sonuçland›¤› halde “Sen bu evde
nikâhs›z oturacaks›n, bir hizmetçi gibi bu evde yaflayacaks›n. Kimse
bofland›¤›m›z› bilmeyecek. Ben bu ilçede tan›nm›fl bir kifliyim, e¤er flerefimle
oynarsan seni ve çocuklar› öldürürüm” diyerek kad›n› tehdit etmifl.
Bunun üzerine gizlice KAMER’i arayan kad›n, evinden ç›kamad›¤›n› söyleyerek baflka bir ilde yaflayan ailesinin yan›na gitmek için destek istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›nla telefonla görüflmeler sürdürülerek yapabilecekleri konusunda destek
verildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n durumunu gizlice ailesine bildirdi.
¬ Çocuklar›n› alarak polise baflvuran kad›n kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda
bulundu.
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¬ Kad›n›n can güvenli¤iyle ilgili tedbirler al›narak ailesinin yan›na gitmesi
sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n çocuklar›yla birlikte ailesinin yan›nda yafl›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
49. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
12.10.2006
Yafl›:
33
E¤itim durumu: Okur Yazar De¤il
Medeni durumu: Resmî Nikâhl›
Çocuk say›s›:
‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n evlili¤i süresince kocas›ndan fliddet yaflam›fl. Uyuflturucu kullanan ve
h›rs›zl›k yapan kocas›, o¤lunu da h›rs›zl›k yapmas› için zorluyormufl. H›rs›zl›k
yapmak istemedi¤i için o¤lunu dövüyormufl. Kad›n ve o¤lu kayn› taraf›ndan
cinsel tacize u¤ruyormufl. Durumu anlatmas›na ra¤men kocas› “Benim
kardeflim böyle bir fley yapmaz” diyerek onu ve o¤lunu dövüyormufl. Kayn›n›n
onlara geldi¤i bir gün, o¤lunu tekrar taciz etmesi üzerine o¤lu a¤layarak
amcas›n›n yapt›klar›n› anlatm›fl. Bunun üzerine babas›ndan ve amcas›ndan
dayak yiyen o¤lu bir yolunu bularak evden kaçm›fl. Gizlice di¤er çocu¤unu
yan›na alan kad›n o¤lunu bulmak ve destek almak için KAMER’e baflvurdu. Bu
süre içinde kocas› taraf›ndan aranarak ölümle tehdit ediliyordu. Baflka bir ilde
bulunan kardeflinin yan›na gitmek istiyordu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n bir süre güvenli bir yerde misafir edildi.
¬ Bu sürede kaçan o¤lu bulundu ve yasal süreç bafllat›ld›.
¬ Kocas› ve kayn› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
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¬ Boflanma davas› aç›ld›.
¬ Can güvenli¤inin tehlikede olmas› nedeniyle kad›na refakat edildi.
¬ Nakdî destek verilerek kardeflinin yan›na gidebilmeleri sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n flu an kardeflinin yan›nda yafl›yor.
¬ Kendisi ve o¤lu ifl bularak çal›flmaya bafllad›lar. K›z› okula bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
50. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
12.10.2006
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Resmî Nikâhl›
Alt›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
‹smini vermek istemeyen bir erkek KAMER’i arayarak kad›n için destek istedi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
KAMER’i arayan bir erkek, hamile bir kad›n›n ç›kan bir dedikodu sebebiyle
kay›nlar› taraf›ndan dayak yedi¤ini, karn›ndaki bebe¤in öldürüldü¤ünü
anlatt›. Kad›n›n hastanede oldu¤unu ve can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek kad›n için destek istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Kad›na destek olmak amac›yla kad›n›n bulundu¤u hastaneye gidildi.
¬ Kad›n›n doktoruyla görüflülerek kad›n›n sa¤l›¤› hakk›nda bilgi al›nd›.
¬ Kad›n, kocas›n›n bir akrabas› taraf›ndan refakati ve s›k› takibi alt›ndayd›.
Çeflitli yöntemler deneyerek refakatçiyi uzaklaflt›ran dan›flmanlar kad›nla
k›sa bir süre görüflebilmeyi baflard›lar.
¬ Kad›na Acil Yard›m Hatt›’n›n telefonlar› verilerek istedi¤i an destek alabilece¤i anlat›ld›.
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Sonuç:
¬ Endifleli ve korkmufl görünen kad›n kart› alarak saklad›. fiu an için iyi
oldu¤unu ve ihtiyaç duydu¤unda KAMER’e ulaflaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ Henüz baflvuruda bulunmad›.
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Baflvuru tarihi:
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52. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
18.10.2006
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Okuryazar de¤il
Dinî nikâhl›
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
13.10.2006
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Dinî Nikâhl›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
KAMER’i arayan bir erkek taraf›ndan bilgi verildi.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n kocas› taraf›ndan zorla kaç›r›lm›fl. Kad›na tecavüz ederek adam onu
üçüncü kar›s› olarak alm›fl. Evlili¤i süresince fliddet yaflayan kad›n birçok defa
intihar etmeye kalk›flm›fl. Kad›n›n ablas› bir genelevde çal›fl›yormufl. Kocas›
kad›na “Ablan genelevde para kazan›yor, sen de git para kazan” diyerek bask›
yap›yormufl. Geneleve sat›lmaktan korkan kad›n KAMER’e gelerek baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
KAMER’i arayan kifli, köyde yaflayan evli bir kad›n›n boflanmak istedi¤i için
ölümle tehdit edildi¤ini bildirdi. Numaras›n› vererek kad›n›n KAMER’den telefon bekledi¤ini söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Verilen telefon numaras› aranarak kad›na ulafl›ld›. Kad›n, amcas›n›n o¤luyla evli oldu¤unu ve sürekli olarak a¤›r fliddet yaflad›¤›n› söyledi. Yaflad›¤›
fliddetten dolay› boflanmak istemesi üzerine, kocas›n›n onu ölümle tehdit
etti¤ini anlatt›.
¬ Kad›na yasal haklar›, süreci nas›l takip edebilece¤i ve can güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas› için alabilece¤i destekler anlat›ld›.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kalan kad›n daha sonra abisiyle iletiflime geçti.
Abisinin deste¤ini alarak onunla yaflamaya bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
53. Baflvuru:
Sonuç:
¬ Biraz daha düflünmek istedi¤ini söyleyen kad›n, gerekirse daha sonra arayaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ Kad›n henüz baflvuruda bulunmad›.
Baflvuru tarihi:
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E¤itim durumu:
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‹mam nikâhl›-Kuma
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2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 101
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n ailesinin istemedi¤i evli biriyle kaçarak evlenmifl. Bir süre sonra kocas›ndan fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Onun evden gitmesini isteyen kumas› sürekli
kavga ç›karm›fl. Kad›n kaçarak evlendi¤i için de ailesinden ölüm tehditleri al›yormufl. Bir gün uyurken, kumas›n›n erkek kardefli evine gelerek gizlice kad›n›n
yata¤›na girmifl. Uykuda oldu¤u için bunu fark etmemifl. Kocas› bu durumu görünce “Ben evde olmad›¤›n zamanlarda sen gizlice erkeklerle oynafl›yorsun” diyerek kad›n› öldüresiye dövmüfl. Komflular›n›n deste¤iyle kocas›n›n elinden kurtulmufl.
KAMER’e baflvuran kad›n can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek s›¤›nma
evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Bu sürede kocas›yla görüfltü ve kocas›na döndü.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n sevdi¤i kifliyle evlenmek üzere kaçm›fl. Kaçt›¤› kifliyle ayn› gün birlikte olmufl. Sevgilisi “annem seni gelin olarak istemiyor” diyerek kad›n› ailesine
geri göndermifl. Kad›n›n evine dönmesi üzerine babas› ve amcas› ona yo¤un
fliddet uygulam›fllar. Eline silah vererek kad›n› intihara zorlam›fllar. Kad›n kendini öldürmeyince onu ah›ra kapatm›fllar. Kad›n›n abisi birlikte kaçt›¤› erke¤i
öldürmüfl ve cezaevine girmifl. Bu arada annesi kad›na destek olamaya
çal›fl›yormufl ve bu yüzden de fliddete maruz kal›yormufl.
Kad›n›n babas› sürekli onunla yaln›z kalmaya çal›fl›yormufl. Yaln›z
kald›¤›nda da kad›na tecavüz etmifl. Kad›n bir f›rsat›n› bularak kaçm›fl ve köye
yak›n bir karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Kad›n jandarma taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi. Can güvenli¤i olmayan kad›n s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Annesiyle gizlice görüflüyor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
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54.Baflvuru:
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Ortaokul
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, polisler arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
22.10.2006
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Lise
Boflanm›fl
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
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Kad›n kocas›ndan sürekli fliddet görüyormufl. Bir baflkas›yla evlenmek isteyen
kocas›, “Bu çocuklar benim de¤il, ben sana güvenmiyorum, baflka erkeklerle
iliflkin var” diyerek kad›na b›çak çekerek ölümle tehdit ediyormufl. Bir gün yine
ayn› sebeplerle kad›n› döverek b›çak çekmifl ve onu öldürmeye kalk›flm›fl.
Bunun üzerine kad›n, çocuklar›n› alarak evden kaçm›fl ve bir tan›d›¤›n›n evine
s›¤›nm›fl. Onu arayan kocas› çevresine, “Kar›m beni aldat›yor, dün geceden beri
yok” diyerek onu suçlamaya bafllam›fl. Kad›n tan›d›klar›n›n deste¤iyle
KAMER’e ulaflarak baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ 4320 say›l› kanundan yararlanmas› için yasal süreç bafllat›ld›.
¬ Boflanma davas› aç›ld›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflim kurularak s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Kad›n evlenerek gitti¤i ilde kocas›n›n ailesiyle yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Kocas›
uzak bir ilde çal›fl›yor ve birkaç ayda bir evine geliyormufl. Kocas›n›n yan›na
gitmek istedi¤inde, kocas›n›n kardefllerinden ve kaynanas›ndan dayak yiyormufl. Bunu kocas›na söyledi¤inde, kocas› “Ne yapabilirim. Onlar benim ailem”
diyormufl.
K›sa bir süre önce kocas› eve gelmifl. Kad›n kocas›n›n oldu¤u odaya gitmek
isteyince, görümceleri ve kaynanas› buna izin vermemifller ve kavga etmeye
bafllam›fllar. Kocas› odas›ndan ç›karak “Art›k bu duruma dayanam›yorum, bu
evde bize rahat yok” diyerek ba¤›rm›fl ve kad›n› soka¤a atm›fl. Bunun üzerine
kad›n, karakola gitmifl ve polislerin verdi¤i destekle memleketine,
akrabalar›n›n yan›na dönmüfl. Akrabalar› “Bu aile kavgas›d›r. Biz
kar›flamay›z” diyerek kad›n› eve almam›fllar. Sokakta kalan kad›n, KAMER’li
gönüllüler taraf›ndan Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na yönlendirildi.
Baflvuru yapan kad›n, kocas›ndan boflanmak istedi¤ini söyledi ve s›¤›nma evi
talebinde bulundu.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ 4320 say›l› kanundan faydalanarak kocas›n› evden uzaklaflt›rd›
ve evine döndü.
¬ Boflanma davas› sonuçland›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Boflanma davas› aç›ld›
¬ Nafaka davas› aç›ld›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
***
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29.10.2006
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‹lkokul
Resmî Nikâhl›
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’i tan›yan kifliler taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
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Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ ‹letiflim devam ediyor.
57. Baflvuru:
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31.10.2006
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Okuryazar
Resmî Nikâhl›
Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n bir akrabas›n›n deste¤iyle KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 105
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kocas›ndan sürekli fliddet yaflayan kad›n boflanmak için birkaç defa ailesinin
yan›na giderek destek istemifl. Boflanmamas› için araya giren yak›nlar› yüzünden tekrar kocas›n›n yan›na dönmek zorunda kalm›fl. Alkol ve esrar kullanan
kocas› kad›n› dövüyor, iftiralar ediyormufl. Adam yaralamaktan birkaç defa
cezaevine giren kocas›, kar›s›n› da iki defa b›çaklam›fl. Alkol ve uyuflturucunun
etkisiyle borçlar› karfl›l›¤›nda kad›n›, borçland›¤› erkeklerle birlikte olmaya
zorluyormufl. Kendisine geldi¤inde kad›n›n yapt›klar›n› söylemesi üzerine
“Yalan söylüyorsun, ben evde olmad›¤›m zaman eve erkek al›yorsun, bu çocuklarda benden de¤il” diyerek kad›n› dövüyormufl. Son olayda kad›n› döverek
yaralam›fl. Komflular› kad›n› kocas›n›n elinden kurtararak hastaneye götürmüfl. Hastaneden ç›kt›ktan sonra kocas›n›n onu öldürmesinden korktu¤u için
karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Polislerin deste¤iyle baflka bir ilde yaflayan ailesinin yan›na
gitmifl. Kocas› onu ve ona destek olan ailesini ölümle tehdit etmeye bafllam›fl.
Tehditlerin sürmesi üzerine ailesinin risk almas›n› istemeyen kad›n KAMER’e
baflvurdu.
Baflvurusunda boflanmak için destek ve s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Boflanma davas› aç›ld›.
¬ Kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ ‹htiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
¬ S›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi için SHÇEK’e yönlendirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kald›.
¬ Bu süre içinde ailesinin uzaktan deste¤ini ald›.
¬ Eski kocas›yla ilgili tehlike azald›¤›na kanaat getirerek, ailesinin yan›na
döndü.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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Okur Yazar
Dul
Befl
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, k›z› taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Y›llar önce kocas›n› kaybeden kad›n çocuklar›n› tek bafl›na büyütmüfl.
Çocuklar›n›n büyüyüp hayatlar›n› kurmaya bafllamalar› üzerine evlenmeye
karar vermifl. ‹nternetten tan›flt›¤› biri ile görüflmeye bafllam›fl. Kendisini
varl›kl› ve iyi bir ifle sahip biri gibi tan›tan kifliden çok etkilenen kad›n onunla
evlenmeye karar vermifl. Bunun üzerine görüfltü¤ü kifli ondan “Hiç yüz yüze
görüflmedik. Seni görmedim” diyerek kad›ndan ç›plak foto¤raflar›n› istemifl.
Ayr›ca evlilik ifllemlerini bafllatmak için vesikal›k foto¤raf göndermesini
istemesi üzerine kad›n, vesikal›klarla birlikte yüzünü saklayarak çektirdi¤i bir
ç›plak foto¤raf› adama postalam›fl.
Bir süre sonra adam, kad›n› arayarak “Ben flimdi amirimle birlikteyim.
Bulundu¤umuz flehre gel seni o da görsün. E¤er bu kad›nla evlenebilirsin
derse, seninle hemen evleniriz” demifl. Bunun üzerine kad›n adamdan flüphelenmifl, foto¤raflar›n›n internete yüklendi¤ini ve adam›n kad›n ticareti
yapt›¤›n› fark etmifl ve o flehre gitmemifl. Adam, kad›n› arayarak “E¤er
gelmezsen seni internette dünya âleme rezil eder ailenin seni öldürmesini
sa¤lar›m” diyerek tehdit etmifl.
Ne yapaca¤›n› flafl›ran ve çok korkan kad›n yaflad›klar›n› k›z›yla paylaflm›fl.
K›z› taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl.
Baflvuru yapan kad›n, ailesinin durumu ö¤renmesi durumunda
öldürülebilece¤ini söyleyerek destek istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Foto¤raflarda yüzünün görünmüyor olmas›ndan dolay› kad›n›n tan›namay2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 107
aca¤›na kanaat getirilerek, tehdit eden kiflinin kad›na ulaflabilece¤i tüm ihtimaller düflünüldü ve önlem al›nd›.
¬ Onu tehdit eden kiflinin ulaflabilece¤i adres ve telefon numaralar› de¤ifltirildi.
¬ Baronun kad›n komisyonuna yönlendirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n› tehdit eden kifli, kad›n›n adresinin ve telefon numaralar›n›n de¤iflmesi sebebiyle ona bir daha ulaflamad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
59. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
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4.11.2006
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Okur Yazar
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n›n yengesi taraf›ndan KAMER’e baflvuru yap›ld›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Annesi, bir iftira yüzünden babas› taraf›ndan öldürülmüfl. Çok küçük
yafltayken bu cinayeti gözleriyle görmüfl. Babas› daha sonra baflka bir kad›nla
evlenmifl. O ve k›z kardefli üvey anneleriyle anlaflam›yorlarm›fl. Babas› da onu
evden uzaklaflt›rmak için uzak bir akrabas›yla niflanlam›fl. Niflanl›s› askerdeymifl. Bir süre sonra k›z›n niflan› bozmak istemesi üzerine, babas›, niflanl›s›n›n
ailesine “Gelininizi flimdiden evinize götürün. O¤lunuz askerden dönünce
evlendirirsiniz” demifl.
Niflanl›s›n›n ailesi ile yaflamak zorunda kalan k›z›n durumundan endiflelenen bir akrabas› KAMER’i telefonla arad›. K›z çocu¤unun konuflmak istedi¤ini
söyleyerek bir telefon numaras› verdi. Verilen telefon numaras› aranarak k›z
çocu¤uyla görüflüldü. Babas›n›n onu eve götürmek üzere almaya geldi¤ini,
niflanl›s›n›n iki ay sonra gelece¤ini ve bu sürede babas›n› onu evlendirmekten
vazgeçirmeye çal›flaca¤›n› söyledi.
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Baflvurudan sonraki dönemde;
K›z çocu¤u daha uzaktan bir akrabas›yla görüflmeye bafllam›fl.
Evlendirilece¤ini söyleyerek onu kaç›rmas›n› istemifl. Yaflad›¤› ile gelen
sevgilisiyle kaçm›fl. Ailesinin polise haber vermesi üzerine, flehirleraras› yolda
polisler taraf›ndan yakalanm›fllar. Polislerin k›z›n bulundu¤unu ailesine haber
vermeleri üzerine, kad›n ertesi sabah KAMER’i telefonla arayarak destek istedi.
K›z›n babas›n›n karakolun bulundu¤u ile gitmek üzere yola ç›kt›¤›n›,
ulaflt›¤›nda hem k›z›n› hem de kaçt›¤› kifliyi öldürece¤ini söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ K›z›n ve kaçt›¤› kiflinin bulundu¤u karakol ve ilçenin savc›s› aranarak, aileye
verilmesi durumunda k›z›n öldürülebilece¤ini, daha önce annesinin de, kocas›
taraf›ndan namus ad›na ifllenen bir cinayete kurban gitti¤ini bildirildi.
¬ Koordinasyon sürdürülerek, ilçenin belediye baflkan›na ulafl›ld›. Belediye
baflkan›yla yap›labilecekler konufluldu.
¬ Bu sürede k›z bir süre Çocuk fiubesi’nde misafir edilerek ailesine verilmedi.
¬ Savc›l›ktan izin alarak k›z çocu¤u ile görüflüldü. Görüflmede, kaçt›¤› kifliyle
evlenerek baflka bir ile yerleflmek istedi¤ini söyledi. Yafl›n›n küçük olmas›
sebebiyle, yasal olarak ancak babas›n›n izniyle evlenebilecekti.
¬ K›z çocu¤unun babas› aranarak görüflmeler bafllat›ld›. Önceleri k›z›n› öldürmek konusunda kararl› görünen baba, görüflmeler s›ras›nda karar›n›
de¤ifltirmeye bafllad›.
¬ Ailenin ba¤l› oldu¤u afliret k›z hakk›nda ölüm karar› vermiflti. Bunun üzerine; emniyet amiri, savc›, belediye baflkan› ve KAMER’den bir ekip oluflturularak, k›z›n ve birlikte kaçt›¤› erke¤in mensup oldu¤u iki afliretle ayr› ayr›
toplant› yap›ld›. Tüm gün süren görüflmeler sonunda, afliretler ölüm karar›n›
geri alarak k›z›n ve kaçt›¤› kiflinin evlili¤ini onaylad›lar.
¬ Evlili¤in gerçekleflmesi için baban›n yaz›l› izin vermesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Gerekli yasal ifllemler tamamland›ktan sonra k›z ve sevdi¤i erkek evlendi.
Baflka bir ile yerleflti.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 109
60.Baflvuru:
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Okur Yazar de¤il
‹ki defa dinî nikâh ile evlenmifl
Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, hastanedeki hemflireler arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n küçük yaflta ailesi taraf›ndan zorla evlendirilmifl. ‹kinci kez hamile
kald›¤›nda, kendi r›zas› olmadan, çok kötü flartlar alt›nda kürtaj olmak zorunda kalm›fl. Bunun üzerine kocas›n› terk ederek ailesinin yan›na gitmifl.
Boflanan kad›n bir süre sonra kendi iste¤iyle sevdi¤i bir kifliyle evlenmifl. Bu
evlilik, kaynanas›n›n iste¤i d›fl›nda gerçekleflmifl. Kocas› ve kaynanas›ndan
fliddet yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Bu arada iki k›z› olmufl. Yaflad›¤› fliddetin artmas› ve
iftiralara u¤ramas› üzerine, çocuklar›n› b›rakarak babas›n›n evine geri
dönmüfl. Ailesi onu kabul etmeyince çaresiz kalm›fl ve bir arkadafl›n›n
deste¤iyle ifl bulmak için baflka bir ile gitmifl. Gitti¤i ilde ifl ararken pavyonda
çal›flan bir kad›nla tan›flm›fl. ‹fl bulamayan kad›n mecburen arkadafl›n›n
çal›flt›¤› pavyonda ifle bafllam›fl. Bu arada biriyle tan›flm›fl ve onunla birlikte
yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Bir süre sonra hamile kalm›fl. Birlikte oldu¤u kifli aniden
ortadan kaybolarak onu terk etmifl. Ortada kalan kad›n baflka bir flehre giderek
kalacak bir yer aram›fl. Bir otel sahibi, kad›n›n onunla birlikte olmas›
karfl›l›¤›nda otelinde kalabilece¤ini söylemifl. Hamile kad›n baflka gidecek yeri
olmad›¤› için otel sahibinin teklifini kabul etmifl. Bir süre sonra otel sahibi onu
baflka erkeklerle de birlikte olmaya zorlam›fl. Kad›n boyun e¤mek zorunda
kalm›fl. Yaflad›klar›na dayanamayan kad›n bir gece fenalaflm›fl ve hastaneye
kald›r›lm›fl. Yaflad›klar›n› hastanede çal›flan hemflirelere anlatm›fl. Kad›n,
hemflireler taraf›ndan KAMER’e getirildi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
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¬ S›¤›nma evinde bir süre kalan kad›n kendisine çok kötü muamele yap›ld›¤›n›
söyleyerek KAMER’e ikinci kez baflvuru yapt› ve baflka bir ilde bulunan
teyzesinin yan›na gitmek istedi¤ini söyledi.
¬ Kad›n›n iste¤i do¤rultusunda, baflka bir flehirde yaflayan teyzesiyle iletiflim
kurabilmesi sa¤land›. Teyzesi ona destek olaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ Yol masraflar› ve ihtiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Teyzesinin yan›nda yafl›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
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Dul
‹ki
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n karakol arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kocas›n› kaybeden kad›n kay›nvalidesi ile birlikte yaflamaya bafllam›fl. Bu
sürede kayn› taraf›ndan sürekli taciz edilmifl. Kayn›, isteklerini reddetti¤i için
kad›na fliddet uyguluyormufl. Bu tacizlerden birine kaynanas› da flahit olmufl.
Bunun üzerine kaynanas› onu kayn›yla evlenmek için zorlamaya bafllam›fl.
Yaflad›klar›na dayanamayan kad›n, bir gece çocuklar›n› da alarak gizlice evden
kaçm›fl. Gidecek bir yeri olmayan kad›n karakola s›¤›nm›fl. Kad›n karakoldaki
polisler taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirildi.
Baflvuru yaparak kendisi ve çocuklar› için s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
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¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
63.Baflvuru:
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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Evli, ayr› yafl›yor
Befl
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n avukat arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
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Dinî nikâhl›
Bir
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n kocas› taraf›ndan kaç›r›lm›fl. Kad›na tecavüz etmifl. Evlenince, adam›n
üçüncü kar›s› olmufl. Evlili¤i süresince fliddet yaflayan kad›n birçok defa intihar
etmeye kalk›flm›fl. Kad›n›n ablas› bir genelevde çal›fl›yormufl. Kocas› kad›na
“Ablan genelevde para kazan›yor, sen de git para kazan” diyerek bask›
yap›yormufl. Geneleve sat›lmaktan korkan kad›n KAMER’e gelerek baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
-Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
-Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›
-SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Bir süre s›¤›nma evinde kalan kad›n daha sonra abisiyle iletiflime geçti. Abisinin deste¤ini alarak onunla yaflamaya bafllad›.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
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Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n kocas›ndan yo¤un olarak fliddet yafl›yormufl. Ayn› zamanda kocas›
taraf›ndan aldat›ld›¤›n› düflünen kad›n yaflad›¤› fliddetten kurtulmak için
boflanmaya karar vermifl. Baroya giderek boflanmak için hukuksal destek istemifl. Bunu duyan kocas› kad›n› öldürmeye karar vermifl. Evinden kaçan kad›n
baronun arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvurdu.
Kocas›n›n her yerde onu arad›¤›n› söyleyen kad›n s›¤›nma evi talebinde
bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Valilik ve SHÇEK arac›l›¤›yla s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim sürdürülüyor.
***
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Resmî Nikâhl›
Bir
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KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n Karakol vas›tas›yla KA-MER’in Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n, alkol ve madde ba¤›ml›s› kocas›ndan a¤›r fliddet görüyormufl.
Uyuflturucu ve alkol ald›ktan sonra kad›n› döverek hastanelik eden kocas›
kendine geldi¤inde “Kendimde de¤ildim. O sebeple dövdüm” diyerek bahaneler
üretiyormufl. Yine alkol ald›¤› bir gün kad›n› öldüresiye döverek balkondan afla¤›
atm›fl. Beli incinen ve kaburga kemikleri k›r›lan kad›n hastaneye kald›r›lm›fl. Bir
süre hastanede yatan kad›n taburcu edildi¤inde, “E¤er eve dönersem bu sefer
beni öldürebilir” diyerek çocu¤uyla birlikte karakola baflvurmufl. Karakol
taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilen kad›n, s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kocas› hakk›nda suç duyurusunda bulunuldu.
¬ Kad›n çocu¤u ile birlikte s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
sevgilisi onu da bebe¤i de istemedi¤ini söylemifl. “Bafl›n›n çaresine bak” diyerek
kad›n› terk etmifl. Çaresiz kalan kad›n durumu ablas›na anlatm›fl. Ablas› “E¤er
ailemiz yapt›¤›n› duyarsa seni öldürür. Çabuk s›¤›nacak bir yer bul ve buray›
terk et” demifl. Kad›n evini terk etmifl. Daha önce varl›¤›ndan bas›ndan haberdar oldu¤u KAMER’e gelerek baflvuru yapt›.
Baflvurusunda, evine dönerse öldürülebilece¤ini söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi
talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerlefltirildi.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n ve çocu¤u s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ ‹letiflim devam ediyor.
***
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Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Bas›ndan KAMER’i duyan kad›n flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n sevgilisinden hamile kalm›fl. Hamile oldu¤unu söylemesine ra¤men
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Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, jandarma karakolu arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n ve uzak bir akrabas› evlenmek istemifller. Kendisinin ve evlenmek istedi¤i kiflinin ailesi buna karfl› ç›km›fl. Sevdi¤i erkek ailesinin zorlamas›yla baflka
biriyle evlendirilmifl. Buna ra¤men birbirlerinden ayr›lamam›fllar ve gizlice
görüflmeye devam etmifller. Bir gün gece yar›s›, köyde terk edilmifl bofl bir evde
buluflarak birlikte olmufllar. O s›rada annesi ve üvey annesi kad›n›n yoklu¤unu
fark ederek aramaya bafllam›fllar ve onlar› bulufltuklar› yerde bulmufllar.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 115
Sevdi¤i erkek kaçm›fl. Onu da döverek eve getirmifller. Ailesinin olanlar› duymas› üzerine abisi kad›na “Sen bizi rezil ettin. ‹kiniz de öleceksiniz” deyince
öldürülmekten korkan kad›n gece yar›s› evden kaçm›fl. Kar ve so¤u¤a ra¤men
kilometrelerce yol yürüyerek sabaha karfl› flehirleraras› yola varm›fl. Bir kamyon floförü durarak onu arabas›na alm›fl. Kad›n öldürülece¤ini anlat›nca onu
karakola götürmüfl. Jandarma taraf›ndan baflvuru yapmas› için kad›n
KAMER’e getirildi.
KA-MER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n talebi do¤rultusunda s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi için jandarma ve Acil
Yard›m Hatt› dan›flman›n›n refakatinde SHÇEK’e yönlendirildi. S›¤›nma
evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
¬ ‹htiyaçlar› karfl›land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
telefonla arayarak yurtd›fl›nda kalabilmesi için ondan boflanarak o ülkedeki bir
kad›nla evlenmek zorunda oldu¤unu söylemifl. Di¤er kad›nla yapaca¤› evlili¤in
k⤛t üzerinde kalaca¤›n› ve sahte bir evlilik olaca¤›n› söyleyerek kad›n› ikna
etmifl. Boflanma davas› bittikten bir süre sonra kad›n›n baflka erkeklerle iliflkisi
oldu¤una dair dedikodular ç›kmaya bafllam›fl. Baflka bir flehirde yaflayan
kocas›n›n ailesi kad›n›n çocuklar›n› zorla elinden alm›fllar. Kad›n çocuklar›n›
görmek için gitti¤inde kay›nlar› taraf›ndan ölümle tehdit edilmifl. Birkaç defa
fliddete u¤rayarak yaralanm›fl. Kocas›n›n, tüm mal varl›¤›n› kendi üstüne
yapm›fl olas›ndan dolay› kad›n ifl aramaya bafllam›fl. Geçici ifllerde çal›flm›fl.
Daha sonra kocas›, erkek kardefllerini arayarak “Kar›m beni aldatt›. Onu
öldürün” demifl. Bunun üzerine kad›n KAMER’e gelerek baflvuru yapt›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n babas›na ulafl›ld› ve babas› ona destek olaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ Çocuklar›n›n velayetini almak için dava açt›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n babas›n›n yan›nda yafl›yor.
¬ Maddî olanaklar› olmad›¤› için mahkeme, çocuklar›n›n velayetini ona vermedi.
¬ Belli aral›klarla çocuklar›n› görebiliyor.
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Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›”?
Kad›n SHÇEK’e ba¤l› yetifltirme yurdunda büyümüfl. Bu sebeple annesini hiç
görmemifl ve babas›n› çok az görmüfl. Yetifltirme yurdundan ç›kt›ktan sonra
evlenmifl. Kad›n›n kocas› çal›flmak için yurtd›fl›na gitmifl. Bir süre sonra kad›n›
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Dinî nikâhl›
Üç
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n sivil toplum örgütlerinin arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
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Kad›n, babas› taraf›ndan bafll›k paras› karfl›l›¤›nda kuma olarak zorla
evlendirilmifl. Bu evlili¤inden üç çocu¤u olmufl. Kocas› kad›na sürekli fliddet
uyguluyormufl. Son y›llarda kocas›, birinci efliyle cinsel iliflkiye girerken, kad›n›
bunu izlemeye zorluyormufl.
Kad›n›n yaflad›¤› fliddet dayan›lmaz hale gelmifl. Gizlice çocuklar›n› alarak
baflka bir ildeki akrabas›n›n yan›na kaçm›fl. Kocas› taraf›ndan aranan kad›n
destek almak üzere bir STK’ ya gitmifl. STK’daki yetkililer taraf›ndan KAMER’e
yönlendirilmifl.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n›n ifl bulmas› sa¤land›.
¬ Çocuklar› için SHÇEK’ten nakdî destek sa¤land›.
yapt›klar›ndan kurtulmak istemifl. Babas›, tecavüzcünün teklifini kabul ederek
paray› alm›fl. Para alarak anlaflt›¤›n› k›z›ndan ve kar›s›ndan gizlemifl. K›z
çocu¤u bir süre sonra babas› taraf›ndan baflka erkeklerle para karfl›l›¤›nda birlikte olmaya zorlanm›fl. Yaflad›klar›na dayanamayan çocuk savc›l›¤a giderek
destek istemifl. Savc›l›k taraf›ndan KAMER’e yönlendirilmifl.
K›z çocu¤u baflvurusunda, yaflad›klar›na dayanamad›¤›n› ve evine dönmek
istemedi¤ini söyledi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek yetifltirme yurduna yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Çocuk SHÇEK’e ba¤l› bir yetifltirme yurdunda kal›yor.
Sonuç:
¬ Çal›flmaya bafllayan kad›n çocuklar› ve kendisi için yeni bir hayat kurdu.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
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Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, savc›l›k arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
K›z çocu¤u çal›flt›¤› iflyerinde patronu taraf›ndan ilaçla uyutularak tecavüze
u¤ram›fl. K›z çocu¤u durumu annesine anlatm›fl. Ailesi k›zlar›na tecavüz eden
kifliyle konuflup k›zlar›yla evlenmesini istemifl. Evli ve çocuklar› olan adam, k›z
çocu¤uyla evlenmeyi kabul etmemifl. K›z›n babas›na para teklif ederek
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Evli, ayr› yafl›yor
Dört
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, bir akrabas›n›n deste¤iyle KAMER’in Acil Yard›m Hatt›’na flahsen
baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n üvey o¤lu taraf›ndan birçok defa tecavüz u¤ruyor. Üvey o¤lu “E¤er
yapt›klar›m› birilerine söylersen, seni öldürürüm” diye tehdit ediyormufl. Bir
süre sonra yaflad›klar›ndan dolay› kad›n›n psikolojisi bozulmufl. Neden bu hale
geldi¤ini soranlara hiçbir fley söyleyemiyormufl. Bir gün art›k dayanamam›fl ve
yaflad›klar›n› bir akrabas›na anlatm›fl. Akrabas›n›n deste¤iyle KAMER’e
ulaflarak baflvuru yapt›.
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 119
Baflvurusunda; yaflad›klar›n› kocas›na söyleyemedi¤ini bu durumda
kocas›n›n ya da kayn›n›n onu öldürece¤ini söyleyerek destek istedi.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Psikiyatriye yönlendirildi ve tedavisine baflland›.
¬ Bu süreçte ailesinden destek almaya karar verdi. Kad›n›n talebi do¤rultusunda, kad›n›n babas›yla görüflmeler yap›ld›. Babas› kad›na ve çocuklar›na
destek olaca¤›n› söyledi.
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›na yapabilecekleri konusunda bilgi verildi.
¬ Dört ayl›k bir bebe¤in ald›r›lmas› için destek olunamayaca¤› söylenerek verilebilecek di¤er destekler anlat›ld›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n, annesinin deste¤iyle sa¤l›kl› olamayan flartlarda kürtaj olmufl.
¬ Kad›n ailesiyle yaflamaya devam ediyor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
***
Sonuç:
¬ Babas›n›n da deste¤iyle kad›n baflka bir ilde yaflayan erkek kardeflinin
yan›nda çocuklar›yla birlikte yaflamaya bafllad›.
¬ Kocas› ve üvey o¤lu, kad›n› ve çocuklar›n› her yerde ar›yor.
***
72. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
28.12.2006
42
Okuryazar de¤il
Evli, ayr› yafl›yor
Dört
71. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
27.12.2006
23
‹lkokul
Bekâr
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n, KAMER’in grup çal›flmalar›na kat›lm›fl kad›nlar taraf›ndan KAMER’e
yönlendirildi.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Sevgilisi ile iliflkiye giren kad›n hamile kalm›fl. Bu durumu ailesinden saklam›fl. Bir süre sonra annesi, kad›n›n durumundan flüphelenerek onu doktora
götürmüfl ve dört ayl›k hamile oldu¤unu ö¤renmifl. Kad›n, KAMER’e
baflvurarak kürtaj olabilmek için destek istedi.
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n ve k›z› polisler arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e flahsen baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
K›z› kocas› taraf›ndan tecavüze u¤ram›fl. Kad›n, bunun üzerine art›k
kocas›yla ayn› evde kalamayaca¤›n› söyleyerek k›z›n› da alarak evini terk etmifl.
Kocas›na dava açm›fl. Kad›n ve k›z›n›n “aile flerefini kirlettikleri” suçlamas›nda
bulunan kay›nlar› ikisinin de öldürülmesine karar vermifl. Can güvenli¤i
olmayan kad›n ve k›z› KAMER’e baflvuru yaparak s›¤›nma evi talebinde bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek kad›n ve k›z›n›n s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
KAMER ne yapt›?
120 - ‹stersek biter
2006 y›l› baflvuru hikayeleri - 121
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n ve k›z› flu anda s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ S›¤›nma evinin oldu¤u ilde yeni bir hayat kurabilmek için ifl ar›yorlar.
IV
***
73. Baflvuru:
Baflvuru tarihi:
Yafl›:
E¤itim durumu:
Medeni durumu:
Çocuk say›s›:
30.12.2006
45
‹lkokul
Resmî nikâhl›
Dört
KAMER’e nas›l geldi?
Kad›n bir akrabas›n›n arac›l›¤›yla KAMER’e baflvuru yapt›.
Neden “yarg›land›’’?
Kad›n kocas›ndan yo¤un fliddet görüyormufl. Alkolik olan kocas› onu döverek
soka¤a at›yor ve ölümle tehdit ediyormufl. Kocas› taraf›ndan öldürülmekten
korkan kad›n korkudan hiçbir fley yapamaz hale gelmifl. Kocas›n›n yine onu
döverek soka¤a atmas› üzerine küçük çocu¤unu yan›na alarak k›z kardefline
s›¤›nm›fl. Kocas› “Eniflten için k›z kardefline gittin, senin onunla iliflkin var”
diyerek kad›n› ve enifltesini ölümle tehdit etmifl.
Çaresiz kalan kad›n küçük çocu¤uyla birlikte baflvuru yapmak üzere
KAMER’e geldi. Can güvenli¤inin olmad›¤›n› söyleyerek s›¤›nma evi talebinde
bulundu.
KAMER ne yapt›?
¬ Psikolojik destek almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Hukuksal dan›flmanl›k almas› sa¤land›.
¬ Kad›n ve çocu¤unun ihtiyaçlar› için nakdî destek verildi.
¬ SHÇEK’le iletiflime geçilerek s›¤›nma evine yerleflmesi sa¤land›.
Sonuç:
¬ Kad›n s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor.
¬ Kad›nla iletiflim devam ediyor.
122 - ‹stersek biter
Namus cinayetleri nedir?
Ne de¤ildir?
Bu bölümde 2003-2006 y›llar› aras›nda Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu illerindeki KA-MER’lere namus cinayeti tehdidi gerekçesiyle baflvuran kad›nlar›n bilgileri de¤erlendirilmifltir.
Baflvuru Y›llar›
Y›llar
2003
21-25
26-30
31-35
Toplam
Say› (N)
23
22
12
14
85
Yüzde (%)
14,6
19,6
19,6
46,2
100,0
Diyarbak›r KA-MER’in namus cinayetleri konusunda çal›flmaya bafllad›¤› y›l
olan 2003 y›l›nda 23 kad›n, namus cinayeti tehdidiyle karfl›laflt›¤› için baflvuruda bulunmufltur. Ayn› nedenle baflvuru say›s› 2004 y›l›nda 31, 2005 y›l›nda ise
31 kifli olmufltur. Bu say› 2006 y›l›nda 73’e ulaflm›flt›r. 4 y›l içinde toplam 158
kad›n baflvurmufltur.
‹lk üç y›l›n say›lar› birbirine çok yak›nken, say›n›n 2006 y›l›nda neredeyse iki
buçuk kat artmas›n›n çeflitli nedenleri olabilir. Muhtemelen en önemli neden,
2006 y›l›nda KA-MER’lerin Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’nun 23 flehrinde
merkezler açarak faaliyette bulunmas› sayesinde baflvurular› kolaylaflt›rmaNamus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 123
s›d›r. Ayn› zamanda 2003’ten beri yap›lan çal›flmalar konuya duyarl›l›¤›n artmas›na, namus cinayetlerinin önlenmesinde çal›flma modellerinin oluflmas›na
ve önlenebilen namus cinayetlerinin duyulmas›na neden olmufltur. Bütün
bunlar da baflvuru say›s›nda art›fla yol açm›fl olabilir.
Baflvuranlarla ilgili genel bilgiler
Anadili
Anadil
Türkçe
Kürtçe-Zazaca
Di¤er-(Arapça-Farsça)
Toplam
N
49
103
6
158
%
31,0
65,2
3,8
100
Tabloda da görüldü¤ü gibi baflvuran kad›nlar›n yar›s›ndan fazlas›n›n
anadili Kürtçeydi. Bu, çal›flman›n yap›ld›¤› illerin, Kürt nüfusun yo¤un olarak
yaflad›¤› Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’da yer almas›n›n do¤al bir sonucudur.
Bu bölgelerde Kürt nüfusu fazla olmas›na ra¤men, grubun üçte birinin ana
dilinin Türkçe olmas› anlaml›d›r. Bu durum, namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetlerin
ve yap›lan cinayet giriflimlerinin sadece Kürt kültürüne özgü olmad›¤›, di¤er
kültürlerde de namus konusunda bu tür davran›fllar›n sergilenebildi¤ini
göstermektedir.
Yaflad›¤› bölge-fiehir
fiehir
Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu Bölgesi
Diyarbak›r
Mardin (K›z›ltepe- Cizre-Midyat-Nusaybin)
Batman
fi›rnak
Ad›yaman
Bingöl
Hakkari
Tunceli
Kars
Mufl
Urfa
Van
Erzincan
Elaz›¤
N
144
97
20
5
1
1
1
2
3
3
2
2
4
1
2
%
9 1. 1
61.4
12.7
3.2
0.6
0.6
0.6
1.3
1.9
1.9
1.3
1.3
5.5
1.6
1.3
Güney Anadolu Bölgesi
Mersin
Adana
Mersin
5
2
1
2
3.2
1.3
0.6
1.3
Marmara Bölgesi ve Yurtd›fl›
‹stanbul
Yurtd›fl›
9
5
4
5.7
3.2
2.5
158
100
Genel toplam
124 - ‹stersek biter
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 125
Baflvuranlar›n %91’i Do¤u ve Güneydo¤u Anadolu’nun çeflitli illerinde
yaflamlar›n› sürdürmekteydi. Bu bölgede yo¤unluk %61 ile KA-MER merkez
flubesinin bulundu¤u Diyarbak›r ilindeydi, Diyarbak›r’› %18 ile Mardin il ve
ilçeleri izlemekteydi. Diyarbak›r ilinin kalabal›k olmas›, KA-MER faaliyetlerinin bu flehirde yo¤un olmas›, ayn› zamanda köy, kasaba ve küçük flehirlerde
gizlenmenin büyük flehirlere oranla çok daha zor olmas› nedeniyle büyük
flehirlere kaç›p saklananlar›n bulunmas› bu say›y› art›rm›fl olabilir. Güneydo¤u
Anadolu Bölgesi’nin üç ilinden baflvurular›n %3’ü yap›lm›flt›. Marmara Bölgesi
ve yurtd›fl›ndan 9 (%5,7) baflvuru yap›lm›flt›r. Yurt d›fl›ndan ve ‹stanbul’dan
yap›lan baflvurular telefonla gerçekleflmifltir. Baflvuranlara telefonla ve yaz›l›
iletiflim kurularak destek olunmaya çal›fl›lm›flt›r.
Kad›n bulundu¤u ile göçle mi gelmifl? Göç nedeni?
Göç etmifl mi?
Evet
Göç nedeni
Güvenlik
Evlilik-boflanma
‹fl
Hay›r
Toplam
N
57
%
36,1
26
27
4
101
158
45.6
47.4
7.0
63,9
100,0
Kad›nlar›n 57’si (%36) bulundu¤u ile göç ederek gelmifl. 27 kifli (%47,4)
evlilik nedeniyle bulundu¤u flehirden baflka bir flehire göç ederek yaflam›n›
sürdürmekte. Kad›nlar›n 26’s› (%45,6) güvenlik nedeniyle göç etmifller.
Güvenlik nedeniyle göç, yerlerinden edilme ve çat›flmalar sonucunda
gerçekleflirken, 1 kifli kan davas› nedeniyle ölüm tehdidinden kaçabilmak
içinde göç etmifltir. ‹fl nedeniyle göç eden 4 kifli bulunmaktad›r. Bunlardan ikisi
eflinin ifli, biri babas›n›n ifli, biri de e¤itim nedeniyle göç etmifltir.
126 - ‹stersek biter
Baflvuranlar›n demografik bilgileri
Yafl aral›¤›
Yafl
13-17
18-25
26 ve üstü
Bilinmiyor
Toplam
N
17
68
72
1
158
%
10,8
43,0
45,6
0,6
100
Baflvuran kad›nlar›n en küçü¤ü 13, en büyü¤ü 54 yafl›ndayd›. Tüm grubun
yafl ortalamas› ise 26 idi. Kad›nlar›n %47’si 25 yafl›ndan büyük, %43’ü ise 1825 yafl aras›ndayd›. Baflvuru yafl› 18’den küçük olanlar, sadece, %11 lik bir
yo¤unluk oluflturmaktayd›.
E¤itim durumu
E¤itim
E¤itimsiz
Okuryazar
Okuryazar de¤il
N
87
34
53
%
55,1
21,5
33,5
‹lk-orta
‹lk
Orta
49
31
18
31,0
19,6
11,4
Lise-yüksek
Lise
Yüksek
21
17
4
13,3
10,8
2,5
Bilinmiyor
Genel Toplam
1
158
0,6
100
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 127
Baflvuran kad›nlar›n büyük ço¤unlu¤u 87 (%55,1) hiç e¤itim görmemifl ve
bunlar›n ço¤u okuma-yazma bilmiyor. Grubun üçte biri (49 kad›n; toplam
kad›nlar›n %31’i) ise ilkokul veya ortokul mezunu. Lise ve yüksek e¤itim kurumu mezunlar›n›n oran› çok düflük: 21 kad›n (%13,3). Genel olarak
bak›ld›¤›nda, e¤itim düzeyi artt›kça namus cinayeti nedeniyle baflvuran kad›n
say›s›n›n azalmas› namus cinayetlerini yorumlamak aç›s›ndan önemlidir.
K›zlar›n›n okumas›na izin veren ailelerin, ayn› zamanda onlara k›smen de olsa
hareket edebilme, karar verebilme hakk› vermifl oldu¤u düflünülebilir. Ayr›ca
bu aileler, di¤erlerine göre daha destekleyici ve genifl düflünebilen, en az›ndan
çevre bask›s›na karfl› mücadele etme kapasitesine sahip olabilir.
‹fl Durumu
Çal›fl›yor mu?
Evet
‹flçi
Memur
Hay›r
Toplam
N
13
12
1
145
158
%
8,2
92,31
7,69
91,8
100,0
Baflvuranlar›n tamam›na yak›n› d›flar›da bir iflte çal›flm›yordu. Çal›flanlardan sadece bir tanesi memuriyet gibi düzenli bir ifle sahipken, di¤er çal›flanlar
tezgâhtarl›k, sekreterlik, pamuk tarlas›nda geçici iflçilik ve di¤er flekilde iflçilik
gibi süreklili¤i olmayan ifllerde çal›fl›yorlard›.
Baflvuran kad›nlar›n 56’s› (%34,4) bekâr, 80’i ( %50,6) evli, 12’si (% 7,6)
duldu, 10’u (%6,3) ise evli, ama eflinden ayr› yaflamaktayd›. Dul kategorisi
boflanm›fl ve eflini kaybetmifl kad›nlar› kapsamaktad›r. Evli olup ayr› yaflayanlar› ise, efllerinin zulmünden kaç›p ailelerinin veya baflkalar›n›n yan›na
s›¤›nan kad›nlar oluflturmakta.
Evlilik yafl›
Evlilik yafl aral›¤›
13-17
18-25
26 ve üstü
Toplam
N
41
46
7
94
%
43,6
48,9
7,4
100,0
Kad›nlar›n en küçük evlenme yafl› 13, en geç evlenme yafl› ise 39’dur. Evlilik
yafl› ortalamas› 19’dur. Tabloda görüldü¤ü gibi 25 yafl›ndan sonra evlenen
kad›nlar›n say›s› sadece 7 (%7,4), evli kad›nlar›n yar›s› 46 kifli (%48,9) 18-25
yafl aras›nda evlenmifl. Yar›s›na yak›n bölümü ise 41 kifli (%43,6) yasal evlilik
yafl›n›n alt›nda, yani 13-17 yafllar› aras›nda evlenmifl/evlendirilmifltir. Bu
sonuçlara bak›ld›¤›nda kad›nlar›n yar›s›n›n 18 yafl›ndan daha büyük bir yaflta
evlenmesi en az›ndan evlili¤e haz›rlanmada bedensel ve ruhsal geliflmelerinin
gerçekleflebilmesi için olumlu görülse de, 19 yafl ortalamas› okuyan k›zlar›n
evlenme yafl ortalamas›n›n çok alt›ndad›r. Daha da olumsuz olan ise evli
kad›nlar›n yar›s›na yak›n›n henüz çocuk yaflta evlendirilmifl olmas›d›r.
Evlenme flekli
Medeni Durum
Medeni Durumu
Bekâr
Evli
Dul
Evli ayr› yafl›yor
Toplam
128 - ‹stersek biter
N
56
80
12
10
158
%
35,4
50,6
7,6
6,3
100
Evlenme flekli
Nas›l evlendi¤i bilinmiyor
Görücü usulü
Akraba evlili¤i
Anlaflarak
Zorla
Kaçarak
Toplam
N
4
50
17
13
11
7
102
%
3,9
49,0
16,7
12,7
10,8
6,9
100,0
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 129
Görücü usuluyle evlenen kad›nlar 50 kifli olup grubun yar›s›n› (%49)
oluflturmaktayd›. Akraba evlili¤i yapan 17 kifliden (%16,7) 6’s› berdel olarak
verilmifl. Zorla evlendirilen 11 (%10,8) kad›n›n bir k›sm›, kuma olarak
evlendirilmifl olup, grup içinde toplam kuma say›s› 11’dir. Anlaflarak 13
(%12,7) ve sevdi¤ine kaçarak 7 (%6,9) evlenen kad›nlar›n oran› ise çok
düflüktür. Grup içinde bu flekilde evlenenlerin bir k›sm› seçimleri nedeniyle
öldürülmek istenmifltir.
Çocuk say›s›
Çocuk say›s›
1-3
1 çocuk
2"
3"
3 ve üstü
4 çocuk
5"
6 ve fazla
Yok
Hamile
Toplam
N
60
24
20
17
31
10
13
7
16
8
115
%
52,2
20.9
17.4
14.8
27,0
8.7
11.3
6.0
13,9
7,0
100,0
Çocuk say›s› 1- 10 aras›nda de¤iflmekte. Kad›nlardan 24’ünün (%52) 1
çocu¤u, 20’sinin (%17,4) 2 çocu¤u, 17’sinin (%14,8) 3 çocu¤u bulunmakta.
Üç-befl çocu¤u olan kad›n say›s› 23 (%21) ve 5’ten fazla çocu¤u olan kad›n
say›s› ise 7 (%6). Evli olan 16 (%13,9) kad›n›n çocu¤u yok. Kad›nlardan 8’i
(%7) hamile. Hamile kad›nlardan 6’s› bekâr olup tecavüz sonucu hamile
kalm›flt›r. Bekâr kad›nlardan 6’s›n›n evlilik d›fl› çocu¤u bulunmaktad›r.
Tecavüz sonucu hamile kalan kad›nlar›n bir k›sm› çocu¤unu do¤urup
yetifltirme kurumuna veya evlatl›k olarak verirken, di¤er k›sm› kürtaj yoluyla
gebeli¤ini sonland›rm›flt›r.
130 - ‹stersek biter
Kad›nlar›n namus ad› alt›nda öldürülme
tehdidi d›fl›nda yaflad›klar› fliddet öyküsü
fiiddeti uygulayan
Kad›n›n ailesi
Eflin ailesi
Efl
Di¤er
Toplam
N
60
15
74
9
158
%
38,0
9,5
46,8
5,7
100,0
Baflvuran kad›nlar en fazla kendi efllerinin fliddetine maruz kalmaktayd›: 74
kad›n (%46,8). En kalabal›k ikinci grup, kendi ailesinden fliddet görenlerdir: 60
kad›n (%38). Ailede fliddeti uygulayanlar›n bafl›nda baba (43 kifli; %27,2)
gelmekte, ayr›ca erkek kardeflin (6 kifli; %3,8) ve annenin (5 kifli; %3,2) de
fliddet uygulad›¤› görülmektedir. Eflinin ailesinden fliddet gördü¤ünü belirten
15 kad›n (%9,5) bulunmaktayd›. Burada fliddeti uygulayanlar aras›nda kad›n›n
kayn›, üvey o¤lu da bulunmaktayd›. Tecavüzcüden, erkek arkadafltan, yaflad›¤›
kurum çal›flan›ndan, kaç›ran kifliden, telefonla arayan kifliden, toplumdan
fliddet gördü¤ünü belirtenler ise 9 (%5,7) kifli idi.
fiiddet Süresi
fiiddet süresi
0-1 y›l
2-5 y›l
6 y›l ve üstü
Toplam
Say›
73
56
29
158
%
46,2
35.4
18.4
100,0
fiiddet görme sürelerine bak›ld›¤›nda ço¤unlu¤u 73 kifli (%46,2) yaflad›¤›
fliddetin 1 kez ile 1 y›l boyunca sürdü¤ünü belirtmekteydi. fiiddetin 2-5 y›l
aras›nda sürdü¤ünü belirtenlerin say›s› 56 (%35,4), 5 y›ldan daha uzun süredir
fliddet görmekte olanlar ise 29 kifli (%18,4) idi
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 131
Ölüm karar›nda etkili olan kiflilerin e¤itim durumu
Ölüm karar› ile ilgili bilgiler
Ölüm karar›n› verenler kim/kimler
Ölüm karar›n› verenler kim/kimler
Kad›n›n ailesi
Eflin ailesi
Efl
Di¤er
Hepsi
Efl ve ailesi
Toplam
N
56
15
55
8
19
5
158
%
35,4
9,5
34,8
5,1
12,0
3,2
100,0
Ölüm karar›n› veren gruplar içinde kad›n›n ailesi en üst s›rada yer almaktad›r: 56 kad›n (%35,4) için kendi ailesi ölüm karar› alm›flt›r. Kad›n›n ailesi
içinde verilen kararda etkili olan kiflilerin bafl›nda baba geliyor (37 kifli; %23),
onu a¤abey ve amca izliyordu.
Ölüm karar›n›n verenler içinde ikinci s›ray› efller al›yor: 55 kifli (%34,8). 19
kad›n (%12) içinse, hem eflin ailesi hem de kad›n›n ailesi ölüm karar alm›flt›.
Di¤erleri grubunu, 8 (%5,1) kifli ile kaç›ran, taciz eden, tecavüz eden tecavüz
veya tacizi saklamak için aile meclisinin toplay›p ölüm karar› ald›rmaya
çal›flm›fl kifliler ve toplum oluflturmaktayd›
Sadece efl ve eflin ailesinin kararda etkili oldu¤unu bildiren 5 kifli (%3,2)
bulunmaktayd›. Tabloda çok net olarak görülen kad›n›n ailesindeki kifliler
ölüm karar›n› vermekte ve s›kl›kla da baban›n karar› uygulanmaktayd›.
Kad›n›n ailesinden sonra, kad›n›n efli burada baban›n yerini alm›fl, yarg›lay›p
cezaland›ran konumunu o devralm›fl görülmekte. Çarp›c› olan bir baflka bulgu
ise her iki aile, efl, toplumun ortak ald›¤› “hepsi” grubunun sonuçlar›yd›.
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Ölüm karar› verenin e¤itim durumu
Okur yazar de¤il
Okur yazar
‹lkokul
Orta okul
Lise
Yüksekokul
Toplam
N
65
42
31
8
11
1
158
%
41,1
26,6
19,6
5,1
7,0
0,6
100,0
Ölüm karar›nda etkili olan kiflilerin büyük ço¤unlu¤unun ( 107 kifli; %67,7)
hiçbir e¤itimi yoktur. 65 kifli (%41,1) okuryazar bile de¤ilken, 42 kifli (%26,6)
e¤itim almamakla birlikte okuryazard›r.
‹lkö¤retim görmüfl 39 kifli (%24,7) ile e¤itimsizleri izlemekte, bunlardan
ilkokul mezunu olanlar 31 kifli ile (%19,6), ortaokul mezunu 8 kifli(%5,1), lise
ve yüksekokul mezunu olanlar 12 kiflidir (%7,6), lise mezunu 11 kifli olup
(%7,0) yüksekokul mezunu olanlar›n say›s› ise sadece 1’dir (%0,6).
Veriler e¤itim düzeyi yükseldikçe namus cinayetine karar verme oran›nda
azalma oldu¤unu göstermekte. Grubun neredeyse tamam›n›n hiç e¤itim
görmemifl veya çok az e¤itim alm›fl olmas› dikkat çekicidir, e¤itim düzeyi ile
namus ad› alt›nda öldürme karar› aras›ndaki ba¤lant› üzerinde düflünmeyi
gerektirecek önemli bir veridir.
Ölüm karar›nda etkili olan kiflilerin ekonomik durumu
Ölüm karar›nda etkili olan kiflilerin
ekonomik durumu
Kötü
Orta
‹yi
Toplam
N
%
59
76
23
158
37,3
48,1
14,6
100,0
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 133
Ölüm karar›da etkili olan kiflilerin ekonomik durumu ço¤unlukla orta (76
kifli; %48,1), daha sonra 59 kifli (%37,3) ile kötü ve 23 kifli(%14,6) ile iyidir.
Tabloda görüldü¤ü gibi ekonomik durum ile ölüm karar›n› verme aras›nda bir
ba¤lant› görülmemektedir. Her ekonomik düzeyden kifliler kararda etkili rol
alabilmektedirler.
Ölüm karar›n›n verilme nedeni
Ölüm karar› nedeni
‹taatsizlik
‹ftir
Sevdi¤iyle buluflma-kaçma
Tecavüz-tacize u¤rama
Evlilik d›fl› hamilelik
Evden kaçma
Bekâret kayb›
Di¤er
Toplam
N
37
27
23
19
14
11
9
18
158
%
23,4
17,1
14,6
12,0
8,9
7,0
5,7
11,4
100,0
Ölüm karar› çeflitli nedenlerle verilmiflti. ‹taatsizlik 37 kifli ile (%23,4) öncelikli nedendi. ‹taatsizlik çeflitli flekillerde de¤erlendirilmekteydi: ailesinin istedi¤i kifliyle evlenmeyi reddetme; kayn›yla, babas›yla cinsel iliflkiyi reddetme;
fuhufla zorlan›p bunu kabul etmeme; zorla evlendirilmeyi kabul etmeme;
k›z›na tecavüz eden kocas›n› flikâyet etme gibi evdeki yaflam içinde kad›nlar›n
babalar›, kocalar›, a¤abeyleri ya da di¤er aile büyüklerinin talimatlar›n› yerine
getirmemeleri, itiraz etmeleri, söze kar›flmalar› fleklinde olabilmektedir.
Kad›nlar›n 27’si (%17,1) iftiraya u¤rad›klar› için öldürülmelerine karar verildi¤ini belirtmiflti. ‹ftiralar, birtak›m dedikodular ç›kar›lmas›, as›ls›z hikâyeler
anlat›lmas›, d›flar›ya ç›kt›¤›, süslenip boyand›¤› ya da farkl› giyindi¤i için
orospu olarak damgalanmak fleklindeydi. 23 kifli (%14,6) sevdi¤i kifliyle
bulufltu¤u veya onunla kaçt›¤› veya baflka bir erkekle iliflki yaflad›¤› için, 19 kifli
(%12) tecavüze veya tacize u¤rad›¤› için, haklar›nda ölüm karar› verilmiflti.
Tecavüz veya tacizlerin da¤›l›m› flöyleydi: Patronu taraf›ndan tecavüze
u¤rama, baba tecavüzü, babas›n›n tecavüzü sonucu hamilelik, amcas›n›n
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tecavüzü ve sonucunda hamilelik, day›s›n›n tecavüzü ve hamilelik, üvey o¤lu
taraf›ndan tecavüz fleklindeydi.
Tecavüze u¤rayan kad›nlardan bir k›sm› bu durumunu aç›klam›fl, bu da
haklar›nda öldürülme karar› verilmesine neden olmufltur. 14 kifli (%8,9),
evlilik d›fl› hamilelik yaflad›¤› için ölüm tehdidi alt›ndayd›. Kad›nlar›n 11’i
(%7,0), kendilerine uygulanan zulüm, fliddet ve bask› sonucunda evden
kaçt›klar› için, 9 kad›n (%5,7) çeflitli nedenlerle bekâretlerini kaybettikleri için
ölüm cezas›na hükmolunmufl.
Namussuzlukla suçlanma, geçmiflinde seks iflçisi olma, gece klubünde
çal›flma, kan davas›, kocas›ndan ayr›lmadan ikinci evlili¤i kabul etmedi¤i ve
boflanma istedi¤i için ölümle cezaland›r›lmak istenmifltir.
Ölüm karar› ne kadar sürede verildi?
Ölüm karar› süresi
1-3 ay
1 aydan k›sa
2 ay
3 ay
4-11 ay
Toplam
N
142
88
35
19
16
158
%
89,9
22.2
12.0
10,1
100,0
Ölüm karar›n›n verilip verilmeyece¤i konusunun aile meclisinde tart›fl›lmas›
veya olay›n konuflulmaya bafllanmas›ndan sonra geçen zaman ile karar›n
uygulanmaya konmas› aras›ndaki süre kad›nlar›n %89,9 (n:142) 1-3 ay
aras›ndad›r. Bu karar›n ço¤unlukla %22,2 (n.88) ilk bir ay içinde verilmifl
oldu¤u görülmektedir. Az say›da 16 (%10,1) kad›n›n ölüm karar›n›n verilmesi
4-11 ay aras›nda olmufltur.
Veriler kad›nlar›n öldürülme karar› verildi¤i andan uygulamaya geçilen süre
aras›nda fazla bir zaman olmad›¤›n› aç›kça göstermektedir. Bu durum konu ile
ilgili çal›fl›rken ne denli çabuk hareket edilmesi gerekti¤inin önemini göstermektedir.
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 135
Ailede kad›na destek olan var m›?
Kad›n intihara zorland› m›?
‹ntihara zorland› m›?
Evet
Hay›r
Toplam
N
23
135
158
%
14,6
85,4
100,0
Kad›nlardan 23’ü (%14,6) ölüm karar›n› kendisinin uygulamas› için intihara zorlanm›flt›r. Bu sonuçlar yöredeki intihar ve namus cinayetleri
aras›ndaki ba¤› göstermek için önemlidir.
Ailede namus ad›na öldürülen ya da intihara zorlanan var m›?
Daha once öldürülen veya ölüme zorlanan
Var
Kendisi
K›z›
Abla
Annesi
Yok
Toplam
N
7
2
2
1
2
151
158
%
4,4
N
43
39
4
115
158
%
27,2
72,8
100,0
Efl ve eflin ailesinden destek gören kad›nlar›n say›s› yaln›zca toplamda 4’tür:
2 kad›na efli, birine kay›nvalidesi ve birine de üvey o¤lu destek vermifltir.
Verilere göre destek olanlar›n tamam›na yak›n›n› kad›nlar oluflturmaktad›r.
Bu sonuçlar, konuyla ilgili yap›lacak mücadelede kad›na verilen deste¤in
eksikli¤ini net olarak göstermektedir. Bu konuda yap›lan kad›n çal›flmalar›n›n,
kad›n merkezlerinin, s›¤›naklar›n, psikolojik destek merkezlerinin, hukukî
dan›flmanl›k merkezlerinin artmas›n›n önemi ortadad›r.
Ailede sözü geçen etkili kifli kim?
95,6
100,0
7 kad›n›n ailesinde önceden namus gerekçesiyle haklar›nda ölüm karar› verilen, intihara zorlanan veya öldürülenlerden, 2’si kad›n›n kendisi, 2’si k›z›,
2’si annesi ve 1’i ise ablas›d›r. Bu say› küçük olsa da, daha once namus
cinayetine kurban edilmifl veya bu tehditle karfl› karfl›ya kalm›fl kiflilerin varl›¤›
tehdidin gerçekçili¤ini vurgulamaktad›r.
Kad›n›n destek kaynaklar›
Destek gören kad›nlar›n say›s› çok düflüktür: 43 kifli (%27,2). Büyük bir
ço¤unluk, yani 115 kifli (%72,8) bu süreçte hiçbir flekilde destek görmemifltir.
Destek olan kifliler genellikle kad›n›n kendi ailesinden kiflilerdir: 15 kad›na
annesi, 10 kad›na ablas› ve 4 kad›na a¤abeyi destek olmufltur. Destek sa¤layan
di¤er aile fertleri ise k›z›, enifltesi, yengesi, kuzenleridir. Bir kad›na da arkadafl›
destek olmufltur.
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Destek olan var m›?
Evet
Kad›n›n ailesi
Efl ve eflin ailesi
Hay›r
Toplam
Ailede etkili kifli
Baba
Amca
A¤abey
Hepsi
Kay›npeder
Efl
Kad›n›n ailesi
Kayn›
Eflin ailesi
Kaç›ran kifli
Toplam
N
62
1
7
11
11
47
5
5
8
1
158
%
39,2
0,6
4,4
7,0
7,0
29,7
3,2
3,2
5,1
0,6
100,0
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 137
Ailede sözü geçen kiflilerin da¤›l›m› flöyledir: baba (%39,2), efl (%29,7),
kay›npeder (%7,0), hepsi (kad›n›n ailesindeki, eflin ailesindeki kifliler) (%7,0),
eflin ailesi (%5,1), a¤abey (%4,4), kad›n›n ailesinin tümü (%3,2), kayn› 5
(%3,2), amca 1 (%0,6) ve kaç›ran kifli 1 (%0,6).
KA-MER’e baflvuru ve sonras› ile ilgili bilgiler.
KA-MER'e basvuru flekli
Baflvuru flekli
Kendi
Akraba
Avukat
Resmî kurum-kurulufl (polis-hastane)
Sivil kurulufl (kad›n merkezi- bas›n)
Yabanc›
Telefon
Toplam
N
28
17
16
43
11
29
14
158
%
17,7
10,8
10,1
27,2
7,0
18,4
8,9
100,0
Baflvurdu¤u s›rada nüfusa kay›t durumu
Nüfusa kay›t durumu
Hiçbir kayd› yok
Kayd› var, ama nüfus cüzdan› yok
Kayd› ve cüzdan› var, ama yan›na almam›fl
Nüfus cüzdan› yan›nda
Toplam
N
5
20
11
122
158
%
3,2
12,7
7,0
77,2
100,0
KA-MER’e baflvurdu¤u s›rada kad›nlar›n 122’sinin (%77,2) nüfüs cüzdanlar›
yanlar›ndayd›, 20 kiflinin (%12,7) nüfusa kay›tlar› vard›, ama nüfüs cüzdanlar›
yoktu, 11 kiflinin (%7,0) nüfus kayd› ve cüzdan› vard›, yanlar›na almam›fllard›,
5 kad›n›n (% 3,2) ise hiçbir kayd› yoktu. KA-MER 11 kad›n›n nüfüs cüzdan›
ç›karmas›n› sa¤lam›flt›r. Kad›nlar›n büyük ço¤unlu¤unun KA-MER’e baflvurduklar› s›rada nüfus cüzdanlar›n› yanlar›nda getirmeleri sevindiricidir. Bunun
sebebi bölgede zaman zaman kimlik sorulmas› olabilece¤i gibi, kad›nlar›n KAMER’e baflvurmadan önce ald›klar› bilgiler neticesinde nüfus cüzdanlar›n›
yanlar›nda getirmeleri de olabilir.
KA-MER ne yapt›?
KA-MER’e yap›lan baflvurular›n da¤›l›m› flöyledir: Kendi baflvuran 28
(%17,7), akrabas› taraf›ndan getirilen 17 (%10,8), avukatlar› arac›l›¤›yla
baflvuran 16 (%10,1), polis-hastane gibi resmî kurumlar taraf›ndan yönlendirilen 43 kad›n (%27,2) bulunmaktad›r. Asl›nda hastane taraf›ndan yönlendirilen sadece 1 kad›n vard›r, son kategorideki 42 kad›n polis taraf›ndan
yönlendirilmifltir. Sivil kad›n kurulufllar› 3 kad›n›, bas›n mensuplar› 8 kad›n›
KA-MER’e yönlendirmifltir; dolay›s›yla sivil kurulufllardan yönlendirilen toplam
11 kifli (%7,0) vard›r. Sokakta ne yapaca¤›n› bilmez flekilde dolafl›rken kendisiyle ilgilenen tan›mad›¤› kifliler taraf›ndan KA-MER’e getirilen 29 kad›n
(%18,4) ve telefonla baflvuruda bulunan 14 kad›n (%8,9) olmufltur.
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KA-MER'in yapt›klar›
Can güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas›
Psikolojik destek almas› için yönlendirme
S›¤›nma evlerinde bar›nmas›n› sa¤lama
Hukusal yard›m destek sa¤lama
Sa¤l›k muayenesi ve tedavisini sa¤lama
Nüfus cüzdan› ç›kar›lmas›
Aile görüflmeleri
‹fl imkânlar› sa¤lama
Bilgilendirme
N
132
153
103
103
25
13
9
10
4
%
83,5
96,8
65,2
65,2
15,8
8,2
5,7
6,3
2,5
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 139
KA-MER namus cinayeti tehdidiyle karfl› karfl›ya olduklar› için baflvuran
kad›nlar›n 153’ünü (%96,8) psikolojik destek almas› için yönlendirdi,
132’sinin (%83,5) can güvenli¤inin sa¤lanmas›na yard›mc› oldu. 103’ünün
(%65,2) s›¤›nma evlerinde bar›nmas›n›, 103’ünün (%65,2) hukukî yard›m
almas›n›, 25’inin (%15,8) sa¤l›k muayenesi ve tedavisini, 13’ünün (%8,2)
nüfus cüzdan›n›n ç›kar›lmas›n›, 10’una ifl imkân›, 9’unun aile görüflmesinin
yap›lmas›n›, 4’ünün istediklerinde ulaflabilecekleri kaynaklar konusunda bilgilendirilmesini sa¤lad›.
Baflvuran tüm kad›nlar›n gereksinim duydu¤u konularda destek verilirken,
ihtiyaç duyulan maddî destekler de sa¤lanm›flt›r.
Yukar›daki verilerden de görüldü¤ü üzere, baflvuran her kad›na birden fazla
konuda destek verilmifltir.
Sonuç
Sonuç
Öldü
Kendi ailesiyle yafl›yor
Baflka yerde hayat kurdu
‹letiflim kesildi
Ayr› yafl›yor
Efl sahiplendi
Akraba yan›nda
Di¤er
Toplam
Say›
3
34
42
53
17
1
2
6
158
%
1,9
21,5
26,6
33,5
10,8
0,6
1,3
3,8
100,0
KA-MER’e baflvuranlar›n 53’üyle (%33,5) gereken müdahale yap›ld›ktan
sonra iletiflim kesildi. 42’si (%26,6) hayat›n› baflka flehirde, baflka ülkede
kurdu, bunlar›n baz›lar› sevdikleriyle evlendiler. 34kifli (%21,5) kendi iste¤iyle
ailesiyle veya ailesinin fertlerinden biriyle (abla, a¤abey) yaflamaya devam
ediyor. 17 ‘si (%10,8) eflinden-ailesinden ayr› yafl›yor, eflinden ayr›lanlardan
birinin efli ceza ald›. KA-MER’e baflvuran kad›nlar›n 6’s› (%3,8) s›¤›nma evinde, çocuk esirgeme kurumunda, bir ailenin yan›nda evlatl›k olarak,
tecavüzcüsüyle evlendirilmifl olarak yaflam›n› sürdürmekte. 3’ü (%1,9)
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baflvuruldu¤unda sald›r›ya u¤rad›¤› için hastanede iken ba¤lant› kuruldu,
ancak a¤›r yaral›yd› hayat›n› kaybetti. 2’si (%1,3) akraba yan›nda yafl›yor, 1’ini
(%0,6) efli sahiplendi.
Memnuniyet verici olan sonuçlara detayl› olarak bakarsak, kad›nlar
sa¤, ama ba¤›ml› olduklar› örnekler
Baz› kad›nlar s›¤›nma evi sonras› uzak akrabas›n›n yan›na yerleflti, baz›lar›
ailesi ile yaflamaya devam ediyor, baz›lar›n› kad›n›n kendi ailesi sahiplendi.
Kimisi kürtaj olup ailesinin yan›nda yaflamaya devam ediyor, kimisi ablas› ile
yafl›yor. Kimisi s›¤›nma evinde kald›ktan sonra aileyle görüflülerek yanlar›na
döndü. Kimisi abisinin yan›na gitti. Kimisi s›¤›nma evinde kald›ktan sonra
uzak akrabas›n›n yan›na yerleflti. Birini efli sahiplendi, onunla yafl›yor. Kimileri
s›¤›nma evine yerlefltiler, daha sonra ifle bafllad›lar.
Daha fazla yüz güldürücü olanlar, kad›nlar›n sa¤ ve ba¤›ms›z olduklar›
örnekler
Kimi kad›nlar baflka bir yerde yeni bir hayat kurdu, kimisi yurtd›fl›na ç›kt› ve
evlendi, yurtd›fl›nda yaflamaya bafllad›. Eflinden boflanarak çocuklar›yla
yaflamaya devam edenler var. Kimi örneklerde anne babadan ayr›ld›, k›z›n›
yan›na ald›, ev tutuldu ve efl ceza ald›, sevgilisi ile evlendi, kaçt›¤› kifli ile
evlendirildi, s›¤›nma evi sürecinde dava sonucu çocuklar›n› ald› onlarla
yafl›yor, s›¤›nma evi sonras› ifle yerleflti vs.
Koruma alt›nda yaflayanlar; s›¤›nma evinde do¤um yapt›, ifle bafllad›, çocuk
yetifltirme yurdunda kal›yor, anne k›z s›¤›nma evinde kal›yor, SHÇEK deste¤i ile
okuluna devam ediyor halen s›¤›nma evinde, zengin bir aileye evlatl›k olarak
verildi.
Ba¤lant› kurulamayanlar, s›¤›nma evi sonras› iletiflim kesildi.
‹çimizi ac›tanlar:
Tecavüzcüsüyle evlendirildi.
Eflini öldürmemek için kendini öldürdü.
Yaral›yd›, kaybettik.
Ufuk Sezgin
Namus cinayetleri nedir? Ne de¤ildir? - 141
V
KAMER’den notlar
KAMER’in feminizmi
KAMER’in kad›n›n insan haklar› için yürütmekte oldu¤u çal›flmalar› en
anlafl›l›r biçimde anlatabilmek için, al›fl›lm›fl dilin ötesinde bir dil kullanmak
gerekti¤ini fark ettik. Bize göre, “ne ifl yap›yoruz, nerelerde çal›fl›yoruz, kaç
kad›n fliddet yafl›yor, kaç›na destek olduk, namus ad›na ifllenen cinayetler
konusunda neler yapt›k” gibi sorulara yan›t vermenin ötesine ancak böyle bir
dil üreterek geçebiliriz.
Tüm bu ifller önemli elbette, ama tek bafl›na düflünülmemeleri gerekiyor. Her
biri, birbirimizden ö¤renmemizi, kad›n politikam›z› oluflturmam›z› sa¤layan
sürecin parças› olarak anlaml›.
KAMER’i anlatabilmek için, “nas›l bafllad›k, çal›fl›rken birbirimizden neler
ö¤rendik, neler fark ettik, neler de¤ifltirdik, nereye gidiyoruz” gibi sorular›
yan›tlayarak karfl›l›kl› ö¤renme süreci üzerinde durman›n daha do¤ru
olaca¤›n› düflünüyoruz.
KAMER, resmî olarak 1997 y›l›nda kuruldu. Ama bu tarihin öncesindeki
çal›flmalar da önemliydi. KAMER fikri 1993-95 y›llar›nda, fliddetin dorukta
oldu¤u dönemlerde olufltu. 1997 y›l›nda yasal bir statü edindi. Sonraki y›llarda
da çal›flma alan›n› sürekli geniflletti, yeni projeleri hayata geçirdi.
Halen 23 ayr› ilde devam eden KAMER çal›flmalar›n› ilçelere yaymak için
çaba harc›yoruz. Binlerce kad›n olduk.
Bafllad›¤›m›z dönemlerdeki biz ile flimdiki biz aras›nda önemli farklar var. O
zamanki biz feministtik, flimdiki biz de feministiz. Ama o zamanki biz ile
flimdiki biz aras›nda on y›ll›k çal›flmalar›n kazand›rd›¤› bir deneyim fark› var.
En önemlisi de, o zaman feminist oldu¤umuzu f›s›lt› halinde söylerken,
flimdi hayk›r›yoruz. Hep birlikte yüzlerce kad›n “biz feministiz” diyebiliyoruz.
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Feminizmin asl›nda bir fark etme ve de¤ifltirme süreci oldu¤unu düflünüyoruz. Bu yaz›da feminizmle ç›kt›¤›m›z yolculu¤u anlatmak istiyoruz.
Bafllarken ilk fark›ndal›¤›m›z ‘fliddet’le ilgiliydi. Her birimiz do¤rudan ya da
dolayl› fliddet ma¤duru oluyorduk. Gözalt›nda, sokakta, iflyerlerimizde, hele de
evlerimizde...
Neydi bu fliddet?
Bu kadar can yakmas›na ra¤men, niye herkes birbirine, herhangi bir ifl
yap›yormufl gibi do¤al bir biçimde fliddet uyguluyordu?
Bize kad›n oldu¤umuzu her yerde hat›rlat›yorlard›. Bunu fark etmeyen,
hat›rlamayan sadece biz miydik?
Bu sorular, bizim ev içi denen mahrem alan›, ev içindeki konumlar›m›z› fark
etmemizi sa¤lad›. fiiddetin en konuflulmayan, en normalleflmifl, en al›fl›lm›fl
biçimi ev içinde yaflan›yordu. fiiddetin bu k›sm›n› konuflmak ya yad›rgan›yor,
ya hafife al›n›yordu. Çünkü daha önemli fliddet biçimleri vard› konuflulacak:
Gözalt›ndaki, sokaktaki fliddet...
Biz en zor olandan bafllad›k. Yaln›zlaflmay›, d›fllanmay›, afla¤›lanmay› göze
alarak. Pek ço¤umuz, fliddet meselesi üzerine düflünmeye önce gözalt›ndaki,
sokaktaki biçimine bakarak bafllam›flt›k. Daha sonra fliddetin farkl› biçimleri
aras›ndaki ba¤› kavrad›k, asl›nda ev içinde yaflananlar›n bütün fliddet
çeflitlerinin bafllang›ç noktas› oldu¤unu gördük.
Kad›n çal›flmas› yapma fikrini tart›flmaya bafllad›¤›m›z anda, çevremizdekiler ne yapmam›z, nas›l yapmam›z, kiminle çal›flmam›z gerekti¤i konusunda
ak›l vermeye bafllad›.
Herkes masummufl gibi davran›yordu. Hiç kimse erkek egemen sistemin kendisini de etkilemifl olaca¤›n› düflünmek bile istemiyordu.
Böylece cinsiyetçili¤in ne kadar içselleflti¤ini, benimsendi¤ini, nas›l
kendimize, bütün yak›nlar›m›za, bütün kurulufllara ve kiflilere bakmam›z
gerekti¤ini fark ettik. Tam da bu nedenle ba¤›ms›z örgütlenmemiz gerekti¤inin
bilincine vard›k.
‹nsan haklar›ndan, kad›n›n insan haklar›ndan yana oldu¤umuzu aç›klasak
da, ba¤›ms›zl›k ile tarafs›zl›k aras›ndaki fark›n kolay anlafl›lmayaca¤›n› biliyorduk. Buna ra¤men ba¤›ms›z örgütlenmeyi seçtik.
Birlikte çal›flaca¤›m›z ve destek olmay› planlad›¤›m›z kad›nlar›n büyük
KAMER’den notlar - 143
bölümü kendilerini Kürt olarak tan›mlasalar da, Kürt Kad›nlar› Merkezi olmak
istemedik. Hem kendimizi tek kimlikle s›n›rlamak istemedik, hem de tek bir
kad›n›n bile çok önemli oldu¤unu düflünerek KAMER’in, Kürt olmayan ya da
kendisini Kürt olarak adland›rmayan kad›nlar›n da merkezi olmas›n› istedik.
Cinsiyetçili¤i sorgulamak için, tüm aidiyetlerimizden ba¤›ms›z bir alan
oluflturmaya çal›fl›rken, kendimiz ve bireysel deneyimlerimiz üzerine düflünmeye bafllad›k. fiiddetin ve ayr›mc›l›¤›n içindeki rolümüzü, nas›l ezilip, nas›l
ezdi¤imizi sorgulad›k.
“Cinsiyetçili¤i fark edip, feminizme ad›m atma aflamas›” olarak
adland›rd›¤›m›z bu sanc›l› dönemden geçerken, yersizlik yurtsuzluk duygusunu derinden yaflad›k.
Bu geçifl döneminde destek al›nacak, dayan›lacak tek yerin kad›nlar, kad›n
kurulufllar› oldu¤unu da ne yaz›k ki ac› deneyimlerle ö¤rendik. Kad›nlar›n
bireysel fark edifl süreçlerinin çok ac› ve sars›c› oldu¤unu, bu dönemde destek
ve dayan›flman›n çok önemli oldu¤unu gördük.
fiiddetin her yerde ve farkl› flekillerde yafland›¤›n› biliyorduk. Biz en temel
sorun olarak gördü¤ümüz ev içi fliddet üzerine örgütlenmeye gittik.
Gözalt›ndaki, sokaktaki fliddet türleriyle ilgilenen sivil toplum örgütleri vard›,
ama ev içi fliddet üzerine çal›flan hiçbir kurulufl yoktu. Üstelik ev içi fliddetin
konuflulmas› bile herkesi k›zd›r›yordu. Çünkü herkes bu büyük fliddetin bir
parças›yd›.
Ev içi fliddet çal›fl›rken fliddetin gerek en kaba gerekse inceltilmifl biçimleriyle
karfl›laflt›k.
Bütün kad›nlar›n dilleri, dinleri, e¤itimleri, ait olduklar› sosyal çevre ne
olursa olsun, çeflitli flekillerde fliddet yaflad›¤›n› fark ettik.
‹nsandan, insan haklar›ndan yana oldu¤unu söyleyip kad›n›n insan haklar›n›, cinsler aras›ndaki eflitsizli¤i görmezden gelmenin, cinsiyetçili¤e nas›l
hizmet etti¤ini fark›na vard›k. Tam da bu nedenle muhalif oldu¤unu iddia
eden pek çok kifli ve kuruluflun kad›nlara, kad›n çal›flmalar›na, feminizme
yaklafl›m biçimleriyle sistemle nas›l da bütünlefltiklerini, asl›nda muhalif
olmak flöyle dursun, cinsiyetçili¤in savunucular› olduklar›n› ac›yla fark ettik.
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Önemli bireysel fark›ndal›klar yaflasak da, cinsiyetçi sistemin kifliliklerimizde
yaratt›¤› derin tahribat› bütünüyle görmenin tek bafl›na üstesinden
kalk›lamayacak bir ifl oldu¤unu anlad›k. Üstelik hiyerarfli, rekabet, ayr›mc›l›k
ve ‘kiflisel’ sorunlar›n mahremiyet alan›nda tutulmas› gibi davran›fl biçimlerinin sürekli yeniden üretildi¤ini, bu tehlikelerin bir ç›rp›da fark edilip
de¤ifltirilemeyece¤ini ö¤rendik.
Böylece hem destek ve dayan›flma aç›s›ndan hem de karfl›l›kl› ö¤renme süreci aç›s›ndan kolektif çal›flman›n önemini fark ettik.
Biz, eflit iliflkiler kuramad›kça, rekabet duygular›m›z› alt etmedikçe,
ayr›mc›l›¤›n nas›l da incelikli biçimlere bürünebilece¤ini görmedikçe, çevremizdekilere aç›k davran›p olumlu olumsuz elefltiriler getirmedikçe, onlar›n
bize söyleyeceklerini dinlemeye haz›r olmad›kça, her zaman cinsiyetçili¤i
yeniden üretme riski tafl›d›¤›m›z› fark ettik.
Gelenekselleflmifl de¤erlerin, bizi nesnelefltirmeyi hedefleyen cinsiyetçi
de¤erler oldu¤unu, her birini eksiksiz bir biçimde sorgulamam›z ve
dönüfltürmemiz gerekti¤ini fark ettik.
Çünkü yeni bir dünya hayal etmenin, kendimizi yeniledikçe mümkün olabilece¤inin bilincine vard›k. Yarg›lamayan, afla¤›lamayan, emretmeyen, reçete
vermeyen yeni birer insan olmak, empatiye dayal› bir dil ve davran›fl tarz›
oluflturmak için çaba harcamaya bafllad›k.
Hangi düflünce ve davran›fl kal›plar›n›n bizi nas›l esir ald›¤›n› gözler önüne
sermekten utanmad›k. Onlar›n bize biçilen rollerin sonucu oldu¤unun, her
birini sorgulamadan kabul etti¤imizin, sorgulama sürecinin feminizmle
mümkün oldu¤unun ay›rd›na vard›k.
Geleneksel de¤erlerin pek ço¤unun fliddete boyun e¤meye, itaat etmeye
neden olan, kat›l›mc›l›¤›, fleffafl›¤›, bireysel geliflimi engelleyen, eflitsizli¤i
yeniden üreten de¤erler oldu¤unu fark ettik.
Feminizm bu uzun yolculuk s›ras›nda merakl› olmam›z› sa¤lad›. Bu merak
sayesinde farkl› kimliklerimizi tan›d›k. Tekkimliklili¤in daralm›fll›¤›ndan kurtulup çokkimlikli olman›n zenginli¤ini yaflamaya bafllad›k.
Fark etmenin ve de¤ifltirmenin büyüsüne kap›larak, giderek ço¤ald›k ve
büyüdük. fiiddetin biz güçlendikçe zay›flayaca¤›n›, dünyan›n biz de¤ifltikçe
de¤iflece¤ini ö¤rendik.
KAMER’den notlar - 145
Fark ettiklerimizi, ö¤rendiklerimizi erkeklerle paylaflmaya bafllad›k. Onlara
maruz kald›¤›m›z fliddet biçimlerini aç›klad›k. Erkekli¤i nas›l alg›lad›klar›n›,
nas›l yaflad›klar›n› kendileriyle konufltuk.
Konufltukça cinsiyetçili¤in dünyaya hâkim olan büyük bir politika oldu¤unu
fark ediyoruz. Militarizm ve cinsiyetçili¤in nas›l iç içe geçti¤ini, birbirini
besleyerek yeniden yaratt›¤›n› görmekteyiz.
Fark ettiklerimizden bazen korkuyoruz. Bazen yapt›klar›m›z›n yetmedi¤ini
düflünüp daha etkili, daha büyük fleyler yapmak gerekti¤ini düflünüyoruz. Her
seferinde bir süre bocalay›p durakl›yoruz. Ama her seferinde, yapt›¤›m›z iflin tek
flans›m›z oldu¤unu kabul edip, yenilenerek, yeniden bafll›yoruz.
Hiyerarflinin, ayr›mc›l›¤›n, fliddetin olmad›¤›, paylafl›m ve dayan›flman›n,
fleffafl›¤›n, kat›l›mc›l›¤›n, haktan ve hakl›dan yana olman›n esas oldu¤u bir
dünya için feminizmin vazgeçilmez oldu¤unu biliyoruz.
Biz art›k, bir, befl, on de¤il, binlerce kad›n olduk. Feminizmle yolculu¤umuz
sürüyor. Yolculu¤umuz s›ras›nda ço¤al›yoruz.
Bu yolun uzun ve zor oldu¤unu biliyoruz.
Türkiye’nin ve dünyan›n bütün sorunlar›n›n, bizim de sorunumuz
oldu¤unu fark ettik. Tüm bu sorunlar›n çözümünün, bizim de kat›l›m›m›zla
mümkün olabilece¤ini biliyoruz. Bu nedenle daha fazla görmeye, düflünmeye,
ço¤almaya, de¤ifltirmeye çal›fl›yoruz.
05.02.2007
Nebahat Akkoç
KAMER
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Kad›n Olmak
Kad›nl›¤› ö¤renirken büyükannelerimizin miras›n› kullanm›fl›z. Onlar›n
ezberleriyle yo¤rulmufluz...
Elektri¤in olmad›¤› karanl›k gecelerde, bazen üç gece süren masallar dinlerdik çocukken. Babaannem, anneannem, annelerinden ö¤rendikleri masallar› anlat›rken, me¤er ne gizli mesajlar yüklenirmifl ruhuma. fiimdi her gün
yeniden fark ediyorum bu yükleri.
“Sak›n ha!” diyordu her mesaj, “e¤er çizgiyi aflarsan yanars›n, can›n yanar,
hatta ölürsün!”
Bana ibret olsun diye hikâyeler a¤dal› a¤dal› anlat›l›rken, kula¤›mdan
süzülüp beynime ifllenirdi en geleneksel ezberler.
Bu masallardan birini hiç unutmuyorum.
“Bir varm›fl bir yokmufl. Uzun y›llar önce zengin bir a¤an›n yan›nda çal›flan
bir aile varm›fl. Bu ailenin büyük k›z› Hazal, abisiyle birlikte çobanl›k
yaparm›fl. Hazal bir gün, abisiyle hayvan otlat›rken susam›fl, testiyi doldurup
kana kana içmifl. Su içerken, suyla birlikte testideki bir y›lan yavrusunu da
yuttu¤unun fark›na bile varmam›fl. Zamanla karn› büyümeye bafllam›fl.
Herkes onun hamile oldu¤unu düflünmüfl. Babas› “Bu çocu¤u nereden peydahlad›n? Art›k bafl›m›z dik gezemeyiz. A¤ada duyarsa bizi köyden kovar.”
demifl. Ailesi namuslar›n› temizlemek için abisini Hazal’› öldürmesi için
görevlendirmifl. Hazal ne derse desin ona inanan olmam›fl. Abisi k›z kardeflini
öldürmek istemiyormufl. Bu duruma ne kadar üzülürse üzülsün, k›z kardeflini
öldürmeye mecburmufl. Hazal’› gecenin karanl›¤›nda at›n s›rt›na atarak yola
koyulmufl. Sessizce köyden uzaklaflm›fllar. Hazal abisine “Abi beni öldürmek
için götürüyorsun de¤il mi?” diye sormufl. Abisi bu sorusuna cevap verememifl.
KAMER’den notlar - 147
Hazal tekrar abisine “Beni öldürece¤ini biliyorum. Senden son bir iste¤im var,
her zaman gitti¤imiz derenin kenar›na gidip dizinde uymak istiyorum. Daha
sonra bana istedi¤ini yapabilirsin.” demifl. Abisi bunu kabul etmifl, Hazal’›n
iste¤ini yerine getirmifl. Hazal onun dizinde uyurken, k›z kardeflini üzgün
üzgün izlemifl. Sonra aniden dere coflmufl ve sular Hazal’›n karn›ndaki y›lan›
ça¤›rm›fl. Hazal kusmaya bafllam›fl. A¤z›ndan kocaman bir y›lan ç›km›fl ve
dereye süzülmüfl. Bunu izleyen abisi hemen köye dönüp olanlar› herkese
anlatm›fl. Ve k›z kardeflini öldürmedi¤i için flükretmifl. Hazal’›n hayat› kurtulmufl.”
Çocuklu¤umda buna benzer bir sürü masal dinledim. Ne kadar masum
görünüyor de¤il mi bu masallar?
Cinsiyetçi sistemin istedi¤i gibi bir kad›n olmam için herkes elinden geleni
yapt›.
Kad›n olmaya ad›m att›¤›m dönemlerde, yaflad›¤›m yerde kad›nlar›n ellerine yüzlerine yapt›rd›klar› dövmelere özenirdim. Halam›n elindeki üç noktal›
dövmeden ben de yapt›rmak isterdim. Bir gün sordum bu üç noktan›n
anlam›n›. Birinci nokta “görmedim”, ikinci nokta “duymad›m”, üçüncü
nokta da “bilmiyorum” anlam›na gelirmifl. “Hayat›n boyunca elindeki bu
dövmeye bakarsan bu kurallar› hep hat›rlar ve unutmazs›n” dedi halam. Bu
“itaat” etmenin resmedilmifl haliydi. Görmeyeceksin, duymayacaks›n ve
bilmeyeceksin. Yani asl›nda hiç olmayacaks›n.
Dü¤ünler ihtiflamla geçerdi. Gelinlere çok güzel elbiseler giydirilir ve bir
sürü alt›n tak›l›rd›. Yine her fley bitmifl, hayat›n sonu gelmifl kadar üzgün
görünürlerdi. Bence evlenmek güzel bir fleydi. Gelinler neden bu kadar üzgün
olurdu anlam veremezdim. KAMER’in grup çal›flmas›na kat›ld›¤›m zaman ilk
fark edifllerimle buldum cevab›n›. Kad›n evlenerek “Sürekli hizmet edecek,
do¤uracak, itaat edecek, bambaflka, çok daha zor bir mücadeleye bafllayacakt›.” Belki birçok gözyafl› buna akt›. Zaten “aflk” en yasak meseleydi kad›n
için. Ya hiç olmad› ya da yüreklerde gizli yafland›...
Dünyaya tafllaflm›fl bir zarla kapl›yken, kemikleflmiflken hayatta birçok
kural, s›n›rlar b›çak s›rt› keskinken... yani böyle gelmifl ve böyle gidecekken
KAMER’le tan›flt›m. Böyle gitmemeliydi. Sordum, sorgulad›m ve fark ettim...
Dünya asl›nda bana ö¤retilen de¤ildi.
Kad›n olmak ö¤retilmiflti bana kad›nl›¤›m çal›narak. fiimdi geri al›yorum
benden al›nan her duyguyu, her mutlulu¤u, gücümü, hayallerimi... Ve
KAMER’de di¤er kad›nlarla paylafl›yorum fark ettiklerimi.
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Her birimiz bir di¤erimizle paylaflarak ço¤al›yoruz. Kendi dünyam›z›
yarat›yoruz var olan tüm ezberlere inat...
Sacide Akkaya
KAMER’den notlar - 149
Ben bir kad›n›m
Ben bir kad›n›m. Hayallerim Mezopotamya kadar genifl, dünyam küçük bir
bar›nak. Daha beflikteyken yaz›lm›fl kaderime inat nefes al›yorum. Kimi zaman
›fl›klar görüyorum çok uzaklarda. Ama ad›mlar›m say›l›. Aflarsam ›fl›k atefl olur
ben yanar›m! ‹flte ondand›r yüzy›llard›r ayn› çemberin içinde yaflamam. Tarlada
çal›fl›rken tafla oturur dalar›m, düflünür hayal kurar›m. Ruhum dünyay› gezer,
umutlar›m kristalden flehirler kurar. Ayaklar›mda yeni pabuçlar üzerimde
önlü¤üm... Bir doktor olurum hastanede, ölen bebe¤imi kurtaran ya da hâkim
olurum bana karfl› ifllenen bütün suçlar› yarg›layan. Derinden sert bir ses duyar,
irkilir, toparlan›r›m hemen, dönerim tarlaya. S›rt›mda çuval›m ve korkar›m
“düflündüklerim duyuldu mu” diye. Yürürüm ter içinde yüzüm güneflte k›zararak
ve dua ederim kalbimin her at›fl›nda, kaderim k›z›ma miras kalmas›n diye...
Ben bir kad›n›m; tohumunda bile eme¤im var yedi¤im ekme¤in. Nedendir
bilmem sofrada kocamdan sonra yerim. Ete¤imin boyu uzun, dilim k›sad›r.
Suskunlu¤um töredendir. Töre nedir bilir misiniz? O sinsi küçük bir taflt›r, yüksek kayal›kl› karl› bir da¤a düflen. Kayd›kça ço¤al›r, yuvarland›kça a¤›rlafl›r ve
ezer. Ans›z›nd›r. Sesini son anda duyars›n›z. Derdi kad›nlad›r, ama pazarl›¤›
erkekle yapar. Hükmü kesindir. Cehaletle beslenir. Ifl›¤›n, güneflin oldu¤u yerde
inceden akan bu su olur sadece. Orada yaflamakt›r en büyük dile¤im...
Ben bir genç k›z›m. Bakmay›n bu kirli çarflaf›n içinde, darac›k yerde sessiz
sedas›z, hareketsiz yatt›¤›ma. Bir zamanlar karanl›k gecedeki Mardin kadar
parlak, ›fl›l ›fl›ld› giysilerim. ‹çim içime s›¤mazd›, gitti¤im her yerin neflesiydim.
Bu renksiz soluksuz yüzüme kanmay›n, en güzeliydim mahallemizin. Bir gün
zavall› bir ceylan gibi düfltüm pusuya. O kirli el bana dokundukça parçaland›
dünya! Duyan olmad› sesimi. Gece a¤lad› halime. Sonra... Sonra siyahs›n
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dediler. Art›k kapkaras›n! Y›kamakla ç›kmazd› kirim. Tek çare kan›md› bu
pisli¤e. Ans›z›n s›k›ld› kurflun. Ben öldükçe o yaflad›. Ben yok oldukça var oldu
namus. Babam evimizin duvar›n› beyaza, mezar›m› siyaha boyad›. Aklanm›flt›.
Bana kimse gül göndermedi yaflarken. Aflk›n› söyleyen olmad›. Ama dün gece
sessizce bir el titreyerek çiçekler b›rakt› uyudu¤um topra¤a. Topra¤›m dinledi
onu sessizce... Ve ben hiç âfl›k olmad›m...
Ben bir gelindim. Öyle büyük bir dü¤ündü ki bizimki, öylesi bir daha görülmedi. Çad›rlar kuruldu ovaya, yemekler verildi ahaliye. Halaylar s›¤mad› meydanlara. Bir k›srak kadar güçlü, bir kelebek kadar kusursuzdum. Öyle çok alt›n
tak›lm›flt› ki güneflten daha parlakt›m. Ad›m atar atmaz yeni yuvama, kaynanam
bir çocuk verdi kuca¤›ma. Ayn›s›ndan benim de olsun diye. Öyle ya kad›n demek
döl demek bizim memlekette. Zamanla müjdeli haberi bekler oldu herkes. Ve ben
kara k›fl›n günefli bekledi¤i gibi bekledim aylarca. Olmuyordu. A¤açlara dilek
ba¤lad›m. Tütsüler yakt›m, kurflunlar döktürdüm, adaklar adad›m. Çare olmad›.
Bu toprak k›raç, döl vermez dediler... Ve bir gün kocam ödeyip bafll›¤›, getirdi
kumam› bizim eve. fiimdi yata¤›mda yaln›z, unutulmufl. Diri bir vücutta, yafll›
bir ruh art›k benimkisi. Hiçbir zaman kendime ait bir fleyim olmad›, yine de
dertlenmedim buna. Ama kocam› paylaflmak bedel bin bir ölüme...
Ben bir anneydim. S›ral› da¤lar›n aras›na konmufltu evimiz, bahçemiz. Bin
bir kokulu çiçekler, ça¤layanlar vard› köyümüzde. fiafakla inerdik bahçeye,
akflamla eve dönerdik. Her tafl›, her otu bizimdi. Gökte parlayan günefli bile. Hiç
üzmedi toprak bizi, çocuklar›m›z›n anas›yd›, bir verir on al›rd›k... Zamanla
gö¤e yavafl yavafl kara bulutlar toplanmaya bafllad›. Art›k insanlar birbirini
yak›yorlard› yükseklerde. Ça¤layanlar k›z›l akmaya bafllad›. Geceler kâbustu
art›k. Öyle bir kâbustu ki can pazar›yd› gerçekte. Ve bir gece cehennem kesildi
cennet. Sesler kayalara çarp›p ci¤erlere sapland›. Anlamad›¤›m bir sürü ad›
olan bir savaflt› bu. Öyle bir yang›nd› ki bu, gözyafl› yetmedi söndürmeye.
Kufllar, y›lanlar, ç›yanlar, koyunlar yavrular›n› b›rak›p kaçt›lar ya da kavruldular o gece. Elleri avucumda eridi yavrumun. Hiçbir dua, hiçbir feryat yetmedi o
küçük kalbi diriltmeye... Günefl dumanla do¤du o sabah. Kül kesilmiflti dünya.
“Gidin” dediler... Yola koyulduk; anne, baba, teyze, genç, yafll›. Yan›m›za
sadece geçmiflimizi alabildik. Gelecek mi? o art›k yoktu. Önümüzde tek bir yol
vard› bilinmezli¤e giden. fiimdiyse gözleri ba¤lanm›fl güvercinler gibi
çarp›yoruz oradan oraya, yuvas›z ve bilinmeyen adreslerde...
Nilgün Y›ld›r›m
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Böyle geldi diye böyle mi gitmeli?
Biz henüz anne karn›ndayken annemizin yaflad›¤› fliddetten nasibimizi alarak
hayata ad›m at›yoruz. Annemiz inciniyor, öfkeleniyor, ama içine at›yor. Çünkü
SUSMASI, KABUL ETMES‹ ö¤retilmifl ona. Annemizin bu ruh hali bizi de etkiliyor. Belki de ilk o zaman ürkmeye bafll›yoruz. K‹MB‹L‹R?
Sonra dünyaya geliyoruz ve ortal›kta bir sessizlik: “k›z oldu” sessizli¤i. Biraz
daha büyüyünce “k›zs›n konuflma, ay›pt›r” deniyor.
Sürekli bast›r›l›yorsun. Konuflmak, fikir üretebilmek, duygular›n› dile getirebilmek gibi bir hakk›n OLDU⁄UNDAN B‹LE HABER‹N OLMUYOR. Okula gidebilsen bile bin bir bask› yaflars›n. Çünkü k›zs›n; gülmemelisin,
konuflmamal›s›n, gezmemelisin, kütüphaneye bile gidemezsin sonra etraf ne
der? Ali’nin k›z› yolda güldü, konufltu, çok geziyor derler. Ay›plarlar. “Han›m
k›z” olmal›s›n.
Sonra bir gün birileri gelip seni ailenden ister. Sana sormazlar, sorsalar bile
bir fley diyemezsin-dememelisin. Zaten büyükler do¤ru karar verir der
düflünmezsin. Çocuk yaflta evlendirilirsin. Bu defa da birinin kar›s› olarak
“yaflamaya” devam edersin. Kocan›n sözünden ç›kmazsan, itaat edersen, her
fley onun ve ailelerin iste¤i do¤rultusunda olursa sorun yoktur.
Ama senin içini kemiren, yolunda olmayan bir fleyler oldu¤unu hissedersin.
‹çinde sürekli bir çat›flma vard›r.
E¤er bir gün cesaretini toplar da hissettiklerini ifade edersen yand›n gitti.
“Sen eskiden melektin ne oldu flimdi sana” derler.
Ürkmeye bafllarlar.
Buna birileri ö¤retiyor, çok fazla televizyon izliyor, bu kad›n›n dili uzad›,
aya¤›n› çok uzat›yor derler.
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Uzayan dil kesilmeli, ayak k›r›lmal›. Böyle gelmifl böyle gitmeli. Olmaz,
böyle olmaz derler.
Bu çal›flman›n içinde olup, hem kad›n olarak yaflad›klar›m›z hem de baflka
kad›nlar›n yaflad›klar›n› yak›ndan hissetmek, sürekli yeni fark›ndal›klar
yaflamay› ve daha çok sorgulamay› sa¤l›yor.
Sorguluyorsun ama neyi ve kimi?
Bize ö¤retilenleri,
Ninelerimize, dedelerimize, annelerimize, babalar›m›za ve topluma
ö¤retilenleri,
Kad›nlara uygulanan her türlü fliddeti,
Kölelikten kalma ça¤d›fl› uygulamalar›, cezaland›rma yöntemlerini,
“Namus” kisvesi alt›nda kad›nlar›n “yarg›lanarak” öldürülmelerini.
Ama en korkunç olan› bu cinayetlerin bu kadar kan›ksanm›fl ve
normallefltirilmifl olmas› de¤il mi?
Bir gün, ölüm karar› verilmifl bir baflvuruya refakat ediyordum. Kocas›n›n
bizi takip etti¤ini fark ettik. Bir yandan adam›n kad›n› görmemesi için siper
olup yüzünü kapatmaya çal›fl›rken di¤er yandan savafl› anlatan belgesel film
kareleri geçmeye bafllad› gözlerimin önünden.
“Neden?” diye bir kez daha sordum kendime, “böyle olmamal›” diye isyan
ettim. Ad› konulmam›fl bir savafl gibi. Öldürülenler ve öldürenler var. Ama
dünyan›n her yerinde öldürülenler ço¤unlukla kad›nlar. Sadece cinayetin ad›
de¤ifliyor. Burada ad›na “namus cinayeti”, dünyan›n baflka bir yerinde “tutku,
k›skançl›k, aflk cinayeti” diyorlar.
Bizler, bu çal›flmay› yürütürken sadece kad›nlar›n insanca yaflamas› için
de¤il toplumsal de¤iflim ve dönüflüm için çaba harc›yoruz.
De¤iflimin kad›nlardan, kad›nlar›n konumunun de¤iflmesinden bafllayarak
mümkün olabilece¤ini biliyoruz. Bu nedenle bu sorun sadece kad›nlar›n
sorunu de¤il tüm insanl›¤›n sorunu. Bu sorun ancak ö¤retilenlerin sorgulanmas›yla, ezberlerin bozulmas›yla, zihniyetlerin ve cinsiyetçi sistemin
de¤iflmesiyle mümkün olacakt›r.
Kolay olmayacak, zor ve sanc›l› olacak, ama geriye dönüp on y›ll›k sürecimize bak›nca tüm zorluk ve engellere ra¤men kat etti¤imiz yolu görmek çok
umutland›r›yor. fiiddetsiz bir dünya ümidiyle...
Vildan Ayçiçek
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VI
Kad›n Merkezleri için irtibat bilgileri
Ad›yaman KAMER
Tel: 0416 213 42 21
Adres: Atatürk Cad. Havuz bafl› Apt. 2/1 Belediye Karfl›s›
E-mail:[email protected]
Ardahan KAMER
Tel:0478 211 22 03
Adres: Kaptan Pafla Mah. Cumhuriyet Cad. No:69/7
E-mail:[email protected]
Bingöl KAMER
Tel: 0426 214 50 01
Adres: Saray Mah. ‹flgören Otomotiv yan› Temel yap› karfl›s›/Düza¤aç
E-mail: [email protected]
Diyarbak›r KAMER
Tel: 0412 224 32 45
Fax: 0412 224 23 19
Adres: Ali Emiri 3. Sok. Es-fial Apt.1/3 Yeniflehir
E-mail: [email protected]
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A¤r› KAMER
TEL: 0472 215 10 15
Adres: Cumhuriyet Cad. Yavuz Mah. Bulut ‹fl Merkezi 5/10
E-mail:[email protected]
Batman KAMER
Tel: 0488 213 96 77
Fax: 0488 214 73 49
Adres: Ayd›n Aslan Cad. P›narbafl› Mah. No:61
E-mail: [email protected]
Elaz›¤ KAMER
Tel: 0424 218 93 59
Adres: ‹zzet Pafla Camii Arkas› Polatlar-2 ‹fl Merkezi 4/4
E-mail: [email protected]
Erzincan KAMER
Tel: 0446 223 46 96
Adres: ‹nönü Mah. Recep Yaz›c›o¤lu Cad. Çiçek Apt. 1/3
E-mail: [email protected]
Gaziantep KAMER
Tel: 0342 336 83 30
Adres: Kavakl›k Mah. A.Apayd›n Cad. Park Apt. 2/5
E-mail: [email protected]
I¤d›r KAMER
Tel: 0476 227 19 94
Adres: Evren Pafla Cad. Topçular Mah. Tatl› Sok. Fahri Günefl Apt. No.1
E-mail: ›¤d›[email protected]
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Kilis KAMER
Adres: Afl›t Mah. Saliho¤lu Sok. No.12
E-mail: [email protected]
Mardin KAMER
Tel: 0482 212 23 53
Adres: Yenikent Cad. Atilla Apt. 1/3 Yeniflehir
E-mail: [email protected]
Siirt KAMER
Tel: 0484 224 34 94
Adres: Bahçelievler Mah. Hami Efendi Cad. Erden Apt. 1/5
E-mail: [email protected]
fi›rnak KAMER
Tel: 0486 216 50 70
Adres: Atatürk Mah. Atatürk Cad. Polis Karakolu Yan› 1/1
E-mail: [email protected]
Erzurum KAMER
Tel: 0442 234 50 55
Adres: Demir evler Gez Mah. 50. Y›l Cad. Dursuno¤ullar› Apt. 2/4
E-mail: [email protected]
Adres: Yusufpafla Mah. Gazi Ahmet Muhtar Pafla Cad. No:74
E-mail: [email protected]
Malatya KAMER
Tel: 0422 324 05 67
Adres: ‹smetiye Mah. Bölükemin 2. Sok. Yaflar Kardefller ‹fl Merkezi 4/40
E-mail: [email protected]
Mufl KAMER
Tel: 0436 212 33 14
Adres: Eski Hal Civar› Kültür Mah. Galeri Mufl Kat:4
E-mail: Mufl[email protected]
fianl›urfa KAMER
Tel: 0414 313 95 56
Adres: Bahçeli evler Mah. 11. Sok. Marmara Apt. No.2
E-mail: [email protected]
Tunceli KAMER
Tel: 0428 212 44 31
Adres: Mo¤oltay Mah. K›br›s Sok. Kur Apt. 2/4
E-mail: [email protected]
Hakkari KAMER
Tel: 0438 211 00 07
Adres: Kayacan Cad. Özel ‹dare Karfl›s› Cindio¤lu Apt. 1/1
E-mail:[email protected]
Kars KAMER
Tel: 0474 212 80 59
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WE CAN STOP THIS
KA-MER
KILLINGS COMMITTED IN THE NAME OF “HONOR”
2006 REPORT
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I
GOOD NEWS from
2006
The Office of the Prime Minister issued a circular.
From the Office of the Prime Minister:
SUBJECT: Actions to be Taken to Prevent Violence Against Children and
Women, and Murders Deriving from Traditional Codes and Honor.
CIRCULAR
2006/17
Violence against women and children is something that is being followed with
apprehension by all humanity. The most horrifying version of this kind of violence is the one consisting of murders of women, for reasons popularly ascribed
to “a code of honor” and commonly referred to as “töre cinayeti.”1 The fact
that in Turkey there is violence being used against women and children makes
it necessary for new and urgent measures to be taken. The duty and responsibility for solving these problems that will disappear as the level of education and
consciousness rises together with economic progress and development, rests
1- The Turkish Language Institute (TDK-Türk Dil Kurumu) defines töre as “the entirety of the
ways of behaviour and living, rules, customs and practices, mutual habits and methods of action
adopted by and established within a community,” or alternatively “the ethical attitudes and behavior of a society.” “Töre killing” has a separate entry that can be translated as follows: “In some regions, the killing of someone, usually a young girl or woman, by a member of her family
in accordance with a verdict reached by the family council, due to the girl or woman’s failure to
obey the dictates of töre.” (All definitions translated from the Turkish definitions found on
www.tdk.gov.tr.)
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with all citizens and non-governmental organizations (NGOs), as well as with
public institutions and organizations.
Turkish Parliament felt the need to do something about this phenomenon,
which is a social shame, and following its decree number 853, dated 28 June
2005, a commission to study this problem was formed. This commission has
concluded its studies and has prepared a wide-ranging report defining the reasons for violence against women and children and the measures that can be
adopted to prevent this kind of violence.
The proposals for measures to be taken on this matter, which have been formulated by said commission and adopted by our government, and the state
bodies responsible for their application, have been indicated in the attached
lists. The duty of coordinating the application of these proposals has been
assigned to the General Directorate of Social Services and Child Protection in
the case of violence against children, and the General Directorate of the Status
of Women in the case of violence against women and töre or honor killings.
Activities—for each of which the responsible bodies and institutions that
have to operate in coordination with said bodies have been indicated, and which
have the aim of applying the measures adopted—will begin immediately in
cooperation with the General Directorates that have been appointed as coordinators. Detailed activity reports prepared by responsible bodies, for all matters
within the scope of their responsibility, will be sent to the coordinating institution every three months.
Please be informed and act accordingly.
Recep Tayyip ERDO⁄AN
Prime Minister
There are women’s centers in all of Southeastern
and Eastern Anatolia.
The women’s centers in 23 provinces of Southeastern and Eastern Anatolia
are active in 89 districts.
Activities are being run on the subject of murders carried out in the name of
honor, in all of the women’s centers in these two areas.
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Interest towards independent women’s initiatives has
increased.
Requests by men to support women’s activities and to participate in such
work have increased.
The 73 women who have asked for KAMER’s help this year
are still alive.
Seminars on the subject of violence against women are being organized at
the high school and at elementary school levels.
The interest of educational institutions towards violence against women has
increased. Many students have received support for their theses and other research.
A CD by Ayflegül, who is a Turkish folk music singer, made up of songs telling
about cases of violence against women, has been released. She held concerts
organized by the KAMER Foundation in Diyarbak›r, Mardin, and Batman.
Mehtap K›z›lkan
KAMER
First of all, we tried to understand what we realized and what we did not realize. By means of self-confidence we struggled with problems that we were having at a family level and we managed to say, “Hey, we, too, are present; we, too,
exist.” And what is more important we questioned the existing roles attributed
to males and females, tried to solve the problems arising from this distinction,
and realized that if we had the will, we could overcome certain problems.
The determination of women volunteers increased our determination as well.
Gaziantep KAMER
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Communication
I was living such a hectic life that I’d lost count of the days spent running
between work and home. At times this made me shy, nervous, and bewildered.
My shop was frequented by neighborhood women. Once I overheard two customers talking.
One of them was saying to the other, “I participated in a group activity organized by KAMER and the wall between my daughter and myself began to crumble.” While the other said, “I made some great friends.”
I became curious. What were they talking about? I approached them, told them
that I had inadvertently overheard their conversation, and asked about the details
of what they had been talking about. The next day I called the number they had
given me. I told the voice on the phone that I wanted to participate in group workshops. They told me that they would admit me in a newly formed group.
The appointment was for two days later, and I went. The subject was communication. What was I going to do here, what was I going to share with them,
what business did I have here? I had decided to attend on the spur of the
moment. Just as I was thinking that I should leave, I found we had all sat down,
facing each other. I realized that everybody was curious about me. I got excited
upon hearing a soft voice saying, “Could you tell us about yourself?” and so I
briefly introduced myself.
Everybody was sincere, respectful, and not at all reticent in providing examples from their own lives. I was listening, but at times also blurting out the mistakes I had done. And so the day ended. I went home. My husband asked me why
I had not gone to work, and I told him. He was very angry, and told me not to
attend the workshop again. “God knows what they’ll put in your mind.” I felt
obliged to say, “All right, I shan’t go.” What else could I do? When a week had
elapsed and it was time for another meeting though, I could not keep myself
from going. The subject was communication once more. This time we shared
with each other the way we deprived our loved ones from hearing the word
“love,” which seemed to us so difficult to pronounce, as if we were going to suffocate or sound weak by saying it. I made a confession to my friends. In my 12
years as a married woman, I had never told my husband, “I love you.’’ I told
them that I was going to say it on that very day. As soon as the meeting ended,
I ran home. My husband was at home and very nervous to boot. He asked me
where I had been. I held his hand and told him, “I love you.” I looked into his
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eyes and saw that they were sparkling. “I always felt this love, but deprived you
from hearing it. I am sorry for this.” He embraced me and with the delicateness
of wind whispering music in my ears said, “I love you, too.’’ I held him close to
me. He held my hands and, looking deeply into my eyes, he said, “I’m so lucky
to have you with me.” He then grew serious and said, “I am sorry that I tried to
prevent you from participating in your meeting. I prohibited it, but that meeting brought me your words of love. From now on you can attend with no worry.
I’ll see that you are not missed at work.” I was very happy. How was this week
going to pass? I had to share all of this with my friends as soon as possible. All
excited, but sure of myself, I fell into a sweet slumber.
Ad›yaman branch of KAMER
Tülay Aktemir
“GOODNESS...”
I am thinking about what “good” happened last year - I think I am someone
who approaches life from a positive perspective, but at times this is difficult,
even for me! Nevertheless, I can certainly name a few things: Meeting women
from all corners of Turkey, within the context of the “Campaign for Tomorrow,
Starting from Today,” was one such example. We had the opportunity to
observe the enthusiasm, devotion, and intelligence with which women carried
out their activities everywhere; it was truly magnificent... (A pessimist would
immediately add: “There is one additional thing to prevent all this effort from
being for naught, and that is reuniting all these women and turning their activities into a common voice, statement, and action—all of which requires a
stronger organizing network...” However, a pessimist should be reminded of
this: “Would you even have imagined all of this ten years ago? Isn’t it wonderful to find feminist groups, even if small, in the most unexpected places?”)
I think that another one of the “good things” that happened last year was the
creation of the Amargi magazine. Because it provides women like us, who are
always struggling, even though we may at times lose hope, get tired, lose our
way, or feel isolated, with an important reference point. For me it is a kind of
lighthouse—even though it is somewhere else, I gravitate towards it, I can find
my bearings by looking at it. In the past few years many of us realized how
essential and vital feminist theory was; it is difficult to progress without it.
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ic approach, but rather by formulating a political attitude. I hope that we shall
go on, and that as we do so, we manage to grow and become enriched as individuals and as groups...
Aksu Bora
If Sevgi Soysal had been alive, we probably would have organized an enormous 70th birthday party for her in 2006. Unfortunately, she died 30 years ago,
when she was only 40 years old, but before leaving the mortal world she left us
with some beautiful presents: Tante Rosa, Yürümek, fiafak, Bar›fl Adl› Çocuk,
Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu... I was once more swaying between feelings
of marvel and admiration when I reread Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu
(Women’s Section of Y›ld›r›m Bolge), with Oya Baydar’s preface, in which Sevgi
describes the 8 months in 1971 that she spent at the Y›ld›r›m Area Penitentiary.
Sevgi Soysal questions on the one hand the way military authorities attribute a
“soldier-prisoner” status to them, and on the other the “soldier-militant” and
“soldier-woman” status attributed to them by the left itself. In other words, as a
woman against all kinds of “regimentation,” Sevgi Soysal is the forerunner of
the position that nowadays we call “feminist anti-militarist.” Now, I’d like to let
her speak for herself, as I quote from her here and enthusiastically advise everybody to read Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu and her other books:
“The idea of exercising collectively during our time outdoors was adopted by
the ‘Dawn’ group. The prisoners form a big circle in the courtyard and exercise
all together... As the members of the ‘Dawn’ group are exercising, Gülay
becomes annoyed. ‘Girls, this is crass behavior, doing this in front of the soldiers—our people don’t approve of such things...’ Nina finds that this view of
Gülay’s bears the remnants of feudal morality. The group puts an end to the
gymnastics. The male prisoners of Y›ld›r›m Bölge also seem to disapprove of
gymnastics. They have sent word, ‘Tell the girls to drop this gymnastics nonsense.’ This was what annoyed me most. ‘Why do you have to keep following
what the men are saying, don’t you have a mind of your own?’ Clearly, these
views of mine are considered ‘feminist.’” (p.192)
“The cruelty that cannot reach deeply enough to oppress our thoughts and
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our hearts, is constantly busying itself with the way we look. Having us stand at
attention at every occasion is part of this. During roll calls ‘attention, fall into
line,’ during recreation time ‘attention, fall into line,’ when we are going to get
paid, ‘attention, fall into line,’ when we are going to the doctor, ‘attention, fall
into line,’ when we are going to court, ‘attention, fall into line,’ when we are
going to the showers, ‘attention, fall into line’; however, as it always happens
when you exaggerate, these ‘attention’ commands lose their potency as times
goes by. Who can make our hearts and thoughts fall into line? Who can have
them stand at attention? And that’s what really matters.” (p. 206)
Sevgi Soysal, Y›ld›r›m Bölge Kad›nlar Ko¤uflu, ‹letiflim Yay›nlar›, Istanbul,
2003.
Ayfle Gül Alt›nay
The Women’s Fund of the Women Entrepreneurs Association of Turkey
kicked off the year 2006 with a campaign to say “No to Violence Against
Women” and decided also to support all activities in this field by calling for
further related projects. By stressing during the campaign the fact that violence against women is an infringement upon women’s rights, the Women’s
Fund aimed to make increase public sensitivity towards this matter, and also
to materially support NGOs active in this field.
Establishing a sufficient juridical base for the prevention of violence
against women, monitoring practices, and ensuring a transformation of the
mentality throughout society are among the main activities of the women’s
movement. In Turkey there is no statistical database to show us the scope of
violence and to help plan activities for the prevention of violence.
The Circular issued by the Prime Minister’s Office on 5th July is an important development, because with this circular the measures to be taken and the
participating and responsible bodies have been established. Undoubtedly this
circular is an important step; however, what is not clear is the way responsible bodies will run these activities, the monitoring mechanisms of these activities, the way the General Directorate of the Status of Women, which is the
coordinating body, will coordinate these activities from the point of view of
human resources and the budget, and the role to be played by women’s NGOs
as interested social parties. In order to ensure implementation of the circular,
it is imperative that these definitions are completed and, most of all, that a
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budget is determined.
In Turkey, not only is there no wide-ranging policy for women, but there is
also no sex-based social budget. However, the steps taken by the government
during 2006 on this matter, and the fact that these activities have become
more visible by having been introduced into the agenda of the government
thanks to the women’s movement, are both positive accomplishments. Yet
there are serious problems both from a juridical point of view (the fact that
the regulation for women’s shelters has not been issued, problems concerning
the monitoring and safeguarding mechanism and the law for the safeguarding of families, the existence of a sexist view-point in the Turkish Penal Code
as far as honor killings are concerned, and deficiencies concerning the law
regulating the property rights of spouses and in the civil code) and from a
practical point of view.
For all these problems to be solved both in the juridical and the practical
field, the related political will must be sincere, and the state must be willing
and eager to cooperate with NGOs.
Aysun Say›n
For me, the best news of the year are the injunctions issued
in accordance with Law 4320, and the justifications put forth
for them.
Two of the most striking examples:
“Since the parties are not bound with an official marriage, the matter should
be taken up according to the provisions related to human rights of the
Constitution of the Turkish Republic, the United Nations Convention on
Discrimination Against Women, and the Universal Convention for Human
Rights.
“When taken up within the framework of the rules set by law number 4320,
it is clear that the value being protected by this law is not related to the safeguarding of family as indicated in article 41 of the Constitution of the Turkish
Republic, but to the safeguarding of human rights and of the rights of women
and children. The value being safeguarded is not the family, but the individual’s right to life and to be safe from all kinds of violence.
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“The situation has been solved within the framework of articles 12 and 17 of
the Constitution of the Turkish Republic, of article 8 of the European Human
Rights Convention, and of article 1 of the United Nations Convention on
Discrimination Against Women.
“The Turkish Constitution has established the fact that an individual has the
right to life, to preserve and improve his/her material and spiritual existence,
and the right to life and the preservation of that right should be a number one
priority of the state. According to the way the European Court has interpreted
article 8 of the European Convention, whenever a relation looks like a family
relation, it should be considered a family, independent from its official status.
As for article 1 of the United Nations Convention, all discrimination against
women has been forbidden, since according to this convention, the term ‘discrimination against women’ includes all kinds of sex-based discrimination,
exclusion, and limitation, preventing or aiming for the prevention of the recognition, use, and enjoyment of political, economic, social, cultural, civil, and
other kinds of human rights and basic freedoms, based on the equality between
genders and irrespective of the civil status of women.
“Since the plaintiff and the defendant have been living together without an
official marriage, since this co-habitation has given birth to the children of the
plaintiff named ...., ..., ...., .... , who at the moment are living with the defendant, and since it can be proved that the defendant has used violence against
the plaintiff and their children, threatening the defendant with an infringement
of her right to life, the conclusion has been reached that the plaintiff is subject
to an immediate threat and danger, making it necessary for the plaintiff and
her children to be protected.”
addition to this it has also been stated that similarly, cohabitation and joint living with uncles or aunts etc. also comprises a family. Even though the parties
are not officially married, the fact that violence against women has been prohibited by international law, that Turkey has undertaken to safeguard women
and children from violence by becoming party to international conventions,
and that such violence is prohibited also by national law, and in consideration
of the fact that the plaintiff .... and the defendant .... have been living as man
and wife, and therefore must be considered as a family, the rule of prevention
of violence should be applied, without considering this an official family, with
the result that it is necessary to decree the prevention of all kinds of violence
aimed against the defendant.
“By means of the acceptance of preventive measures, and on the basis of article 8 of the European Convention concerning the safeguarding of human rights
and basic freedoms, of article 1/a of law number 4320, and of the provisions of
international conventions concerning the prevention of violence against
women, it has been decreed to protect the plaintiff ......... from all actions of the
defendants involving violence, insults, threats, and death threats.”
Berçem Akkoç
“A study of Law 4320 has shown that it includes provisions aiming to prevent
violence amongst spouses, and it has also been discovered that the parties are
not officially married.
“The European Human Rights Court has reinterpreted the concept of family
on the basis of article 8 of the European Convention signed on 4th December
1950 with the aim of safeguarding human rights and basic freedoms, and as a
result of this reinterpretation, the fact that two people should be living under the
same roof and that seen from the outside, this cohabitation and joint living
should be interpreted as a marriage has been established as being enough for
this to be recognized as a marriage and for it to enjoy certain protections; in
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II
KAMER Since 2003
“Emergency Intervention Team”
When I was asked to write a piece for the “Killings Committed in the Name of
Honor Project” report for 2006, the first topics that came to mind were violence,
types of violence, results of violence, and of course, the most painful of all,
methods for dealing with honor killings. And so I started to write.
But the more I wrote, the more I found myself confronted with the question
of what exactly it was I wanted to write. For as I wrote, I saw that the piece concentrated too much upon the phenomenon of violence from a vocational perspective, yet whenever I asked myself while acting as speaker, panelist, or moderator on this topic at various meetings, what it was I wanted to emphasize, to
focus upon the most, the answer was always the same: EMERGENCY INTERVENTION TEAM.
The Emergency Intervention Team... the importance of this team, and how it
serves as a model for the entire region other and countries as well when it comes
to the struggle against violence. And so I decided to write my piece not on “violence,” but instead on how the “emergency intervention team” was formed
within the framework of the “Permanent Methods in the Struggle Against
Killings Committed in the Name of Honor Project,” and the process of how the
team came into being in conjunction with that project. Because this process
also included the meetings about violence in which KAMER participated, the
results and consequences of those meetings, and KAMER’s relations with the
media, it would be necessary to address those aspects of the project as well.
In 1997, the same year that it was founded, KAMER established the “emergency help hotline” where women who were subjected to violence could seek
help. Approximately 2,000 women sought assistance from this hotline from the
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time of its establishment up until the beginning of the project on 1 January
2003. 70 percent of the applicants were still in danger of being killed at the time
that they applied to the hotline. Each woman who applied to the hotline, by
telephone or other means, was provided with assistance in accordance with her
own wishes.
News of the death of a woman who had applied by telephone to KAMER and
the Legal Bar Women’s Committee but without providing details of her location,
was covered in the media as an “honor killing.” This was incredibly painful.
However, this devastating loss shed light on questions of what needed to be done
when a woman sought help while still in danger of being killed, and what kind
of solutions should be sought in such cases. In the process of seeking solutions,
the “Permanent Methods in the Struggle Against Killings Committed in the
Name of Honor” project was formed.
The goals of the project, which began on 1 January 2003, are as follows:
¬ To establish a project team consisting of representatives from the various
provinces of Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia Region
¬ To create social sensitivity regarding violence against women and honor
killings via various relations established while rescuing potential victims by
intervening in 3 incidents likely to be encountered each year
¬ To simultaneously acquire knowledge and information about the reasons
behind and methods for struggling against such murders
¬ To strive to form a model in the struggle against “killings committed in the
name of honor” with the knowledge acquired via initiatives carried out during the year
¬ To influence state policies regarding violence against women.
And so we set out with these goals as our guidelines. Periodic meetings were
held with the project team, which consisted of representatives from six of the
twelve provinces that we ultimately aimed to include within the project. Three
of those meetings focused upon introducing the project and determining the
methods to be used. In addition, the work carried out thus far was evaluated at
three other periodical meetings.
Monthly discussions were also held with the project team in order to provide
psychological support.
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While we estimated that KAMER would reach three women whose lives were
in danger within a year’s time, by the end of the first year of the project, no less
than 23 women had applied. Relations were established with various individuals and institutions in accordance with the particular needs of each applicant.
Within this context, the project:
¬ Got support from the Diyarbak›r Provincial Governorship.
¬ Collaborated with various departments of Dicle University, especially psychiatry and brain surgery.
¬ Received medicinal support from the Diyarbak›r Chamber of Commerce.
¬ Fostered relations with the Birth Registration Directorate so that women lacking birth certificate ID could be provided with such as swiftly as possible. The
need for this arose because the births of some of the women who applied were
not registered at the Directorate, while some were registered but did not have
IDs, and some were unable to take their IDs with them when escaping from
home. Nearly half of the applicants experienced one of these problems.
¬ Got support from the Diyarbak›r Police Department.
¬ Worked in constant collaboration with the Diyarbak›r Police Department’s
Public Order Branch.
¬ Received support from the Health Directorate and State Hospitals.
¬ Collaborated with the Diyarbak›r Bar Association and the bar’s women’s
committee to provide legal support to applicants.
¬ Visited various women’s organizations active in Diyarbak›r, and collaborated
with some to help applicants.
¬ Met with various NGO’s.
¬ Established contact with the Provincial Governorships of Mardin and Urfa
regarding relevant applications.
¬ Held talks and took part in meetings with various individuals and groups, in
accordance with the needs of each applicant, for it was seen once again in the
course of these initiatives that an honor killing is not a spontaneous act, but
the result of a 4-5 month long process leading up to the murder. If a mechanism that will have the desired effect upon the family, or that will ease social
pressure upon the family to carry out the murder, can be put into action during this time, then it is possible to come up with an alternative solution to
killing the woman. Therefore, during this time, the project team members
met with individuals and representatives of particular groups who would be
able to influence the family. On many occasions project team members even
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participated in “family council” meetings where the woman in question was
being “tried.”
In addition to the aforementioned efforts, project members also participated
in programs and held talks with various media organizations at the local,
national, and international levels in an effort to promote the “Permanent
Methods in the Struggle Against Killings Committed in the Name of Honor
Project” and to create social sensitivity regarding this issue. They explained over
and over again that this problem did not concern women’s groups only, that
each murder was an extrajudicial execution, and that all segments of society
bore responsibility for such incidents.
Assessment of initiatives carried out in the six months following the establishment of the project on 1 January 2003 showed that it was an absolutely fundamental necessity that relations with individuals and institutions be transformed
into a permanent mechanism in order to follow up on women’s applications for
assistance in a satisfactory manner.
A meeting entitled “Preventing Killings in the Name of Honor and Creating
Social Sensitivity” was held in Diyarbak›r on 23 June 2003.
The Provincial Vice-Governor, on behalf of the Diyarbak›r Provincial
Governorship, the Director of Birth Registration, President of the Mental Health
Department of the Health Directorate, as well as representatives from the
Diyarbak›r Bar Association Women’s Committee, Chamber of Physicians, various women’s organizations and non-governmental organizations, and native
and foreign authors and journalists active in the struggle to stop violence
against women, all participated in this meeting. One faculty member each from
Dicle University, Sabanc› University, and Bilgi University, and one representative each from the Heinrich Böll Foundation and the Open Society Institute were
also in attendance at the meeting.
This was the first time that a meeting about honor killings with such widespread participation by nearly every segment of society had ever been held in
Diyarbak›r.
At the meeting, KAMER presented for discussion the example of an applicant
for which KAMER, as a women’s organization, was unable to generate a satisfactorily permanent solution. In the case of this example, the woman’s family
council had issued a verdict whereby the woman was to be killed. Thanks to the
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intervention of a team that included KAMER, the woman’s murder was prevented, but a permanent solution to the situation failed to be generated.
Participants worked together, discussing and generating solutions for this
“example,” making the meeting a first in this regard as well.
Two days after this meeting, the governor of Diyarbak›r at the time came to
visit KAMER together with two assistants. This, too, was a first. The governor
explained that he had ordered an investigation into the sample case presented
at the meeting, that all aspects of the application under discussion had been
“correct,” and that there in fact was “even more” to the case then what had
been discussed, and that therefore the Governorship would like to collaborate
with KAMER to resolve the issue. The very next day the applicant in question was
issued an ID. Her husband, who did not believe the rumors about his wife and
was under pressure to kill her even though he had no desire to do so, was moved
from the village into Diyarbak›r and the provincial governorship paid five
months rent for the family.
I have gone into such great detail in explaining this meeting and its results
because it was after this meeting that the idea of establishing an emergency
intervention team was developed. In other words, it was at this meeting that the
seeds of the Emergency Intervention Team were planted. Collaborative relationships with other institutions and organizations were strengthened and became
more consistent following this meeting. Relations with individuals and institutions continued to develop during and after this period.
The British Council and KAMER collaborated to hold a three day conference
entitled “Women Look to the Future” in Ankara between 29 September-1
October 2003. A significant portion of the conference and a two day workshop
were dedicated to the topic of “killings committed in the name of honor.” In
addition to numerous women’s organizations from various parts of Turkey, the
Minister of Justice, Prime Ministry Human Rights Committee, women parliamentarians, a representative from the Directorate General on the Problems and
Status of Women (KSSGM), representatives from the Social Services and Child
Protection Agency (SHÇEK), and representatives from the Diyarbak›r
Governorship and Police Department all participated in this initiative. Members
of various NGOs from Diyarbak›r and faculty members from several universities
also took part in the meeting. During the session entitled “Killings Committed
in the Name of Honor” and led by KAMER’s Nebahat Akkoç and Saima Jassem
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of Pakistan, consensus was formed regarding the following matters:
¬ It was found that “killings committed in the name of honor” were culturally and traditionally based and that such killings were a particular type of violence fed by many different mechanisms, and that the most important thing
to be done to combat them was to “increase social sensitivity.”
¬ It was pointed out that “killings committed in the name of honor” were not
unique to just the Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia regions, but that this
phenomenon was a human rights abuse experienced in other parts of Turkey
as well.
¬ It was emphasized that many suicides committed by women may in fact have
been murders and that forensic procedures in such cases needed to be conducted with the necessary fastidiousness in order to arrive at the truth.
¬ It was pointed out that most of the killings committed in the name of honor
were carried out in accordance with fatwas issued by people who called themselves “imams” and were authoritative at the local level. The necessity to seek
help from the Ministry of Religious Affairs in this regard was underscored.
¬ It was pointed out that the Ministry of Religious Affairs has a women’s committee, but that the committee was not very active. The need to make this
committee more active and effective was emphasized.
¬ It was found that there were problems with placing likely victims of honor
killings in women’s shelters in emergency cases, and that because it took
time to process applications, temporary stations where women could spend a
few nights while waiting for there applications to be processed needed to be
established.
¬ It was emphasized that failure to accept girls suffering from domestic sexual
abuse into the shelters was a critical problem.
¬ It was stated that cooperation with the police force to secure women’s safety
was necessary, and that it would be more effective to work with women police
in this regard.
¬ It was pointed out that vocational groups such as the police, gendarme,
health workers, and teachers needed to receive training about this issue.
¬ The necessity to create sensitivity and achieve a transformation in cultural
practices harmful to women was emphasized.
¬ It was agreed that the processes of issuing women ID’s from the birth registration office and official registering of marriages needed to be accelerated,
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and that campaigns were necessary to ensure that all married women were
officially married so that their marriages would be legally recognized by the
state.
It was decided that KAMER would collaborate with the British Council in 2004
towards these ends.
KAMER spoke about “Killings Committed in the Name of Honor” at the 6th
Human Rights Conference held on 13-14 November. The topics of violence
against women and honor killings were addressed in the press release published
after the conference.
Meanwhile, an “exercise” group from Izmir conducted two separate workshops lasting five days each with the project team, in which such topics as conflict resolution techniques, nonviolence, prejudices, and communication techniques were discussed.
In addition, the Hacettepe University Anthropology Department also provided
support for evaluating work conducted within the framework of the project.
Following this evaluation, a meeting was held with the entire project team at
the beginning of 2004 in which the new shape of the project was introduced.
The duration of the project, which had begun on 1 January 2003, was set to last
through December of 2004. Dates were set for meetings and supervision and the
equipment necessary to establish a communications network was identified.
In 2004, 31 likely victims applied to KAMER. All of the women who applied
are still alive.
KAMER attended various national and international meetings in 2004 where
they drew attention to the issue of killings committed in the name of honor,
tried to increase sensitivity towards the issue, and opened up new discussions
about it.
Activities at which KAMER addressed this issue were as follows:
¬ “Campaign to Put an End to Violence Against Women” organized by Amnesty
International at Istanbul Bilgi University on 5 March 2004.
¬ The United Nations Commission on Refugees’ “Violence Against Women
Meeting” in Ankara.
¬ A panel on the topic was held as part of the “National Psychiatry Days” in
Antalya.
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¬ KA-DER held a meeting about the issue on 13 September 2004.
¬ Amnesty International declared 2004 the “Year for Putting an End to
Violence Against Women” and their campaign was launched with a speech by
Nebahat Akkoç in the Netherlands.
¬ Nebahat Akkoç was presented with the 2004 Amnesty International Ginetta
Suga Award. Nebahat Akkoç participated in the award ceremony held in New
York, where she talked about honor killings at various meetings.
¬ An initiative was held on 17-20 May 2004 in Sweden with the support of the
Swedish Consulate and participation by KAMER, Save the Children, and various women’s groups. Participants from Sweden and Turkey shared their
experiences in a discussion about honor killings and ways of dealing with
them.
¬ A group of 40 women went to Brussels on 12 October 2004 where Nebahat
Akkoç gave a speech on KAMER’s women’s politics.
¬ On 25 October-9 November KAMER joined women’s groups in Germany in
meetings about campaigns they planned to carry out to combat killings committed in the name of honor.
¬ Invited by the Swedish Ministry of Foreign Affairs, KAMER participated in a
meeting held on 7-8 December 2004 about the Swedish government’s plans
on how to deal with women’s human rights.
¬ The Turkish Grand National Assembly Human Rights Committee visited
KAMER to gather information, especially about honor killings.
In addition to participating in the aforementioned activities, KAMER also met
and talked with representatives of various organizations and participated in the
programs of local, national, and international media organizations.
The idea to hold campaigns on “creating sensitivity and cultural practices
that are harmful to women” was a result of the “Women Look to the Future”
conference held together with the British Council in Ankara on 29 September-1
October 2003. Once funding was secured from the British Embassy, talks were
held with the governorships of Diyarbak›r, Mardin, and Batman to discuss ideas
for the campaign, materials to be used, and how to ensure broad participation.
Initiatives were begun with local support in the provinces of Diyarbak›r and
Mardin. The Batman Governorship, however, did not react positively to this initiative.
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Initial meetings to further address this issue followed in Diyarbak›r and
Mardin on 22-24 November 2004. The objective of these meetings was to
increase the sensitivity of state institutions and organizations, local government, and NGOs, and to ensure their participation in the campaign. Provincial
governors, vice-governors, provincial police chiefs, representatives from the
provincial gendarme headquarters, chief public prosecutors, directors of birth
registration offices, provincial social services agencies, director general of social
services (attended the Diyarbak›r meeting only), directors of the office of education, and provincial muftis all participated in these meetings.
Other participants included the Mayor of Mardin, the President of the
Federation of Muxhtars, representatives from the Chamber of Physicians, members of various women’s organizations, and two faculty members of the psychiatry and sociology departments of Dicle University.
A representative of the Ministry of Religious Affairs Supreme Advisory
Committee also gave speeches at both meetings.
“Killings committed under the guise of honor” were discussed from various
perspectives at these meetings, thereby revealing once again the importance of
current and future cooperation with local individuals, institutions, and organizations.
The Emergency Intervention Team was established to provide immediate
support for women who applied to any of these organizations or institutions
because her life was in danger, or even to women who were said to be in such
danger and unable to apply for help themselves. The Emergency Intervention
Teams consisted of provincial governorships, provincial muftis, gendarme and
police forces, public prosecutors, provincial directorates of the Social Services
and Child Protection Agencies, and representatives from other state institutions
and organizations, local administrations, and NGO’s, thereby forming for the
very first time a team including executive representatives from each of these
institutions and organizations.
This team was established in order both to ensure the safety of the applicant
and to have an impact upon the “family councils” trying her, by having people, institutions, or organizations who might influence the family take action
when word is received that a woman’s life may be in danger since, as stated
above, a woman’s execution in such situations is not the result of sudden bursts
of anger or outrage, but rather such killings happen in a planned manner as
part of a process that takes 4-5 months. The Emergency Intervention Teams are
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able to be effective in breaking the social pressure that certain people try to
impose upon the family and in creating alternative solutions. We have many
examples of success in this regard in Mardin and Diyarbak›r.
Another positive aspect of the Emergency Intervention Teams is their successful cooperation with so many different institutions and organizations.
Whenever they receive word that a woman’s life is in danger, or a woman whose
life is threatened applies, the entire team goes into action in accordance with
the needs of that particular woman. If necessary the police and gendarme forces
intervene to first and foremost secure the threatened woman’s safety. If she does
not have them, the number one priorities are making sure that the woman has
birth registration and an ID issued by the birth registration office. Green cards
(health cards issued by the government to poor people lacking any other health
coverage) are issued when necessary. The Social Services Agency takes action to
ensure the woman has a safe place to stay, in accordance with the woman’s own
wishes and decisions. State hospitals, university clinics, and the Chamber of
Physicians are there to help if medical assistance is called for. The bar association and bar association women’s committee provide legal counseling and
defend the women’s legal rights. Teachers, muxhtars (neighborhood administrators), and imams in the villages are made to be more sensitive to this topic,
thereby enabling cooperation when necessary. Every killing is carried out based
upon a fatwa which is issued by a person imputed with religious authority and
calls for the execution of the woman. Increasing the sensitivity of imams and
religious officials when it comes to killings committed in the name of honor
and collaborating with such individuals to prevent honor killings are therefore
of utmost importance.
As a result of such cooperation, an emergency help hotline was established in
the Municipality of Mardin.
The “Project for Creating Permanent Methods in the Prevention of and
Struggle Against Honor Killings” continued in 2005 as well.
As an extension of the meetings held in November of 2004, meetings were
held in Diyarbak›r on 14 March 2005 and in Mardin on 15 March 2005, with
the same individuals, institutions, and organizations participating in these
meetings as had participated in the previous one.
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Posters and media for the campaign had been prepared in accordance with
decisions made at the first meeting; these were discussed by participants in the
second meeting and materials were finalized in such a way to reflect the mutual understanding of all participants.
Another topic of discussion at this meeting were the results of a survey about
people’s perceptions of honor, carried out with 500 people in Diyarbak›r and
environs by Aytekin S›r of the Dicle University Department of Psychiatry.
The campaign began on 20 April 2005, bearing the slogan “Help Put an End
to Killings Committed Under the Guise of Honor!” Posters were distributed to
governors’ offices, municipality offices, muftis, mosques, muxhtars, Provincial
Directorates of the Social Services and Child Protection Agency, chambers of
drivers and chauffeurs, physicians’ chambers, universities, small businessmen’s
associations, and various women’s associations. Volunteers did their best to
hang the posters in stores, at bus stops, and other places where they would be
visible to large numbers of people. Television and radio spots were sent to all
local stations in Diyarbak›r and Mardin as well as 25 national television and
radio programs via RTÜK (Supreme Council of Radio and Television) and
Show TV. Programs to promote the campaign were also broadcast on various
channels.
Theatrical plays, films, and documentaries about “killings committed under
the guise of honor” were staged and filmed, and music addressing the topic was
also written.
With the support of the Swedish Consulate, on 27 May 2005, a group of 15
women from Sweden working in this field, and 15 women from Eastern and
Southeastern Anatolia came together in Mardin to hold a three day meeting on
killings committed in the name of honor and share their knowledge and experiences in dealing with this issue.
A women’s shelter was opened in Diyarbak›r.
A committee on violence against women was formed within the Turkish
Grand National Assembly.
The New Turkish Penal Code went into effect.
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When KAMER first kicked off the “Permanent Methods in the Struggle Against
Killings Committed in the Name of Honor Project” in 2003, the goals it had set
were as follows:
¬ To ensure the safety of women whose lives are endangered, by intervening in
likely killings to be committed in the name of honor. (A total of 158 applications were received between 1 January 2003 and 31 December 2006. KAMER
received 23 applications in 2003, 31 in 2004, 31 in 2005, and 77 in 2006; all
of those applicants are still alive. Distribution of applicants according to
province is as follows: Mardin: 6 women [2005], 20 women [2006];
Diyarbak›r: 18 women [2005], 26 women [2006]. We attribute the increase
in applications in 2006 to both an increase in sensitivity towards such initiatives and the rise in awareness about and effectiveness of the Emergency
Intervention Team’s work.
¬ To use relations established within the framework of the project to create
social sensitivity regarding killings committed in the name of honor, and to
develop permanent methods and mechanisms to that end. With its “An
Opportunity for Every Woman Project,” KAMER established itself in all 23
provinces of the east and southeast and in some of the districts of these
provinces as well. Women’s initiatives were begun and women’s centers
established; relations were established with individuals, institutions, and
organizations and collaborative efforts developed. Representatives of the
Women’s Centers began participating in the meetings of the Human Rights
Committee and Gündem 21. The results of certain regional meetings with
large-scale participation were evaluated and suggestions and new solutions
generated accordingly.
¬ To influence state policies regarding violence against women. Following a
circular issued by the Prime Ministry on 7 July 2006, the Ministry of Internal
Affairs sent a circular to the provincial governorships of all 81 provinces.
According to the circular, “The duties of many levels of the state have been
defined. The decision has been made to form large-scale committees in order
to increase the number of women’s shelters in Turkey, of which there are currently 30 throughout the country, and to prevent killings. The Minister of
Internal Affairs has listed the measures to be taken to prevent customary
(töre) and honor killings as follows:
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tims of violence are to be carried out swiftly, and when possible with the participation of female personnel.
2. Municipalities which do not have women’s shelters shall have an official on
duty 24 hours.
3. All necessary measures, including calling upon special security forces, will be
taken to ensure the safety of women and children in the shelters to be established.
4. In order to prevent killings committed in the name of honor, committees
consisting of representatives from the provincial governorship in provinces,
police forces under the leadership of the kaimakams in the districts, neighborhood administrations, social services departments, vocational organizations, health directorates, national education directorates, and non-governmental organizations will be formed, and all of these bodies shall cooperate
to implement measures deemed necessary to resolve the issue.
and international level, just as it had been doing since the project got started in
2003. The collaborative efforts that it had initiated and developed in the struggle against honor killings continued as well.
While KAMER continued its projects “An Opportunity For Every Woman,”
“Women’s Entrepreneurship,” and “Life to Children” in 2007, it decided not to
pursue a new project about killings committed in the name of honor. The reason for this decision was that it had already reached the majority of the goals it
had set for itself when first starting the project. Instead of putting together a new
project, KAMER decided to work towards monitoring current practices and
ensuring the continuation of sensitivity and collaboration so that the measures
stated on the circulars mentioned above do not remain on paper only. This is
also due to KAMER’s adherence to the civil society approach that may be
described as raising awareness about problems, creating methods to achieve
solutions, and developing sensitivity.
By first informing the provincial social services directorates of such situations,
emergency measures will be taken immediately to protect women and children
who declare that they themselves are, or who are said to be, likely victims of an
honor killing or who are subjected to domestic violence. Costs associated with
ensuring the victim’s safety until she is settled into a shelter or other destination
are to be met by the funds of the municipal and provincial offices and special district administrations, and funds for the encouragement of social assistance and
solidarity. In those areas where no women’s shelter exists, a woman who says she
is a likely victim of a customary or honor killing or who is believed to be a likely
victim of such a killing due to certain concrete events, shall immediately be taken
in by social service units. The victim shall be accompanied by police force officials
if necessary to the location (hotel, guesthouse, etc.) where she is to be looked after
until reaching her final destination. Security forces charged with carrying out
questioning in cases related to customary or honor killings or violence against
women shall undergo special training about this issue.”
As a result of a protocol agreement between the Ministry of Women’s Affairs
and the General Staff, training regarding customary and honor killings began
to be provided to noncommissioned officers and privates.
In 2006, KAMER continued participating in meetings at the local, national,
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“Women Look to the Future” Project
I. Short Description of the Project
Project Name: “Women Look to the Future”
“Project for the Development of Permanent Methods in the Struggle Against
Killings Committed Under the Guise of Honor in the Southeastern and Eastern
Anatolia Regions”
1- Project Objective
The project objective is twofold: 1) To provide support to likely victims of a
possible killing to be committed under the guise of honor in the Southeastern
and Eastern Anatolia Regions and 2) to develop permanent methods for preventing such killings via collaborative relations with other organizations and
institutions.
2- Justifications for the Project
¬ We have reached the conclusion that, although violence against women is a
universal problem, it is necessary to underscore the facts that such violence
varies in terms of quantity and quality according to country, region, culture,
and traditions; that local characteristics must be taken into consideration
when trying to generate solutions; and that local mechanisms need to be
active participants in effecting solutions.
¬ We knew that a large number of killings were being committed under the
guise of honor in Southeastern and Eastern Anatolia. These murders were
considered natural and normal and most were covered up; therefore, it was
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impossible to determine exact figures for such killings. We decided that it was
necessary to spread awareness of the fact that each and every one of these
murders is an extrajudicial killing.
¬ We found that killings committed under the guise of honor, each of which is
a premeditated, planned murder, could be prevented by intervening in the
early stages, when the decision whether to murder or not is being made. We
thought that, with this project, it would be possible to provide safety to women
whose lives were in danger over the 13 provinces comprising the project area.
¬ We thought that, with this project, it might be possible for the woman, if she
so desired, to continue living her life in the social surroundings to which she
belonged by establishing relevant relations with the community in question,
and that the established norms harmful to women might thereby be changed.
¬ We thought that, with this project, it would be possible to raise awareness of
killings committed under the guise of “honor” and to establish permanent
structures to prevent them by forming a “Provincial Coordination Committee
in the Struggle Against Killings Committed Under the Guise of Honor” for
each province, which would then strive to increase sensitivity toward the
issue.
The project was planned with all of the aforementioned justifications in mind.
3- Project Goals
¬ To ensure the safety of the women whose lives are in danger by intervening
in a likely killing to be committed under the guise of “honor.”
¬ To simultaneously provide support to those women whose lives are in danger
and increase social sensitivity regarding killings committed under the guise
of “honor,” via relations established with other organizations, institutions,
and individuals.
¬ To establish permanent structures such as “provincial coordination committees” in the struggle against killings committed under the guise of “honor”
in 13 provinces.
¬ To ensure active involvement of relevant national and international apparatuses.
¬ To establish the appropriate groundwork so that the rights guaranteed by international treaties to which Turkey is party can be effectively implemented.
¬ To impact government policies regarding violence against women and the
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prevention of killings committed under the guise of honor.
4- Target Group
¬ 30 women who are likely victims of a killing to be committed under the guise
of honor.
¬ The families of the women who apply to KAMER for help.
¬ The governmental and non-governmental organizations that KAMER will
collaborate with in the struggle against cultural and traditional practices that
are harmful to women.
¬ Establishing a continuous coordination committee consisting of governmental and non-governmental organizations in each province.
¬ Creating sensitivity towards the issue and ensuring continuous support in the
struggle against it by raising the issue on all accessible local, national, and
international platforms.
¬ Developing awareness of the possibility of implementation of those rights
vested by the international treaties to which Turkey is party.
¬ Creating a database for facts and figures related to killings committed under
the guise of “honor.”
5- Project Implementation Area
¬ Southeastern Anatolia Region:
Diyarbak›r, Mardin, fianl›urfa, Batman, Siirt, Ad›yaman, fi›rnak
¬ Eastern Anatolia Region:
Elaz›¤, Van, Kars, Hakkari, Bingöl, Malatya
In conclusion:
The Women Look to the Future project is built upon relationships established
with women whose lives are threatened because they are likely victims of murders to be committed under the guise of “honor” and uses methods developed
within that framework.
The following shall be achieved via this project:
1. Women who are likely victims of a killing to be committed under the guise of
“honor” in the 13 provinces of Southeastern and Eastern Anatolia shall be
reached and efforts made to ensure their safety. Based upon each woman’s
own requests and demands, either:
¬ she will be helped to start a new life,
¬ or conditions allowing for the woman to continue living safely in her own
social environment shall be created via relations established with her close
friends and family.
2. Permanent methods to prevent killings to be committed under the guise of
“honor” will be developed while working with each and every woman who
approaches us for help in her struggle to survive.
What is meant by “permanent methods”:
¬ the formation of a unit of at least three people each in each women’s center
located in each of the 13 provinces, who will be active in preventing killings
to be committed under the guise of “honor.”
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II. Initiatives carried out during 2006 to prevent killings
committed under the guise of honor:
(This section covers initiatives realized between 01 January 2006 and 31 December 2006.)
KAMER has defined its work plan for ensuring equal opportunity in the economic, socio-cultural, and political spheres as follows: “To establish a women’s
center working for ‘Women’s Human Rights’ in each of the 23 provinces of
Southeastern and Eastern Anatolia, and later to open up representatives offices
in the districts via these centers, thereby strengthening and configuring the
women’s initiatives in all of the villages throughout the provinces and districts
in question as well.”
All of KAMER’s initiatives have been realized within the framework of
this plan. Therefore:
¬ Organizational efforts have been carried out in all provinces of Southeastern
and Eastern Anatolia and women’s centers opened in 22 provinces.
Ongoing initiatives are as follows:
¬ Initiatives aiming to raise women’s awareness of women’s human rights are
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being carried out in 23 provinces and support is provided to women experiencing violence via emergency help lines.
¬ We continue to adhere to “policies directed at implementing local, civilian,
and government apparatuses to achieve solutions.”
The “Women Look to the Future” project is only one of KAMER’s goals that
it has achieved thus far.
1- How the project team was formed
The project team was formed out of a total of 42 women consisting of a three
person administrative unit, 13 provincial directors, and 26 volunteers. The project team was formed out of women who could work either full time or as volunteers, who were conscious of violence against women in all of its facets, who
had struggled against such violence, and who shared their awareness of such
violence with other women.
Two consecutive meetings of the project team were held in the first and second months of the project. All activities were planned separately, in accordance
with the local needs and characteristics of the different provinces, and keeping
in mind the resistance likely to be met in each.
The task definitions of the different project team members were reassessed in
accordance with the plan of action and a division of labor was decided upon
accordingly.
Activities for Building the Project Team’s Capacity:
The project team was supported throughout the duration of the project via
two different means.
¬ Training to foster sharing of experience and knowledge within the project
team itself.
¬ Training activities held with the support of outside experts.
The objectives of these training activities are as follows:
¬ To introduce and define the project for all involved.
¬ To share experiences on techniques for accepting applications.
¬ To draw up forms for recording information about each applicant and getting that information uploaded onto the database.
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¬ To foster relations with the governmental and non-governmental organizations in each province.
¬ A series of initiatives was carried out in order to prevent the project team from
being negatively impacted while dealing with a case of violence or a possible
killing.
Capacity building initiatives were carried out in all provinces, not just
Diyarbak›r.
In addition to all of the aforementioned, meetings revolving around agendas
addressing national developments were also held. One of these was the meeting
held following the publication of the Prime Ministry’s “Circular on the
Prevention of Violence Against Women and Customary and Honor Killings.”
2- Promoting the project
a) Media promotion
A press conference to promote the project was planned for the third month of
the project; however, the conference failed to be realized due to incidents which
started first in Diyarbak›r before spreading to other provinces as well, and which
coincided with the planned date for the conference.
Those who held interviews with KAMER during the duration of the project:
Foreign press and TV:
Die Zeit Agency (Germany), Le Figaro Newspaper, Al Jazeera News Agency,
Reuters Agency, BBC, Swedish Government Radio and Newspaper, New York
Times
National / local press and TV:
Project news was shared with such media organs and organizations as Sabah
Newspaper, Hürriyet Newspaper, Zaman Newspaper, Bianet, TRT, NTV, STAR
TV, Kanal 21, Kars Serhat TV, Dicle News Agency, and Anadolu Agency.
b) National and international meetings
Istanbul -TESEV
Nebahat Akkoç and Name Kardafl participated in the symposium “Women in
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the Extended Middle East and Africa,” held by TESEV on 6 February 2006. In
her presentation, Nebahat Akkoç shared with attendees KAMER’s policies and
experiences regarding violence against women and killings committed under
the guise of honor.
Ankara - United Nations
On 23 February 2006, Nilgün Y›ld›r›m participated in a meeting on “initiatives directed at displaced groups.” The meeting continued with a series of
training programs and workshops in which ideas were exchanged regarding the
state of displaced women in Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia, their ability to
adapt to the places that they migrate to and back to their former surroundings
should they return, and the sexist behavior that the women encounter during
these processes. Training was also provided on how to activate governmental
and non-governmental apparatuses to alleviate the problems experienced by
groups that have migrated.
Diyarbak›r - Chamber of Physicians
At the meeting “Peace, Friendship, and Democracy” held by the Diyarbak›r
Chamber of Physicians in March of 2006, Nebahat Akkoç took part on behalf of
KAMER and provided information about the organization’s work.
Istanbul - Film Mor
On 12 March 2006, Sacide Akkaya took part in a meeting where experiences
regarding domestic labor were shared and a Film Mor–produced documentary
film about non-governmental organizations championing women’s rights was
shown.
Diyarbak›r
Nebahat Akkoç, Berçem Akkoç, Sacide Akkaya, Nilüfer Y›lmaz, Naime Kardafl,
Ayten Tekay, and Hayriye Aflç›o¤lu participated in “The Second Women’s
Meeting Against Violence,” which was held beginning on 18 March 2006 with
support from the Civil Society Development Center (STGM). At the two day
meeting, the women shared their experience and knowledge during workshops
on nonviolence.
One leg of The Association for Supporting and Educating Women Candidates’
(KADER) “For a Better Future: Women Friendly Cities” campaign, which is part
of the United Nations Joint Program to Protect and Promote the Human Rights
of Women and Girls (UNJP), was held in Kars on 8-9 April 2006. Fatma Y›lmaz
Tücer and Arzu Orhangazi took part in campaign workshops, which were held
for local governmental and non-governmental organizations and addressed the
issue of “implementation of local mechanisms and encouraging women’s
active participation in politics” in order to decrease problems faced by women.
Istanbul- Helsinki Citizens Assembly
KAMER supported a project carried out by the Helsinki Citizens Assembly,
with the aim of informing women about their legal rights and ensuring the
implementation of existing laws. Within this framework, KAMER workers
shared their knowledge and experiences when it came to local characteristics
and obstacles they encountered regarding women’s actual use of their legal
rights in Southeastern and Eastern Anatolia. They talked about the initiatives
carried out in the struggle against violence against women and killings committed under the guise of honor. Nilgün Y›ld›r›m and Fatma Y›lmaz Tücer took
part in the meeting held on 21 April 2006.
Istanbul - Heinrich Böll
Nebahat Akkoç and Nilgün Y›ld›r›m participated in an international conference on “Democracy Between Institutionalized Genders in Turkey: Possibilities
- Risks” held on 18 September 2006. Nebahat Akkoç acted as moderator for a
workshop entitled “Family, Religion, Society, and Democracy Between the
Genders” held within the framework of the same conference. During the workshop, participants shared their ideas and experiences regarding gender roles
and the constrictions women faced due to their gender.
Kars - KADER
Holland
Nilgün Y›ld›r›m and Ayten Yakut took part in a series of meetings and panels
held by HTIP in Holland between 19-28 December 2005, where representatives
from social institutions concerned with women’s initiatives in Holland as well
as representatives from non-governmental organizations founded by people
originally from Turkey but now living in Holland, shared their knowledge and
experience with each other in three different cities. The KAMER representatives
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talked about KAMER’s initiatives addressing violence against women and
killings under the guise of honor and promoted their projects.
Armenia
Naime Kardafl took part in meetings as part of the “Working Together in the
Caucasus” conference held between 01-07 March 2006. The conference included workshops about possible collaborative efforts to combat violence against
women of various backgrounds, based upon their shared identity as females. At
the conference, Naime Kardafl talked about KAMER’s politics and work methods
regarding violence and killings under the guise of honor.
Germany
On 24 March 2006, Nebahat Akkoç took part in several meetings organized by
non-governmental organizations active in running women’s initiatives in
Germany. At the meetings, Akkoç discussed KAMER’s initiatives to combat violence against women and killings under the guise of honor and the organization’s politics.
Sweden
Between 10-17 October 2006, KAMER representatives took part in a series of
meetings and visits with the Swedish Institute and institutions in Sweden actively working in the field of violence against women. Nilgün Y›ld›r›m, Naime
Kardafl, Julide Aral, and Melek Taylan participated in meetings and workshops,
at which all participants shared their experiences with one another, and initiatives carried out in both Sweden and Turkey in the struggle against violence
against women and killings committed under the guise of honor were evaluated. The documentary film, “Dialogues in the Dark,” produced by Melek Taylan,
was also shown.
c) Visitors from both within Turkey and from abroad
¬ Representatives from governmental institutions and non-governmental
organizations alike from Belgium, Switzerland, Germany, Holland, Finland,
and Sweden visited KAMER to talk about the latter’s work regarding violence
against women and killings under the guise of honor.
¬ Talks and interviews were held by nearly 50 journalists and news agency representatives from Jordan, Great Britain, Germany, Sweden, France, America,
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South Korea, Holland, and Belgium.
¬ 65 national and local media representatives from with Turkey visited KAMER
to find out about the organization’s initiatives.
d) KAMER provided support for other initiatives and various efforts to
combat violence against women and honor killings
¬ Academics and students from Marmara University, Yüzüncü Y›l University,
Dicle University, F›rat University, Anadolu University, Y›ld›z Teknik
University, Istanbul University, Columbia University, Washington University,
London University, and Bremen University were supported in their research,
which in some way engaged the topic of “women,” as KAMER representatives
shared with them their own research and knowledge.
¬ Took part in programs broadcast on local and national TV channels such as
NTV, CNN, TRT, TRT GAP, STAR, SERHAT TV, and KANAL 21.
¬ Provided support to groups making documentary films about violence
against women in Spain, Turkey, and Austria by sharing with them our
knowledge and experience.
¬ Acted as consultant for two theatrical plays.
3- How the Provincial Coordination Committees were established
¬ In every province encompassed by the project implementation area, relations
were established with governmental and non-governmental officials so that
they could help meet the needs of each woman who applied. Talks were held
with approximately 350 people within the framework of the project. Talks
were held several times with certain officials.
¬ Coordination was established with women’s organizations, the provincial
governorship, the municipalities, the provincial directorates of the Social
Services and Child Protection Agency, bar associations, health institutions,
muftis, police forces, and the gendarme in every province so that women
experiencing violence could be provided with the necessary support in time.
¬ Meetings and activities were held with the purpose of putting into action official and civil society apparatuses in the quest to stop violence against women.
Such meetings took place on 26 February 2006 in Elaz›¤, on 27 February
2006 in Ad›yaman, on 01 March 2006 in fianl›urfa, on 08 March 2006 in
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Kars, on 30 March 2006 in Bingöl, on 08 March 2006 in Hakkari, on 06 May
2006 in Malatya, on 25 November 2006 in Diyarbak›r, on 20 December 2006
in Mardin, on 22 December 2006 in Batman, and on 02 December 2006 in
fi›rnak.
4- Activities directed at likely victims
¬ At all consciousness raising workshops, during all activities and meetings
held in the provinces and districts, during fieldwork, and via local and
national media, likely victims were reminded of what they could do should
their lives be in danger.
¬ Brochures and leaflets about the issue were prepared and distributed. Posters
were also hung in areas frequented by women.
¬ Women who took part in KAMER’s activities were presented with small gifts
containing the telephone number of the emergency help line.
¬ The women’s centers made visits to neighborhoods as well as businesses
(hairdressers, ateliers, etc.) where high concentrations of women are often
found. The visits were successful in making women more sensitive towards
the issue.
5- The period beginning with the Prime Ministry’s publication of the
“Circular on the Prevention of Violence Against Women and Customary
and Honor Killings”
The Prime Ministry Circular number 2006/17 which was sent to relevant
institutions and came into effect on 4 July 2006 stated the measures to be taken
and the pertinent institutions’ realms of authority and responsibility. The state
policy as reflected in the Prime Ministry’s Circular overlaps with KAMER’s findings when it comes to decreasing violence against women.
The Prime Ministry’s Circular encourages all governmental and non-governmental institutions to espouse the principle of gender equality. Furthermore, it
charges public institutions with new responsibilities to enable women to use
their rights and to get the necessary help when faced with violence. The objectives spelled out in the circular are supposed to be implemented in coordination
with non-governmental organizations and public institutions. Although the circular issued by the Prime Ministry prescribes regulations intended to decrease
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violence against women, these regulations are not yet fully reflected in the institutions’ working methods or by-laws. The Prime Ministry circular is not a directive that can be enforced; rather, it is a “suggestion for solution” directed at
institutions and organizations.
After the circular was issued, initiatives begun by the Diyarbak›r Provincial
Governorship and supported by KAMER continued. A meeting attended by the
Provincial Governorship, kaimakam offices, directorates of public education,
gendarme, muxhtars (neighborhood administrators), Provincial Directorates
of Social Services, Dicle University, and KAMER was held in Diyarbak›r on 15
November 2006. At the meeting, initiatives to be carried out in the districts and
villages were planned according to the following scheme:
¬ District coordination committees would be formed with the participation of
governmental institutions and non-governmental institutions in the districts.
¬ The district coordination committees would then begin initiatives in the villages as well.
As part of this plan, in order to establish a coordination committee in
Diyarbak›r’s district of Ç›nar, two sessions of workshops were held with the participation of the Provincial Director of the Social Services and Child Protection
Agency, academics from the Dicle University Psychiatry Department and Faculty
of Theology, KAMER workers, Psychologist Julide Aral, the Ǜnar Kaimakam,
Gendarme, Directorate of Education, Birth Registration Office, Social Assistance
and Solidarity Foundation, Director of National Education, Director of Public
Education, teachers, health personnel, pharmacists, prominent locals who are
considered to be community leaders, muxhtars, muftis, and imams. At the conclusion of the meeting, an “Emergency Intervention Team” which would provide women experiencing violence with first and emergency aid, was formed.
Preparations for the women’s centers in the other provinces to establish similar coordination committees were then begun, based upon the results obtained
from this pilot initiative carried out in Diyarbak›r.
6- Throughout the duration of the project, initiatives were coordinated
under the close supervision of the project team
¬ Each initiative realized in each province was monitored by the coordinator of
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that province.
¬ The group workshops held in the women’s centers and information about
applications were recorded on forms prepared for each different initiative.
Activities were recorded and “monthly progress reports” written for each
province. The application forms and group workshops in each province not
only allowed for information to be recorded in the database but also made it
possible for the project team to evaluate the data in an orderly manner.
¬ Regional directors visited all of the provinces on a regular basis. Efforts were
made to realize such visits once every ten days. Regional directors and
province coordinators were in constant contact with each other via e-mail
and telephone.
¬ The project coordinator periodically visited the provinces within the project
implementation area to assess the activities undertaken. Observations and
findings were then evaluated at the weekly meetings held by the project
administration unit and regional directors.
¬ Emergency meetings were held and necessary measures taken in the face of
risks and problems encountered in the region.
7- Results obtained in 2006
¬ The knowledge and experience obtained thanks to the initiatives were shared
with women’s centers in provinces outside of the program’s implementation
area (Tunceli, Erzincan, A¤r›, Gaziantep, Kilis, Mufl, Ardahan, and I¤d›r).
Thus were the first steps taken towards forming the same structure at the
women’s centers in these provinces, too.
¬ At least one meeting each was held with approximately 350 people during visits carried out in all of the provinces for the purpose of developing sensitivity
and cooperation. Over 2,500 people took part in activities and group meetings. Considering the number of individuals who reached the project via
radio and TV programs, in addition to the number of people who participated in project initiatives and then told their friends, relatives, and neighbors
about it, it is obvious that a large number of people were reached via this
project.
¬ Project results were shared at meetings held in Istanbul and Ankara.
¬ As a result of news reports about killings under the guise of honor and initiatives carried out in the struggle against such killings in local, national, and
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international newspapers and other media, messages of support were received
from provinces of Turkey outside of the project implementation area as well
as foreign countries, thus making other collaborative efforts possible, too.
With respect to likely victims:
Initiatives intended to “enable women to define the violence they experience
and develop methods of struggle to escape such violence” were carried out
intensively throughout the duration of the project.
¬ Women who participated in group workshops not only created positive transformations in themselves, but they also had a positive impact upon how their
individual friends and family members view “violence.” After a woman
adopts the principle that there is no such thing as justifiable violence and
begins making efforts to stop the violence being practiced against her, the initial phases that she undergoes are, first of all, to quit practicing violence
against her children, to begin expressing herself more easily, and to experience an increase in her self-esteem.
¬ The project goal was to reach and provide support to 30 women who were
likely victims of killings to be committed under the guise of honor in the time
span of one year. 497 applications were submitted to the Emergency Help
Line units in 2006. 73 of those applications came from women whose lives
were in danger due to a likely killing in the name of honor.
¬ Applications were taken not only from women living in Eastern and
Southeastern Anatolia, but from those living in other provinces of Turkey, as
well as women originally from Turkey but now living abroad, and each of
those women was provided with support.
With respect to supportive organizations and institutions:
The points of view of individuals belonging to governmental and non-governmental institutions and organizations with whom KAMER was in direct contact changed, so that they cooperated with KAMER to stop violence and to support women experiencing violence.
¬ KAMER obtained the support of both governmental and non-governmental
institutions and organizations for its project actvities.
¬ Many governorships made it possible for their funds to be used by women and
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they also supported KAMER’s initiatives by encouraging civil servants to facilitate and thus speed up procedures necessary for helping women experiencing violence.
¬ Bureaucratic obstacles and delays normally experienced at governmental
institutions such as the Social Services and Child Protection Agency, birth
registration offices, muxhtar offices, etc., were eliminated thanks to the personal efforts of such individuals.
¬ Police and gendarme stations in some provinces asked women’s centers for
help in taking down the applications of those women who came to them for
help. In addition, they also began to behave more carefully and with greater
sensitivity when it came to getting health reports, drawing up case records,
and starting legal procedures.
III
Applicant Stories from 2006
1st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
6 January 2006
14
Single
Pregnant
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER via the police station.
Why she was “tried”:
The girl was raped by her father. Her paternal aunt and the wife of her uncle
suspected that this was the case and secretly had her examined by a doctor. The
examination revealed that the girl was 5 months pregnant. Upon receiving this
news they became anxious and asked the doctor to abort the baby. The doctor,
who knew the girl’s family, said that he could not abort the baby, but instructed them to go to the police station.
After they went to the police station, a policeman and the doctor applied to
KAMER asking for support for the girl.
What KAMER did:
¬ KAMER informed those acting on behalf of the applicant that they could not provide support for the abortion of the baby, but that a decision about what could be
done would be made together with the girl upon her application to KAMER.
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¬ Workers from KAMER went to the police station to take the girl’s application.
Outcome:
When the KAMER workers arrived at the police station, they were told that the
girl’s aunts had received a phone call and quickly left in a panic. Police officials
told KAMER that they would inform them if contact was reestablished with the
girl and her family.
¬ Provided psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
Outcome:
¬ Contact was established with the man she had run away with. She ran away
from home and moved in with him once again.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
2nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
3rd Applicant
11 January 2006
29
Illiterate
Married (state-recognized)
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with help from her younger brother.
Why she was “tried”:
While still a child the woman had been forced to marry a relative much older
than her. She was subjected to violence throughout the duration of the marriage. Her husband forced her to have sex with his friends for money. Later, she
ran off to another province together with a man she had met at work and they
began living together. Her husband and family began searching for her everywhere. The woman, who said she was very happy living with the man she had
escaped with, was later found by her family and husband. The woman was
brought home, where she was tried for “besmirching the family’s honor,” and
it was decided that that she should die. Her brother, who did not want for her to
be killed, helped her to go to the Bar Association and apply for help.
The Bar Association instructed the woman to apply to KAMER, which then
accepted her application. The woman said that she wanted to go back to the
man she’d run away with.
What KAMER did:
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
12 January 2006
28
Literate
Married (state-recognized)
Three
How she reached KAMER:
She applied via telephone with help from her younger brother.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman married the man that she loved, but was then subjected to violence
at the hands of her husband and her husband’s family throughout her marriage.
Once she became pregnant, the violence continued, and as a result her children
were born handicapped. The woman was forbidden to leave the house, and so had
never even seen the city that she was brought to after getting married.
The woman was constantly being judged by her husband and his family, who
accused her, saying “We know you have a boyfriend. Now who is the father of
your children?” They threatened to kill her. One day, when her husband was not
at home, she secretly called her brother, who lives in a different city, and told
him about what she was going through. Her brother then called KAMER and
applied for help on behalf of his sister.
The woman’s application was taken by calling her at home at an hour when
her husband was out of the house.
The woman requested shelter for herself and her children, saying that she could
not return to her family, because her husband would find her there and kill her.
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What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Via telephone, plans were made in accordance with the woman’s own wishes.
¬ Contact was established with the Social Assistance and Child Protection
Agency (SHÇEK) in another province, where shelter was secured for her and
her family.
¬ The woman took her children and secretly escaped from home and went to
the province where the shelter is located. The woman was met there by officials and settled into a shelter together with her children.
Outcome:
¬ She stayed at the shelter together with her children for some time.
¬ Later, with support from her brother, she rented an apartment in another
province.
¬ She started working.
¬ She continues to live with her children.
¬ Her husband is still looking for her.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
band.
The woman applied to KAMER, asking for support in her efforts to divorce.
The woman was instructed to apply to the Bar Association; she filed for
divorce and also filed a criminal complaint against her husband. Taking her
children with her, she moved out and rented an apartment.
After a while, she met another man whom she began seeing. Upon hearing
about this, her family became violent towards the woman, telling her “you have
soiled our name, if you meet with that man again, we’ll kill you.”
After this happened, she applied to KAMER a second time.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got her financial support to meet her children’s educational needs.
Outcome:
¬ The woman’s divorce was finalized and she got custody of her children.
¬ KAMER maintains contact with the woman.
***
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5th Applicant
4th
Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
13 January 2006
38
Literate
Divorced
Six
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman, who was subjected to violence at the hand of her husband, also
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
21 January 2006
20
Married by imam (not state recognized); husband’s
second wife (kuma)
Two
How she reached KAMER:
She applied via the police station.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman experienced intense violence of all kinds at the hands of her husband throughout the duration of their marriage. The woman’s husband, who was
involved with another woman, occasionally threatened to kill her. One night, the
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woman’s husband beat and raped her. Later, he began stabbing her, saying, “I’m
going to kill you, tell me how you want to die.” The woman managed to escape,
wounded, and was taken to the hospital with help from her neighbors. The
woman applied to KAMER with help from the police at the hospital.
The woman said that her family, which resided in a different province, would
support her, and so she asked for help so she could go be with them.
What KAMER did:
¬ Went to the hospital to accept the woman’s application.
¬ Got her psychological counseling.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in contact with her family, which was residing in a different province.
¬ Helped the woman so that she could go be with her family.
Outcome:
¬ The woman continues to live with her family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
police, the man abducted the girl’s younger brother and threatened to kill him
if the girl did not withdraw her complaint.
Worried that her brother might be killed, the girl changed her complaint,
saying that he wasn’t the man who raped her. When she got home, she saw that
the man had let her brother go. The girl’s mother called up the family of the
man who raped her and told them, “Come over so we can resolve this matter.”
When the man’s family refused to comply, the girl’s family filed another complaint, both for the rape of their daughter and the abduction of their son, so that
the rapist was sentenced to prison.
The girl’s older brother was doing his military service while all of the aforementioned happened. Afraid that he “might kill their daughter upon his return
from military service,” his family applied to KAMER for help.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ A criminal complaint was filed against the rapist.
¬ A lawyer was consulted and the seriousness of the situation explained.
¬ The girl and her mother were told what they could do if their lives were
threatened.
6th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children
16 January 2006
14
Literate
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with help from a woman who had lost her
daughter to a killing committed in the name of honor.
Why she was “tried”:
The 14 year old girl was raped by her step-father’s relative. She did not tell
anyone about it and attempted suicide. She was taken to the hospital, where she
told her family about what had happened. Her family then went to the police
station and reported the rapist. Upon hearing that he had been reported to the
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Outcome:
¬ The girl’s mother said that the girl would be safe for a while longer since her
brother would still be doing his military service for some time, but said that
should they face any danger, they would get in contact with KAMER.
¬ Pressures to have the girl and her family rescind the criminal complaint continued. After a while, the family withdrew their complaint.
¬ The rapist’s family gave the girl’s family money as retribution in return for
“resolving the issue by rescinding their complaints and marrying the girl to
the rapist.”
¬ The girl’s family convinced her to marry the rapist.
***
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7th Applicant
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
8th Applicant:
22 January 2006
21
Literate
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman’s older brother wrote a letter to KAMER asking for help for his sister.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s brother wrote to KAMER, explaining that his sister had been
abducted from a carpet weaving course by two people who raided the course and
that, despite many efforts to find her, she remained missing. He asked for help
finding his sister.
KAMER called the woman’s brother to obtain more detailed information.
Later, the woman’s brother learned that his sister was in a village and that she
had been forced to marry one of the men who abducted her.
What KAMER did:
¬ Kept in touch with the woman’s brother.
¬ Provided the woman with the necessary support so that she could go to the
province where her brother was.
¬ The man who abducted the woman threatened to kill the woman and her
brother, saying, “She is my wife. She has sullied by honor by leaving the
home.”
Outcome:
¬ The woman and her brother went to another province where the woman now
lives with her family.
***
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 January 2006
16
Completed elementary school
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman was instructed to apply to KAMER by a woman whose daughter
had been a victim to a killing committed in the name of honor.
Why she was “tried”:
The girl, whose father died when she was still very young, was under constant
pressure from her family. Her mother saw her talking with her boyfriend and
beat her. She became frightened when her mother disowned her, saying, “Go
wherever you will, you, who sully our honor, are no longer our daughter,” and
so she sought refuge at the home of her married older sister.
When the girl’s mother told the girl’s brother about what had happened, her
brother became angry; he went to his older sister’s home where he beat the girl
and threatened to kill her. The girl ran away. A woman who saw her on the street
and realized that she had run away from home took her in for the night. The following day, the woman’s family began researching how they could help the girl,
and learned from a woman whose daughter had been the victim of a killing
committed in the name of honor that they could apply to KAMER for help.
The husband and wife who had taken the girl in then brought her to KAMER.
The woman’s application was taken; at first, she requested shelter. Later, she
said that she wanted someone to speak with her family about her situation, and
that if the family responded positively, she wanted to return to her family.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency and then
got her settled into a shelter.
¬ Accompanied her while she applied to be taken into the shelter.
¬ Talked with the woman’s family, in accordance with the woman’s own wishes.
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Outcome:
¬ She stayed in a shelter for a while.
¬ Talks with the woman’s family were positive. The woman returned to her
family.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
***
9th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 January 2006
32
Illiterate
Married (state-recognized)
Six
¬ Contact was established with the Social Service and Child Protection Agency
and the woman was placed in a shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman during the application process for the shelter.
¬ Covered her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in a shelter for a while.
¬ The woman’s divorce proceedings were finalized; she and her husband
divorced.
¬ She later married the man with whom she had run away and they started a
new life in another province.
***
10th Applicant:
How she reached KAMER:
The woman and the man she ran away with came to KAMER together. The
woman applied to the Emergency Help Line.
Why she was “tried”:
Because of the frequent violence she was subjected to at home, the woman took
her children and went to stay with her family. After a while, she met and began
seeing a man who was married and had children. After turning her children over
to her previous husband, with whom she was still married by law, the woman ran
off to another province together with the other man. They lived in that province
for some time, before returning to the province from which they had run away,
hiding for a while in a shanty. Meanwhile, both of their families had sentenced
them to death for running away and were searching for them. After the woman,
together with the man with whom she had run away, applied to KAMER, the
woman was informed of the kinds of support she could receive and they were told
that the man with whom she lived could file a criminal complaint with the police.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Gave a lawyer power of attorney to start divorce proceedings.
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
14 February 2006
22
Literate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER’s Emergency Help Line via the police station.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman eloped and got married to a man whom her family did not
approve of. She was then disowned by her family. After moving to another
province together with her husband, the latter began beating her. In order to
escape from her husband’s violence, the woman called her older sister, saying
that she wanted to return to her family and asking for help. Her sister told her
that their father was very angry at her, and that he might harm her. She slept on
the streets for a while because she had no money and nowhere to go. A family
realized this and took her in. The woman lived for about a year with the family
that took her in. The family then married her to an elderly man that they knew.
Her second husband then told her, “If you’d been a good woman, you wouldn’t have left your first husband. You wouldn’t have been on the streets. You’re
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dirty, and you make everything you touch filthy,” and he began acting violently towards her. The woman was denied food and beaten as a punishment by her
second husband; when she could no longer stand it, she escaped to her sister’s
home. The woman’s sister and brother-in-law hid her in their home for a while.
The woman’s brother and father learned that the woman was at her sister’s
house. They went to the woman’s sister’s house and beat her, her sister, and her
brother-in-law nearly to death. They locked them up in a room and began making plans to kill them. Someone else in the house helped her to escape from the
locked room, after which she came to Diyarbak›r and took refuge in a police station. She applied to KAMER with help from the police. She requested that she be
placed in a shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological help.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Collaborated with the police to ensure her safety.
¬ Contact was established with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency
and she was settled into a shelter.
¬ Accompanied her during the application process for the women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
11th Applicant:
Date of application: 17 February 2006
Age:
24
Educational status:
Illiterate
Marital status:
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Number of children:
Where she came from: Diyarbak›r
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER’s Emergency Help Line via the police station.
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Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s first marriage was at a very young age; unable to stand the
marriage for long, the woman soon returned to her father’s home. Later she was
married off to someone much older than her. She began to be subjected to violence in her second marriage. When she did not become pregnant, the violence
increased and she was constantly derided. Several years later she became pregnant. Her husband then said, “I’m unable to have children. This is not my
child. Who got you pregnant?” and beat the woman. Despite her pleas, the
woman failed to convince her husband that the child was his. She had a miscarriage due to a beating she took at this time. It became clear to the woman
that the man intended to kill her, and so she sought refuge at the police station.
She applied to KAMER for support via the police station. Stating that she
would be killed if she were returned to her family, the woman asked to be placed
in a shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Collaborated with the police station to ensure her safety.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Service and Child Protection Agency and settled
her into a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied her throughout the application process for shelter.
¬ Provided money to cover her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
12th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
23 February 2006
Married
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How she reached KAMER:
A lawyer applied to KAMER via telephone on her behalf.
Why she was “tried”:
A lawyer called KAMER and provided information about the woman, who was
wounded at the time. Her husband had tried to kill her by slitting her throat.
She was hospitalized and treated for serious wounds. The hospital that the
woman was taken to did not have the necessary capacity to treat the woman,
who was constantly losing blood. The doctors stated that if she did not receive
the necessary treatment within a short amount of time, she would die.
KAMER was asked to provide support in order to get the woman transferred
to a hospital in another province possessing the necessary equipment for her
treatment.
Highway travel between provinces was impossible at the time due to severe
winter weather conditions. The woman had to be transferred to another
province by helicopter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Talked with the Provincial Governor and Gendarme Headquarters of the
province where the woman was first hospitalized. As a result of these talks, the
woman was then transferred to another province by means of a helicopter
belonging to the Gendarme Headquarters.
Outcome:
¬ The woman, who was transported to a better equipped hospital, is still undergoing treatment.
¬ Her condition is improving.
***
13th Applicant
Date of application:
4 March 2006
Age:
32
Educational status:
Literate
Marital status:
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Number of children:
One
Where she came from: Diyarbak›r
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself, accompanied by a female neighbor.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman, who lost her parents at a young age, was raised by her aunt. She
later got a job and began living by herself. She met a man and they got married. After she got married, she was traumatized when she learned that her husband was already married with children.
Her husband told her that when they met, he was having problems with his
previous wife, and that he married her to punish his previous wife, but that he
and the latter had made up and gotten back together. In the meantime, the
woman became pregnant, and then her husband and her husband’s first wife
began subjecting her to violence. Several times they beat her so badly that she
was hospitalized.
The woman gave birth. Afterwards, her husband and his family continued to
beat her, so with help from a neighbor, she applied to KAMER. Upon the
woman’s request, support was provided so that she could get a medical report
and file a criminal complaint.
She escaped from her husband, who had taken her baby and was seeking to
kill her, and applied to KAMER a second time because her life was in danger.
She asked for help in getting custody of her baby and going to stay with a relative who lived in a different province.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Helped her file a criminal complaint against her husband.
¬ Helped her start court proceedings to get custody of her child and child support.
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¬ Helped her to get to her relative who was living in a different province.
¬ Made sure her baby’s medical expenses were met.
¬ Provided financial support to meet her needs and those of her baby.
Outcome:
¬ Following her criminal complaint, her husband was taken under police custody.
¬ Court proceedings were finalized and she got custody of her child.
¬ She is living with her relative in a different province.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
15th Applicant:
7 March 2006
Single
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER with help from her mother-in-law.
14th Applicant:
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER via telephone with help from a security official.
Why she was “tried”:
A security official working for the State Railways called KAMER and told them
that he was with a woman who had run away from home and was seeking help.
He said that the woman’s father was looking for her everywhere and that he
would not be able to bring her to KAMER.
The security official was provided with information about what they could do
and directed to go to the police station. Meanwhile KAMER got in touch with the
police station and with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency, carrying out the necessary coordination to ensure the woman’s safety and get her settled into a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Collaborated with the police to ensure the woman’s safety.
¬ Collaborated with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to get the
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Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a woman’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
woman settled into a women’s shelter.
16 March 2006
27
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Three
Why she was “tried”:
She experienced violence throughout the eight years of her marriage. Her
husband, a drug addict, was sexually violent towards her and would “punish”
her by beating and starving her.
The woman’s husband had previously tried to kill his mother by throwing her
off the balcony. He threatened to kill the woman, too claiming that she was letting men in the house when he wasn’t at home. She was injured and hospitalized several times because her husband beat her. The woman took her children
and applied to KAMER. There were bruises and wounds on her body. She said
that her husband was trying to kill her and asked to be placed in a women’s
shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint against her husband.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Serives and Child Protection Agency and got her
settled into a shelter together with her children.
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¬ Accompanied her throughout the application process for the women’s shelter.
¬ Covered her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ She stayed in the women’s shelter for some time.
¬ She sued her husband for child support and began receiving child support.
¬ She got a job and began working.
¬ She rented an apartment and started a new life for herself and her children.
¬ She drops her children off at a day care center run by the Social Services and
Child Protection Agency in the morning when she goes to work and picks
them up in the evening.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
and began waiting outside the police station in order to kill the woman. Her life
in danger, the woman applied to KAMER with help from the police. The woman
said that she wanted to go be with her husband and baby.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint.
¬ Got her a plane ticket.
¬ Accompanied her to the airport.
¬ Held talks with the police department in the province that the woman was
going to so that they would meet the woman at the airport and accompany
her to her house, just in case she was being followed.
***
16th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
21 March 2006
44
Illiterate
Second wife - Married (by imam only; not staterecognized)
Seven
Outcome:
¬ The necessary security measures to ensure the woman’s safety were taken and
she was transported to her house with her husband in a different province.
¬ Police met the woman upon her arrival in the other province and safely
accompanied her to her home.
¬ Charges were pressed against her former husband, who was therefore subsequently arrested.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
***
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
17th Applicant:
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s life had been threatened before, at which time she applied to
KAMER and was placed in a women’s shelter.
After she left the women’s shelter, she remarried, began living in a different
city, and had a child.
Longing to see her children from her previous marriage, she then went to the
city where her children reside. When she went to her children’s school, she ran
into her former husband and his brother. The woman was attacked and injured
in the hand. Police arrived at the crime scene and took the woman to the police
station. The relatives of her former husband heard about what had happened
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
22 March 2006
24
High school graduate
Married (state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with the support of a close friend.
Why she was “tried”:
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The woman married a relative of hers, despite her father’s objections. After
she got married, her husband began beating her. She left home several times
and went to stay with her family because of the violence she was experiencing
at home. Her father sent her back to her husband, telling her: “You did this to
yourself. You didn’t listen to me. Now go pay the price for your mistake.” Seeing
that her family did not support her in this matter, the woman’s husband
became even more physically violent. One day, he drugged her and made her
pass out. When she woke up the following morning, she found a friend of her
husband’s sleeping beside her in bed. Her husband then accused the woman of
doing this herself, as if he had nothing at all to do with it, and yelled at her:
“I’ve been nourishing a viper in my bosom. If you want, I can bring you lots
more men like this one.” Her husband told the woman’s family about what as
going on. Though the woman told her family that it was nothing but slander,
her family did not believe her, but decided that she should be killed because she
had sullied the family’s honor. Realizing that her daughter was going to be
killed, the woman’s mother helped her. Instead, they escape from the house.
The woman, whose life was in danger after she ran away from home, applied to
KAMER and asked that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in contact with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that
the woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying at a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
***
18th Applicant
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
24 April 2006
21
High school graduate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Pregnant
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
After marrying against her family’s will, the woman was disowned by her
family. Her husband, a marijuana smoker and drinker, began beating her. He
continued acting violently towards her even after she became pregnant. Her
husband would beat her and kick her out onto the street at night, after which
she would take refuge at neighbors’ houses, going back home once her husband
woke up. Her husband then began accusing her of cheating on him, asking
“Who were you sleeping with? Where were you?” Afraid that her husband would
try to kill her, the woman went to the police for help. The police then directed
the man to apply to KAMER.
The woman, who was pregnant at the time she applied, said that her husband
wanted to kill her and therefore asked to be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to have the
woman placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman during the application process for the women’s
shelter.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint against her husband.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the women’s shelter for some time and gave birth.
¬ She began looking for work.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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19th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
28 April 2006
42
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Five
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via a relative who had been in danger of losing her own life as a result of an attempted killing in the name of honor and
had received support from KAMER at the time.
¬ Helped the woman file a lawsuit to claim the property left behind by her husband.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint against the husband’s relatives.
Outcome:
¬ The woman’s lawsuit was finalized and she received her inheritance from her
deceased husband.
¬ She sold everything that she owned. She then bought a house in a province
where a close relative of hers lives and settled there.
¬ She is living in her new house together with her children.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was living in a village with her husband when the latter committed suicide. The woman, who was trying to carry on with her life and support
herself and her children, began experiencing violence at the hands of her mother- and father-in-law. Her mother- and father-in-law began slandering the
woman, claiming that she was having affairs with various men. They threatened her, saying, “You’re not in your right mind. We’re going to get you an
insanity report and kill you. Nobody will know that we did it.” No longer able to
withstand the violence that her mother- and father-in-law were practicing
against her, the woman took her children and went to stay with her married
older sister.
The woman’s mother- and father-in-law then showed up at the woman’s sister’s house where they beat her and pressured her to come back to the village.
They also attacked the woman’s sister and brother-in-law for taking her in.
They accused the woman of “having gone there to have an affair with her
brother-in-law.”
The woman applied to KAMER, saying that her husband’s relatives were
going to kill her.
The woman was attacked by a relative of her husband’s when she went to the
Bar Associaton to file a criminal complaint.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
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20th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
2 May 2006
16
Literate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
How she reached KAMER:
She was directed to KAMER by two women already familiar with the
organization.
Why she was “tried”:
The girl’s mother died when the girl was still very young. The girl’s father and
step-mother acted in a violent and oppresseive manner towards her. Unable to
bear the violence any longer, the girl attempted suicide. She was pressured by
her father into becoming engaged with a man whom she did not want to marry.
The girl called off the engagement. Her father was enraged by her action and
beat her and locked her up at home. The girl escaped and went to the police station, where she told the police at the Juvenile Division what happened. The
Juvenile Division then returned the girl to her home, making her father promise not to hurt her anymore.
After the girl returned home, her father forced her to marry her fiancé. She
was constantly raped by her husband. She was also forced to take care of her
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husband’s bedridden mother. Unable to stand living with her husband anymore, the girl then ran away. While wandering the streets, unsure where to go,
the girl encountered two women who were familiar with KAMER and instructed
her to apply to the Emergency Help Line.
When applying, the girl said that her husband and father were searching for
her everywhere and would kill her if they found her.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ A counselor from the Emergency Help Line accompanied the girl to the
Juvenile Division.
¬ Informed the police in the division that the girl’s life was in danger so that
the necessary precautions to ensure her safety were taken.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint against the girl’s father.
Outcome:
¬ The Juvenile Division talked with the girl’s father several times; once they felt
certain that her father would no longer harm her, they took the girl back to
her family.
***
phone. When her husband and family learned of this, they decided to kill the
woman. The woman informed the man that she was seeing that she was going
to be killed and asked him for help. They made plans to meet in another
province and run away together. The woman took her children and went to the
meeting spot that they had agreed upon; however, the man did not show up and
so the woman realized that she had been tricked. The woman was thus left out
on the street with no where to go and unsure of what she should do next.
KAMER volunteers advised the woman to apply to KAMER.
In her application, the woman said that she was unable to care for her children and that her life was in danger, and she therefore asked to be placed in a
women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Her children were temporarily placed in a Social Services and Child Protection Agency care center.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency and had
the woman placed in a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
21st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
20 May 2006
33
Elementary school
Married (state-recognized)
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was constantly subjected to violence throughout the duration of
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22nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 May 2006
40
Completed middle school
Married (state-recognized)
Two
How she reached KAMER:
The woman was directed to KAMER by other women who had participated in
KAMER’s group workshops.
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Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s husband had left her years ago and moved abroad. Left alone
with her children, the woman suffered violence at the hands of her brother-inlaw. Her brother-in-law sexually harassed the woman whenever he had the
chance. When the woman refused to give in to her brother-in-law’s sexual
advances, the latter would beat her and her children. He also threatened the
woman, saying, “I’ll kill you and your children if you tell anyone about what
I’ve done.” It got to the point that the woman could no longer sleep at night out
of fear of what her brother-in-law might do.
No longer able to stand this situation, the woman took her children and went
to KAMER.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Ensured the woman’s safety.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint against the woman’s brother-in-law.
¬ Provided the necessary support so that the woman and her children could go
stay with a relative residing in a distant province.
¬ Used its connections in that province to get the woman a job.
Outcome:
¬ The woman moved to the distant province where her relative lived, with support from her relative.
¬ She began working and started a new life for her and her children.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The girl was sent to her older sister and brother-in-law’s house to help take
care of her ill sister. While she was staying there, she was raped by her brotherin-law several times. The girl’s brother-in-law threatened her, saying, “If you
tell anyone about what I did, I’ll kill you and your sister.” Scared by such
threats, for a while the girl did not tell anyone about what had happened. Later
she told her mother. At first, her mother did not believe her and took her to the
doctor to be examined. Learning that her daughter was pregnant, the girl’s
mother then called upon the girl’s brother-in-law to discuss the matter. The
brother-in-law denied it at first, but then later admitted to raping the girl. The
girl’s brother-in-law offered to marry the girl, taking her as his second wife.
Upon hearing this, the girl’s mother had a nervous breakdown and began
screaming. The rest of the family then found out what happened as well. Her
family decided to “kill the girl because she is sullied, and her brother-in-law
because he raped her.” The girl was locked up in a room. Her brother-in-law
was then killed by her older brother.
The girl’s mother understood that the girl was going to be killed, so she
secretly let the girl out of the room at night and told her to go to the police. After
successfully running away, the girl took refuge at the police station. The police
then directed the girl to apply to KAMER.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to get the
girl placed in a children’s home.
23rd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
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4 June 2006
16
Completed elementary school
Single
Outcome:
The girl is staying at the children’s home.
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24th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
7 June 2006
23
Vocational university
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via a friend of hers who was familiar with
KAMER.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman went to a different province to study at the university. In that
province, she began dating a man. The man pressured her to have sex with him,
and eventually, unable to deal with the pressure, she gave in. As it turned out,
the boyfriend had secretly recorded them having sex together, and using this
tape, he threatened and bribed the woman into doing anything he wanted. He
treated the woman like his private property, making her do whatever he pleased,
and carrying out sexual, emotional, and physical violence against her.
Though she wanted to break up with him, she was forced to submit to his will
because of his threats.
The woman’s boyfriend forbid her from having contact with her family and
kept her from visiting them during school breaks. The woman ended up having
to lie to her family during breaks in order to explain to them why she was not
coming home. By her second year at university, she began getting poor grades
because of the trauma of her experience. Her boyfriend told her, “Tell your family that you had a car accident, that you got in debt, and that you have to pay
the other party 30 billion TL, then give me the money. And if you don’t do as I
say, I’ll kill you.” Frightened by her boyfriend’s threats, the woman got the 30
billion TL from her family and gave it to him.
The girl’s family became worried about her and so set off to visit her in the
province where she was studying. Upon hearing this, the woman ran away and
hid at the family of a friend of hers living in a different province. The woman’s
family heard about what the woman had experienced and began looking for
her. Meanwhile, the woman received death threats from both her boyfriend and
her family.
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The family with whom the woman was staying was familiar with KAMER and
directed the woman to apply to the KAMER Emergency Help Line.
The woman applied to KAMER, asking for support to ensure her safety. As the
woman’s life may have been in danger in the particular province where she was
located at the time, the woman was transported to a KAMER office in another
province. Contact was then established with the Social Services and Child
Protection Agency in that province.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Accompanied her to a KAMER in another province.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that she
could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Bought her a plane ticket.
¬ Got her a police escort to the airport.
¬ Covered her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ She is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ She has found a job and begun working.
¬ She has started attending a course to prepare for the university entrance
exams, with financial assistance from the governorship of the province where
she is residing.
¬ She says that she intends to further her education.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
25th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
02 July 2006
30
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Three
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How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The husband of the woman, a mother of three, committed suicide. A relative
then began helping her out so that she could look after her children. After a
while, she ran off with the relative and they began living together. Her family
decided to kill her and the man she was living with. A member of her family
killed the man she was living with, but she managed to get away. She went to a
friend’s house and asked them to take her in, but they were afraid that the
woman’s family might hurt them, too, and so they told the woman to go to the
police. The woman went to the police station, where she was then directed to
KAMER.
The woman said that her life was in danger and she therefore asked to be
placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Collaborated with the police to ensure the woman’s safety.
¬ The woman was accompanied to the Social Services and Child Protection
Agency where she was helped to apply for shelter.
¬ The woman was placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ She found work at the shelter where she is staying.
¬ She has filed a lawsuit to get custody of her children.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
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26th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
2 July 2006
27
Completed middle school
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman got married in accordance with her family’s wishes. The family
knew that the woman’s husband was already married and had children, but
they hid this fact from their daughter. Later the woman learned the truth about
her husband. The woman refused to forgive her family, believing that they had
betrayed her by not telling her the truth about her husband.
Throughout the duration of her marriage, the woman’s husband and her
husband’s first wife abused her by beating and berating her. She had a child.
When the violence towards the woman increased, she took her child and went
to the police.
The police directed the woman to apply to KAMER. She said that she might
be killed if she returned to stay with her family or her husband, and so she asked
to be placed in a shelter. There were visible bruises and scars on the woman’s
body at the time of her application.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got her a medical report.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint.
¬ Got her settled into a women’s shelter via the Social Services and Child
Protection Agency.
¬ Accompanied her throughout the application process for placement in the
women’s shelter.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed at a shelter for some time.
¬ While at the shelter she talked with her husband and later returned home.
***
27th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
7 July 2006
25
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman’s neighbor applied to KAMER on the woman’s behalf.
Why she was “tried”:
Married and the mother of four, the woman was sold for money to a village
guard. The guard was already married and had taken the woman as his second
wife. When the woman failed to get along with the guard’s first wife, the guard,
who was the woman’s second husband, sent her back to her first husband, the
same man who had sold her to the second. Her first husband picked her up and
took her home. For several days the woman spent time with her children, whom
she had missed in her absence. But then, understanding that she was going to
be killed, the woman told someone she knew that her life was in danger and
asked for help. Shortly thereafter the woman was stabbed by her brother-inlaw’s son, who told her, “You’ve been sullied; you’re dirty and you deserve to
die.” The person whom the woman had beseeched for help felt guilty and
applied to the bar association and KAMER, asking them to help the woman.
What KAMER did:
¬ Went to the hospital to try and help the woman, but upon arrival found out
that the woman, who had been brought to the hospital by her husband, was
already dead.
¬ Tried to make sure that the incident was publically exposed.
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28th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
18 July 2006
36
High school
Married
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with help from her brother.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman experienced violence at the hands of her husband throughout
her marriage. Her husband and brother-in-law accused her of “letting men in
the house and having affairs.” They claimed that “men were coming and
going” when they were not at home. The woman’s husband was trying to usurp
property that legally belonged to the woman, pressuring her with threats that he
would divorce her and gain custody of their children.
Meanwhile the woman came to realize that her husband and brother-in-law
were planning to kill her. The woman called her younger brother and younger
sister to her house, where she confronted her husband and brother-in-law, who
then admitted to the lies they had been telling about her. The woman then took
her children and went to stay with her brother, after which she went to KAMER
to apply for help.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Wishing to pursue her rights under legislative act 4320 (i.e., the right to get
a restraining order against an abusive spouse), the woman filed a criminal
complaint against her husband.
¬ Got the woman legal counseling about her rights with regard to her property.
Outcome:
¬ The woman lived separately from her husband for some time, after which she
returned to her husband when the latter expressed regret for what he had done.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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29th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
20 July 2006
28
Illiterate
Married (state-recognized)
Three
return home.
¬ Upon the woman’s request, officials from the shelter talked with the woman’s
husband. When it becme clear that the family was not going to harm the
woman, the shelter officials helped the woman to return home.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
Wife and mother of three, the woman was subjected to serious violence at the
hands of her husband and her husband’s family. The woman was constantly
insulted and berated because she “failed to give the family a son” and therefore
had “put an end to the family line.” Her husband threatened to marry a second
woman, and the violence against the woman increased. Unable to stand the situation any longer, the woman took her children and ran away to the home of
her older sister, who resided in a different province. She stayed there for several
days before returning to her own home. Her husband and her husband’s family said to her, “So you ran off and went to go sleep with your brother-in-law?
Never come back to this house again,” and threw the woman out onto the street.
The woman’s family did not help the woman after she was thrown out
because they had given her hand in marriage in exchange for the hand of her
husband’s sister, who was then married to the woman’s brother. So, helping the
woman would mean jeopardizing her brother’s marriage. Desperate for help,
the woman went to the police, who then helped her apply to KAMER.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that she
could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Covered her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the shelter for a while and then said that she wanted to
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30th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
23 July 2006
18
Completed middle school
Married (state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with help from KAMER volunteers.
Why she was “tried”:
While engaged to the man she loved, the woman was raped by the village
shepherd. Her family then forced her to marry the rapist. The woman, who
became pregnant and gave birth, was constantly beaten by her husband. She
got a job and began working. Her husband frequently stopped by her place of
work where he beat and berated her, claiming that he was doing so out of jealousy. Then one day her husband went to the woman’s workplace and told her,
“If you come home, I’ll kill you,” and then took the woman’s child from her.
The owners of the business where the woman worked went to the public prosecutorship and reached some KAMER volunteers. The woman then applied to
KAMER via telephone with help from the KAMER volunteers.
What KAMER did:
¬ Took action to ensure the woman’s safety in the province where the woman
lived and to get her placed in a women’s shelter, as she requested.
¬ The woman was put up as a guest somewhere for some time.
¬ Despite all efforts, the necessary support could not be secured from the relevant institutions.
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¬ KAMER took the woman to a province where there was a KAMER Emergency
Help Line, where she was then provided with the necessary support.
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Helped the woman file for divorce.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a woman’s shelter.
¬ Filed a criminal complaint.
¬ Covered all expenses to meet the woman’s needs.
She married her boyfriend, who was aware of the pregnancy and had decided to support her in this matter. The woman was taken to the hospital where she
gave birth three months after their marriage. The husband’s family thus came
to realize that the baby’s father was someone else and so they began making
plans to kill her. When the husband’s family members came and surrounded
the hospital, armed with guns and intending to kill the woman, the hospital
officials turned to the police and asked them to ensure the woman’s safety as
her life was in danger.
The police then called KAMER requesting support for the woman.
Outcome:
¬ The woman preferred to stay with a family that offered to support her.
¬ The woman filed for divorce.
¬ Meanwhile, the rapist and husband of the woman raped the woman’s 14 year
old sister. The woman’s family then began to offer their support to the
woman.
¬ The woman filed for custody of her child and returned to live with her family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
What KAMER did:
¬ Went to the hospital and took down her application.
¬ Talked with the police to discuss the likelihood of the husband’s family
reaching the woman and made sure the necessary precautions were taken.
¬ Got the hospital to cancel visiting hours and make sure nobody was allowed
into the hospital.
¬ The police began monitoring the surroundings of, and all roads leading to
the hospital.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency and initiated procedures to get the woman placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ The woman and her baby were boarded onto a police vehicle in an area outside the hospital cordoned off by the police and transported to the Social
Services and Child Protection Agency.
***
31st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
23 July 2006
21
Elementary school
Married
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why the woman was “tried”:
Before getting married the woman and her husband had been friends for a long
time. During this time, they lived in different provinces. The woman went to a
friend’s birthday party, where she was drugged and raped. When she woke up she
didn’t remember anything, but after some time she realized that she was pregnant.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman and her baby are staying together in a women’s shelter.
¬ The woman’s husband was scorned and disowned by his family because he
did not kill his wife. He shot and killed himself as a result of the psychological pressure.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
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32nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
31 July 2006
13
Single
How she reached KAMER:
Someone who knows the girl sent an e-mail to KAMER to apply on her behalf.
Why she was “tried”:
In the application sent to KAMER’s Emergency Help Line via e-mail, KAMER
was informed that a man aged around 50-55 had raped a girl aged around 1013 and that the girl was then locked up in a house and that her life was in danger. The applicant stated that the girl would likely be killed and asked for help
to intervene in this situation.
What KAMER did:
¬ Tried to get in touch with the child.
¬ Got in touch with the police department in the provice where the girl lives
and provided them with information about the situation. The police chief
stated that they were aware of the situation and were closely monitoring the
family.
Outcome:
The district police department is continuing to monitor the family to ensure
the girl’s safety.
***
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Why she was “tried”:
A university faculty member called KAMER to tell them that a pregnant
woman whose life was in danger had taken refuge in the house of one of his students. He stated that the woman had said that she could get help from a relative or close friend living in a different province and had asked for help to safely get to that province.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got in touch with the women’s center in the province where the woman lived
and provided information about the woman’s situation and requested support.
¬ Got her to apply to the women’s center where she lived.
¬ Took all necessary precautions to ensure her safety.
¬ Provided the phone number of a women’s center in the province of her destination so that she could contact them should she be in danger.
Outcome:
¬ The women went to stay with her friend.
¬ Contact could not be maintained.
***
34th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
33rd Applicant
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
How she reached KAMER:
A university faculty member applied to KAMER on the woman’s behalf.
31 July 2006
28
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized);
is her husband’s second wife
Two
31 July 2006
How she reached KAMER:
Applied via the police station.
Pregnant
Why she was “tried”:
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The woman was married to a man against her will and became his second
wife. Shortly after she got married, her husband’s brother began sexually
harassing her. One day when they were alone, he raped her. Her brother-in-law
then told her, “You will have sex with me whenever I want. And if you tell anyone about what I’ve done, I’ll kill you.” The brother-in-law continued to practice sexual violence against the woman for a long time, threatening to use a
gun against her if she did not do as he said. For some time, the woman did not
tell anyone about the situation out of fear. Finally, unable to stand it any
longer, the woman told her husband about what had happened. Her husband
did not believe her. He said that she was slandering his brother and he proceeded to beat her. After much struggle their neighbors managed to rescue the
woman from her husband. Her life in danger, the woman took her children and
ran away to the police station, where she took refuge. The police then referred
her to KAMER.
The woman applied to KAMER for help, asking that she and her children be
placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Provided financial support for the woman’s and her children’s needs.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so the
woman could be placed in a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman did not want to file any charges because she was afraid of her
husband and her husband’s family.
¬ She is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
***
35th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
9 August 2006
24
Elementary school
Married (state-recognized)
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was given in exchange as part of an arranged marriage and married to her maternal cousin. She did not bear any children and was constantly
subjected to violence. She became angry and, refusing to speak with her husband, went to stay with her own family in the hopes that she might get support
and be able to escape the violence she was experiencing. Her father would say
to her, “So you can’t give him a child but you still get angry and leave home.
Even death won’t get you out of this marriage.” He would then beat her and
send her back to her husband.
The woman’s husband got a job and began working in another province. Her
husband began coming home then only once every several months. He continued being violent towards the woman, telling her, “What kind of a woman are
you anyway—you can’t even have one single child.” The woman suggested
that they go to the hospital together and be examined, telling him that maybe
he was the reason they could not have children. Her husband responded by saying, “I know what you’re up to, next thing you know you’ll get pregnant by
another man and try to pass the kid off as mine.” He then beat the woman so
badly she had to be hospitalized. The woman secretly went to the bar association and asked to file for divorce. The woman’s father heard that she had gone
to the bar association and told the woman’s husband. The woman’s husband
then proceeded to beat the woman nearly to death and lock her up at home.
Feeling that her life was in danger, the woman secretly escaped from home
one night and went to the police. The police station then got in touch with
KAMER in the middle of the night so that the woman could apply for help.
What KAMER did:
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¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Collaborated with the police to ensure the woman’s safety.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to get the
woman settled into a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman while she applied to be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the women’s shelter for some time.
¬ With support from KAMER, she found work in the province where the
women’s shelter was located.
¬ She rented a house and started a new life.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
¬ The woman’s husband and family say, “She’s left home, she deserves to die,”
and continue to search for her.
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leave the country to go and be with the man she loves.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Ensured the woman’s safety.
¬ Informed her of the procedures she would have to go through to leave the
country.
¬ Got support from relevant parties in order to speed up her visa application
process.
¬ The woman was housed at a safe location until official procedures were
completed.
Outcome:
¬ The woman and her children moved to another country where the woman
has started a new life with the man that she loves.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
36th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
10 August 2006
24
Completed elementary school
Widow
Two
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman divorced her husband because of domestic violence and then,
together with her children, moved in with her family. After a while she met
someone who lived abroad and they began having a relationship. When her
family heard about this, they decided that she should be killed, saying to her,
“So you divorced your husband just so you could go having affairs with other
men and sullying our honor.” Realizing that she was going to be killed, the
woman applied to the KAMER Emergency Help Line. When applying, she asked
that measures be taken to ensure her safety and for support so that she could
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37th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
17 August 2006
18
Literate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via a lawyer.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman married at a young age as a man’s second wife, in order to
escape the oppressive atmosphere of her family home. She had to live with her
husband’s family for the duration of the marriage. She was constantly subjected to violence at the hands of her alcoholic husband and his family. Unable to
stand the violence any longer, the woman took her child and ran away to stay
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with a friend. After a while, the woman’s husband became enraged and decided to kill her, saying “a woman who leaves the home deserves to die.”
Upon hearing that her husband was looking for her everywhere and intended to kill her, the woman went to the courthouse and applied to the public prosecutorship. A lawyer then advised the woman to apply to KAMER. The woman
asked to be placed in a women’s shelter, and so contact was established with the
Social Services and Child Protection Agency.
38th Applicant:
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Despite all efforts to convince them otherwise, officials at the Social Services
and Child Protection Agency rejected the woman’s appeal to be placed in a
women’s shelter and sent the woman back to her husband.
¬ Officials at the Social Services and Child Protection Agency got in touch with
the woman’s husband and made him promise not to harm her and had him
sign a document attesting to his promise not to do so. However, the woman’s
life was still in danger, and the Agency nevertheless sent her back home. The
woman then escaped to KAMER once again because she feared for her life.
¬ Informed the Provincial Governoship, the public prosecutorship, and the
Social Services and Child Protection Agency that “the woman would be killed
if she was not placed in a women’s shelter and that the public authorities
would be responsible for her death.”
¬ Got the woman placed in a women’s shelter.
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER herself.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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Date of application: 31 August 2006
Age:
21
Educational status:
High school graduate
Marital status:
Married (state-recognized)
Number of children: One
Where she came from: Batman
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s family pressured her into marrying someone against her will.
She was constantly subjected to violence throughout the duration of her marriage. Unable to bear the violence any longer, she decided to get a divorce. Her
family and husband opposed her decision to divorce and threatened to kill her.
The woman ran away from home and applied to KAMER. She said that if she
returned home, she would be killed, and she therefore asked to be placed in a
shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to get the
woman placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ All communication ceased once the woman had been placed in the shelter.
***
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¬ The woman’s family came to KAMER to ask about her.
39th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
2 September 2006
22
Middle school
Married
One
How she reached KAMER:
She was referred to KAMER by the bar association.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was married off to a man who had raped her; she experienced
violence at the hands of her husband and her husband’s family throughout her
marriage. The woman, who was also sexually harassed by her husband’s brother, sought refuge with her family. Her father took his anger at the woman’s husband out on the woman, beat her, and sent her back to her husband. Rejected
by her family, the desperate woman then returned to stay with her husband who
had raped her. This scenario was repeated. Once, when the woman was forced
to go back to her husband yet again, the woman was severely beaten by her husband and his brother. No longer able to stand the violence, the woman snuck
out of her home and went to the bar association, where she filed a criminal
complaint and filed for divorce.
The bar association referred the woman to KAMER, where she went and asked
to be placed in a shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Continues to monitor her criminal complaint and divorce proceedings.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency and got her
settled into a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ Her situation continues to be monitored.
¬ The woman’s husband and family continue to search for her.
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40th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
10 September 2006
35
Literate
Married
Three
How she reached KAMER:
She applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman married her husband after eloping with him. After they got married, the woman experienced frequent and intense violence at the hands of her
husband, but because she had “run away and gotten married,” her family
refused to support her in any way. The woman did her best to endure the situation for the sake of her children. Meanwhile, her husband was having an affair
with another woman. With the violence at home increasing each passing day,
the woman finally took her small child and ran away. She slept in the park for
several days because she had nowhere to go. Her husband sent her messages on
her mobile phone, threatening her by saying, “You’ve soiled our honor—I will
kill you on the spot.” The woman went to the police, who then referred her to
KAMER. Stating that her life was in danger and that she could not go back
home, the woman applied to KAMER, asking to be placed in a shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Helped the woman file a criminal complaint.
¬ Met the woman’s basic needs.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman throughout the application process for the shelter.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
41st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
19 September 2006
22
Middle school
Single
-
How she reached KAMER:
The woman was directed to KAMER by a relative of hers who worked at the
public prosecutor’s office.
Why she was “tried”:
One day while home alone, the woman was raped by her paternal uncle. She
became pregnant as a result of the rape. As her pregnancy progressed and her
stomach grew larger, her family grew suspicious. She was afraid to answer them
when they asked her if she was pregnant or not, but then after her family beat
her, she told them that her uncle had raped her. Her uncle denied raping her.
The woman applied to KAMER for help.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ In accordance with the woman’s request, talks were held with her family,
which then decided not to follow through with its decision to kill the woman.
¬ Charges were pressed against the uncle. While proceedings were underway, a
DNA test was carried out, proving that the child belongs to the woman’s
uncle. The woman’s uncle was sentenced to 10 years 8 months in prison, but
is threatening to kill the woman once he gets out.
¬ Got the woman psychiatrical treatment because of the psychological problems induced by her situation.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman was provided with telephone numbers she could use to contact
KAMER in case of emergency.
¬ The woman gave birth and the baby was given to a care center belonging to
the Social Services and Child Protection Agency.
¬ The woman is living with her family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
42nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
19 September 2006
21
Elementary school
Single
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was raped by her maternal uncle. Her uncle threatened to kill her
if she told anyone about it. Some time later the woman met another man and
had sex with him and became pregnant as a result. When her stomach began
to grow, her family grew suspicious and took her to the doctor. When she found
out that she was pregnant, she told her maternal aunt and her mother that her
uncle had raped her. They then secretly called the uncle over and questioned
him. He denied raping the woman and accused her of “getting knocked up and
trying to pass the child off” on him. The woman’s family decided to kill her.
Understanding that she was going to be killed, the woman came to KAMER and
asked to be placed in a shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Met her basic needs.
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¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that she
could be placed in a shelter.
¬ Covered her travel expenses.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ She gave birth to her child.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
requested shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Met the basic needs of the woman and her children.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ Communication with the woman ceased once she had been placed in a shelter.
***
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43rd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
20 September 2006
20
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized);
by berdel agreement (exchange of brides between
two families)
Two
How she reached KAMER:
A man familiar with KAMER advised her to apply to the Emergency Help Line.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s husband, whom the woman had married as part of an
arranged marriage in which she was exchanged for a girl from her husband’s
family, left home frequently and neglected his children. Meanwhile, the woman
was also being beaten by him and her mother-in-law. In order to escape the violence, she considered taking her children and going to stay with her older
brother who lived in a different province. But then she changed her mind, worried that her brother’s wife, who was also her husband’s sister, would tell the
woman’s husband where she was. No longer able to put up with the violence,
the woman finally took her children and ran away from home. She ended up
staying on the street because she had nowhere to go. A man who noticed her
helplessly wandering the streets advised her to go to KAMER.
When applying the woman said that her life was in danger and she therefore
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44th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
21 September 2006
13 and 20 years old
How they reached KAMER:
A journalist called KAMER to apply on their behalf.
Why they were “tried”:
According to the journalist, s/he was told about the situation from a woman
close to the victims. The information provided was as follows:
“The woman was married but sent back home when she turned out not to be
a virgin. The woman told her father-in-law that she had been raped and
revealed the identity of the man who had raped her. In order to get revenge, the
woman’s father-in-law then abducted the young sister of the rapist, taking her
into the mountains and raping her before returning her to her village one week
later.
“Afterwards, in order to avoid a blood feud, the families decided to marry the
girls off to the men who had raped them. However, the father of the young girl
who was taken into the mountains and raped opposed this and filed criminal
charges against the rapist.”
Journalists wanted to report upon this incident.
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What KAMER did:
¬ Warned the journalists wishing to report on this incident that if they did so,
they would be endangering the lives of the women involved.
¬ Petitioned the Gendarme Provincial Headquarters for help to ensure the
women’s safety because their lives were in danger.
Outcome:
¬ Journalists reported upon the incident.
¬ The women’s families are being monitored by the gendarme in order to
ensure their safety.
¬ Each of the families pressed charges against the other.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the women.
***
45th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
1 October 2006
41
Illiterate
Married
Two
finally went to the police. A police officer who was familiar with KAMER called
the Emergency Help Line and informed them that there was no women’s center
that could help the woman in the province where she was located, and that they
were therefore going to send her to a province where KAMER had a center so
that the woman could seek help from them.
The woman reached KAMER with help from the police and requested to be
placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Went to the police station to take down her application.
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to get her
settled in a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman throughout the application process to be placed in
a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is living in a women’s shelter together with her children.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
After eloping and marrying her husband, the woman was rejected by her family. After some time, the woman began to experience violence at the hands of
her husband, who meanwhile had begun having an affair with another woman.
The woman’s husband the told her, “I can’t look after you anymore. If you
want, you can make a good salary working at night,” and then began forcing
her to have sex with other men for money. Later he threw her out onto the street,
telling her, “If you don’t bring back some money, I’ll kill you.” The woman
then took her two children and spent the night at a friend’s house. The next day
she took her children and went to another province in the hopes of finding a
job. Nobody wanted to hire her because of her children. Desperate, the woman
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46th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
4 October 2006
35
Illiterate
Married
How she reached KAMER:
The woman was advised to go to KAMER by a hotel worker.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s family forced her to marry someone against her will. After a
while, she got a divorce. Her family then forced her to marry someone 30 years
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older than her. The woman could not stand being married to this man, whom
she saw more as a father than a husband, and so she ran away to another city.
While seeking help in the province that she escaped to, an organization directed her to its women’s affairs unit. Still the woman was not provided with the
help she needed, and so she was taken to a hotel and left there.
The hotel workers asked KAMER to help the woman. The woman’s application
was taken; the woman requested that she be placed in a shelter, saying that if she
went back home, she would be killed either by her husband or her family.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that she
could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Accompanied the woman throughout the application process for the women’s
shelter.
¬ Covered her traveling expenses.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is still staying at the shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
47th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
6 October 2006
How she reached KAMER:
A specialist with social services called KAMER from abroad and applied to
KAMER on the woman’s behalf.
Why she was “tried”:
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The person from social services explained the situation as follows:
The woman’s father wanted to force her into an arranged marriage, which is
why the woman ran away to Europe. However, because the woman did not have
a residence permit, the state wanted to deport her. The woman told authorities
that if she was sent back to Turkey, she would be killed by either her father or
the person that her father wanted to marry her to.
What KAMER did:
¬ Requested to speak with the woman herself in order to take her application.
The woman stated that she did not want to talk.
¬ In talks with the woman’s lawyer, the lawyer was informed that she§ could
contact KAMER should she be deported. The lawyer was also provided with the
names and telephone numbers of other women’s centers in Ankara and
Istanbul so that the woman could seek help from them if necessary.
Outcome:
¬ Communication could not be established with the woman.
***
48th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
9 October 2006
29
Elementary
Divorced
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via telephone.
Why she was “tried”:
The applicant’s husband, who was living with another woman, constantly
acted violently towards her. Member of a prominent local family, the husband
threatened the woman, pressuring her into divorce. Afraid, the woman signed
the necessary documents and began receiving alimony. However, after divorce
proceedings were finalized, the woman’s ex-husband threatened her, saying,
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“You are going to continue living in this house as a maid and an unmarried
woman. Nobody will know that we’ve divorced. I am a prominent person in his
district and if you play with my honor, I’ll kill you and the children.”
The woman then secretly called KAMER, telling them that she was unable to
leave the house and that she wanted support so that she could go be with her
family which resided in a different district.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Continued to talk with the woman over the phone, providing support by
informing her about her options.
Outcome:
¬ The woman’s family was secretly informed of the woman’s situation.
¬ The woman took her children and went to the police; she then filed a criminal complaint against her ex-husband.
¬ Measures were taken to ensure the woman’s safety as she was transported to
her family.
¬ The woman and her children are living together with the woman’s family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
49th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
12 October 2006
33
Illiterate
Married (state-recognized)
Two
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER in person.
riage. Her husband, who used drugs and was a thief, tried to pressure their son
into practicing thievery as well. He would then beat the son because the latter
refused to do so. The woman and the son were both sexually harassed by the
husband’s younger brother. The woman tried to tell her husband about this, but
the latter just did not believe her. He said, “My brother would never do a thing
like that,” and proceeded tobeat the woman and their son. One day when the
husband’s brother came to their house, he sexually harassed the son once
again; in tears, the son went to tell his father about what his uncle had done.
The son took a beating from both his father and his uncle, after which he managed to escape and run away. The woman secretly took her other child with her
and applied to KAMER to help her out of this situation and to help her find her
runaway son. During this time, the woman’s husband was searching for her
and threatening to kill her. The woman asked to go stay with her sibling in
another province.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Put the woman up in a safe place for some time.
¬ In the meantime, her runaway son was found and legal procedures were
begun.
¬ Criminal complaints were filed against her husband and brother-in-law.
¬ Helped her file for divorce.
¬ Escorted the woman for some time because her life was in danger.
¬ Provided financial support so that she could go to her sibling’s house.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is currently living with her sibling.
¬ She and her son have both found jobs and begun working. Her daughter has
started school.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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50th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
51st Applicant:
12 October 2006
38
Illiterate
Married (state-recognized)
Six
How she reached KAMER:
A man who wished to remain anonymous called KAMER and asked for support for the applicant.
Why she was “tried”:
A man called KAMER and told them that a pregnant woman was being beaten by her step-parents because of gossip that had been spread about her, and
that the step-parents had killed the baby in her womb. He said that the woman
was in the hospital and that her life was in danger and asked for support for the
woman.
What KAMER did:
¬ Went to the hospital where the woman was being treated to provide any support she may need.
¬ Talked with the woman’s doctor to find out about her condition.
¬ The woman was being accompanied by a relative of her husband’s who kept
a close watch on her. Counsellors tried several different methods to get the
man away for the woman and finally managed to spend a short amount of
time alone with her.
¬ Gave the woman the Emergency Help Line telephone number and explained
to her that she could call whenever she was in need of help.
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
13 October 2006
26
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
How she reached KAMER:
Information was provided by a man who called KAMER.
Why she was “tried”:
The man who called KAMER said that the life of a married woman living in
a village was being threatened because she wanted a divorce. He gave the
woman’s telephone number and said that she was waiting for KAMER to call.
What KAMER did:
¬ Called the telephone number provided and talked with the woman. The
woman said that she was married to her paternal cousin and that she was
constantly subjected to severe violence. She explained that when she asked for
a divorce because of the violence, her husband threatened to kill her.
Outcome:
¬ The woman said that she wanted to think the matter over and that she would
get back to us later if necessary.
¬ The woman has not contacted KAMER again.
***
52nd Applicant:
Outcome:
¬ The woman, who looked frightened and anxious, took the card and hid it.
She said that she was fine for the time being and would contact KAMER if
necessary.
¬ The woman did not apply to KAMER herself thereafter.
***
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
18 October 2006
22
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
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She applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was abducted by her husband. The man raped her and made her
his third wife. The woman was beaten by her husband throughout the duration
of their marriage and tried to commit suicide several times. The woman’s older
sister is a sex worker in a brothel. The woman’s husband was pressuring her to
go work there, too, saying, “Your sister makes money working at the brothel,
you go and make some money, too.” The woman applied to KAMER because she
was afraid of being sold to the brothel.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so she
could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ She stayed in the women’s shelter for a while and then got in contact with
her older brother. With her older brother’s support, she left the women’s shelter and began living with him.
¬ KAMER is still in touch with the woman.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman eloped and got married to a man that her family did not approve
of. After a while, her husband began acting violently towards her. Her husband’s
other wife wanted her to leave and so she was constantly stirring up fights.
Meanwhile, the woman’s family was threatening to kill her because she ran off
and got married. One day while she was asleep, her husband’s other wife’s
younger brother came to their house and secretly got in bed with the woman.
The woman did not notice because she was asleep. When her husband saw this,
he told her, “You’re secretly having affairs with other men when I’m not
home,” and beat the woman nearly to death. The woman was finally able to
escape with her neighbors’ help.
The woman applied to KAMER, asking to be placed in a shelter because her
life was in danger.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the women’s shelter for a while.
¬ During that time, she talked with her husband and eventually went back to him.
***
***
53rd
Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
18 October 2006
22
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized); is her
husband’s second wife
54th Applicant:
Number of children:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
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20 October 2006
21
Middle school
Single
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Why she was “tried”:
The woman ran away to marry the man she loved. She had sex with the man
the same day. Her boyfriend then told her, “My mother doesn’t want you for a
daughter-in-law,” and sent the woman back to her family. When the woman
got home, her father and paternal uncle beat her severely. They handed her a
gun and tried to get her to commit suicide. When the woman refused to kill herself, they locked her up in the barn. The woman’s older brother killed the man
she had run off with and was imprisoned. Meanwhile, the woman’s mother tried
to support her and for this reason was subjected to violence.
The woman’s father was constantly trying to get her alone. When he finally
did, he raped her. The woman managed to escape and took refuge in a nearby
police station. The gendarme then referred the woman to KAMER. Her life in
danger, the woman asked to be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ She is secretly in contact with her mother.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was constantly subjected to violence at the hands of her husband.
When her husband decided that he wanted to marry another woman, he told
her, “These children aren’t mine, I don’t trust you. You’re having affairs with
other men.” He then pulled a knife on her and threatened to kill her. Another
day he beat the woman for the same reason, then pulled a knife on her and tried
to kill her. The woman then took her children and ran away to a friend’s house.
Her husband searched for her, accusing her of having an affair and telling the
neighborhood, “My wife’s cheating on me; she hasn’t been home since yesterday.” With help from friends, the woman applied to KAMER.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Started legal procedures so that the woman could benefit from law 4320 (i.e.,
get a restraining order against her abusive spouse).
¬ Helped the woman file for divorce.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the shelter for a while.
¬ The woman was able to get a restraining order against her husband, in accordance with law 4320, and returned home.
¬ The woman’s divorce was finalized.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
55th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
***
22 October 2006
33
High school
Divorced
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
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56th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
29 October 2006
22
Elementary school
Married (state-recognized)
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How she reached KAMER:
The woman was advised to apply to KAMER by people familiar with KAMER.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman got married and began living with her husband’s family in a different province. Her husband worked in a distant province and only came home
once every few months. When the woman said that she wanted to go be with her
husband, her husband’s siblings and her mother-in-law would beat her. She
told her husband about this, but he responded by saying, “What can we do
about it? They’re our family.”
Her husband returned home. When the woman asked to go to the room where
her husband was, her sisters-in-law and mother-in-law wouldn’t let her and a
fight broke out. Her husband emerged from his room and yelled, “I can’t take
this any more, there’s no peace in this house,” and threw the woman out onto
the street. The woman then went to the police and with their help, returned to
her hometown to be with her family. Her relatives, however, said, “This is a
family feud. We can’t be involved,” and refused to take the woman in. The
woman, who was thus left out on the street, was advised to go to KAMER by some
KAMER volunteers.
The woman applied to KAMER, saying that she wanted to divorce her husband and asking that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Helped her file for divorce.
¬ Helped her file for alimony.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
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57th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
31 October 2006
34
Literate
Married (state-recognized)
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER with help from a relative.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman, who was constantly subjected to violence by her husband, went
to her family several times, asking for their support in her efforts to get a
divorce. However, her family members convinced her not to get a divorce, and
she ended up having to return to her husband. Her husband, an alcohol and
marijuana abuser, beat the woman and slandered her. He was imprisoned several times for assault against various persons, and also stabbed his wife twice.
The man accumulated a significant amount of debt, and while under the influence of drugs and alcohol, forced his wife to have sex with the men to whom he
was indebted. When the effects of the drugs and alcohol wore off and his wife
told him about what he had done, he accused her of lying, saying, “You have
men in the house when I’m not at home, and these children aren’t even mine,”
and beat her. He later beat her so badly that their neighbors intervened, rescuing the woman from her husband and taking her to the hospital. Once she got
out of the hospital, the woman went to the police because she was afraid her
husband would kill her. With help from the police, the woman went to the
province where her family lived. Her husband then began to threaten the
woman and her family, who were supporting her. When the threats continued,
the woman applied to KAMER, as she was afraid of putting her family members’
live at risk.
In her application, the woman asked for help in getting a divorce and
requested that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
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¬ Helped her file for divorce.
¬ Helped her file a criminal complaint against he husband.
¬ Met her basic needs.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that she
could be placed in a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in a shelter for some time.
¬ During this time, her family supported her from afar.
¬ The woman decided that her husband no longer posed a threat and so she
decided to return to her family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
58th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
2 November 2006
42
Literate
Widow
Five
How she reached KAMER:
The woman’s daughter advised her to apply to KAMER.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s husband died many years ago and the woman raised their
children on her own. Once the children had grown up and moved out of the
house, the woman decided to get married again. She began developing a relationship with someone over the internet. The man gave the impression that he
was well-off and had a good job; the woman fell for him and decided to get
married. When she told him this, he replied by saying, “We’ve never met in
person, I’ve never seen you,” and asked the woman to send him naked photographs of herself. He also asked the woman to send passport-sized snapshots so
that he could start procedures for them to get married. The woman then sent
to the man by post the requested snapshots as well as a photo of herself naked
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with her face concealed.
After a while, the man called the woman and said, “I’m with my supervisor
now. Come to the city where we are so he can see you, too. Then if he says we
can get married, I’ll marry you straight away.” This made the woman suspicious of the man’s motives. She then found out that the man had uploaded her
photographs onto the internet and realized that he trafficked women, and so she
did not go to see him. The man then called and threatened her, saying, “If you
don’t come I’ll dishonor you on the internet in front of everyone and get your
family to kill you.”
The woman didn’t know what to do. She was frightened, and so she told her
daughter about what had happened. Her daughter then instructed her to go to
KAMER.
The woman applied and asked for help, saying that if her family found out
what had happened, she could be killed.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ It was decided that the woman would not be recognizable in the nude photographs because her face was concealed; all possibilities of how the man might
reach the woman were considered and precautions taken accordingly.
¬ The woman’s address and telephone numbers were changed so that the man
who was threatening her could no longer reach her.
¬ The woman was directed to the bar association’s women’s commission.
Outcome:
¬ Because the woman’s address and telephone numbers were changed, the man
who was threatening her was no longer able to get in touch.
¬ KAMER remains in contact with the woman.
***
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59th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
4 November 2006
16
Literate
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman’s aunt applied to KAMER on her behalf.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s mother was killed because of false accusations made by the
woman’s father. She witnessed the murder at a very young age. Her father later
married another woman. The applicant and her younger sister did not get along
with their step-mother. Her father made the applicant get engaged to a distant
relative in order to get her out of the house. Her fiancé was off doing his military duty. When the woman said that she wanted to break off the engagement,
her father told her fiancé’s family, “Take your daughter-in-law to your house
now. You can marry her to your son once he gets back from the military.”
A relative of the woman became worried about the woman while the latter
was living with her fiance’s family and called KAMER. The relative said that the
woman wanted to talk with KAMER and gave them a number to call. KAMER
called the number provided and talked with the woman. She told KAMER that
her father was on his way to take her home, that her fiancé would return from
his military service in two months time, and that she was going to try and convince her father not to make her marry him during this time.
In the period following this application:
The woman began seeing a more distant relative. She told him that she was
going to be married off and asked him to run away with her. Her lover came to
the province where she lived and they ran away. Her family reported the incident to the police and they were caught by the police while en route to another
city. The police told the woman’s family that she had been found, and the following morning the woman called KAMER asking for help. She said that her
father was on his way to the police station to get her, and that when he arrived,
he would kill both her and the man who ran off with her.
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What KAMER did:
¬ Called the police station where the woman and the man she ran away with
were being held and told them that if the woman was turned over to her family, she might be killed, and that the woman’s mother had already been killed
by her husband in the name of honor.
¬ Thanks to coordination with other groups, KAMER reached the mayor and
discussed with him what they could do to help the woman.
¬ During this time, the woman was not turned over to her family, but taken
care of by the Juvenile Department.
¬ Got permission from the public prosecutor to meet and talk with the woman.
During the talk, the woman said that she wanted to marry the man she had
run away with and move to another province. Because she was so young, she
could only get married with her father’s permission.
¬ Called the woman’s father and talked with him. Though originally he
seemed determined to kill his daughter, during the talks he began to change
his mind.
¬ The tribe to which the family belonged had decided that the girl should be
killed. A team consisting of the police chief, the public prosecutor, the mayor,
and members of KAMER was then formed and meetings were held separately
with the tribes to which the girl and the man with whom she ran off
belonged. At the conclusion of the meetings, which lasted throughout the
day, the tribes rescinded their death sentences and approved the marriage
between the woman and the man she had run off with.
¬ Got the woman’s father to provide written permission for the marriage.
Outcome:
¬ Once the necessary legal procedures had been completed, the woman married the man she loved. They settled in a different province.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
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60th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
6 November 2006
23
Illiterate
Married twice (both times by imam only; not
state-recognized)
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via nurses at the hospital.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s family made the woman get married at a young age. During
her second pregnancy, she was forced against her will to have an abortion under
very poor conditions. She then left her husband and returned to her family. The
woman divorced her husband and later married a man that she loved. This
marriage happened against her mother-in-law’s will. The woman began to be
subjected to violence by her husband and mother-in-law. In the meantime, she
gave birth to two daughters. When the violence and false accusations against
her increased, she returned to her father’s house, leaving her children behind.
Her family rejected her, and so in desperation she went off to another province
with the help of a friend in order to find work. In that province she met a
woman who worked at a night club. Unable to find work elsewhere, the woman
began working at the night club where her friend worked. Meanwhile, she met
someone and began living with him. Later she became pregnant. The man she
was living with suddenly disappeared, abandoning her. The woman then went
to another city in search of a place to stay. A hotel owner told her that if she had
sex with him, she could stay in his hotel. Desperate and with no place else to go,
the woman accepted the man’s offer. After a while, the hotel owner forced the
woman to have sex with other men, too. The woman had no choice but to submit. One night, unable to stand it any longer, the woman grew ill and had to be
taken to the hospital. At the hospital, she told the nurses about what had happened. The woman was brought to KAMER by the nurses.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
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¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ The woman stayed in a women’s shelter for a while, but then applied to
KAMER a second time, saying that she was treated badly at the shelter and
wanted to go stay with her maternal aunt who lived in a different district.
¬ Put the woman in touch with her aunt, as the woman had requested. The
woman’s aunt said that she would support her niece.
¬ Covered her travel and other expenses.
Outcome:
¬ She is living with her aunt.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
61st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
15 November 2006
39
Literate
Widow
Two
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
Following her husband’s death, the woman began living with her motherin-law. During this time, her late husband’s younger brother sexually harassed
her constantly. He acted violently towards the woman because she rejected his
advances. The woman’s mother-in-law witnessed the woman’s brother-in-law
sexually harassing her and then began pressuring her to marry her brother-inlaw. Unable to bear the situation any longer, one night the woman secretly
took her children and ran away from home. The woman had no place to go
and so she took refuge at the police station. The police then referred the
woman to KAMER.
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The woman applied to KAMER, asking that she and her children be placed in
a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
¬ Got her legal counseling
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman stayed in the shelter for while and then got in touch with her
older brother. Her older brother agreed to support her and so she began living with him.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
63rd Applicant:
***
62nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
18 November 2006
22
Illiterate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was abducted by her husband, who then raped her. He married
her, making her his third wife. The woman was subjected to violence throughout the marriage and tried to commit suicide several times. The woman’s older
sister works at a brothel. The woman’s husband pressured her to go work at the
brothel, too, saying, “Your sister makes money working at the brothel, you
should go and work there, too.” Afraid of being sold to the brothel, the woman
applied to KAMER for help.
What KAMER did:
-Got her psychological support.
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Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
20 November 2006
26
Literate
Married but living separately from her husband
Five
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via a female lawyer.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was frequently subjected to violence by her husband. The woman
also believed that her husband was cheating on her, and she decided to get a
divorce. She went to the bar association asking for help to start divorce proceedings. Her husband heard about this and decided to kill her. The woman escaped
from her home and was referred to KAMER by the women’s bar association.
The woman said that her husband was searching for her everywhere and
asked to be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Provincial Governoship and the Child Protection Agency so the woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
64th Applicant
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 November 2006
36
Elementary school
Married (state-recognized)
One
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER’s Emergency Help Line via the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was subjected to severe violence by her husband, an alcohol and
drug abuser. After consuming drugs and alcohol and beating the woman so
badly that she had to be hospitalized, her husband would come up with excuses, like, “I wasn’t in my right mind, that’s why I beat you.” One day, after consuming a large quantity of alcohol, the woman’s husband beat her nearly to
death and threw her from the balcony. The woman had to be hospitalized, with
an injured back and several broken ribs. She remained in the hospital for some
time before being released. Upon her release, she went to the police, saying, “If
I go home, they’ll kill me this time.” The police referred the woman to KAMER
and she requested that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Helped her file a criminal complaint against her husband.
¬ The woman and her child were both placed in a women’s shelter.
65th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
29 November 2006
17
Middle school
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself, after hearing about KAMER in the
media.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman became pregnant by her lover. She told him about the pregnancy, but he said he wanted nothing to do with her or the baby. “You’ll have to
take care of this yourself,” he said and left her. Desperate, the woman told her
older sister about what had happened. Her sister told her, “If our family finds
out, they’ll kill you. Find someplace to take refuge and get out of here quick.”
The woman left home. She had heard about KAMER from the media and
applied.
In her application the woman said that if she went back home, she would be
killed, and so she requested that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying at a shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
Outcome:
¬ The woman and her child are living in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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66th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
15 December 2006
18
Literate
Single
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via the gendarme station.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman and a distant relative of hers wanted to get married. Her family
and the family of the person whom she wanted to marry both opposed the marriage. The man she loved was forced by his family to marry someone else. Still
they could not part and continued seeing one another in secret. One night they
met in an abandoned house in the village and had sex. Meanwhile, her mother and step-mother had noticed she was gone and had begun searching for her.
They found her where she and her lover met. The woman’s lover ran away. The
woman’s mother and step-mother beat the woman and took her home. When
the woman’s family heard what had happened, her older brother told her,
“You’ve dishonored our family. Both of you will die.” Frightened that she would
be killed, the woman escaped from home late that night. She walked many kilometers despite the rain and snow, until she arrived at the intercity highway near
dawn. A truck driver picked the woman up. When she told him that she was
going to be killed, he took her to the gendarme station. The gendarme then
brought the woman to KAMER so she could apply for help.
What KA-MER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ The woman was taken to the Social Services and Child Protection Agency,
accompanied by the gendarme and counselors from the Emergency Help
Line, so that she could apply to be placed in a women’s shelter. The woman
was placed in shelter.
¬ Met the woman’s basic needs during this time.
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Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
67th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
15 December 2006
34
Literate
Divorced
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER herself.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman grew up in a children’s home that belonged to the Social Services
and Child Protection Agency. She therefore never saw her mother, and only saw
her father a couple of times. After getting out of the children’s home, she got
married. The woman’s husband went abroad to work. Later he called the
woman to tell her that in order to stay there, he had to divorce her and marry a
woman in that country. He convinced the woman that the new marriage would
be a matter of formality only. Once divorce proceedings were over, people began
to gossip that the woman was having affairs with other men. The woman’s exhusband’s family, who lived in a different city, forcibly took her children from
her. When the woman went to see her children, her ex-brothers-in-law threatened to kill her. She experienced violence and was wounded several times.
Because all of their property was in her ex-husband’s name, the woman was left
without any property of her own and so she began looking for work so she could
make some money. She worked at temporary jobs. Later the woman’s ex-husband called his younger brothers and told them, “My wife cheated on me; kill
her.” The woman then went and applied to KAMER.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
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¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the woman’s father, who said that he would support her.
¬ Helped her file a lawsuit to get custody of her children.
¬ Helped the woman find a job.
¬ Got the Social Services and Child Protection Agency to provide financial support for her children.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is living with her father.
¬ The courts did not give the woman custody of her children because they did
not deem her financially capable of looking after them.
¬ She has visitation rights and sees her children on a regular basis.
Outcome:
¬ The woman began working and has started a new life for herself and her children.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
***
69th Applicant:
68th Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
20 December 2006
38
Literate
Married (by imam only; not state-recognized)
husband’s second wife
Three
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER viaa non-governmental organization.
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
21 December 2006
14
Elementary school
Single
-
How she reached KAMER:
The girl applied to KAMER via the public prosecutor’s office.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s father forced her to marry a man, as the man’s second wife, in
return for payment of bride-price. She had three children by this marriage. The
woman’s husband constantly subjected her to violence. In recent years the
woman’s husband was making her watch as he and his first wife had sex.
The violence practiced against her became unbearable. Taking her children
with her, she ran away to stay with a relative in another province. The woman,
whose husband was searching for her, went to an NGO to ask for help. Officials
at the NGO referred the woman to KAMER.
Why she was “tried”:
The girl was drugged and raped by her boss at work. She told her mother
about what had happened. The girl’s family talked with the man who raped her
and asked him to marry her. The man, who was already married with children,
did not agree to marry the girl. He offered the girl’s father money as a way to
exonerate himself. The girl’s father accepted the man’s money, but he did not
tell this to his wife or daughter. After a while, the girl’s father began forcing her
to have sex with men for money. No longer able to stand it, the girl went to the
public prosecutorship and asked for help. The public prosecutorship then
referred the girl to KAMER. In her application, the girl said that she could not
stand her life at home and that she did not want to go back.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
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¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
girl could be placed in a children’s home.
accordance with the woman’s request, talks were held with the woman’s
father. Her father said that he would support the woman and her children.
Outcome:
¬ The girl is staying in a children’s home run by the Social Services and Child
Protection Agency.
Outcome:
¬ With support from her father, the woman began living with her younger
brother who resides in another province.
¬ The woman’s husband and step-son are still looking for her and her children.
***
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70th
Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 December 2006
37
Elementary school
Married but separated
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER’s Emergency Help Line herself with the support of a relative.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was raped by her step-son several times. Her step-son threatened
to kill her if she told anyone about it. After a while, the woman had a psychological breakdown because of what was happening to her. When people asked
her what was wrong with her, she could not tell them. Then one day, she could
no longer stand it any more and so she told a relative about what was happening. Her relative then helped her to apply to KAMER.
In her application, the woman said that she couldn’t tell her husband about
what had happened, and that if they found out, her husband or her husband’s
younger brother would definitely kill her.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Took her to a psychiatrist and she began receiving treatment.
¬ During this time, the woman decided to seek support from her family. In
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71st Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
27 December 2006
23
Elementary school
Single
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How she reached KAMER:
The woman was advised to go to KAMER by women who had participated in
KAMER’s group workshops.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman had sex with her boyfriend and got pregnant. The woman concealed this from her family. After a while, her mother became suspicious and
took her to the doctor, who told them that she was four months pregnant. The
woman applied to KAMER, asking for help so she could get an abortion.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ The woman was provided with information about her options.
¬ Told her that they could not help her get an abortion, because termination of
pregnancy after four months is illegal, but told her about other means of support that they could provide.
Outcome:
¬ With her mother’s support, the woman got an abortion in unhygienic conditions.
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¬ The woman is still living with her family.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
***
72nd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
28 December 2006
42
Illiterate
Married but separated
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman and her daughter applied to KAMER in person after being advised
to do so by the police.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman’s daughter had been raped by the woman’s husband. After this
incident, the woman told her husband that she could no longer live with him
and, taking her daughter, left the house. She filed a lawsuit against her husband. The husband’s brothers accused the woman and her daughter of
“besmirching the family honor” and decided that the two should be killed.
Their lives in danger, the woman and her daughter applied to KAMER, asking
that they be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got them psychological support.
¬ Got them legal counseling.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so that the
woman and her daughter could be placed in a shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman and her daughter are staying in a shelter.
¬ They are looking for work so that they can start a new life in the province
where the shelter is located.
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73rd Applicant:
Date of application:
Age:
Educational status:
Marital status:
Number of children:
30 December 2006
45
Elementary school
Married (state-recognized)
Four
How she reached KAMER:
The woman applied to KAMER via a relative.
Why she was “tried”:
The woman was frequently subjected to violence by her husband. An alcoholic, her husband would beat her, throw her out on-to the street, and threaten
to kill her. The woman eventually became paralyzed with fright. When the
woman’s husband beat her and threw her out on the street yet again, the
woman took her young child and sought refuge at her younger sister’s. Her husband then accused the woman, saying, “You went to your sister’s so you could
be with your brother-in-law; you’re having an affair with him,” and threatened
to kill her and her brother-in-law.
Desperate, the woman came to KAMER, bringing her child with her. She said
that her life was in danger and asked that she be placed in a women’s shelter.
What KAMER did:
¬ Got her psychological support.
¬ Got her legal counseling.
¬ Provided financial support to meet the needs of the woman and her child.
¬ Got in touch with the Social Services and Child Protection Agency so the
woman could be placed in a women’s shelter.
Outcome:
¬ The woman is staying in a women’s shelter.
¬ KAMER is still in contact with the woman.
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IV
What are Honor Killings?
Defining Killings Committed in the Name of Honor
the first three years were close to each other, in 2006 the number of requests
more than doubled. The main reason is most likely that in 2006, KAMER
opened centers in 23 cities of Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia, thus facilitating women’s requests. In addition to this, activities run since 2003 increased
sensitivity towards this subject, created working models of protection from
honor killing, and publicized cases when honor killings had been prevented. All
these factors may have played a role in the increase of requests for help.
Language
Language
Turkish
Kurdish-Zaza
Other-(Arabic-Persian)
Total
This chapter contains a statistical evaluation of the information concerning
women in the Eastern and Southeastern Anatolian provinces who asked for
KAMER’s help during 2003-2006 because they found themselves threatened by
an honor killing.
Years when the women asked for help
Years
2003
21-25
26-30
31-35
Total
Number (N)
23
22
12
14
85
Percentage (%)
14.6
19.6
19.6
46.2
100.0
N
49
103
6
158
%
31.0
65.2
3.8
100
As you can see from the table above, the mother tongue of more than half the
women asking for help was Kurdish. This is a natural consequence of the fact
that this project is situated in the provinces of Eastern and Southeastern
Anatolia, where there is a high density of Kurdish population. The fact that even
though Kurds predominate in this area, one third of the women asking for help
should Turkish as their mother tongue, is meaningful. This situation shows
that honor killings, and attempted killings for the same reason, are not particular to Kurdish culture, and that similar behavior for reasons related to honor
is present also in other cultures.
In 2003, when the Diyarbak›r section of KAMER began working on the subject
of honor killings, 23 women asked for its help because they felt threatened by an
honor killing. The equivalent number in 2004 was 31 women, and again 31 in
2005. In 2006 this rose to 73. In 4 years, a total of 158 women asked for help.
There may be a variety of reasons behind the fact that while the numbers of
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Location
City
Eastern and Southeastern Anatolia
Diyarbak›r
Mardin (K›z›ltepe-Cizre-Midyat-Nusaybin)
Batman
fi›rnak
Ad›yaman
Bingöl
Hakkari
Tunceli
Kars
Mufl
Urfa
Van
Erzincan
Elazi¤
N
144
97
20
5
1
1
1
2
3
3
2
2
4
1
2
%
9 1. 1
61.4
12.7
3.2
0.6
0.6
0.6
1.3
1.9
1.9
1.3
1.3
5.5
1.6
1.3
Southern Anatolia
Mersin
Adana
Mersin
5
2
1
2
3.2
1.3
0.6
1.3
Marmara Area and Foreign Countries
Istanbul
Foreign Countries
9
5
4
5.7
3.2
2.5
158
100
Grand total
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91% of those asking for help lived in various provinces of Eastern and
Southeastern Anatolia. The biggest concentration with 61% was Diyarbak›r,
where KAMER headquarters are located; Diyarbak›r was followed by Mardin,
both the city and the towns in the province, with 18%. The fact that there was
such a concentration in the province of Diyarbak›r may be due to the fact that
KAMER’s activities were especially concentrated in this city, but also to the fact
that while it is difficult to hide in villages, towns, and small cities, it is easier in
bigger cities, with the result that escapees tend to seek refuge in them. 3% of the
requests for help happened in the three provinces of Southeastern Anatolia. Nine
requests for help originated from the Marmara Area and foreign countries
(5.7%). Requests from foreign countries and Istanbul were made by means of
phone calls. Those requesting help were supported by means of phone and written communication.
Did the woman immigrate to the province where she lives? If so, why?
Did she immigrate?
Yes
Reason for immigration
Security
Marriage-divorce
Work
No
Total
N
57
%
36.1
26
27
4
101
158
45.6
47.4
7.0
63.9
100.0
57 of the women (36%) immigrated to the provincial center of the province
where they were living. 27 women (47.4%) immigrated to a different city for
marriage reasons. 26 of the women (45.6%) migrated for security reasons.
Emigration for security purposes was due to expropriation or to armed conflict,
with one person running away from a blood feud that threatened her life. There
were four people who emigrated for work. Two of these emigrated for the sake
of their husband’s work, one her father’s work, and one for education.
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The great majority of women asking for help, 87 (55.1%), were uneducated
and most of them were also illiterate. One third of the group (49 women; 31%
of the total) had completed either elementary school or junior high. The percentage of women having completed senior high or higher education was very
low: 21 women (13.3%). The fact that as the level of education rises, the number of women who seek help from the danger of honor killings decreases, is very
important from the point of view of a correct interpretation of the honor killing
phenomenon. We can conclude that families that let their daughters study also
grant them partial freedom of movement and of making decisions for themselves. In addition to this, such families may be more supportive and accepting
than others, and may at least have a greater capacity to resist social pressure.
Demographic status of those asking for help
Age group
Age
13-17
18-25
26 and over
Unknown
Total
N
17
68
72
1
158
%
10.8
43.0
45.6
0.6
100
The youngest of the women asking for help was 13, while the oldest was 54.
The average age of the total was 26. 47% of the women were over 25, while 43%
were within the 18-25 age group. Those younger than 18 made up only 11% of
the total.
Educational status
Education
No education
Literate
Illiterate
Elementary-junior high
Elementary
Junior high
N
87
34
53
49
31
18
%
55.1
21.5
33.5
31.0
19.6
11.4
Work status
Does she work?
Evet
Worker
Civil servant
No
Total
N
13
12
1
145
158
%
8.2
92.31
7.69
91.8
100.0
Almost all the women asking for help were unemployed. Only one of the
employed, a civil servant, had a regular job, while the others were irregularly
employed as shop assistants, secretaries, cotton pickers, and other blue collar
work.
Marriage status
Senior high-higher education
Senior high
Higher
21
17
4
13.3
10.8
2.5
Unknown
General Total
1
158
0.6
100
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Marriage status
Unmarried
Married
Widow
Married but separated
Total
N
56
80
12
10
158
%
35.4
50.6
7.6
6.3
100
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Of the women asking for help, 56 (34.4%) were unmarried, 80 (50.6%) married, 12 (7.6%) widows, and 10 (6.3%) married but living separately from their
spouses. The category of widows includes also divorcees, in addition to real widows. As for those who are married but separated, they are those who escaped
from their abusive spouses and who took refuge with their families or others.
Marriage age
Marriage age range
13-17
18-25
26 and over
Total
N
41
46
7
94
%
43.6
48.9
7.4
100.0
Number of children
The youngest age at which women married is 13, while the oldest is 39. The
average marriage age is 19. As it can be observed in the table, only 7 (7.4%)
women married after the age of 25, and among the married women, half or 46
women (48.9%) married between the ages of 18-25. Almost half of the women,
41 women (43.6%), married or were made to marry even though they had not
yet reached legal marriage age; in other words, they married when they were in
the 13-17 age range. On the basis of these results we can state that the fact that
half of the women had married when older than 18 meant that by the time they
had married they had reached physical and moral maturity, but on the other
hand, an average marriage age of 19 is much lower than the marriage age of
How they married
How they married
Unknown
By mutual agreement of the families
With a relative
By mutual agreement of the two parties
By force
By elopement
Total
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educated girls. What is more tragic is that almost half of married women had
been made to marry when they were still children.
50 women who had married according to the wishes of their families made
up half of the group (49%). Of the 17 women (16.7%) who married relatives,
six had been exchanged for a female member of the groom’s family as part of
a berdel arrangement. Some of the 11 (10.8%) women who had been forced to
marry had become second wives (kuma), while the total number of such second wives within the group is also 11. The percentages of women, who married
of their own free will, 13 (12.7%), or who had eloped, seven (6.9%), are very
low. Some of those within the group to have married in this way faced the danger of being killed for their choices.
N
4
50
17
13
11
7
102
%
3.9
49.0
16.7
12.7
10.8
6.9
100.0
Number of children
1-3
1 child
2 children
3"
3 and over
4 children
5"
6 or more
None
Pregnant
Total
N
60
24
20
17
31
10
13
7
16
8
115
%
52.2
20.9
17.4
14.8
27.0
8.7
11.3
6.0
13.9
7.0
100.0
The number of children varied between one and ten. 24 (52%) of these
women had one child, 20 (17.4%) two children, and 17 (14.8%) three children.
There were 23 (21%) women with three to five children and seven (6 %) with
more than five children. 16 (13.9%) had no children. Eight (7%) of the women
were pregnant. Of the pregnant women, six were unmarried and had become
pregnant as a result of rape. Of the unmarried women, six had children born
out of wedlock. Some of the women who had got pregnant as a result of rape
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had given birth and then ceded the child either to an orphanage or in adoption,
while others had aborted their pregnancy.
Violence to which these women were subjected
in addition to the threat of being killed for
reasons related to "honor"
Perpetrators of violence
Family of the woman
Family of the spouse
Spouse
Other
Total
N
60
15
74
9
158
%
38.0
9.5
46.8
5.7
100.0
The women asking for help had suffered especially from the violence of their
own spouses: 74 women (46.8%). The second biggest group was the one made
up of women subject to the violence of their own family: 60 women (38%). The
member of the family that was most commonly the perpetrator of violence was
the father (43 individuals or 27.2%), followed by a male brother (6 individuals
3.8%) and the mother (five individuals, or 3.2%). There were 15 women (9.5%)
who stated that they had been subjected to violence by members of the family of
the spouse. Among these members using violence were brothers-in-law and step
sons. The number of women who stated that they were the victims of violence
by their rapists, boyfriends, employees of the institution where they lived, kidnappers, people phoning them, and society was, nine (5.7%).
Duration of violence
Duration of violence
0-1 year
2-5 years
6 years and more
Total
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N
73
56
29
158
%
46.2
35.4
18.4
100.0
As for the duration of violence, the majority, 73 women (46.2%), stated that
the violence to which they were subjected varied between once and one year. 56
(35.4%) stated that the violence lasted between 2-5 years, while 29 women
(18.4%) had been the victims of violence for more than five years.
Information concerning the death sentence
Who issues the death sentence
Who issues the death sentence
The family of the woman
The family of the spouse
The spouse
Others
All of them
The spouse and his family
Total
N
56
15
55
8
19
5
158
%
35.4
9.5
34.8
5.1
12.0
3.2
100.0
Among the groups issuing the death sentence, the family of the woman was
in first place: the death sentence of 56 women (35.4%) was issued by her own
family. Among the people influencing the decision, the father was in first place
(37 individuals; 23%), followed by the brother and uncle.
The spouse occupies second place in the list of people issuing the death sentence: 55 women (34.8%). In the case of 19 women (12%), the death sentence
was issued jointly by the families of both the spouse and the woman.
The others category, eight individuals (5.1%), was made up of the kidnapper,
the harasser, the rapist, those convincing the family council to issue the death
sentence so as to hide incidents of rape or harassment, and society.
Five women (3.2%) stated that only the spouse and his family influenced the
decision. What is clear from the table is that the family of the woman took the
decision and that it was frequently the father’s verdict that was imposed. Once
the woman marries, the spouse takes the place of the father, and also the “powers” of trying and sentencing. Perhaps most striking of all in this category is
the “all of them” group, which includes families, the spouse, and society all
together.
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The educational status of those issuing the death sentence
The educational status of those
issuing the death sentence
Illiterate
Literate
Elementary school
Junior high
Senior high
Higher education
Total
N
%
65
42
31
8
11
1
158
41.1
26.6
19.6
5.1
7.0
0.6
100.0
The great majority of those influencing the death sentence (107 individuals;
67.7%) were uneducated. While 65 individuals (41.1%) were illiterate, 42 individuals (26.6%) were literate though uneducated.
Following the uneducated were those (39; 24.7%) who had completed their
basic studies; of the latter, 31 individuals (19.6 %) had completed their elementary studies and eight individuals (5.1%) junior high. 12 individuals (7.6%)
had completed either high school or higher education; of these, 11 individuals
(7.0 %) had completed senior high, with only one individual (0.6 %) having
graduated from higher education.
This data tells us that as the level of education rises, the propensity to honor
killings decreases. The fact that almost all members of the group should have
no or little education is noteworthy; the relation between the level of education
and the propensity to commit honor killings is an important piece of data that
should give us pause and which calls for serious contemplation.
The economic status of people who were influential in the death sentence
The economic status of people who were
influential in the death sentence
Low
Middle
High
Total
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N
%
59
76
23
158
37.3
48.1
14.6
100.0
The economic status of people who were influential in the death sentence was
mostly of mid level (76 individuals, or 48.1%), followed by low level, (59 individuals, or 37.3%), and higher level, (23 individuals, or 14.6%). As can be seen
from the table, there is no relation between economic status and the propensity
to honor killings. People of every economic level can have such a propensity.
Reasons for the death sentence
Reasons for the death sentence
Disobedience
Slander
Meeting-eloping with lover
Being raped or harassed
Pregnancy out of wedlock
Running away from home
Loss of virginity
Other
Total
N
37
27
23
19
14
11
9
18
158
%
23.4
17.1
14.6
12.0
8.9
7.0
5.7
11.4
100.0
The death sentence can be issued for various reasons. The top reason was disobedience, which led to the death sentences of 37 women (23.4%). Disobedience
could be of various types: refusing to marry the person chosen by the family;
refusing sex with a brother-in-law or father; refusal to prostitute oneself; refusal
of marriage; complaining about her husband, who might have raped her
daughter, or the fact that during daily life, women might disobey, protest, or
answer back to their fathers, husbands, brothers, or elders.
27 (17.1%) of the women stated that a decision had been taken to kill them
as a result of slander. Slander could take the shape of gossip, baseless stories, or
being branded as a prostitute for going about, wearing makeup, or dressing in
a different way. 23 women (14.6%) had been sentenced to death because they
had an encounter with a loved one or for elopement or for a relation with
another man, and 19 women (12%) because they had been raped or harassed.
Rapes and harassment took the following shapes: being raped by the boss, being
raped by the father, becoming pregnant as a result of rape by the father, rape by
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an uncle and subsequent pregnancy, and rape by a step-son.
Some of the women who had been raped did not keep quiet about it, and this
had resulted in a death sentence. 14 women (8.9%) were under the threat of
death for a pregnancy outside wedlock. 11 women (7.0%) had been sentenced
to death for having run away from home as a result of cruelty or violence, and
nine women (5.7%) for getting pregnant.
Some women were sentenced to death because they were accused of lacking
virtue, of having been a sex worker in the past, or of having worked in a night
club, while others were sentenced as a result of a blood feud, for not accepting
a second marriage by her husband while still married to him, or for wanting a
divorce.
Was she forced to attempt suicide?
Yes
No
Total
N
23
135
158
%
14.6
85.4
100.0
23 of the women (14.6%) were forced to attempt suicide as a way of carrying
out the death sentence. This information is important since it shows the relation between suicides in that area and honor killings.
Were there family members killed or forced to
attempt suicide for honor reasons?
How long did it take to reach a death sentence?
Time spent in deciding
1-3 months
less than a month
2 months
3 months
4-11 months
Total
Was the woman forced to attempt suicide?
N
142
88
35
19
16
158
%
89.9
22.2
12.0
10.1
100.0
The time that elapsed between the moment that the family council began to
discuss the matter or from the moment that the subject was first broached and
the carrying out of the decision varied within a range of 1-3 months for 142
women (89.9%). The decision was reached within one month in the case of a
majority of women: 88 (22.2%). It lasted between 4-11 months only in the case
of 16 (10.1%) women.
This data proves clearly that not much time passes from the moment a decision is taken to the moment it is carried out. This shows the importance of
quick action when operating in relation to such circumstances.
Were there family members who were killed
or forced to attempt suicide?
Yes
Herself
Her daughter
Her sister
Her mother
No
Total
N
%
7
2
2
1
2
151
158
4.4
95.6
100.0
In seven of the women’s families there were other family members who had
been sentenced to death, forced to attempt suicide, or killed for honor reasons;
of the seven, two were the women themselves, two their daughters, two their
mothers, and one her sister. Even if these numbers are not high, the existence
of people who were previously killed shows how real this danger is.
The women’s sources of support
The number of women being supported is very low: 43 individuals (27.2%). A
great majority, or in other words, 115 individuals (72.8%), got no support whatsoever during this predicament. People who did give support were generally members of the woman’s family: the mother in the case of 15 women, a sister in the
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Are there family members supporting the woman?
Is the woman being supported?
Yes
By her family
By her spouse or her spouse's family
No
Total
N
43
39
4
115
158
%
27.2
72.8
100.0
case of ten, and an elder brother in the case of 4. Other family members who provided support were daughters, uncles, aunts, and cousins. In the case of one
woman, a friend provided support.
There were only four women who were supported by the spouse and the
spouse’s family: in two cases the spouse supported the woman, in one the mother-in-law, and in another the step-son. According to the data gathered, almost
all supporters are women.
These results show very clearly how little support women ultimately get in such
cases. The importance of increasing the number of women’s initiatives, women’s
Who is the person with the most authority in the family?
The person with the most authority in the family
Father
Uncle
Elder brother
Everybody
Father-in-law
Spouse
The family of the woman
Brother-in-law
The family of the spousei
The kidnapper
Total
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N
62
1
7
11
11
47
5
5
8
1
158
%
39.2
0.6
4.4
7.0
7.0
29.7
3.2
3.2
5.1
0.6
100.0
centers, shelters, psychological support centers, and legal support centers active in
this matter is evident.
The distribution of the family members with most authority is as follows:
father (39.2%), spouse (29.7%), father-in-law (7.0%), everybody (everybody in
the families of both the woman and the spouse) (7.0%), the family of the spouse
(5.1%), elder brother (4.4%), the entire family of the woman (3.2%), the brother-in-law (3.2%), the uncle (0.6%), and the kidnapper (0.6 %).
Information about how applicants reached KAMER
and the aftermath of the application process
How KAMER was contacted
The woman applied (via)
Herself
A relative
Her lawyer
An official institution (police-hospital)
Other institutions (women's center-the press)
Stranger
Phone
Total
N
28
17
16
43
11
29
14
158
%
17.7
10.8
10.1
27.2
7.0
18.4
8.9
100.0
The following is the distribution of the means by which women applied to
KAMER for help: The women applied themselves: 28 (17.7%); they were brought
by a relative: 17 (10.8%); their lawyers submitted the request for help: 16
(10.1%); they were sent by official institutions like the police or a hospital 43
(27.2%). Actually there is only one woman who was sent by a hospital, while the
other 42 women in the last category were sent by the police. NGOs concerned
with women’s affairs sent three women to KAMER, while the media referred
eight women; thus in total, 11 women (7.0%) were referred by non-governmental organizations. There were also 29 women (18.4%) who were brought to
KAMER by strangers who had found the women desperately wandering in the
streets, and 14 women (8.9%) contacted KAMER by phone.
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The women's birth registration status at the
moment when they asked for help
Birth registration status
No registration
Registered, but no ID
Registered and has ID, but ID left at home
Brought ID
Total
N
5
20
11
122
158
%
3.2
12.7
7.0
77.2
100.0
At the moment that they asked KAMER for help, 122 women (77.2%) had
their IDs on them, 20 women (12.7%) were registered but had no IDs, 11
women (7.0%) were registered and had IDs but had left them at home, and five
women (3.2%) were not registered at all. KAMER helped 11 women to get IDs
issued in their names. The fact that the great majority of women brought their
IDs when they came to KAMER is a source of satisfaction. The reason for this
might be that in that area there are frequent requests to show IDs, but also that
the women had heard that it was a good idea to have their IDs on them when
coming to KAMER.
What did KAMER do?
Action taken by KAMER
Ensure the woman's safety
Direct her to a place where she could
get psychological support
Find a place in a shelter
Provide legal help
Provide medical help
Have an ID issued
Talk with the family
Find work
Provide information
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132
153
%
83.5
96.8
103
103
25
13
9
10
4
65.2
65.2
15.8
8.2
5.7
6.3
2.5
Of the women. who asked for help because they were threatened by an honor
killing, KAMER sent 153 (96.8%) to a place where they could get psychological
help, helped ensure the safety of 132 (83.5%), found a place in a shelter for 103
(65.2%), provided legal help for 103 (65.2%), provided medical help for 25
(15.8%), had IDs issued for 13 (8.2%), provided a job for ten, talked to the families of nine, and provided sources of information to be used when necessary to four.
All the women who requested help received the support they needed, including financial support.
From the above mentioned data it is clear that each woman received more
than one kind of support.
Result
Result
Died
Living with her own family
Made a new life for herself somewhere else
Contacts severed
Lives separately
Her spouse took her back
Lives near relatives
Other
Total
Say›
3
34
42
53
17
1
2
6
158
%
1,9
21,5
26,6
33,5
10,8
0,6
1,3
3,8
100,0
Of the women who asked KAMER for help, 53 (33.5%) severed contacts after
receiving help. 42 (26.6%) made a new life for themselves in another city or in
another country, and some married the men that they were in love with. 34
(21.5%) live of their own free will with their families or with a member of the
family (sister, brother). 17 (10.8%) live separately from their spouse, and of
those, one of the former spouses has received a penal sentence. Of the women
who asked for KAMER’s help, six (3.8%) are living in a shelter or in an orphanage or children’s home or have been adopted by a family or have been made to
marry their rapist. Three (%1.9), having already been attacked, contacted
KAMER from the hospital but, being seriously wounded, later died. 2 (1.3%) are
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living with relatives and one (0.6%) was got back together with her spouse.
A detailed look at some of the happy endings: Cases where
the women are alive, but dependent
Following a stay at a shelter, some of the women have settled with distant relatives, some continue living with their spouse’s family, while some have been
taken back by their own families. Some have aborted and continue living with
their family, some live with their sisters. Some stayed at a shelter, and following
negotiations returned to the family. Some went to their brothers. Some stayed at
a shelter and then settled with distant relatives. One has been taken in by her
spouse and is living with him. Some stayed at a shelter, and then started working.
Happier instances, where the women are both alive and independent
Some of the women made new lives for themselves, some even going to a foreign country to get married and start a new life there. Others have divorced but
are still living with their children. In other examples, meanwhile, the woman
has left her parents’ home, taking her daughter with her and renting a home of
her own while her husband was given a prison sentence; married her lover; been
allowed to marry the man she eloped with; got custody of her children while
staying in a women’s shelter and continues to live with them; found a job after
leaving the women’s shelter.
Of those living under protection, experiences are equally myriad: There are
those who gave birth at the shelter, who found work, who are living at an
orphanage, who are living at a women’s shelter together with a daughter, who
are furthering their education with support from the Social Services and Child
Protection Agency while living at a shelter, or who have been adopted by a rich
family.
Those with whom all contact ceased, once they were placed in or left
the women’s shelter.
And those which sadden us so deeply:
She was made to marry her rapist.
He killed himself so as not to have to kill his wife.
She was wounded, and later she died.
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Notes from KAMER
The Feminism of KAMER
We have noticed that in order to explain more clearly the work conducted by the
Women’s Center (KAMER) for women’s human rights, we need to use a different language from the usual. We believe that this is the only way for us to go
beyond answering questions on “what we do, where we work, how many women
are subject to violence, how many women we have supported, what we have
done about honor killings,” etc.
All of the said work is important of course, but it should not be considered as
stand-alone work. Every project is important in that it is part of the process
which lets us learn from each other and helps us form our policy for work with
women.
We believe that in order to explain what KAMER is about, it is important to
answer questions on “how we got started, what we learned from each other,
what we discovered, what we changed, where we are going” and to emphasize
the process of reciprocal learning.
KAMER was officially founded in 1997. But work conducted before that date
was also important. The idea of KAMER first developed in 1993-95, when
regional violence was at its peak. In 1997, KAMER gained legal status. In the
following years it developed new areas of work and new projects were realized.
KAMER operates in 23 provinces, but we are endeavoring to expand into the
districts as well.
“We” women now number in the thousands.
There are significant differences between how we were when we started and
how we are now. We were feminists then, and we are feminists now. But there is
a difference between who we were then and who we are now, a difference due to
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experience—the experience of ten years of work.
Most importantly, we used to whisper that we were feminists, but now we can
shout it. Hundreds of us are now able to say, “We are feminists.”
We believe that feminism is a process of discovery and of change. In this article, we would like to tell you about the journey we have taken with feminism.
Initially, our first awareness was that regarding “violence.” Each one of us
was subject to violence, directly or indirectly. Violence under custody, on the
street, in offices, even at home...
What kind of violence was this?
Since it was so painful, why were people inflicting it upon one another in
such a natural way?
We were continuously reminded that we were women. Were we the only ones
who failed to notice, failed to remember this?
These questions helped us to become aware of the private sphere called home,
and of our position within the home. The least talked about and the most common, the most habitual type of violence happened within homes. Talking about
this aspect of violence was either frowned upon or it was considered unimportant. Other types of violence, such as the violence occurring under custody, or
on the streets, were considered more important.
Our starting point was a difficult one. We were aware that we might be isolated, be marginalized and demeaned. Many of us started to consider the question
of violence by looking at instances of it under custody or on the streets. Later on
we understood the link between the different types of violence and we realized
that what happened at home was the starting point of all other types of violence.
When we started discussing the idea of working on women’s issues, people
around us started advising us on what to do, how to do it and who to work with.
Everybody acted innocent. No one even wanted to think that they themselves
might have been influenced by the male-dominated society.
We thus realized to what degree sexism had become internalized, and how we
needed to look at ourselves, at our acquaintances, at all organizations and all
people. And that is how we came to realize that we needed to organize ourselves
independently.
Although we declared that we supported women’s human rights, we knew
that it would not be easy to understand the difference between independence
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and neutrality. Yet, we chose to organize ourselves independently.
Although the majority of the women whom we would work with, or whom we
planned to support, defined themselves as Kurdish, we did not wish to be a
Center for Kurdish Women. We did not want to limit ourselves to a single identity; we believed in each and every woman and we wanted for KAMER to become
a Center also for women who are not Kurdish or who do not define themselves
as Kurdish.
In order to question sexism, and to develop an area independent of our other
concerns, we started reflecting on our own condition and our own experiences.
We questioned our role within this environment of violence and discrimination
and how we were oppressed and how we oppressed others.
While undergoing this difficult period of “discovering sexism and embarking
on feminism,” we suffered a strong feeling of homelessness.
We learned through experience that the only ones to offer support in this
transition period were women and women’s organizations. We realized that this
individual awareness process was difficult and shocking for women and that
support and solidarity were of critical importance.
We realized that violence was to be found everywhere and in different forms.
We decided to concentrate on domestic violence, which we considered to be an
issue of essential importance. There were non-governmental organizations
dealing with violence occurring under custody and on the streets, but there were
no organizations dealing with domestic violence. Even talking about domestic
angered people, for everybody played a part in this large-scale violence.
While dealing with domestic violence, we encountered the most brutal as well
as the most subtle forms of violence.
We discovered that all women, regardless of their language, religion, education, and social environment, suffer violence in various ways.
We realized that declaring support for human rights meant ignoring
women’s human rights and the inequality between sexes, and thus rendered
service to sexism. We were distressed to discover that many people and organizations who declared they opposed sexism, actually supported the system via
their approach to women’s work and to feminism, and that they defended rather
than opposed sexism.
Although we underwent significant individual awareness processes, we realized that looking at the extent of the harm inflicted upon our personalities by
the sexist system was not something we could deal with individually. We underNotes from KAMER - 303
stood that behaviors such as hierarchy, competition, discrimination, and keeping “personal” problems private recurred over and over again and that no one
was capable of suddenly becoming aware of such behavior and changing it.
We thus realized the importance of collective work, from the point of view of
support and solidarity, as well as mutual learning.
We realized that unless we established equal relationships, overcame our feelings of competition, perceived the more subtle forms of violence, behaved openly, delivered positive and negative criticism, and were ready to listen to what
others had to say, there was always the risk of recreating sexism.
We realized that traditional values were values aiming to objectify us, and
that we needed to question and transform each value completely.
We became aware that a new world could only be created if we recreated ourselves. We started to make an effort not to judge, not to despise, not to order, and
not to prescribe solutions, but to develop a language and behavior based on
empathy.
We were not ashamed to expose the thought and behavior patterns that had
taken us captive. We were able to understand that these patterns resulted from
roles in which we were cast, that we had accepted them unquestioningly, and
that questioning would now be possible via feminism.
We realized that most traditional values caused resignation and submission
to violence, prevented participation, transparency, and individual development,
and continued to create inequality.
Feminism helped us develop curiosity during this long journey. Thank to this
curiosity, we recognized our different identities. We were freed from the constriction of a single identity and started enjoying our multi-identities.
Fascinated by the enchantment of awareness and transformation, we
increased in number, we developed. We understood that the more we gained
strength, the more violence would weaken, the more we changed, that the more
the world would change.
We started sharing our discoveries and our knowledge with men. We told
them of the different types of violence to which we were subjected. We talked
about how they perceived and lived their masculinity.
The more we talk, the more we realize that sexism is a vast policy dominating the whole world. We are currently seeing how militarism and sexism are
intricately involved and how they feed on each other.
Sometimes we are afraid of our discoveries. Sometimes we think that what we
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are doing is not enough and that we should be doing more. Every time this happens we stagger and hesitate. But every time we accept that this is our only
chance, we pick ourselves up and we start all over again.
We know that feminism is indispensable for a world free of hierarchies, discrimination, and violence, a world based on sharing and solidarity, on transparency, participation, on support for what is right and what is just.
From a few women, we have now become thousands of women. Our journey
with feminism is continuing. And our number is increasing.
We know that this is going to be a long and arduous journey.
We understand that all issues throughout Turkey and through-out the world
are our issues, too. We know that resolving these issues is only possible with our
participation. We are therefore endeavoring to see more, think more, change
more, and grow in number.
5 February 2007
Nebahat Akkoç
KAMER
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Being a Woman
As we learned to be women, we used the inheritance of our grandmothers. We
were shaped by what they had learned by heart...
When we were children, during dark nights without electricity, we used to listen to stories that sometimes lasted three nights. And I have realized that as our
grandmothers told us the stories that they had learned from their own mothers,
they would send subliminal messages to my soul. Nowadays I discover these
messages anew each day.
“Don’t you dare!” each message would say. “You will be in trouble if you
overstep certain boundaries, you’ll get hurt—you might even die!”
As these stories that were supposed to serve as an admonishment to me were
told in extremely elaborate ways, the most traditional platitudes would pass
through my ears and be engraved in my brain.
There is one such story that I shall never ever forget.
“Once upon a time, many many years ago, there was a family working for a
rich landlord. Hazal, the eldest daughter of this family, would work as a shepherd together with her elder brother. One day, as she was watching over the animals at pasture together with her brother, Hazal felt thirsty and, filling up her
jug, she drank until she was totally satisfied. She did not even notice that as she
was drinking, she had swallowed a baby snake together with the water. As time
went by, her belly started to swell. Everybody thought that she was pregnant. Her
father said, ‘How have you managed to conceive this child? We can’t even step
out of our house without feeling shame. If the agha hears about it, he will banish us from the village.’ To cleanse their soiled honor, the family entrusted her
brother with the job of killing Hazal. No matter how much Hazal protested,
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nobody believed her. Her brother did not want to kill his sister, but despite his
sorrow, he had to do it. He had Hazal mount his horse and through the gloom
of the night they set forth. Silently they left behind the village. Hazal asked her
brother, ‘Brother, you are taking me where you can kill me, aren’t you?’ Her
brother could not bring himself to answer. Hazal addressed her brother once
more. ‘I know you are going to kill me,’ she said. ‘I have a last wish to ask you:
I want to go near the stream where we always go and sleep at your knees. After
that you can do what you want with me.’ Her brother accepted this, and granted Hazal’s wish. As Hazal was slept at his knees, her brother watched her, his
heart heavy with sadness. It was then that the stream suddenly went wild and
the waters beckoned the snake in Hazal’s belly. Hazal began to vomit. An enormous snake came out of her mouth and slithered towards the stream. Her
brother, who had watched all this, returned immediately to the village and told
everybody about what had happened, and thanked God that he had not killed
his sister. In this way Hazal’s life was spared.”
During my childhood, I listened to many stories like this. How innocent they
sound these stories, don’t they?
Everybody did everything within their power to make of me a woman as
required by the sexist system.
As I was stepping into womanhood, I would greatly fancy the tattoos that the
women where I lived used to apply to their hands and faces. I would have liked
to have a tattoo like the one with three dots on my aunt’s hand. Once, I asked
the meaning of these three dots. It seems the first meant, “I did not see,” the
second, “I did not hear,” and the third, “I do not know.” My aunt told me that
“if you look at this tattoo on your hand all your life, you will always remember
and never forget these rules.” This was “obedience” depicted in a figurative way.
You shall not see, you shall not hear, and you shall not know. In other words,
you shall not even exist.
Back then, wedding ceremonies were magnificent affairs. The brides would
wear beautiful dresses and have lots of gold on them. Yet they still looked so sad,
as if everything was finished for them, as if life had come to an end. I, on the
other hand, thought that getting married was a nice thing. I could not understand why the brides would be so sad. I found the answer to this question with
my initial realizations as I took part in KAMER’s group workshops. Once a
woman was married, “she would continuously serve, give birth, obey, and a
completely different and much more difficult struggle would begin.” Perhaps
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that was why so many tears were shed. After all, “romantic love” was the most
forbidden of sentiments for women. It either did not happen, or it was experienced secretly in one’s own heart...
With the world covered in a membrane that had turned to stone, with so
many rules in my life already ossified, surrounded by limits as sharp as knives...
In other words, just as I had settled into a routine, I got to know KAMER. Things
did not have to go on like this. I asked, questioned, and realized... The world was
not as it had been taught to me.
I had been taught how to be a woman, as my very womanhood was being
stolen from me. I am now taking back all the sentiments, every joy, my
strength, and my dreams that had been stolen from me... And I am sharing
what I have realized, with the other women at KAMER.
Each of us is multiplying by sharing with each other. We are creating our
own world, as if to spite that which has been passed on to us...
Sacide Akkaya
I Am a Woman
I am a woman. My dreams are as vast as Mesopotamia, my world is a little
refuge. Even in my cradle, I was breathing in spite of my destiny. Sometimes I
see lights, far away. But I can only take a few steps. If I take more, the light will
become a fire and I will burn! That is why I have been living within the same
circle for so many years. When I’m working in the fields, I sit on a stone, I’m
lost in thoughts, I daydream. My spirit travels throughout the world, my hopes
build crystal cities. I wear new shoes and a uniform... I become a doctor in a
hospital, saving my dead baby, or a judge, passing sentences for all the crimes
committed against me. Then I am startled, for I hear a harsh voice from within, I pull myself together and return to the field. I carry my sack on my shoulders and worry that somebody may have heard my thoughts. I walk and I sweat,
my face burns in the sun, and at every heartbeat I pray that my daughter does
not inherit my destiny...
I am a woman; even the grain of the bread I’m eating contains some of my
labor. I don’t know why, but I eat after my husband has eaten. I wear a long
skirt, but I have short tongue. I keep quiet, in accordance with our traditions.
Do you know what traditions are? They are small stones, they fall from high,
snow-covered mountains. The more they roll the more there are, the heavier
they are and they can crush you. They are sudden. You only hear their sound
at the very last moment. They are aimed at women, but they do all the negotiations with men. Their judgment is final. They feed on ignorance. There is
only this thin stream running amidst all this sunlight. My greatest wish is to
live there...
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I am a young girl. Never mind that I am lying silent and motionless in a corner, wrapped in dirty sheets. I once wore clothes as bright and shiny as the city
of Mardin on a dark night. I used to be vivacious, I used to bring happiness
wherever I went. Never mind that my face has no color now, I used to be the
prettiest girl in our neighborhood. One day I fell in a trap, like a poor deer.
Those dirty hands touched me and destroyed my world! No one heard my voice.
Only the night spilled tears for me. Then... then, they said I was black. Now I
was pitch black! No amount of washing could take away all that dirt. My blood
was the only remedy. The bullet was fired suddenly. I died and it went on living.
I died and honor survived. My father painted the walls of our house in white and
my tomb in black. The house was now clean. No one sent me a rose when I was
alive. No one told me of their love. But last night a trembling hand left flowers
on the ground under which I sleep. The soil listened in silence... But I never fell
in love...
clouds started to gather in the sky. Up on the mountains, people started killing
each other. The waterfalls turned red. Nights became nightmares, nightmares
became a matter of life and death. And one night our heaven became hell.
Noises hit the rocks and lodged in our hearts. This was a war with names I could
not understand. It was such a fire, tears could not put it out. Birds, snakes, centipedes, sheep abandoned their little ones and ran away or were burnt that
night. My baby’s hands melted in mine. No prayer, no screams could bring life
to that tiny heart... That morning the sun rose among the smoke. The world was
covered with ashes. They told us, “Leave”... We left; mothers and fathers, and
aunts, old and young. We could only take our past with us. As for our future, it
no longer existed. The only path ahead took us to unknown places. Now we flutter around like blindfolded pigeons that have lost their nests and find themselves in unfamiliar places...
Nilgün Y›ld›r›m
I was a bride. Our wedding was so great, there had never been another like it.
Tents were built on the plain, people ate at banquets. Folk dancers spilled over
from the squares. I was as strong as a filly, as perfect as a butterfly. I was given
so much gold; I shone brighter than the sun. As soon as I stepped into my new
house, my mother-in-law gave me a baby to hold, so that I may have one, too.
After all, around here, being a woman means only on thing: procreation.
Everybody waited for our good news. And I waited for months, just like the dead
of winter waits for the sun. But to no avail. I hung my wishes on trees. I burned
incense. I resorted to all kinds of remedies to break the spell; I made vows. But
to no avail. They said the land is barren, it will not give forth any fruit... And
one day my husband paid for a new bride and brought home a second wife. Now
I lie alone and forgotten in my bed. Within my young body lives an old spirit. I
never had anything of my own, but I never regretted it. Sharing my husband,
however, is equal to a thousand deaths...
I was a mother. Our house, our garden was situated among mountain
chains. Our village was full of thousands of fragrant flowers and waterfalls. At
daybreak we would go to the orchard and we would return home at sunset.
Everything belonged to us, each and every stone and blade of grass belonged to
us, and so did the sun in the sky. The soil never disappointed us; it was like a
mother to our children, giving back much more than it received... But dark
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That’s the Way Things Are—But Do They Have To Be?
While still in our mothers’ wombs, we get our share of the violence that our
mothers are subjected to. That is how we begin life. Our mothers are hurt, they
are angry, but they repress their anger. For they have been taught to RESIGN
THEMSELVES and TO KEEP SILENT. Our mothers’ state of mind affects us, too.
Maybe that is when we start being afraid. WHO KNOWS...
Then we are born and our birth is met by silence, because “it’s a girl.” When
we are a bit older we are told “don’t talk, don’t disgrace us, you are a girl.”
You are continuously repressed. You ARE NOT EVEN AWARE that you have a
right to talk, to think, to express your feelings. Even if you go to school, you are
still under pressure. You are a girl; you must not laugh, talk, or take a walk; you
cannot even go to the library or people will talk. They will say Ali’s daughter was
laughing or talking in the street, or taking a walk. They will find fault with you.
You must be “ladylike.”
Then somebody comes and asks your family for your hand. You are not
asked, even if you were, you cannot—must not—say anything. You say that
the elders know best and you do not think about it. You are made to marry
though you are still a child. Then you continue “your life” as somebody’s wife.
If you listen to and obey your husband, and if everything is in accordance with
his and his family’s wish, then there will be no trouble.
But there is something gnawing at you, something which is not right.
You feel a conflict raging within yourself.
If you gather your courage and express you feelings, you’ll be in big trouble.
They will say, “You were such an angel once, what has happened to you?”
They will become suspicious.
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They will say, somebody is teaching her; she watches too much TV; her
tongue has sharpened; she does not mind her steps anymore. Her tongue needs
to be cut, her feet must be broken. That is how it is. We cannot have this.
To be part of this project, to feel our experiences as women and to feel other
women’s experiences, helps us become more aware and to question things.
But what and whom do we question?
We question what we have been taught, and what our grandmothers, grandfathers, mother, and fathers and what the society have been taught.
We question the violence that is inflicted on women.
Old fashioned practices and punishment methods dating from the age of
slavery, the “judgment” and killing of women under the guise of “honor.”
But the worst thing is that these murders should be considered normal!
One day I was accompanying a woman whose “death sentence” had been
given. We noticed that her husband was following us. While I was trying to cover
her face so that he would not see her, I felt as if I was part of some documentary film about a war.
Once again, I asked myself “Why?” and I rebelled against this situation. It
was like a war, though it was not called so. Here, too, there are those who kill,
and those who get killed. But it is women who are getting killed, all over the
world. It is the same murder under different names, different guises. Here it is
called “honor killing,” in other places it is called a “passion crime.”
While working in this field, we make an effort not only to help women live a
more human life, but also to change and transform society.
We know that change will only be possible if we start with women, if we start
by changing the situation and status of women. This problem belongs to all of
humanity, not only to women. This problem can only be solved by questioning
what is taught, by abolishing preconceptions, and by changing mentalities and
the sexist system.
It will not be easy. It will be a long and difficult process, but seeing what we
have achieved over the last ten years in spite of all the difficulties and obstacles,
gives us hope.
With hope for a world free of violence...
Vildan Ayçiçek
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A¤r› KAMER
TEL: 0472 215 10 15
Adres: Cumhuriyet Cad. Yavuz Mah. Bulut ‹fl Merkezi 5/10
E-mail:[email protected]
Contact Information for
Women’s Centers
Batman KAMER
Tel: 0488 213 96 77
Fax: 0488 214 73 49
Adres: Ayd›n Aslan Cad. P›narbafl› Mah. No:61
E-mail: [email protected]
Ad›yaman KAMER
Tel: 0416 213 42 21
Adres: Atatürk Cad. Havuz bafl› Apt. 2/1 Belediye Karfl›s›
E-mail:[email protected]
Ardahan KAMER
Tel:0478 211 22 03
Adres: Kaptan Pafla Mah. Cumhuriyet Cad. No:69/7
E-mail:[email protected]
Bingöl KAMER
Tel: 0426 214 50 01
Adres: Saray Mah. ‹flgören Otomotiv yan› Temel yap› karfl›s›/Düza¤aç
E-mail: [email protected]
Diyarbak›r KAMER
Tel: 0412 224 32 45
Fax: 0412 224 23 19
Adres: Ali Emiri 3. Sok. Es-fial Apt.1/3 Yeniflehir
E-mail: [email protected]
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Elaz›¤ KAMER
Tel: 0424 218 93 59
Adres: ‹zzet Pafla Camii Arkas› Polatlar-2 ‹fl Merkezi 4/4
E-mail: [email protected]
Erzincan KAMER
Tel: 0446 223 46 96
Adres: ‹nönü Mah. Recep Yaz›c›o¤lu Cad. Çiçek Apt. 1/3
E-mail: [email protected]
Gaziantep KAMER
Tel: 0342 336 83 30
Adres: Kavakl›k Mah. A.Apayd›n Cad. Park Apt. 2/5
E-mail: [email protected]
I¤d›r KAMER
Tel: 0476 227 19 94
Adres: Evren Pafla Cad. Topçular Mah. Tatl› Sok. Fahri Günefl Apt. No.1
E-mail: [email protected]
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Kilis KAMER
Adres: Afl›t Mah. Saliho¤lu Sok. No.12
E-mail: [email protected]
Mardin KAMER
Tel: 0482 212 23 53
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Malatya KAMER
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Kapak Resmi: Ayça Tüylüo¤lu
Cover Illustrator: Ayça Tüylüo¤lu
d. ‹stanbul, 1979
b. ‹stanbul, 1979
E¤itim
2002 - Sanat Tasar›m›, Istituto Marangoni, Milan / ‹talya
2001 - Güzel Sanatlar, Leeds Metropolitan Üniversitesi, Leeds / ‹ngiltere
1997 - BTECH Sanat Tasar›m Bölümü, Middlesex Üniversitesi, Londra, ‹ngiltere, Lisans Mezunu
1996 - Kültür Koleji, ‹stanbul
Education
2002 - Artistic Design, Marangoni Institute, Milan / Italy
2001 - Fine Arts , Leeds Metropolitan University, Leeds / United Kingdom
1997 - BTECH Artistic Design Department , Middlesex University, London, United Kingdom,
graduate program
1996 - Kültür College, Istanbul
Kiflisel Sergiler
2005 - “Alternatif Bilinç,” C.A.M, Istanbul / Türkiye
2007 - “‹simsiz Gerçek,” Galeri x-ist, ‹stanbul / Türkiye
Karma Sergiler
2004 - “Buluflma Noktas›,” C.A.M, ‹stanbul / Türkiye
2005 - “Kad›n bafl›m›za,” C.A.M, ‹stanbul / Türkiye
2005 - “Genç Aç›l›m,” Küratör: Mehmet Güleryüz, Pera Müzesi, ‹stanbul / Türkiye
2005 - “Mountain Rainbow Expedition,” Kazakistan, K›rg›zistan
Beni Yazmaya ‹ten ne?
“(...)Korkular›m› kovmak istiyorum. Çat›lar›, çocuklar›, sözleri, özgürlükleri canlar›ndan
çal›nan insanlara can›m ac›yor. ‘Sesini kesmeli, sözünü saklamal›s›n...’ can güvenli¤in için
dendi¤inde, korku ve kedere hapsolmufl, susmaktansa; benim için de¤erli olan her fleyi var
etmek, korumak için konuflmayal›m, sormal›y›m(...)”
Istanbul, 1979
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Personal Exhibitions
2005 - “Alternative Consciousness,” C.A.M, Istanbul / Turkey
2007 - “nameless Truth” , Gallery x-ist, Istanbul / Turkey
Group Exhibitions
2004 - “Meeting Point,” C.A.M, Istanbul / Turkey
2005 - “Women on their own” C.A.M, Istanbul / Turkey
2005 - “New Openings,” Curator: Mehmet Güleryüz, Pera Museum, Istanbul / Turkey
2005 - “Mountain Rainbow Expedition,” Kazakhstan, Kyrgyzstan
What pushes me to write?
“(...) I want to chase away my fears. I suffer for those whose roofs, whose children, whose
words, and whose freedom has been stolen from them. When I am told that I must ‘shut up,
keep quiet’ for my own safety, rather than keep silent and become a prisoner of despair, I have
to speak up and ask questions, in order to protect, to ensure the existence of everything that is
of any value to me (...)”
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